The Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want
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The Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want

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Who cares if he’s just not that into you? You’ve got a gaggle.

It’s easy to feel like your love life is nonexistent. You know you’re great, so why haven’t you been on a classic dinner-and-a-movie date since . . . well, forever? Because as it turns out, you are now living in a post-dating world, where the old rules for sex a...more
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published June 12th 2012 by Simon & Schuster
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Erin Cataldi
Personally I am not a huge fan of self-help books (although I will admit to reading He's Just Not That Into You and It's Called a Break-up Because It's Broken when in a low point). They start off so promising, but who has the time or the will power to follow all the rules and advice that they present. Life is a little more complex then self-help books realize.

That being said I just completed reading a self-help/dating book that isn't really a self-help book. Jessica Massa's The Gaggle: How the...more
Katie
Jun 18, 2012 Katie rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: independent, free thinking single women
I came across this book quite randomly and unexpectedly after reading an article about it on CNN last week. I'm not normally one to be drawn to typical dating/relationship advice self-help-y books....which is exactly why I loved this book so much. While most dating/how-to-find-love books (particularly those geared towards heterosexual women) harp on all the stereotypical "do's" and "don'ts" in order to snag 'the one,' "The Gaggle" turns the focus to one of self-discovery. Incredibly refreshing!...more
Romancing the Book
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I admit, it was the title that caught my attention. Since I have many men in my life – who I am not romantically involved with – I thought, “Why not read it and find out how all these men can help me?” Not quite how it works though.

Turns out that your Gaggle is made up of men who have the possibility of being romantic interests. There are ten types of men who can end up in your Gaggle, and each of those mu...more
Alyson
This is a must read for millenial women! It can really change perspective on the dating world for women who were taught traditional dating was the only way to meet a good man. I think the concept of a "gaggle" of men to keep a woman away from focusing on just the one guy makes sense. It makes me think of "She's Gotta Have It", in which the main character had her "gaggle". Each man was interesting in his own way but no one was "the one" for her. She was enjoying them all on different levels while...more
Leigh  Kramer
I didn't agree with everything in The Gaggle but its premise of post-dating society was fascinating. What with the rise of non-dates (and pre-dates), the old dating rules no longer apply. I was as surprised to be reading a dating book as I was to find much of the content resonating. The section on who composes the guy's gaggle was eye-opening. While geared toward women, men would definitely benefit from these insights.
Elise
I recieved this book through the Goodread's First Read program. I'm not really sure what prompted me to hit the button, because this isn't the kind of book I usually read. I think it was the title. The Gaggle. It just sounds awesome. I never make it past page 5 of dating books. They're just so constricting. It's so black and white, and life is always a mess of greys. I figured if the book showed up on my doorstep it was meant to be.

This book gives you the language to talk about what we already...more
Ange
This book starts by stating that we live in a post-dating world. Gone are the days of going steady at the sock hop and getting pinned in the back seat of a classic Chevrolet. Jennifer Massa explores a millennial dating trend in which young single women may rather find themselves with a "gaggle" or a variety of men who play various roles or personality archetypes in one's life. While I don't disagree with some of the logic presented, I do find that I am not in the target demographic for this book...more
susieqlaw
The Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You WantThe Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want by Jessica Massa

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


This book is an excellent book about the modern dynamics of relationships and dating. I recommend this book to both men and women.

I received this ARC book for free from a goodreads giveaway.



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Amy
I Won an A.R.C. through www.goodreads.com first reads program.

Great modern dating book! Especially if you're stuck in the whole "boy meets girl, go on a date" antique model, and it's not working.

This book helps women define all the potential men in their lives that they may not have considered. It'll defiantly boost confidence about dating, ahem, Non-dating. While probably boosting the overall fun level one can have trying to find love, by removing the whole back of your head dread thoughts abou...more
Viv (Against GR Censorship)
First off, I won my copy of this book via a giveaway hosted by Goodreads.

While this book helped me for the most part, it was not what I first thought it was. After reading it, I'm thankful for that!

If you're a girl who's got her heart and mind set on finding out how to make the guy you want fall hopelessly in love with you, then walk away now or expand your mind.

I'm still a little confused about what roles some guys play in my gaggle but now I'm equipped with the knowledge to figure it out prope...more
Anne Zelek
As a general rule, I don't read "dating" books. They always seem to include gross generalizations about the sexes, overvalue marriage as THE end goal (um, happiness?) and/or include insufferable "tips" or "tricks" that assume either you or the person you're interested in is a moron. This book is different. Massa has clearly done her research, and the result is relevant, comprehensive and incredibly refreshing. She's managed to write a book that acknowledges the many nuances of love in 2012 (I ha...more
Sully
Received the book for free through Goodreads First Reads.

This is a new and true description of relationships in the 21 century. It's unlike and unique compare to other dating advice book I have read or heard about that give women a formulated answer for finding love or obtaining a relationship. I agree a hundred percent with what the author discusses about no one going on dates anymore but rather non-dates. This book helps you understand that every person in your group shapes you into becoming t...more
Kelly
Obtained: Through Goodreads First Reads


Throughout my life, I have never really gotten guys. Why do they act the way they do? How do they view me? When I entered The Gaggle goodreads giveaway, it was sort of a joke to myself, something along the lines of see! There are guides out there if you really want to look for one! Then I won the book.


The Gaggle is realistic, hilarious, and a fun read. It kept me entertained and figure out your own priorities. I have a feeling that The Gaggle is one book...more
Sara Powell
Disclosure: I obtained a copy of this book through a Goodreads giveaway.

I struggled to finish this book for six months--although I read often and quickly.

In all fairness, this is not an easy topic to address. The premise is an interesting one, but the elucidation is much less so. This book reminded me of skipping rocks on water: touch a few quick points shallowly, and move on. Then again, I still haven't finished it; it may improve once I get past the 3/4 point.
Jennifer
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Diane Loughley
Mostly got through it all. I think it is targeted for a younger audience, but I can definitely appreciate this book a lot. And it is well worth the read just to get thinking about the different dynamics we have with different people. It also gets you thinking about what attracts you to another person. Good stuff.
Rebecca Wiegand
As Jessica's best friend-turned-business partner and co-creator of the gaggle idea, I've been working on this book from the very beginning and just love it. You can find out more about the gaggle project and the post-dating world at www.WTFIsUpWithMyLoveLife.com. =)
Kris
I haven't read this YET, but I know it's gonna be awesome! My mom & I used to babysit for this lovely lady! Obviously we did something right... Lol. This book will be a holiday gift for all my single lady friends!
Hannah
I mean... I totally embrace it and recommend to single ladies, as I think the concept of a gaggle will speak to many. But this isn't fine literature, y'all...
Monikers16
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Ashley
Interesting take on 21st century relationships. I can see some truth in it. The best part would be the ease it was written in, made it a quick easy read.
Daisy
Insightful and funny. Worth the read.
V
Funny and down to earth
Larissa
Totally worth a the read!
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