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I'm OK - You're OK
Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our
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Published
July 6th 2004
by Harper Perennial
(first published 1965)
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Dieses Werk stellte zu der Zeit als es entstanden ist, bestimmt einen großen Schritt in eine sehr wesentliche Richtung der Psychologie und -therapie dar. Ehe man allerdings an dieses Buch herangeht sollte man sich klar machen, dass das Buch vor 30 Jahren entstanden ist. Wenn man sich weiters vor Augen hält, dass es richtunggebend für eine wichtige Theorie innerhalb der Psychologie darstellt, dann kann man sich ausmalen, dass hier in der Zwischenzeit enorme Weiterentwicklunge...more
Dieses Werk stellte zu der Zeit als es entstanden ist, bestimmt einen großen Schritt in eine sehr wesentliche Richtung der Psychologie und -therapie dar. Ehe man allerdings an dieses Buch herangeht sollte man sich klar machen, dass das Buch vor 30 Jahren entstanden ist. Wenn man sich weiters vor Augen hält, dass es richtunggebend für eine wichtige Theorie innerhalb der Psychologie darstellt, dann kann man sich ausmalen, dass hier in der Zwischenzeit enorme Weiterentwicklunge...more
I really enjoyed reading this book. I have struggled for a very long time with the crossed lines of transactional analysis. I find that the diagrams in the book are wonderful for further understanding of the Parent, Adult, Child paradigm. I have been learning this paradigm for awhile without knowing where the paradigm first began. I use of the information within the paradigm has helped me grow and better understand myself. Furthermore, I think that the importance of the discussion of the la...more
I really enjoyed the illustrations of relationships this book had to offer. Basically, there are different combinations - usually between 2 people but can be more - in which certain mindsets or stages of ego-consciousness (Parent, Child, and Adult or Superego, Id and Ego) engaged in dialogue will result in certain reactions and responses. There are consistent patterns in this, a sort of script if you will. In analyzing one's own scripts, one can break free from them and find a third way, that is...more
Senior year, my public high school added several kooky elective classes in the pursuit of being current, cool, catholic and reduced the number of English credits required to graduate thus making Senior English non-required and clearing a slot in our schedules for an elective. Urged by those of my friends who were not all-AP and were doing likewise, I signed up for a course of what today is called psychobabble. The nebulous feel-good course description sounded mushy, arcane, and lazy. Our textboo...more
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It's rare that you come across a book that takes you six months to finish, with more or less weekly efforts to just get it over with. 274 pages later and I still can't identify Harris's thesis.
This book suffers from trying to be everything and ends up being nothing. Despite my bitter frustration from laboring through this insipid, disorganized mess, I still will give Harris the benefit of the doubt and assume this was all done in good faith and was a concerted effort to reach out to...more
This book suffers from trying to be everything and ends up being nothing. Despite my bitter frustration from laboring through this insipid, disorganized mess, I still will give Harris the benefit of the doubt and assume this was all done in good faith and was a concerted effort to reach out to...more
Snopsis, although not mine, of the Book - Over 7 Million sold per Amazon.
Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a "position" ab...more
Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a "position" ab...more
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This isn't anything to breeze through. College level and thought provoking. I literally read a FEW pages; processes my thoughts and ideas for about 1-2 weeks, re-read those pages and read a few more. I expect this will be a year to read. On a personal note, it is very hard when you have to relive to understand childhood trama. Very helpful in understanding trigger events, why they happen and how to find ways to minimize the negative ones.
This is a book I will have to read again. I need a better understanding. As always when reading books, my Adult has to determine what part of the Author's Parent and Child are not OK, using a healthy dose of gospel principles. Overall I found this information (that is as old as I am!) somewhat timeless. If I can get my family interested, we might be "OK".
So many of us read this book in the late 60s/early 70s. Teaches us about various stations of life that perhaps we can get caught in...sometimes creating a negative approach in the way we view life.
Understanding the Child, Parent, Adult mentalities, we can change the way we view life and the way we react to it.
Understanding the Child, Parent, Adult mentalities, we can change the way we view life and the way we react to it.
I borrowed this book from my mother's shelf when I was a teen. Reading it was an incredibly liberating experience which helped me shape a "target" mental state for life. Whenever trying times derail me from that state, remembering the lessons in this book helps me get back on track.
This is a highly technical psychology book describing Transactional Analysis in great detail. It is definitely in my top 10 and I've read a ton of psychology books. Before I even finished the book I was able to start applying it's principles to my everyday life with great success.
This is probably the handbook to my professional life. Helped me take a very different approach to debate, and conversation from before. Transactional analysis is a pretty good way to curb unfruitful conundrums.
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It took me a while to realize that this book is simple Freudian psychoanalysis in a mass-production version, with diagrams and not quite so sexy. Don't suppose it hurt me to read it, but I didn't gain much from it.
The phase "I'm OK, You're OK" is one of four life positions that each of us may take. The four positions are:
1. I'm Not OK, You're OK
2. I'm Not OK, You're Not OK
3. I'm OK, You're Not OK
4. I'm OK, You're OK
The most common position is "I'm Not OK, You're OK". As children we see that adults are large, strong and competent and that we are little, weak and often make mistakes, so we conclude "I'm Not OK, You're OK". Child...more
1. I'm Not OK, You're OK
2. I'm Not OK, You're Not OK
3. I'm OK, You're Not OK
4. I'm OK, You're OK
The most common position is "I'm Not OK, You're OK". As children we see that adults are large, strong and competent and that we are little, weak and often make mistakes, so we conclude "I'm Not OK, You're OK". Child...more
Great concepts from the founder of Transactional Analysis, but despite his claims of writing in a way accessible for everyone it (especially the Game Dictionary) can be pretty hard to read at times!
Written in the late 60's, it had a fundamental impact on the way America began to understand interpersonal relationships. A classic. I'm very glad I read it, and I will go back to it again.
A lot of this stuff is really dated and corny, but it provides a vocabulary for discussing communication that is applicable to any number of situations. I can see this helping me personally, professionally, and analytically.
Not to be dismissed as 60's pop psychology. An easy read, but makes me differenciate rational decisionmaking from acceptance of unevaluated truth statements.
Everybody's okay...read this when it first came out and was all the rage, but for writers' could be good material or character studies
An excellent introduction to Transactional Analysis to the commoner. A must read for any Psycology , Transactional Analysis enthusiast
jolszko
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This takes me way back to college days and transcendental
meditation. There are a lot newer easier to read books out nos.
meditation. There are a lot newer easier to read books out nos.
This was the first self-help book I ever read. At the very least it made me realize that I wasn't crazy, or alone.
این اثر توماس هریس توسط اسماعیل فصیح به فارسی برگردانده شده و توسط نشر نو در 1365 چاپ و منتشر شده است.
اگرچه هریس یک روانپزشک معروف است و در این زمینه کتاب های متعددی منتشر کرده، اما این کتاب که با نام "وضعیت آخر" به فارسی ترجمه شده، به راستی نمی دانم در چه "نوع"ی جا می گیرد! علمی ست، یا چه؟
بهرحال به اندازه ی یک رمان شیرین، خواندنی ست
اگرچه هریس یک روانپزشک معروف است و در این زمینه کتاب های متعددی منتشر کرده، اما این کتاب که با نام "وضعیت آخر" به فارسی ترجمه شده، به راستی نمی دانم در چه "نوع"ی جا می گیرد! علمی ست، یا چه؟
بهرحال به اندازه ی یک رمان شیرین، خواندنی ست
In general I thought this was a very interesting book. At times I thought the author spent too much energy pitching the system but overall it raised some intriguing questions and provided a unique framework on how to view people's actions. I wouldn't take the whole thing to heart, but the sections that provide the base definitions and the sections about how those apply to specific areas were good.
An all time classic. Still has relevancy today even though the popular self help field is saturated nowadays.
Michael
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referenced several times in Fast Food Nation, psychological techniques employed by McDonald's managers
I read this book in 1975 and took a class with the same name. It was a life changing experience.
i read this many, many years ago for a high school class.
This is a book on the psychology of transactional analysis. Eric Berne was the creator of the system but we have probably gotten to know more about TA through the work of Amy and Thomas Harris.
This book is an update of the earlier book I'm OK-You're OK and is very helpful for both the readers of the first book and those who did not read the first book.
I find it suggestive and helpful in understanding the transactions that take place between people.
J. Robert ...more
This book is an update of the earlier book I'm OK-You're OK and is very helpful for both the readers of the first book and those who did not read the first book.
I find it suggestive and helpful in understanding the transactions that take place between people.
J. Robert ...more
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