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The Love Dare
Stephen Kendrick
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The Love Dare

4.34 of 5 stars 4.34  ·  rating details  ·  32,000 ratings  ·  414 reviews
Too many marriages end when someone says "I've fallen out of love with you" or "I don't love you anymore."

The Love Dare discusses how these statements reveal a lack of understanding about the fundamental nature of true love.

As featured in the popular new movie Fireproof, from the team that brought us Facing the Giants, The Love Dare is a 40-day guided devotional experienc...more
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Published (first published January 1st 2008)
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The movie that this book was birthed out of, Fireproof, starring Kirk Cameron, was amazing!! My husband and I both enjoyed it more than any movie we have seen in a long time. It was so nice to see a clear moral and Christian message for a change, rather than the filth that fills our eyes and ears on a daily basis. We ordered the book before we even saw the movie and were so glad that we did! We are not through the entire thing, but I highly recommend both the movie and the book for any one who i...more
I am on Day 29 Love's Motivation

When God is your reason for loving, your abitlity to love is guaranteed.

The love that's demanded from you in marriage is not dependent on your mate's sweetness or suitability. The love between a husband and wife should have one chief objective: honoring the Lord with devotion and sincerity. The fact that it blesses our beloved in the process is simply a wonderful additional benefit.
From the cheesiest, most powerful movie I ever loved, the 40 day love dare. I am on Day 27, and I am flunking my way through this book. This one is a good spiritual practic of a king not much in vogue - ministering to your spouse, because just like firemen don't abandon their partners in a firestorm, you don't abandon your spouse in a firestorm.

I have a friend in a recovery group who says "some days you stay married one day at a time just like you stay sober one day at a time." This is a book t...more
So far--EXCELLENT. This movie was EXCELLENT. Thank you Stephen Kendrick for creating this book. I am fortunate to be able to say that my husband and I have an excellent marriage, but in the 20 years we have been together there have been tough times, for sure. Now, with people we know doing destructive things in their marriages (speaking negatively about their spouses and to their spouses, rampant pornography, not prioritizing time with each other, etc.) marriages are not being nurtured and are f...more
If you are married, and want your relationship to work out, this is the book to read. It speaks about Love, how God views love, and oneness--togetherness--and unity. It is a forty-day journey to see your spouse for who they are, who they have become, and who you love the most underneath God's leadership. God is the third thread in a marriage, there is a difference between a marriage contract and covenant with God. I take the covenant with God more so than marriage contract. I want to be married...more
Cherlynn Bennett
it honestly takes 2 people to make a marriage work. doing all the items in this book did not save my ten year marriage because the substance from both sides wasnt there to save. since my marriage ended after catching my ex and sister in bed and her burning down my house, I'd say my marriage wasnt "fireproof", but heres the kicker because I put into practice these lessons, I had no regrets in leaving my ex cause I did all I could to save the marriage in the 6 months before the fire and I learned...more
I worked through the 40 Dares in this book over the last month and a half, and it completely changed the way that I look at my spouse.

I have always loved her, but now I have found a better way to love her.

A very powerful dare asked me to visualize two rooms in my heart (one APPRECIATION and one DEPRECIATION) for my spouse. It asked me how often I go in the APPRECIATION room and how often I visit the DEPRECIATION room.

I made a three page list of things that I love about my wife, Nancy, and I gave...more
Sherrie Conkel
The movie "Fireproof" starring Kirk Cameron is excellent and will help you relationship immensely. It is very anointed and has moved even the toughest guys I know to tears at the end. Very touching and inspirational.

The book that the movie is based on is called "The Love Dare" and it takes a lot of dedication and discipline to do, but, well worth every bit of the effort. I DARE You to try to make it through without blowing it! I dare you!

Sherrie Conkel
Kristine Pratt

It's taken me forever to get through this book, mostly because I wasn't ready for it.

Yeah, I'm being honest in my review. Go figure.

The first half was good. I did the challenges daily, and saw results. I saw more results than I ever thought possible. My husband was responding, hey even I was responding. The second half though...well it got harder. The Christian things, praying and making a commitment to God, that went ok. But the deeper commitments I wasn't ready for.

Finally I just gave up...more
Chris Gamble
I just finished this book today, and thought I'd talk a little about it.

The book The Love Dare was shown on the movie Fireproof. The movie is about a fireman who is struggiling through a failing marriage headed for divorce, when his father hands him a book. The Love Dare. The husband reads the book and takes the journey, finding love, happiness, and unity with his wife. It is a very inspiring and But the book is even more so.

I found this book while at the library. You see, I have...more
This is a really great book. Although a lot of people I know had this book on their shelves, none of them had actually worked their way through it or even read the first page. The reason? It's seen as a resource for when your relationship is in crisis.

I felt like I didn't really need to do this book but it turned out I was wrong.

It was very useful to have a challenge to complete. Some dares took longer to complete than others depending on my pride levels. I also really liked how simple and clear...more
Suzie Michaels
This book has the same strategy as Keller's The Meaning off Marriage, and even The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein. It is really an unpopular attitude in this world of self seeking fulfillment at any expense to relationships. The idea of giving everything you have is seen as unhealthy and emotionally ill. Some have the opinion that being in extensive service for others is foolish. The Christian devotion goes against the grain of every contemporary attitude like this. It speaks on sacrifice, serv...more
Tina Smith
So far this book is great, it gives examples and dares that you have to try each day for 40 days, ti increase love and undestanding in your relationship, and I am happy to say my hubby is doing it with me, I read it aloud to him the night before and we do the dare the next day. Then it gives you a little area to write if during the day you felt like breaking the dare. It's really interesting so far.
Alicia Willis
Oct 09, 2014 Alicia Willis rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Married Couples, Singles Preparing for Marriage
The Love Dare is a must-read for any married couple or persons preparing for the high calling of marriage. It's practical, easy to read and understand, and contains all-Biblical truths. I highly recommend this book and the hit movie it was based on, Fireproof.
Wow, this really makes you take a good look at all the little things and what really matters to make an amazing marriage. It opens your eyes to the fact that it doesn't just happen. I enjoyed the spiritual center of the process the author drives you towards.
Despite the semi cheesy movie that this book was born out of...this has to be one of the best marriage books we have gone through together. So glad it was recommended to us!
I read and follow this book at least once annually. I find myself wanting to buy it and share it with all my married friends!!!
Dina Alexander
I saw the movie first and I cried during the entire movie. It was very realistic and beautiful.
Jenny Peeples
I never saw the movie but I did read the book. It talks about how to work on your marriage in a way that would glorify God, however, I thought many of the views in the book weren't necessarily applicable to modern, daily life. I really was turned off by the 5 straight chapters in which the author tried to "save me". Don't get me wrong; there were many parts of the book that I used in my own marriage but I think, as with any self-help book, one should apply only what can benefit them. Every one h...more
Whether you are married, engaged or courting, this book is a must read. If you believe that you should love your wife like Christ loved the church and laid His life down for her, this book will give you guidance and practical application to love sacraficially. If you don't believe that, then you really need this book. What does it mean to say "Love perseveres" or "Love believes the best" and how do you demonstrate that in your relationship? What does it mean to say "Love keeps no records of wron...more
Watched the movie with Bill, now we're working through the dare together. Super excited- this is great stuff!!
update: just finished. I'm a novel & classics reader. I don't do non fiction, self help, and generally have shied away from religion based books. so when I give this book, that falls in all those categories, 5 stars, they are well earned. what an excellent tool for life! not just how you treat your spouse, but others in your life. from the simple to complex, there are many great poi...more
What a beautiful book!! Beautifully written in every way and full of some of THE BEST advice and wisdom I've ever read in a self-help book. I was introduced to this book after watching the movie "Fireproof" (which is also FANTASTIC) last year with my husband. I consider us to have a great marriage but we are only one year in and I am always up to read anything so I got it from the library. I took my time reading it because there are forty days of marriage advice given day by day and it's a lot t...more
Lauren Hackbarth
I know this book is for couples, but my mother recommended it so I read it months ago and am now reading it a second time. I have three intentional purposes for reading it. The first is that I will marry at some indefinate time in the future and I want to be a partner and a godly wife and I don't think that it's wise to not prepare for that eventuality. I take marriage very seriously and I plan to have a wonderful marriage, but I realize that loving someone is as much a choice as it is an emotio...more

I wanted to like this book and I know no book has all the answers when it comes to all relationships because each relationship is unique. This book is also split in 40 days of advice... it starts out as little things you can change or do to make your partner's life better and hopefully improve the bond between the two of you.

However about halfway through until the end it turns into "how to be a doormat". This becomes one big guilt trip and becomes very centered on men must always give in to thei...more
Kim Justice
Oct 22, 2012 Kim Justice rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
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Where do I start with this review of an amazingly wonderfully book. I will start by saying I never actually did the whole Love Dare journal. But I have read this book and I have watched the movie.

My husband and I have been married 30 years, 31 this coming December. Yes we have had our ups and downs just like all marriages. Reading this book and watching this movie was an awesome experience that helped me to realize that some times it is the little things we take for granted. But it i...more
Dana Arcuri
After watching the movie, Fireproof, I heard about a local church offering marriage classes based on this new movie. Interested in the goal to bring my husband & I closer together as well as increase our faith, we joined the six week marriage class.

The Love Dare is the book our church chose for this marriage class. Each week, couples would read a chapter and then we would gather at the church to discuss it. There was a HUGE turnout for this and we formed smaller groups.

The church provided F...more
Joseph Wetterling
The accompanying movie, Fireproof, really hit home for my wife and I. We watched it together, and we saw ourselves in some of the scenes. After that, we worked through the 40 day Love Dare.

We found that working through it together, on the same day, made things more difficult. We both knew what "dare" the other person was on, and there was a sense of expectation that neither of us intended. "She's on day three today. I wonder where my present is?" That's the entirely wrong idea! (Sin does, indeed...more
Kim Holdiman
LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS BOOK! If you haven't seen the movie Fireproof, it's a MUST SEE! It is a perfect accompaniment to this book, but not necessary. No matter how good or bad your marriage is, if you will commit to following this book (no need to tell your spouse) and you honestly put forth the full effort no matter how they react, your marriage will improve!!! It has worked in my marriage, which was already good....but it made it great! I know many people who had struggling marriages and this boo...more
I thought this book would be fun to read after watching "Fireproof". This book was really excellent, although it did seem a little redundant at times. As a Marriage, Family, and Human Development minor, I read a lot of books on marriage, yet I think this book is one of my favorites. It doesn't talk about steps to good communication or different problem solving strategies, etc. like other marriage books. This book is Christian, though not LDS, and focuses on the fact that you need to have a stron...more
Maria M. Elmvang
Oct 28, 2010 Maria M. Elmvang rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Nobody. Read instead.
This is a 2.5 star review.

A couple of years ago, I decided to do the 30 day challenge, and found it extremely satisfying. Somebody recommended this book to me as an alternative. I thought it sounded interesting, and got it out of the library about a month-and-a-half ago, deciding to read one chapter a day, and doing the challenges as they came.

It started out being very similar to the 30 day challenge, and I enjoyed following it (think my husband did too, even if he had no clue what was going on...more
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