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The Distance Between Us

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From an award-winning novelist and sought-after public speaker, an eye-opening memoir about life before and after illegally emigrating from Mexico to the United States.

Mago pointed to a spot on the dirt floor and reminded me that my umbilical cord was buried there. “That way,” Mami told the midwife, “no matter where life takes her, she won’t ever forget where she came from
Hardcover, 336 pages
Published August 28th 2012 by Atria Books (first published August 1st 2012)
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Jeanette  "Astute Crabbist"
3.5 stars

Emigration from Mexico to the U.S. divides a lot of families. This is one woman's account of what it felt like to spend her early childhood in Mexico while her parents were on El Otro Lado (The Other Side). Reyna Grande and her siblings were shuffled among relatives who were not in a position to care for them and were often resentful at being saddled with these children. In the absence of a real mother, Reyna's older sister Mago had to become "the little mother" for Reyna and Carlos.

Jan 24, 2016 Myrna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobooks
A moving, insightful, and interesting memoir about the author growing up in poverty in Mexico, separation from her parents, and coming to the USA illegally at age 10. Reyna becomes successful in spite of the many odds she faces. An inspirational novel of achieving the American Dream through sacrifice and work. Definitely recommend this book as it describe the experiences and feelings migrant families go through.
Sally Wessely
Jan 02, 2013 Sally Wessely rated it it was amazing
As a former ESL teacher, I could not have enjoyed this book more. The story of Reyna Grande is one of hardship, heartbreak, and triumph. I was struck by the power of her writing on the very first page.

If one does not understand the internal and external conflict that children whose parents have left Mexico to find work or a better life in the United States, the reader of this memoir will certainly gain insight into this all too common problem when this book is read.

My students used to love to
What could be more scary or powerful to a child than a weeping woman who roams the canal and steals children away (in Mexico, known as "La Llorona")? The answer is a power that takes away parents, not children -- the United States ("El Otro Lado" -- the Other Side). Thus opens the prologue in this deeply personal, often heartbreaking, memoir of Reyna Grande and her siblings as they wait for their parents to keep their promise and return to Mexico for them.

The story is a journey of Reyna and her
Apr 13, 2016 Bookworm❤ rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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I absolutely loved this book, I seriously read it in one sitting. It was amazing and recommend it to everyone :)
Aug 17, 2012 Erin rated it really liked it
This was a heartbreaking story of the toll of immigration on a family. Novelist Reyna Grande's memoir documents the steady disintegration of her family over decades as one by one members of her family leave and return, leave and return to "el Otro Lado," the United States.

The first separation takes place before the start of the book; Reyna is so young when her father leaves for the US that she knows him only by his photo, and thinks of him as "the man behind the glass." The second, though certa
Sonja Arlow
I think the issue of illegal immigration has always and will always stay a contentious issue and this book touched on several subjects that was probably very difficult to lay bare to the ignorant public.

Rena Grande and her 2 siblings are the focus of this coming-of-age memoir and follows their journey as a "family' from Mexico, into the USA as illegal immigrants and finally becoming full rounded citizens in more sense than just one.

Both their parents as well as their stepmom and paternal grandmo
Liz Waters
Aug 19, 2012 Liz Waters rated it it was amazing
Award-winning novelist Reyna Grande's new memoir, "The Distance Between Us" is a book that has given me an eye-opening understanding of the plight of many immigrants from Mexico. Trapped in poverty in their native land, moving into the United States by any means is a way to better one's life and the lives of one's children. With the legal situation in the U.S., though, Mexican people who choose to move north must rely on "coyotes" to navigate the dangerous ground between nations in the dead of n ...more
Dec 27, 2015 Donna rated it really liked it
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It was well written, funny, poignant and a little sad. And plus, it is nonfiction. It was about a girl left behind with her siblings while her parents tried to make a better living in the U.S. The money the parents sent home so the grandmother could take care of them, was spent not on them, but on the favored grandchild, also living with the grandparents. This was a great coming of age story of a little Mexican girl who finally made it to America, only to find out ...more
Maritza Ramirez
Feb 26, 2016 Maritza Ramirez rated it really liked it
Reyna Grande’s book The Distance Between Us takes place in both Mexico and the United States. The heartwarming story of the author Reyna Grande’s difficult life growing up explaining all the struggles Reyna and her siblings face when abandoned by their parents when they come to the United States to make a better life for their children. This memoir describes the daily struggles of those whose families have been broken apart.

Reyna Grande starts her book off from the beginning of her young life.
Deb (Readerbuzz) Nance
Sep 27, 2015 Deb (Readerbuzz) Nance rated it it was amazing
Shelves: travel
The Distance Between Us is a memoir by writer Reyna Grande. Grande tells the story of her childhood in Mexico, as her father illegally enters the US for work; as her mother follows him after years in which he does not return; as Grande's grandmother reluctantly raises Grande and her siblings; as her mother learns her father has a girlfriend in the US and bitterly returns to Mexico; as Grande's mother leaves with a new boyfriend and again abandons the children; as Grande's other, poorer grandmoth ...more
Apr 06, 2016 Kelcey rated it liked it
This is Camarillo’s One City One Book for 2016. I think it presents interesting topics for community discussion especially given that it is an election year and immigration is a hot topic. For me, this wasn’t bad. Let me say right off that I just do not prefer memoirs or most nonfiction at all for that matter, but usually memoirs are last on my list because I prefer reading as escapism and memoirs usually aren’t that at all. However, I did find myself relating to the author at one or two moments ...more
Book Concierge
When she was just a baby Reyna Grande’s father left their small town of Iguala, Guerrero, Mexico for El Otro Lado – the Other Side – i.e. the United States. Economic recession made it impossible for him to provide for his family in Mexico, but the money he could earn in California would help support them. When she was only four, her mother left Reyna and her two older siblings in the care of their paternal grandmother, so that she could join her husband in California; with both of them working t ...more
Mar 03, 2014 Caren rated it really liked it
Shelves: adult-nonfiction
When I thought of illegal immigrants, I hadn't really considered what they had left behind. This book highlights those children left back home for years at a time as their parents journey, at great risk, to "El Otro Lado" to try to better life for themselves and their children. A young child, though, can't really understand why his parents have abandoned him. This is a heart-breaking book, not only in its piercing portrayal of how it feels to be that child left back home, but also in its depicti ...more
Jul 11, 2013 Stacey rated it liked it
This is an enlightening memoir about the living conditions in parts of Mexico and the impetus those conditions contribute to Mexicans making the very dangerous, illegal journey across the border into America for the chance of a better life. Often times this means leaving their families behind in Mexico, resulting in a horrible effect on the children in the family. I truly felt for Reyna and her siblings as they had to endure so much in their young lives. Their parents went to America with so muc ...more
Yenny España
Feb 26, 2016 Yenny España rated it really liked it
The Distance between us
By: Reyna Grande

A profound and sentimental memoir by the author herself Reyna Grande, emits an emotional and compelling effect throughout the entire novel. The perception of pain, abandonment, misplacement and re connection will have your emotions abused and mended throughout the novel. This memoir known about for family ties, independence, and closure has a deeper meaning to it all.

Growing up without her parent figures at a young age, Reyna Grande has learned through her
Feb 26, 2016 Giselle rated it it was amazing
In the book The Distance Between Us A young girl (Reyna Grande) tells a story of immigration. When Reyna Grande father decides to leave his three children behind and his wife behind for the United States, he surely promises he will soon return from “El Otro Lado’’ referring to (The Other Side) hoping that he will return with enough money to build his family the dream house they’ve always wanted. Not to Soon enough his wife joins the journey he has been trying to accomplish that has not only turn ...more
Feb 26, 2016 Jennifer rated it it was amazing
Grande writes us a memoir that takes us through her troubled, achieved, and memorable times throughout her childhood. Reyna and her siblings stick together through everything.

The distance between us is well written book. Grande uses lots of detail throughout the book. Coming from someone that doesn't like to read and always dreaded reading I felt I always had my nose in the book. This book is great for those who enjoy learning about someone else's life. If you struggle with parent separation you
Feb 19, 2016 Christine rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2016
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Julia Amante
Oct 29, 2012 Julia Amante rated it it was amazing
Important book. As a former teacher, I had many student just like Reyna in my classroom. Well written. Takes you on a journey of what it's like to be the child of immigrant parents, and to spend most of your life without the nurturing parents are supposed to provide. Touching and heartbreaking.
Dundee Library
Reyna Grande recounts the turmoil and hardship she experienced as a child. The poverty she experienced in Mexico is unbelievably heartbreaking. Her parents had left the country in hopes of finding the American dream of jobs and wealth. Her paternal grandma, a vicious woman who cared little for the children's welfare, was left to raise her and her older siblings. When her father returns for the oldest child, he ends up taking all three children to America. Reyna was overjoyed until realizing that ...more
Nov 02, 2014 Kimberly rated it really liked it
I was hesitant to read this book since I've spent so much time reading and learning about the plight of Latino immigrants and I already felt such empathy for them. I felt like I might be bored with the same details but also depressed at how powerless I am to really help anyone in that situation. I was pleasantly surprised at what a fresh look this was on the lives of immigrant children. I hadn't realized what so many children went through being separated from their families when some family memb ...more
Feb 27, 2015 Jasmine_oxxo rated it it was amazing
Reyna Grande book: The distance between us takes place in Iguala,Mexico and its about a family with three children. Who father immigrated to the united states(El otro lado) seeking for work. Through the story is gives advice and explanation to why her parents choice to leave them as children and headed to the United states. Reyna personality shows strength and compassion throughout book.

Reyna Grande quotes that “She saw a roach pass by her foot, and she instantly lifted it up and brought it down
Feb 27, 2015 Noodles rated it it was amazing
In the memoir ,with The distance between us, written by Reyna Grande that was born in Iguala Mexico with her two other siblings named Mago and Carlos. Her father left to “el otro lado” (the other side) to work and finish his dream house in Mexico. Later her dad decide to take her mother away so she can help him build the house, leaving Reyna and her two siblings behind with their mean grandmother Evila that made them have the worst childhood ever. She would scare them and hit them when they didn ...more
Jan 23, 2015 Merry rated it liked it
Told through the eyes of a young Mexican girl (the author), The Distance Between Us is about a family's struggle as they together and individually try to better their lives by coming to the United States. It is a story of contradictions: hope and despair, kindness and cruelty, loyalty and desertion. It is also a story that could be told a hundred, a thousand, a million times over -- unfortunately. It gives the reader an appreciation for the many facets of modern Mexican immigration (particularly ...more
Esther Bradley-detally
Aug 30, 2012 Esther Bradley-detally rated it it was amazing
The Distance Between Us, Reyna Grand, Atria Books, a division of Simon & Schuster, Inc. by Reyna Grande 325pp., $25

A review-Esther Bradley-DeTally

Reyna Grande’s The Distance Between Us (a memoir)rocks.

In January, 1980, a time of tremendous poverty and economic hardship in Mexico, Reyna is four years old, as her mother leaves for El Otro Lado, the Other Side, to join her husband to work, to help him fulfill his dreams of leaving something to his children. He had left his native country with h
Nov 29, 2012 Trisha rated it really liked it
I wonder whether the people I know who complain the loudest about illegal immigration would change their views after reading this memoir about the human side of what it involves. And I wonder whether the people who make such disparaging and often hateful remarks about illegal immigrants would feel the same after reading about the desperate courage that motivates people to face the dangers involved in crossing the border to escape the poverty of their lives and seek a decent life for their childr ...more
Mar 29, 2013 Louise rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoirs
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Washington Square Press|March 12, 2013|Trade Paperback|ISBN: 978-1-4516-6178-1

Reyna Grande vividly brings to life her tumultuous early years in this “compelling…unvarnished, resonant” (Book Page) story of a childhood spent torn between two parents and two countries. As her parents make the dangerous trek across the Mexican border to “El Otro Lado” (The Other Side) in pursuit of the American dream, Reyna and her siblings are forced into the already overburdened household of thei
Jan 07, 2013 Arcelia rated it it was amazing
I LOVED this book. I read this book on a recent trip and could not put it down when I should've been sight seeing. This memoir tells the story of the toll that immigration takes on Reyna Grande and her family. Her father initially goes to the United States in search of work when she is very young. A few years later her mother follows and leaves Reyna and her siblings behind in Mexico for several years. Eventually her mother returns after leaving her father, but is not much of a mother to Reyna o ...more
Catherine Theriault
Grande's story is grit and courage writ large. It's a familiar one since so many aspects of her story surface in our students' accounts of coming to the U.S. She captures the tension of being torn between family loyalty and the desire to success in school. A must-read for teachers.

A sad side note: Grande's home town of Iguala is the site of the 2014 massacre of 43 Mexican students from a rural teachers' college.
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Reyna Grande is the author of two novels, Across a Hundred Mountains, which received a 2007 American Book Award; Dancing with Butterflies, which received a 2010 International Latino Book Award. In her memoir, The Distance Between Us (Atria, 2012) Reyna recounts her experiences as a child left behind in Mexico when her parents emigrated to the U.S. in search of work, and her own journey to the U.S. ...more
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