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The Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want

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The Gaggle captures the zeitgeist of today's “post-dating” world, where the rules for sex, dating, and relationships have completely changed. Instead of dating, women collect a “gaggle” of men who orbit around them, occupying both romantic and platonic roles, but ultimately revealing who and what they want.

Who cares if he’s just not that into you? You’ve got a gagg
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published June 12th 2012 by Simon & Schuster
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Erin Cataldi
Jun 28, 2012 Erin Cataldi rated it really liked it
Personally I am not a huge fan of self-help books (although I will admit to reading He's Just Not That Into You and It's Called a Break-up Because It's Broken when in a low point). They start off so promising, but who has the time or the will power to follow all the rules and advice that they present. Life is a little more complex then self-help books realize.

That being said I just completed reading a self-help/dating book that isn't really a self-help book. Jessica Massa's The Gaggle: How the
Jun 18, 2012 Katie rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: independent, free thinking single women
I came across this book quite randomly and unexpectedly after reading an article about it on CNN last week. I'm not normally one to be drawn to typical dating/relationship advice self-help-y books....which is exactly why I loved this book so much. While most dating/how-to-find-love books (particularly those geared towards heterosexual women) harp on all the stereotypical "do's" and "don'ts" in order to snag 'the one,' "The Gaggle" turns the focus to one of self-discovery. Incredibly refreshing! ...more
Romancing the Book
Aug 21, 2012 Romancing the Book rated it liked it
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I admit, it was the title that caught my attention. Since I have many men in my life – who I am not romantically involved with – I thought, “Why not read it and find out how all these men can help me?” Not quite how it works though.

Turns out that your Gaggle is made up of men who have the possibility of being romantic interests. There are ten types of men who can end up in your Gaggle, and each of those mu
Aug 08, 2012 Alyson rated it it was amazing
This is a must read for millenial women! It can really change perspective on the dating world for women who were taught traditional dating was the only way to meet a good man. I think the concept of a "gaggle" of men to keep a woman away from focusing on just the one guy makes sense. It makes me think of "She's Gotta Have It", in which the main character had her "gaggle". Each man was interesting in his own way but no one was "the one" for her. She was enjoying them all on different levels while ...more
Leigh  Kramer
Nov 04, 2012 Leigh Kramer rated it liked it
I didn't agree with everything in The Gaggle but its premise of post-dating society was fascinating. What with the rise of non-dates (and pre-dates), the old dating rules no longer apply. I was as surprised to be reading a dating book as I was to find much of the content resonating. The section on who composes the guy's gaggle was eye-opening. While geared toward women, men would definitely benefit from these insights.
May 06, 2013 Elise rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I recieved this book through the Goodread's First Read program. I'm not really sure what prompted me to hit the button, because this isn't the kind of book I usually read. I think it was the title. The Gaggle. It just sounds awesome. I never make it past page 5 of dating books. They're just so constricting. It's so black and white, and life is always a mess of greys. I figured if the book showed up on my doorstep it was meant to be.

This book gives you the language to talk about what we already
The Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You WantThe Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want by Jessica Massa

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This book is an excellent book about the modern dynamics of relationships and dating. I recommend this book to both men and women.

I received this ARC book for free from a goodreads giveaway.

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Jan 13, 2013 Ange rated it liked it
This book starts by stating that we live in a post-dating world. Gone are the days of going steady at the sock hop and getting pinned in the back seat of a classic Chevrolet. Jennifer Massa explores a millennial dating trend in which young single women may rather find themselves with a "gaggle" or a variety of men who play various roles or personality archetypes in one's life. While I don't disagree with some of the logic presented, I do find that I am not in the target demographic for this book ...more
Viv Ross
Apr 23, 2013 Viv Ross rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: must-have
First off, I won my copy of this book via a giveaway hosted by Goodreads.

While this book helped me for the most part, it was not what I first thought it was. After reading it, I'm thankful for that!

If you're a girl who's got her heart and mind set on finding out how to make the guy you want fall hopelessly in love with you, then walk away now or expand your mind.

I'm still a little confused about what roles some guys play in my gaggle but now I'm equipped with the knowledge to figure it out prope
Jun 05, 2012 Amy rated it really liked it
I Won an A.R.C. through first reads program.

Great modern dating book! Especially if you're stuck in the whole "boy meets girl, go on a date" antique model, and it's not working.

This book helps women define all the potential men in their lives that they may not have considered. It'll defiantly boost confidence about dating, ahem, Non-dating. While probably boosting the overall fun level one can have trying to find love, by removing the whole back of your head dread thoughts abou
Apr 16, 2014 Sully rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: first-reads
Received the book for free through Goodreads First Reads.

This is a new and true description of relationships in the 21 century. It's unlike and unique compare to other dating advice book I have read or heard about that give women a formulated answer for finding love or obtaining a relationship. I agree a hundred percent with what the author discusses about no one going on dates anymore but rather non-dates. This book helps you understand that every person in your group shapes you into becoming t
Sep 28, 2014 Juliet24 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I finally finished this book! Since recently becoming single again, I was more interested and inclined to read this book. It's really helped me to understand what roles I might play in some guy's love lives, especially my ex's. Before I was so confused and hurt, but now I have more of a guideline to go off of and I have more of a sense of how to act accordingly and what to expect. It's also helped me realize that I can cultivate my relationships with guys at the same time, rather than one at a t ...more
Anne Zelek
Jun 14, 2012 Anne Zelek rated it it was amazing
As a general rule, I don't read "dating" books. They always seem to include gross generalizations about the sexes, overvalue marriage as THE end goal (um, happiness?) and/or include insufferable "tips" or "tricks" that assume either you or the person you're interested in is a moron. This book is different. Massa has clearly done her research, and the result is relevant, comprehensive and incredibly refreshing. She's managed to write a book that acknowledges the many nuances of love in 2012 (I ha ...more
Oct 03, 2014 Kelly rated it liked it
Shelves: first-reads
Obtained: Through Goodreads First Reads

Throughout my life, I have never really gotten guys. Why do they act the way they do? How do they view me? When I entered The Gaggle goodreads giveaway, it was sort of a joke to myself, something along the lines of see! There are guides out there if you really want to look for one! Then I won the book.

The Gaggle is realistic, hilarious, and a fun read. It kept me entertained and figure out your own priorities. I have a feeling that The Gaggle is one book
Ashley Zeelie
Jun 02, 2015 Ashley Zeelie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
WOW!! Just plain... WOW!
This is most definitively thee BEST book I have read so far.
The moment I opened the front cover, I could not put it down.
During the time of the power outage I sat on the floor with candles, just to be able to read the book.

I have now passed it on to a friend of mine, who is enjoying it just as much!
Well Done to the Author for such a brilliant book and for opening my eyes.
I see everything differently and she has made a difference in my life :)

A MUST READ! Highly recommende
Sara Powell
Aug 17, 2013 Sara Powell rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Disclosure: I obtained a copy of this book through a Goodreads giveaway.

I struggled to finish this book for six months--although I read often and quickly.

In all fairness, this is not an easy topic to address. The premise is an interesting one, but the elucidation is much less so. This book reminded me of skipping rocks on water: touch a few quick points shallowly, and move on. Then again, I still haven't finished it; it may improve once I get past the 3/4 point.
Jul 28, 2012 Jennifer rated it liked it
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Apr 13, 2013 Diane added it
Mostly got through it all. I think it is targeted for a younger audience, but I can definitely appreciate this book a lot. And it is well worth the read just to get thinking about the different dynamics we have with different people. It also gets you thinking about what attracts you to another person. Good stuff.
Dec 08, 2012 Kris rated it it was amazing
I haven't read this YET, but I know it's gonna be awesome! My mom & I used to babysit for this lovely lady! Obviously we did something right... Lol. This book will be a holiday gift for all my single lady friends!
Jul 12, 2013 Ashley rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Interesting take on 21st century relationships. I can see some truth in it. The best part would be the ease it was written in, made it a quick easy read.
Jun 25, 2013 Monikers16 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Nov 03, 2013 Hannah rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I mean... I totally embrace it and recommend to single ladies, as I think the concept of a gaggle will speak to many. But this isn't fine literature, y'all...
May 17, 2012 LL rated it it was amazing
Totally worth a the read!
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Funny and down to earth
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