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Two Whole Cakes: How to Stop Dieting and Learn to Love Your Body

4.03 of 5 stars 4.03  ·  rating details  ·  306 ratings  ·  70 reviews

In the age of The Biggest Loser and the “war on obesity,” we’re pressured to conform to certain body standards at any cost. Sure, everyone should eat right and get exercise, but what if you do that and you still don’t fit into the clothes at the mall?

In Two Whole Cakes, Fatshionista extraordinaire Lesley Kinzel
tells stories, gives advice, and challenges stereotypes about
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Paperback, 160 pages
Published April 10th 2012 by The Feminist Press at CUNY
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Melissa
Nov 20, 2014 Melissa rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Absolutely everyone
Yes. Just yes. If you, like me, have ever looked at a fat person & thought, "Why can't they just eat less?" you need to read this book. If you, like me, have ever looked in the mirror & thought, "Why am I so fat & gross?" you need to read this book. Will I look at a fat person ever again & wonder why they can't just lose some weight? No, I will not. Will I feel ashamed about the wobbly skin that's still around my middle from my pregnancy? No, I will not.

Without getting too perso
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Anelis
Oct 24, 2013 Anelis rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone who thinks this book is not about them
I like Lesley. I always read her pieces at XOJane because every time without fault they are interesting, well written, and informative. In fact, she is the reason I found out about XOJane in the first place. She is one of those people who exist on the Internet (because, like, I live in Greece guys) but who with their presence have made me feel better about myself, and generally made me happier.

So yeah, when my favorite fat blogger publishes a book about body acceptance you bet your ass I'm going
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Morgan
I feel like the whole book can be summed up by Lesley's motto: "Your body is not a tragedy". I was pretty familiar with Lesley's work from her blog and XOJane so a lot of the book was familiar territory. But for people not as familiar with her work, it's a great primer on how to accept all bodies. Even with the knowledge of some of the stories (like the titular Two Whole Cakes episode) it was still a really fun, great read. I got through the whole book in one day, if that gives any idea how much ...more
Chris
I would give it 5 stars for the concept, but am only give 4 because there was a lot of redundancy in the writing. That aside, the basic concept of the book is that women (particularly) are conditioned from an early age to hyperfocus on the appearance of our bodies not only to the distraction of the function of our bodies but to the detriment of our social and emotional health as well. Why do we not appreciate the bodies we have for all they enable us to do, rather than (the vast majority of us) ...more
Julia
Apr 24, 2012 Julia rated it 2 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2012
Maybe my expectations for this book were too high, but the lack of narrative arc and lack of chapter/section divisions didn't work for me. The writing, of course, is amazing (if somewhat lacking in the snark level I've come to love from Lesley's blogging). It's just a little too disjointed and unfocused as a book for me.
Beth
There was one thing that I did not like about this book, and while I feel it’s a little bit inappropriate to open a four star review with that sentence, I feel it needs to be done as my issue is with the title. Well, I suppose rather with the subtitle: “How to stop dieting and love your body.” This is not a how-to book, in any sense. I suppose the title might be for marketing purposes, although it seems strange that it has such an upbeat, self-helpy title, considering that it is even put out by ...more
Alex Templeton
Having recently been spending more time than usual considering my weight for reasons legitimate (potential future health complications) and not-so-legitimate (nasty comment made to me about it), this book came along at the perfect time. The book is author Lesley Kinzel’s personal reflections on growing up and living today as a fat woman, as well as her thoughts on how ridiculous and unjustified the whole fear of fat is in our culture. (This thought was captured in her title, which makes referenc ...more
Melody
Had some trouble getting into this because the first five or so sections are very disjointed. I know some of these 'chapters' were pulled from her blogging days and it shows. I would have appreciated some kind of format or at least titles for each section, because there were almost no smooth transitions in the first half of this book. It doesn't take away from the excellent content, but it does interrupt the flow.

The book seems to have more of a connected feel and a purpose to it towards the end
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Molly Brewer
Okay so. First thing that needs to be said: this book's subtitle ("How to Stop Dieting & etc...") is unnecessary and ridiculous. This book is in no way a how-to, being instead a collection of essays based on author/blogger Lesley Kinzel's experience living in a fat body, as well as a 101 intro on body acceptance and related fat politics. Second (shameful) thing that needs to be said: I almost didn't want to record this on my "read" list, because I felt like it might elicit certain questions ...more
Shari
p. 68 The danger of falling into the habit of demanding that our bodies be pretty too is that by doing so we are reinforcing the cultural importance of prettiness.
p.73Anger is a natural response to the awareness that one has spent an uncertain amount of time, money, and attention on the pursuit of a potentiality that may not exist.For some of us, the anger is borne of having spent so many years chasing the inevitable unicorn of the perfect body-or rather the body that is good enough for us to be
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Katrina
I appreciate that the author didn't just talk about what fat people can do to love themselves but more so shared the message that "Everyone deserves respect and justice no matter what they look like" and that you have every right to be happy with yourself on your terms with no need to apologize for your happiness to anyone.
Stacy
I can already tell I'm in love with this book and I'm only a few pages in. Read it!!
Jenn
I enjoyed this short introduction to body positivity by Kinzel. I have followed her blog (also Two Whole Cakes) for a while now, and was excited to read this, especially after reading an excerpt in Bitch Magazine. Light but never fluffy, Kinzel is an excellent writer (must be those double-master degrees) with a gift for language that packs a wallop. I can't deny that a good part of my enjoyment derived from the fact that Kinzel and I share similar backgrounds and stories of growing up--she is, I ...more
Crystal
Anyone who follows me on Twitter or is my friend on Facebook knows I am a fan of Lesley Kinzel. So it's really no surprise then that I would love this book.

I want to time travel back to the first time I hated my body or decided I would be anorexic (I would last long enough to get a migraine from nit eating and then I'd binge, which would trigger a wave of self&body-hatred) and MAKE my younger self read this. I look back at pictures of my younger self and realize that I spent so much time hat
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Rebekah Hawkins
I see so much of myself in this woman. Her experiences as a fat child were my experiences. The torment and the pain that goes along with growing up different than the other kids is so recognizable. It's difficult now as an adult not to hate my body for all the things that people made me believe about it growing up. However, this woman is on it about putting all that away and learning to love it. We only have one body and it does so much for us, might as well learn to love it.
Casey
I was reluctant to pick up this book because the subtitle "how to stop dieting" turned me off a bit - though I move in circles of the fat acceptance community, and I do believe that you should learn to love your body no matter what place it's at, I sometimes find in those circles disregard or even hostility towards those who DO choose to diet, for whatever personal reasons.

However, I was happy to find despite the subtitle that the Kinzel's book doesn't take that approach. It is really more of a
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Tracy
A super-quick read, very personal to the author's experience, but that's kind of the point. Kinzel refers to other, more all-purpose fat activism/acceptance books, like Marilyn Wann's Fat! So?: Because You Don't Have to Apologize for Your Size, plus websites and other resources... I am probably going to reread this one before returning it to the library; I want to take notes especially on the author's ideas about prettiness as an expression of social conformity, and I generally want to think mor ...more
Summer
I love Lesley Kinzel. I happened upon an xoJane article of hers a few months back and I instantly wanted to be her best friend. I love her writing style and ability, as well as her ideas. I chose to read this book simply because she wrote it, but I feel so enlightened after reading it. I highly recommend it.
Raquel
A slim volume of big ideas. While the subtitle is misleading--very little space is devoted to exactly how to stop dieting and learn to love your body, although the author makes it clear that she has indeed done both--this book nonetheless makes a strong argument for why it's healthiest to ignore our image-obsessed culture, stop stigmatizing fat people, and instead just focus on being our best selves while standing up for your right to exist and be accepted right now exactly as you are. Lots of g ...more
Cagne
Found the title enticing. Good material to build fat acceptance, fat activism and body positivity. Found educating the part about clothing.

Wish this had chapters, hard to get a sense of progression in basically a long article. There are a lot of good concepts spread through the book but it might be hard to find them again later if I need them.
Tatjana
"Your body is not a tragedy."
This book is small and thin, but packs a wonderful punch. While I've known most of this information on a gut level, it's like meeting someone and realizing, over a cup of coffee, that you've had very similar experiences in life. Validation is powerful.
Closing the book I felt powerful. I looked in wonder at my focus and resolved to let the diet world spin off into outer space. How much can I do in the world if I'm not absorbed in losing weight? I guess we will see!
meredith ann
while reading this, i didn't feel like i was reading a book; sometimes it felt like i was reading a really good blog entry and others, it felt like i was talking with someone who knew all the right things to say.

not having grown up "fat", there were things i couldn't relate to but living as a plus size woman now, many of the topics she talks about were too familiar (stop making plus size clothing that just looks like we want to cover our bodies!!).

personal side note: i'm glad she talked about
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Marisa
I've been following Lesley's blog for several years now, and her book was everything I'd hoped for. Having been doing the size acceptance thing for a while now, I can't say that this book was full of shocking revelations for me, but it was lovely, intertwining activism with memoir. I was also very pleased that Lesley managed to avoid the common blogger cum author pitfall of publishing her past blog posts with a bit of editing - while the subject matter certainly falls in line with her blog, the ...more
Jessica Ellis
I grew up reading Jane magazine during my teen years. Last year, I was SO EXCITEd to learn that Jane had found an online resurrection in xojane.com. It was there that I found Lesley. I am a lifelong yo-yo dieter and she introduced me to the possibility of a different reality. This book is in no way a full primer on body positivity, nor does it give the full science behind why dieting isn't a such a great idea after all. It does tell her story, and it does show one person's rise above the crap th ...more
Carrie
Kinzel refuses to be a second class citizen because she is fat, and in fact reclaims the very word "fat" as a term for unclouded self empowerment. In Two Whole Cakes: How to Stop Dieting and Learn to Love Your Body, Kinzel shares the struggles she encountered on her path to body acceptance, and offers readers an excellent primer for anyone interested in the fat acceptance movement, as well as providing insight to those already involved in body acceptance politics. Affirming and uplifting both an ...more
Lisa
Obesity Myths banished! Why fit into a mold not cast from your body's needs?
Becky
Great Book, very relatable in so many ways.
Cassandra
Jan 14, 2013 Cassandra rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Everyone
Recommended to Cassandra by: Curve magazine, I think
If I was rich, I'd buy tens of thousands of copies of this book and wander around town, dropping them in mailboxes at random. Kinzel pulls the wool back and shows our culture's attitudes towards obesity (or, as she describes herself, "death fat") and bodies in general for what they really are. After finishing this book, I felt like I'd met *the* sane person when it comes to our fixation on body shape, weight, and food. I can't remember the last time I felt so refreshed, which is especially impre ...more
Melissa
Changed the way I see the world a bit.
Marie
Sep 25, 2014 Marie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2012
I found Kinzel's writing through xojane, and I really like it: Perfect blend of smart and funny. She has talked about how her publisher tacked on the subtitle of this book, which is misleading. The book is really about Kinzel's own experience of diets and body hatred and how discovering community (and a harrowing medical issue) helped her make peace with herself. Pretty much, if you've ever been made to feel like an outsider, you'll get what she's talking about in this little book. (It's 163 pag ...more
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