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9 Things You Simply Must Do To Succeed in Love and Life
by
Henry Cloud
Nine practical, easy-to-grasp strategies to help readers discover behaviors and responses that successful individuals have in common.
Hardcover, 246 pages
Published
September 7th 2004
by Integrity Publishers
(first published August 1st 2004)
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Like all of the Dr. Henry Cloud books I have read, this one was delightfully packed with anecdotes and very tangible examples. I opted for the audio version so that I could enjoy it while I did housework and thoroughly enjoyed the reading (by the author himself). Dr. Cloud's unpretentious style makes his points very accessible and his own self-reflection gives further credence to his suggestions. So many of the points he makes are things that seem obvious once spoken and yet remarkable in that e...more
Oct 19, 2011
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This book has a lot of common sense with a little spirituality thrown in. The principles of the book (9 things) are all good, but they are very broad. Cloud gives practical examples, but it's hard to apply these to every possible life situation. I found myself thinking, "Should have have behaved differently in XX situation given this principle?". It's hard to know, and maybe that is what the author wants us to question, since we are all in the maturing process and none of us has arrived. I liked...more
Great book. Very concise straight-forward ideas. I would recommend this to anyone. The main ideas that stand out for me are: Become a deja-vu person: I remember noting successful people who do well in a tough situation. Whether it is criticism, wondering how to handle a problem or dealing with difficult people, Cloud provides realistic examples. He also helped me see how important it is to be 'the more mature person, not be afraid of criticism by doing the right thing and to make the right peopl...more
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A wonderful book with lasting relevancy. Dr. Cloud suggests that we dig up our past and invest in our talents, move past the negative, make decisions based on their effects, ALWAYS ask how we can improve a situation (whether it's our responsibility or not), realize our loftiest goals through small steps, protect the good with healthy hatred, practice humility, and make decisions based on values and purposes / principles (not on the reactions of others). He concludes with a series of 12 steps to...more
I love reading books on the psychology of success (as long as success is defined broadly and not necessarily materially). I picked this up off the sale table at Borders thinking it looked inspiring. I wasn't expecting it to have much that was new, as I've read scores of similar books, but I find reading motivational books, and the personal stories therein, to be, well, motivational! This was a disappointment however. Not only was there a strong Christian bent to it (which was not revealed on the...more
Appreciated his advice in chapter Four, or move quickly to deal w/whatever crushes the spirit to avoid wasting life energy + time on negative energy w/o resolution. Clear out space-takers that don't contribute to life, + discern b/t wish (subjective reality) + hope (grounded in evidence). Heed the "cringe factor," or opt out of things that you intuit as not right for you. Make room for good in your life. Etc.!
I tried to muddle through this one twice. My brother passed it on to me and I just couldn't wade through it. I gave up halfway though the second time because every time I would think about reading it I just dreaded it. It's got great points but they are overstated and repetitive. I think it could have been cut in half honestly. So it was good but not so great that I could stick it out. Maybe others will get more from what I couldn't bring myself to finish.
"9 Things" is great on the values it advocates. The first five of the principles are guidelines for intrapersonal development whereas the remaining four are geared towards one's social fitness. I like his using business anecdotes in making his point, which are found in plenty in this book. Isn't it true that people often reveal their true nature when it comes to money?
The nine principles in 9 Things are mostly common sense but Dr. Cloud presents them in a very lucid fashion. It helped me while I...more
The nine principles in 9 Things are mostly common sense but Dr. Cloud presents them in a very lucid fashion. It helped me while I...more
1. Dig it up - recognize & invest in talents & watch grow.
2. Pull the tooth - do not hang onto bad stuff, move past negative. (if fixable, get busy & try to fix!)
3. Play the movie - make decision based on effects, helps prepare for challenges.
4. Do something - work to improve the situation, even if not your responsibility/ fault.
5. Act like an Ant - do small steps. (rather than feeling overwhelmed by big goal)
6. Hate Well - take a stand against toxic issues, resolve conflict whi...more
2. Pull the tooth - do not hang onto bad stuff, move past negative. (if fixable, get busy & try to fix!)
3. Play the movie - make decision based on effects, helps prepare for challenges.
4. Do something - work to improve the situation, even if not your responsibility/ fault.
5. Act like an Ant - do small steps. (rather than feeling overwhelmed by big goal)
6. Hate Well - take a stand against toxic issues, resolve conflict whi...more
Skimpy on actual content. To extrapolate ideas used stories that go on and on a bit pedantically. I found the anecdotes distracting. There is Christian slant including quoting scripture.
Built around 1. aware of what is in your heart/mind. 2. process/comtemplate to integrate with self/wisdom, 3. take action.
Built around 1. aware of what is in your heart/mind. 2. process/comtemplate to integrate with self/wisdom, 3. take action.
I'm not excited about lists, but this seemed to really work for me. Who doesn't want to succeed? I feel successful because I have the confidence I never would have had without reading this book. Sometimes it might seem a little too simple, but that's what gave me confidence. You can do it!
This book is a very quick read. The 9 things are very simplistic. If you have ever read any 12 step literature, a lot of his sayings and ideas are taken directly from their slogans and literature. The message is basically to have good boundaries, be true to yourself and trust your instincts.
Really good reminder of principles to live by... some were harder for me than others ("Dig it up" -- on unburying our true lifelong desires, "Upset the right people"-- on not letting other ppl's reactions affect our decision to do or not do something). Totally recommend this!
Entertainingly explains nine seperate ways (habits), to change how one may view, discern, choose, and behave bringing about lifestyle change that's desirable. With a fresh, non-psycho-babel tone, how to methods for experiences that result in living life successfully.
Rather interesting that Henry Cloud has nothing but dysfunctional, self-destructive, emotionally abusive female patients. Maybe, one day, I will have a psychologist who blames me for all of society's ills and quotes Bible verses in excess.
Henry Cloud is one of my heroes. I loved this book. The examples he uses to illustrate his points are perfect. It's a fast read and my first choice for the New Year's resolution to read one book a month about inner improvement.
Easy to read and full of good advice. He tells the top 9 habits that make people successful... From getting rid of / dealing with negative things in your life, breaking down large tasks in bite size chunks you can manage, to realizing you can't please everyone.
It was clear and full of useful information. He outlines clear and simple principles that can further the quality of your life if applied. I appreciated his insight, and the fact it was put forward intelligently but simply.
Just finished this very motivational book. An easy read, it helpfully consolidates the 9 habits of the very successful. We can bring about our own successes by following in their behavioral footsteps.
I like the example that the author gives and how a déjà vu person. I liked the tips on How can I turn this around? How can I hope? What does this person need? What could get him or her to a better place?
Another one of my Black Belt books - I've been through it about 6 times and plan on doing it again. I listen to it while I run. Anything Cloud writes is worth getting your hands on.
Good book - really well laid out and easy to read. I'd encourage you read only one chapter a day - give yourself time to think through each point and how it really plays out in your life.
I liked most things about this book. The author seems to have seriously bad luck in business dealings and I could have done without the Bible verses every two seconds. Other than that, lots of useful information.
I also did a lot of thinking while reading this book. I think this book contains some good ideas and I especially liked the quotes from the Bible to support his reasoning.
9 simple things. In fact they are so simple that many of us might think this is a joke. And yet, they are vitally important to our effectiveness here on earth.
A handbook for how to be the best driven person you can be. It uses biblical background as well as real life examples and psychological insight. Very good.
The first few principles are quite common sense, but when it gets to principle 6 hate well and 7 don't play fair, they make me thinking for a while.
This is going to be a once-a-year read for me. Simple, applicable advice for believers and non-believers alike.
Another for Pastoral Counseling but it has been very interesting so far. reading for book review so it's been quick. will probably go back and read again another time.
Good material to think about. A very fast read providing you're not bogged down in all the anecdotes.
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Dr. Cloud has written or co-written twenty-five books, including the million-seller Boundaries. His most recent books are Necessary Endings and The Law of Happiness. He has earned three Gold Medallion awards, and was awarded the distinguished Retailers Choice award for God Will Make A Way.
As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, Dr. Cloud has produced and conducted hundreds of public seminars aro...more
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As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, Dr. Cloud has produced and conducted hundreds of public seminars aro...more
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