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Unfriend Yourself

3.68  ·  Rating Details ·  279 Ratings  ·  48 Reviews
Kindle Edition, New Edition, 97 pages
Published January 1st 2012 by Moody Publishers (first published December 20th 2011)
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Jul 09, 2013 Juliana rated it liked it
This book was short enough for me to read in a day. Kyle Tennant has a very balanced approach to social networking. He doesn't condemn it, which I was initially afraid of, but he gives a clear analysis of what it does for us, both good and bad. I found it very interesting that he drew such a distinction between community and communication. Social networking is meant to provide communication (although it often doesn't even do that much), but communication is not enough -- we were created with the ...more
Reet Champion
In a world where one is confronted by social media at every turn and where Facebook is virtually part of one's life it would seem that some of us are drowning in a whirl of social activity. Or are we? In facing screens day in and day out we have begun to alienate one another. Reality blends into one's virtual activities. Some of us devote more time and attention towards our farms and animal on Facebook than we do to those who matter the most. Rather than making solid and long-lasting friendships ...more
May 03, 2013 Gosunflowers rated it really liked it
Great Ideas on how to "thoughtfully" and selflessly (if that's possible) use social media.
Jennifer Wilson
Apr 04, 2012 Jennifer Wilson rated it it was amazing
This is a book short on pages, but long on thought provoking questions. In Unfriend Yourself, Kyle Tennant discusses both the advantages and pitfalls of social media. He asks questions relevant to the Christian life and our online persona such as do our Facebook status updates amount to bragging. He explains that we attempt to put our best foot forward at all times, and in so doing we may "like" pages of celebrities or bands we've only heard of and have no connection just to make others perceive ...more
Apr 27, 2015 Jaina rated it liked it
Shelves: blogged
This review is also available on my blog, Read Till Dawn.

his is meant to be a sort of devotional for someone who is untangling himself from social media for a weekend. The book is separated into an introduction, three chapters (one for Friday, Saturday, and Sunday), and an end note. You're supposed to read the book piece by piece and really take the time to absorb what it's saying.

I didn't. I'm really sorry, and I know this totally skews my ability to review the book. But you see, I don't have a
Feb 17, 2012 Pilar rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
Recommended to Pilar by: Moody Book Publishers
Unfriend Yourself: Three Days to Detox, Discern and Decide about Social Media is a book I really wanted to read. The premise of this book is the effects of social media on our relationships. I had been thinking about this topic for awhile, on how much I rely on social media to maintain contact with friends as opposed to getting together in person.

Kyle Tennant makes an excellent argument on this subject throughout this short, but meaty book. I agreed with much of what he accurately describes as f
Debbie Phillips
Mar 11, 2014 Debbie Phillips rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Christians - high school to adult
I have had this book on my Kindle for a while now. My daughter Jessica told me on Saturday that she spent the afternoon reading it and it was thought provoking. Since we don't have internet at home right now and I have been limited to being online only one day a week for a few hours at at library I have noticed a lot to things... about my Facebook and about myself. This book added to those thoughts.

The book starts out by condemning social media... listing many problems with it. It makes us self-
I received this book as a free e-book online. I've been eying it for a while now, thinking it looked like a great, thought provoking book to read (And it definitely is that).

I picked it up one Saturday afternoon after having been without internet for around six months. What better time to read a book about some of the dangers and problems with social media then when you are in the midst of withdrawal, right?

“Unfriend Yourself” highlighted some trouble spots with social media that I was already a
Aug 26, 2014 Ginger rated it it was amazing
I decided to read Unfriend Yourself, by Kyle Tennant on a whim. I saw it in a list that I could review and said, what the heck. Why not. It is obviously talking about social media, specifically Facebook, yet, all social media applies.
If you know me, you know I am kinda addicted to Facebook. Maybe kinda isnt the word for it. I am a social person by nature. I like to be “around” other people. I live in the middle of KY and I really don’t know anyone here. Nor, do I have any friends that I can talk
Pathway Midland
Apr 28, 2012 Pathway Midland rated it liked it
"Unfriend Yourself" by Kyle Tennant is a small three-day read for anyone looking to grapple with the challenge of social media and what it means for life today. Tennant set the book up to be read over the weekend while you fast from your social media. This way you can think more clearly about the concepts and also have time for his action steps that he includes at the end of each chapter. "Unfriend Yourself" looks at social media from a Christian perspective and challenges the reader to examine ...more
May 30, 2012 Curtis rated it liked it
This is a small three-day read for anyone looking to grapple with the challenge of social media and what it means for life today. Tennant set the book up to be read over the weekend while you fast from your social media. This way you can think more clearly about the concepts and also have time for his action steps that he includes at the end of each chapter. "Unfriend Yourself" looks at social media from a Christian perspective and challenges the reader to examine how media may have changed the ...more
Lauri Rottmayer
Jun 09, 2013 Lauri Rottmayer rated it really liked it
I liked this book and thought it more or less confirmed the way that I used social media. I did choose to unfriend myself for three days and it's been a little difficult. I love how social media has brought me real life friends. If not for twitter, I wouldn't know very many of the people I know right now and I feel happy that I could be anywhere in the world and know someone to have coffee with. This is the beauty of social media to me. I like to think I am a positive force and when things get t ...more
Jan 18, 2016 Meagan rated it really liked it
This is a useful book for pointing out the Biblical necessity of face-to-face relationships. Tennant writes that people are shirking relational responsibility (and, in the process, robbing themselves of joy) in favor of communicating digitally. He argues that we should not condemn social media because condemnation rarely accomplishes anything, but rather, that we should be cautious in our use of digital mediators such as texting and Facebook. Digital platforms can supplement the maintenance of r ...more
Aug 19, 2015 Huggiworld rated it it was amazing
A Quick And Necessary Read!

Unfriend Yourself: Three Days to Detox, Discern, and Decide About Social Media by Kyle Tennant is a short read that challenges the reader to reconsider both the amount of time given to social media use and the way in which they use it. The author explains in detail why social networks are not synonymous with community and how often if we're not careful, they become a tool for ungodly character, I.e. boasting and putting others down instead of esteeming them higher than
May 01, 2013 David rated it it was amazing
This short but insightful book addresses the long held uneasiness I've had over Facebook. I don't feel we should start closing our accounts, but I do sense something is missing when we have the wrong kind of attitude toward social media in general and Facebook in particular. Tennant does a superb job of pinpointing those pitfalls. One of his most valuable points is describing the difference between communication and community. He maintains that while communication is possible through electronic ...more
Feb 12, 2014 Amanda rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2014
While I did not do the author's recommended experiment while reading the book, I can see the value in doing it. I began this book at some point in 2013, and finished it in January. I was not quite halfway through it when I began again. It definitely makes you take a closer look at social-media use and the effect it is having on relationships. I think the author must be an extrovert, and my introvert-self found some of his suggestions completely unthinkable...but, that is probably a sign of room ...more
Oct 28, 2013 Dana rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The author challenges Christians to evaluate how they are using social media--or if social media is using them. He does not suggest completely abandoning Facebook and other social media, but he does differentiate between what Facebook can provide (networking) and what we often try to use Facebook for (community).

This short book is designed to be a guide read during a 3-day "Facebook Fast," complete with an action point for each of the three days. I found the book to be well-written, carefully e
Mar 02, 2013 Crystal rated it it was amazing

I received this book from moody press as a book review..
I found this book provided great insight to what m heart was already thinking of. It does not tell you to close all social media but to be careful how you use it. I felt the author did a great job informing the reader without too many big fancy words. I truly enjoyed this book & hope others will.
Sometimes its hard to think that social media can distract us from the reality of everyday living..
I would recommend anyone needing a insit
Austin Davis
Aug 08, 2012 Austin Davis rated it it was amazing
Should Christians use social media? If so, how? In light of our freedom as Christians there may seem to be an obvious answer. However, intuition cannot always be trusted. In his book, Unfriend Yourself, Kyle Tennant asks you to first consider some very important questions before wholly (and perhaps blindly) accepting social media as all-in-all good. Personally, I enjoyed the fact that it is such a simple read, but the impact of Tennant's questions were profound. A great read for any Christian li ...more
Jan 09, 2012 James rated it liked it
Interesting book, definitely worth reading. It's short and easy. However, I found the first two chapters to be repetetive of many criticisms of social media that I've encountered already. I also felt that it did border on a personal reflection on social media, rather than presenting research. Chapter three, however, I felt was very worth while. In fact, you could probably read just that chapter and walk away enriched. Tennant spends the chapter talking about what to 'do' with social media, and I ...more
May 30, 2013 Jobe rated it really liked it
This was well written and thought provoking. Many in Christian circles are very critical of its content, saying Tennant is too legalistic and calls for removal of one's facebook profile but I disagree. Tennant's cautious admonishment to be aware of the hold facebook has in our lives is not over stressed and definitely needed. This book opened my eyes to my own relationship with social media and what I needed to alter...and for that, I'm grateful.
Mar 06, 2015 Sarah rated it really liked it
Shelves: religion
Although it's a short read the author provides an interesting argument regarding social media and its applicability and usefulness for Christians. He challenges us each to consider whether our utilization is pointed heavenward or towards our chest. In other words, who benefits from the milieu of updates and other nonessential details commonly shared via social media? Are you affecting the world in some discernible way or merely calling attention to yourself ad nauseam?
Jun 05, 2012 Sean rated it it was ok
Shelves: culture
Thankfully, it's short. I used this as one of my resources in prepping for a message about our use of social media. So in that context, it was ok. I got a few good quotes. I found a few ideas that I would take a different way. It just wasn't that well written and doesn't present a strong enough defense of its own purpose. It made me think, but not enough to act. It's a quick read and a good study resource but not one that I'm drinking the Kool-Aid on.
Jun 05, 2012 Melanie rated it really liked it
Shelves: kindle, non-fiction
I really liked this book. It made me think about technology and its influence on me. Also, one thing that really stuck with me was instead of playing a game online, I should play games with my family/friends more. :)

A great book that definitely made me think!

*I got this book when it was free on Amazon Kindle. All thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.*
Feb 15, 2012 Donna rated it it was amazing
This book was small, but packed with thought provoking ideas. What are the benefits of social media? What are its weaknesses? The author takes an honest look at both, and gives us ideas on how social media can do some things well, and some things in a way that looks like "community" but lacks "communion".
May 31, 2013 Ivan rated it really liked it
"[T]his is not a book about how Facebook is evil; it is a book about thinking." This little book has made me reevaluate my use of social media, recognize the inherent dangers, guard my heart against sinful self-promotion, and cultivate the real relationships that matter face-to-face.

"Social media is a great tool—a tool we must subdue, and not be subdued by."
Jan 21, 2014 Dwight rated it liked it
I was pretty skeptical of this one. Often books like this fall over the edge into legalism. It asked some good questions and will help some readers get a good look into their motivations.

The chart on page 66 of the kindle edition is laughably useless. What does it add that a hierarchical list wouldn't communicate?
Jennifer Harshaw
Dec 28, 2015 Jennifer Harshaw rated it it was amazing
This book shows the changes in our culture due to the way communication changes. Although facebook can be used as an helpful tool I find that most changes we are experiencing are negative. I deleted my fb after reading. Now I just have to get a hold of my texting and hold off on having all or most communication in characters.
Mike Neglia
Feb 25, 2014 Mike Neglia rated it it was amazing
Great little book that challenges our (my) thoughtless acceptance of social media from a sociological and theological perspective. Communication is good, wonderful and necessary for human flourishing, but Kyle Tennant asks a great question: "Is what takes place on Facebook, Twitter etc actually communication?"
Jennifer Barnett
Sep 08, 2015 Jennifer Barnett rated it really liked it
Use social media wisely

Don't let social media rob you of your real relationships substituting a false sense of connection over real friendships and community. Make your words and posts be positive and God honoring not self-centered or negative. It's a quick and good read.
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