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Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed

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The first handbook on navigating the exciting, tricky, and potentially disastrous terrain of interracial relationships, with testimony and expert tips on how to make the bumpy ride a bit smoother.

The first handbook on navigating the exciting, tricky, and potentially disastrous terrain of interracial relationships, with testimony and expert tips on how to make the bumpy rid
Paperback, 272 pages
Published May 15th 2012 by Atria Books
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Joshunda Sanders
Jun 13, 2012 Joshunda Sanders rated it it was ok
It's been a long time since I read a book that annoyed me this much.
I'm hesitant to pan it because it's written by two black women, and their intentions are true. They aim to empower black women who limit their options to black men to care enough about themselves to try interracial dating. There are some great tips in here about learning how to be your own great partner, with a list of cities where interracial dating is more widely accepted.
I loved Janice's parts of the book a lot more than Ch
Jamila Akil
Jul 10, 2012 Jamila Akil rated it it was amazing
Black women and their dating life has been big news for the last few years. Swirling could have been just another book to add to the growing pile of books and magazine articles directed at black women telling them that they will grow old alone. Thankfully, Karazin and Littlejohn avoid that well-worn path and take a fresh look at a popular topic.

Both of authors share their experiences dating, mating, and relating interracially and their differing experiences add to the credibility and ability to
Christelyn Karazin
Jul 09, 2012 Christelyn Karazin rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)
In Swirling, Christelyn Karazin and Janice Littlejohn perform a vital service. Their insightful discussion is both in your face and disarming. A much needed contribution to our national conversation about race and relationships. --Ralph Richard Banks, Jackson Eli Reynolds Professor of Law at Stanford Law School and the author of Is Marriage for White People? How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone

“Wisely written . . . . smart, conversational and honest.” --Mekeisha Madden Toby
Brown Betty
Jul 11, 2012 Brown Betty rated it it was amazing
I enjoyed the book contrary to the rude comments of some, the authors did a great job; the book was a very easy read with humorous undertones. I wish the authors much more success as the book gets more exposure and genuine support.
Sep 02, 2012 Cher rated it it was amazing

Now here's a gal I can relate to: Awkward moments, humiliation, heartbreak, and eventual triumph with an extra dose of humor! Christelyn takes her readers on a journey which many Black women fear to tread. Apart from the title, do not pick up "Swirling" expecting a read filled with euphemisms and other subtleties. The book is informative yet entertaining, chock full of invaluable tips designed for "real life" application!

A note to prospective Black women readers who are considering "Swirling": C
Swirl Queen
Jul 09, 2012 Swirl Queen rated it it was amazing
I was thrilled to finally read this much anticipated book on Swirling. I love the concept, the name and admire the phenomenal effort put into bringing this work to fruition. Whether one is a veteran swirler, newcomer, curious or even skeptical, this book has something for everyone. I love the authors' ability to combine history, current themes and events, facts and all things interracial and intercultural with wit and just the right amount of humor. "Swirling" promises to keep the reader engaged ...more
Jillian Marie
Aug 13, 2013 Jillian Marie rated it liked it
Good on the "dating" and "relating," not so much on the "mating."

This was a really enjoyable read that thoroughly addresses a range of issues that black women face in the dating game. I felt it was primarily a tool to shed light on the well-known biases between black men vs. black women dating & marrying interracially, as well as the fear that black women have about stepping outside of the (pretty much dried-up) black dating pool to find a mate. I found it also to be a useful tool to identif
Erin Ashley
Sep 17, 2012 Erin Ashley rated it did not like it
I basically read this book to follow suit with the fad and to basically see what they were saying in terms of interracial relationships. I think the book was very well written, however, I believe the whole let me read a book about how I should interracially date is pretty dumb. I believe that yes, a lot of women don't date outside of their race because they are fearful of what people will say and what not, however, there are millions of us who do it who don't care.

I don't believe that this book
The book was extremely helpful for anyone considering dating outside your race. I could definitely relate to some of t
The stories in the book.
Aug 20, 2013 Diana rated it it was ok
So basic it's obsolete. The men you are with will always be men first.
Jul 09, 2012 Brenda55 rated it it was amazing
Swirling Review

What is it like? That is a question that couples who have crossed the race line have been asked for decades. What is it like? For every person brave enough to ask there are maybe dozens who wonder in silence from the sidelines, standing and some times staring. Questioning. What is it like? How did those two get together? What makes that relationship work? How can it? How do they deal with.... the differences, the what ifs, the folks? What does he see in her? Why does she want a gu
Jul 29, 2012 M. rated it really liked it
Character over Color

The resounding message in Karazin & Littlejohn's book, Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed [ ] is for the readers to follow Dr. King's advise and "choose character over color - always and with every relationship you have (p229)." That quote is from the end of the book, but it resonated through the whole book, whether Christelyn is talking about whether you need permission swirl (or date outside y
Oct 07, 2012 OOSA rated it really liked it
Does Color Matter?

Do you see nothing wrong with a black woman dating or marrying outside her race? Personally, I don't. I say to each its own. There are plenty of us who do, YET those very same ones feel different when asked the same question about black men. I've never understood the double standard. Love isn't prejudice; people are. No one should settle just to please others. At the end of the day, you need to be happy with the person you choose.

“Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing
Michelle Matthews-Calloway
Sep 19, 2012 Michelle Matthews-Calloway rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone interested in dating interracially
A Definitive Primer on Swirling!

Swirling is a definitive primer on interracial dating, particularly for those women who are new to interracial dating and relationships, or even just contemplating expanding their dating options. The authors' approach is personal, light-hearted, easy to relate to, and fun. I'm especially impressed with the robust information the authors provided. This is a book I wish had been available when I first started swirling, and it's the go-to book I'm recommending to all
Aug 03, 2014 Barb rated it liked it
Although the advice and information in this book is not new to me, I thought it was very helpful and insightful overall. The primary target audience is African-American women, I believe it's safe to say that anyone interested in dating interracially or inter-culturally would benefit from this book. For anyone wanting more information on the subject, there's a list of blogs in the back of the book (which I'm going to check out now) and the website for this book is
Apr 13, 2016 Padideh rated it it was amazing
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I was interviewed for this book and was quoted in it! A MUST read if you're in an interracial relationship or dating someone outside your culture! Please read it and give it a GREAT review :)
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