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Smart Women Know When to Say No

3.74  ·  Rating Details ·  130 Ratings  ·  16 Reviews
Bestselling author uses commonsense psychology, humor, and stories to help women learn how to live a more balanced life.
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Published (first published October 1st 1997)
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This was offered as a Kindle freebie, and while I've read quite a few self-help guides/pamphlets discussing "Nice Girl Syndrome" and the issues surrounding that, this was one of the most annoying, generalizing guides I've come across. The author actually does make some decent assertions about how women who have trouble saying "no" to the people around them suffer from low self esteem and examines some of the destructive factors in the mentality via personal examinations across different relation ...more
Apr 19, 2012 Thuy rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book seeemed repetitive and was very general. It felt like the author grabbed random circumstances and put it all in one book. The writing was also very dry.
Jun 11, 2013 Ariesmoonlover rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2013, bum
I was impressed with this little book. I thought it would just be another book that will tell you something trite but I was surprised. It exceeded my expectations.

The book offers scenarios and tips on how to be a positive pleaser or more assertive if you are a suffering "pleaser". It touches on the relationship between a controller and a "pleaser" (usually in marriage) and how birth order can make different types of pleasers (generally, you will find more pleasers in the first-borns and the only
May 02, 2012 Lobug rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Very disappointed in this book, as I think his others are pretty decent. This was so one-sided it made me angry. Granted, a lot of women wind up in unfortunate marriages- but not all! This was directed entirely to one small demographic. Also, not all of a woman's problems come from her husband- or children- or father. This book made it sound as if they do. Not all men are controlling jerks. This book made it sound as if they are.
I was totally frustrated by this. I am sure there are women in the
Sep 06, 2011 Chambrick rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I absolutely loved this book. I picked it up at an airport, started reading, but stuffed it in a drawer for years. I experienced some significant shifts in my life, just happened to stumble across this book and that's when the messages really hit home for me. It may seem overly simplistic, but for someone who truly has lived this way all her life, you recognize yourself and the situations immediately. If I had not gone through what I did, the book may not have meant so much to me. I just wish I ...more
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Aug 24, 2012 Marcy Stearns rated it did not like it
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So far so good. I'm a little concerned about his idea that you cannot change that "little girl" within. That she will always be there and be the same. I'm not sure that is what Jesus is giving us. I will continue to read it, but I believe that Jesus can satisfy the lacks for that "little girl" and she can mature to become proactive instead of reactive.

Finally I've decided to say this book. It was getting depressing that things will never change...that there will always be a struggle. T
Julie Kolb
Dec 02, 2012 Julie Kolb rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is not a book that can be read straight through. It requires some stops and contemplation. It has some difficult to accept concepts that initial knee jerk reaction can meet with frustration and disagreement. Stop and contemplate it before moving on, perhaps even retreading that section before understanding of the philosophy of advice given is apparent. It is an excellent book, but not a quick read and challenging.p
Aug 10, 2012 Tandy rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
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I wanted and expected more from this book. It assumed that every woman who has a hard time saying no had a bad male influence in their lives. I had a wonderful father and he has nothing to do with the fact that I try to please everyone around me. I decided about half way through this book that I wasn't going to get any information that worth having.
Lucas Johnson
This work comes from the perspective of a controlling personality trying to coach the pleasing types into rounding out their character. I think there is a lot for controllers to learn as well, and there are plenty of opportunities for that. Overall, a good message and a quick read.
Apr 08, 2012 Lindsay rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help, kindle, z2012
Quite a good guide on being assertive for those of us who hate saying no. Some points I didn't completely agree with, but overall not bad.
Bobbi Dust
Jun 29, 2012 Bobbi Dust rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book really helped me understand why I am the way I am. I recommend this book to all women!
Feb 13, 2011 Joanna rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Actually has a decent synthesis of a lot of different material and gives practical tips
Dec 18, 2011 Kathryn rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Not helpful at all. Smart women should know to read another book that isn't so stereotypical.
To be succinct, this book was chock full of wisdom for chicas who do & feel too much. As a reformed Pleaser, I found Dr.Leman to be incredibly insightful and on target.

Giving this one: 4.5 stars
Sep 06, 2015 Aisha rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great for counseling! All about people pleasing.
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Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally recognized psychologist, author, and media personality. He was the first to popularize Adlerian psychological concepts in the United States, which are based on birth-order and family dynamics. Dr. Leman holds Bachelor's, Master's, and Doctorate degrees in clinical psychology from the University of Arizona.

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