The Four Loves

by C.S. Lewis
The Four Loves
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July 21st 1994 (first published 1960) by W Publishing

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Audio Cassette

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0849961912   (isbn13: 9780849961915)

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The Four Loves summarizes four kinds of human love--affection, friendship, erotic love, and the love of God. Masterful without being magisteria...more






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Doug
10/08/08

Read in September, 2008
Overall a fascinating read, though a bit more "high-brow" than my usual fare. Having a background in the classics, as in OLD classics, would help to make more of it understandable. And sometimes I got a little lost in his logic. However, the points of view on the different types of love were very useful to me, in reflecting on my own life and relationships. If I were to sum up the effect on me in one word, it would be "clarifying."

I am an incurable romantic; nevertheless...more
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Terri
04/01/08

This book was something I looked forward to reading and then I was totally bored and disgusted with it. What frustrated me the most is how he would take an opinion or outright incorrect statement such as Pagans worship trees (way way way out of context and incorrect) and then use that false statement to support his arguments. That is basic logic 101 class and made most of his arguments invalid. I wanted to like what he was saying but couldnt because he was just down right incorrect in so much...more
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Suzanne
bookshelves: spiritual
Read in January, 2005
Read this in college when most of it went over my head...then life happens. After a life full of joy and tragedy and senseless loss at times...this work sits in my nightstand drawer so I can be renewed, reawakened and reminded of higher purposes when the world is too much with me.
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Ron
09/16/08

Interesting, but not compelling.
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Greg
10/22/08

Read in January, 2008
One of my favorite all-time authors. In The Four Loves, or A Grief Observed, and even throughout his other books, C.S. Lewis is a passionate writer who explored love both through the heart of man and the heart of God in a way that many of us simply ignore. The quote below seems to be the favorite quote from those who have read the Four Loves and shows the depth of his exploration into the vulnerability of loving anyone or anything and the risk of avoidance. Haven't we all known someone in our li...more
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Lavinia
bookshelves: 2005, de-recitit-oricind
Read in April, 2005
'the four loves' [1960:] sau 'cele patru iubiri', pentru norocosii care au prins cartea de la humanitas, aparuta in 1997, impreuna cu 'problema durerii' si 'despre minuni'.

cartea pleaca de la cei patru termeni care definesc dragostea, intilniti in noul testament: storge [afectiunea:], fileo [prietenia:], eros [atractia/dragostea sexuala:] si agape [caritatea sau mila, in trad. romaneasca:]. lewis merge pe ideea ca primele trei iubiri, cele 'naturale' sint complet diferite, rupte de agape, drag...more
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Jonnali
Read in January, 2006
recommends it for: those looking for love or who think they have found love, in any form.
this is probably my all time favorite book. It encompasses love in all its forms-- our Maker, who is Love, toward us and us toward our Maker, and us toward each other. My favorite chapters--Friendship (phileo) and Charity (agape).
A fav. quote: "...in Friendship...we think we have chosen our peers. In reality, a few years difference in the dates of our births, a few more miles between certain houses, the choice of one university over another...the accident of a topic being raised or not r...more
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Rana
08/31/08

bookshelves: philosophy, religion-spirituality
Read in August, 2008
This was a very sweet, thought-provoking book on the four kinds of love: affection, friendship, eros, and charity. The main premise of the book is that the first three loves cannot stand alone without running the risk of becoming demons. They must be guided by a higher principle, a higher love, in order to fulfill themselves. This higher love is charity, the only love which marks a nearness to God through approach as well as resemblance, for who can deny charity to his fellow mankind who himself...more
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Rachel
05/06/08

bookshelves: non-fiction
Read in May, 2008
recommends it for: Everyone
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Jen
04/02/08

Read in April, 2008
This is an interesting book. C. L. Lewis describes his four categories of love: affection, friendship, Eros (romantic love) and charity (love of God and selfless love of others). I like his analysis of each kind of love and how affection, friendship and Eros can all have destructive sides to them. I also appreciate that he points out that the first three kinds of love need charity (need God) in order to thrive. However, while I think separating the loves for the purpose of description is us...more
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Steven
04/21/08

bookshelves: books-owned, christian
Has a copy to sell/swap — Read in April, 2008
I did not learn as much from this book as I was hoping, but it was an interesting meditation on different types of love.

Poignant Quotes:

"Man, please thy Maker, and be merry,
And give not for this world a cherry."

"It is a bad thing not to be able to take a joke."

"There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, yo...more
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Robert
05/18/08

bookshelves: christian, classics, non-fiction
Read in May, 2008
A short and inspiring read. C.S. Lewis is among my top five favorite authors. I've heard a lot of quotes from this book, but have never read it. The four loves Lewis discusses are Affection, Friendship, Eros, and Charity.

I enjoyed the section on friendship the most. I gained some startling insights into the "why's" of society. One of my favorite quotes is about prehistoric man among his peers:

"We had to plan the hunt and the battle. when they were over we had to ...more
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Steve
11/22/08

bookshelves: spiritual
Has a copy to sell/swap
Loved "The Four Loves": An excellent starting point for a reader only acquainted with C. S. Lewis through his fiction, "The Four Loves" stems from his "day job" at Oxford and Cambridge as a lecturer in Medieval and Rennaissance literature. "Loves" also invites the serious reader into Lewis' thoughts about the contrast between his Christian faith and the "psychological" bent of Western values and theory took in the late Twentieth Century. Well wri
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Chak
03/08/08

Read in February, 2008
I talk about how much I dislike Lewis and yet read two of his books in the space of a few days. Hypocritical much? If you enjoy Lewis' continual didacticism, this is the book for you. I found it hard to get through (though I persevered) due to sexist anachronisms (women, as homemakers, cannot understand a man's world or thoughts) and statements with which I vehemently disagree presented as facts (don't get me started). Admittedly, I don't read philosophy or dogma well, and this is both. How...more
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Crawfords444
Read in October, 2008
recommends it for: Older teans and adults. Persons seeking a lifelong friend.
This book is much harder than the Chronocles of Narnia and a background in reading other classical authors is helpful. Agape is not listed as one of the loves by name as commonly thought. They are Affection, Friendship, Eros, and Charity, Charity being the closest to Agape. There are surprises about friendship's trap and the relation within of sex as an incomplete part of eros. I will have to re read the book again to get the true meanings. Once through is not enough. It is slow reading, but...more
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Kimberly
Has a copy to sell/swap — Read in January, 2007
I'm a long-time fan of C.S. Lewis' writings. In this particular volume, he explores the nature of love within four distinct parameters: Affection,Friendship,Eros and Charity. My best friend died suddenly in 2003- and the section on friendship allowed me to resolve so many issues relating to the deep grief I felt when I lost my best friend. I ascertained that this man had both the wisdom and life experience to describe the depth of love we bring to our human associations.
As usual, Lewis bri...more
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Carol Frenier
11/25/08

Read in October, 2008
I am surprised by how long it has taken me to read C. S. Lewis. He is a spiritual giant whose authenticity is very apparent. This book challenged my thinking about love and about the relationship between "natural" or human love, on the one hand, and divine love, on the other.
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Erin
09/25/08

Read in January, 2008
recommended to Erin by: Ty
Brilliant.

At times it hurt my head a bit, but for the most part I really enjoyed reading this book. I laughed so hard in the chapter of affection. There were a few paragraphs that really described so well how I have at times acted so ridiculous.

The last chapter was on charity and it was amazing how he tied it all in. I had never thought of charity as a non natural love before and that because it goes against our nature therefore it is extremely higher of a love when you actually m...more
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Jennifer
Has a copy to sell/swap
recommends it for: everyone
I loved this book - - I just remember feeling serene after reading this book. Everyone has different ways of loving and its good to figure out who you are and how you love versus how other people are and how they show love.

I'm so egocentric that I feel rejected or hurt when people dont love me the way I love. But I realzied after reading this book that there are SO MANY different ways to love and I have to step out of my box and realize that they DO love me, just in their own way.

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Becca
01/24/08

Read in January, 2008
AAAAmazing insights on love - Lewis writes on four "types" of love - affection, friendship, eros and charity. He so describes these that I now can better classify my loves, my relationships. One of my favorite points was in the beginning, when he said that humans who love are near to God - not necessarily because the act of love is sanctifying, but because it reveals that we are made in His image (so when I love people, it is not something to be self-righteous about - it is a part of G...more
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