Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

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Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of coup

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Paperback, 368 pages
Published April 3rd 2012 by Harper Paperbacks (first published 1992)
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علاء
إن كتاب ( الرجال من المريخ ، النساء من الزهرة ) هو _ بشكل أساسي _ وصفة علاجية لمن يعاني من مشكلة في علاقته مع الجنس الآخر ... وبالتالي حتى تستفيد من الكتاب بالشكل الأمثل يجب أن يكون لديك علاقة مع الجنس الآخر أولاً ( زواج أو خطوبة أو ربما حب ) ويجب أن يكون لديك مشكلة في هذه العلاقة ثانياً ... في هذه الحالة ستستفيد استفادة قصوى من كلام جون غراي لأنك ستستطيع أن تطبق تعليمات الكاتب على أرض الواقع وهذا هو الشرط الأساسي والضروري لتنتفع حقاً بالكتاب . .

هذا لا يعني بالطبع أن شخصاً لا يحقق الشروط السابقة...more
Mephistia
There are some books that you hear about and you hear about and you hear about, and eventually you think, "Hmmm, maybe I ought to read that. It's had a huge cultural impact on our society, it might be a good idea to be in on that."

Kind of like seeing Stars Wars, E.T. and the Godfather Trilogy (I still haven't seen E.T. or the Godfather Trilogy, but I hear they're both great). It's just a big cultural thing, you know?

With books, there are a few that everyone needs to know. There are the obvious o...more
أحمد فتح فتح
كالعادة تتأكد لدي النظرية القائلة بأن كل الكتب المشهورة ليست بالضرورة جيدة .. والكتب الجيدة ليست بالضرورة مشهورة

الكتاب يمكن تلخيصه في عبارتين :
‏- لما تكون زوجتك متضايقة سيبها تفضفض وتحكي واسمع لها واصبر عليها
‏- لما يكون زوجك متضايق بطلي زن وسيبيه في حاله

هكذا تصبح الحياة رائعة !
Rachel
My biggest problem with the book is that it is extremely sexist. The book continually explains that this is just how men are, and then goes on to explain how women can learn to deal with that. Biggest load of crap ever. While some people will certainly fall into these stereotypes, I believe this book may cause more harm than good.

Some of the sexist highlights:
-a woman should go shopping when her man decides that he needs alone time (this is how she can show him her love and trust) {apparently w...more
Salem Gharbi
لو كان الأمر بيدي ... لما سمحت أن يتم عقد قران أي شاب و شابة

إلا بعد أن يحضر دورة في هذا الكتاب ... و يتم إختبارة بها

حقا ... الرجال من المريخ ... و النساء من الزهرة


كتاب جدا جدا مفيد لفهم الجنس الآخر
Benjamin Haag
Oct 31, 2007 Benjamin Haag rated it 1 of 5 stars Recommends it for: Virgins
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and John Gray is from far, far further out in the solar system...

My broad-stroke perspective on this book is that I am inherently skeptical when someone purports to reduce human behavior to simplistic, read-about-it-on-the-subway categories, gender-specific behavior in particular. Resorting to simple explanations for that which is scary -- and I think it's safe to say that romantic partnerships can be scary, because vulnerability is involved, after all --...more
وردٌ شاميّ
كتابٌ سخيف بحقّ!

قرأته إلكترونياً لكثرة ما سمعت عنه والحقيقة أنه لا يستحق قراءة متأنية لأنه ليس أكثر من فكرة واحدة ممطوطة على مدى صفحات.

هل يعتقد الكاتب حقاً أن صورة الرجال والنساء التي طرحها في كتابه صورة واقعية حقيقية وقريبة إلى عالم اليوم؟ أم هل يقنعه فعلاً أن يسطّح توصيف الجنسين بطريقته الساذجة فتغدو المرأة محض كتلة من العواطف الثرثارة البعيدة عن التفكير العقلاني والتي تكتفي بتفريغ غضبها حتى "تظن" أن حميع مشاكلها قد حُلّت، وأن الرجال مخلوقات كهوف منعزلة ينبغي تحاشي نوبات "النكوص" لديها؟

تقول حك...more
Shams Eddeen شمس الدين    .
من افضل الكتب في مجالة لمعرفة الاختلافات بين الجنسين و تجنب الكثير من المشاكل التي تقابلنا في التعامل ... كتاب مبني علي خبرات حياتية حقيقية و ليست مجرد كلام انشاء , كما انه غير متحيز لجنس علي حساب الخر و لكن ينصح بقبول الاخر كما هو و ليس كأنه عيب لابد من اصلاحه

كتاب قيم للغاية انصح لجميع بقراءتة بعمق
Jillian
This book saved me from killing my boyfriend. :)
Salma
غير صحيح و غير دقيق
و لو هناك أقل من نجمة لكنت أعطيته
الكتاب جعلني أشعر بشعور سيء حول ماهيتي كأنثى لأن الكلام المذكور لم أجده ينطبق علي إطلاقا، و كأني جئت من كوكب آخر، أو كأني كنت خارجة عن حسابات البشر، و كأنه لا يكفيني شعوري بالغرابة طوال الوقت حتى يأتي هذا الكتاب و يؤكد ذلك
بأية حال الكتاب لا يعبر إلا عن إحدى شرايح النساء
و ليس كلهن
النساء و الرجال أكثر تعقيدا من ذلك
Amrita
Dec 25, 2007 Amrita rated it 1 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: dumb asses who want to be MISLED!
UTTER ROT!!!
The book shows men as creatures with very fragile egos and women as over sensitive.
Men & women communicate differently, maybe, but some of the "theories" are really wrong.

Like women talk problems for your empathy or sympathy, for the sake of talking it out and that they are not looking for a solution. Then, talking wouldn't make sense would it?

Like men hate being told how to fix the fuacet, or how to find the way...

This book has OUT-Dated views. I regreted reading it!
Abdulrahman
من أروع الكتب التي قرأتها
الكتاب لم يساعدني على فهم العلاقة مع الجنس الآخر فقط
بل ساعدني أيضا على فهم علاقتي مع أصدقائي و مع أهلي كما ساعدني أيضا على فهم نفسي
فأحيانا اقوم ببعض التصرفات وعندما يسألني أحدهم لماذا قمت بكذا وكذا أقول له لا أدري
ولكن الكتاب ساعدني على فهم الطبيعة الفطرية للرجل
* قرأت في بعض آراء الإخوة أنه يجب أن تكون في شكل ما من أشكال العلاقة ( حب - خطبة - زواج . الخ)
لكي تستفيد من الكتاب
ولكن بعد قراءتي للكتاب أنصح الجميع بأن يقرؤوه قبل أن يصبحوا في علاقة ما
فلا يجب أن ننتظر المشكلة حتى...more
Traveller
Idiotic sexist drivel. Catch a rocket back to Mars, Dr Gray.
Synesthesia
I always thought human beings were individual people with individual likes and dislikes that do not relate to their genitals.
Apparently I am wrong. Men and women are actually from different planets! We're alien species! Sure we can have babies together, but we are totally different. Women like to shop because they come from a planet full of shopping centers.
Men like to fix things and play sports because that's all they did on their planet.
Now if we would just remember that we are two different a...more
Jennifer
I decided to read this book because I'm a Dave Ramsey fan and it was one of the books on his recommended reading. I've been married for 10 years, but I figured it couldn't hurt to learn to communicate a little better. I'm not sure this book helped any. It's written with the assumption that all men are alike and all women are alike and that most of them have a "traditional" marriage or relationship. There is something sexist in the author's tone. He paints the women as the homemakers with a love...more
Eddie Black
This is not psychology. This is not even close to be science. I had to read this horrible book in the past (my partner liked it) and I kept thinking to myself that a lot of the stuff in the book was just too convenient, too stereotypical, to easy. Doing a little research found that the school that gave th author his Ph.D. was done away with and that several states (California, Oregon...) will not recognize the titles that the "school" gave out.

I don't like bashing people on ideas, but I hate to...more
Ahmed Daabel
Before writing this review, I spent some time looking over many of the other reviews on here. The spread is interesting, and I think it comes from a misunderstanding of the very limited scope of this book.

First off, if you're looking for a book to explain the innate differences (if there are any?) between men and women, this is definitely not it. Further, if you're looking for a book that dives deep into communication theory and has profound statements regarding the nature of good communication...more
Kecia
Jun 27, 2007 Kecia rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: men and women
When I was in college a priest came to our all girls dorm to talk about guys. Not sure why it was a priest but oh well. Anyway in a nutshell he told us that women thought about the world in a subjective manner and men thouhgt about the world in an objective manner. He said if you ask a man what he's thinking and he says, "nothing" he really is thinking about nothing, which is incomprehensible to women who are thinking about everything. At 20 years old this was mind-blowing stuff.

Then along came...more
طريف
أثناء قرائتي لهذا الكتاب كنت أتذكر كل تلك المواقف في حياتي، التي تعتبر أمثلة في طبائع الرجال وطبائع النساء، وكل تلك الخلافات التي حدثت التي كان من الممكن تجبنها لو ادركت طبيعتي المريخية أو طبيعة الانثى الزهرية .. هذا الكتاب من النوع الذي أقول عنه : لا يمكن تجاوزه
HaNaDy
هذا الكتاب من أفضل ماقرأت فى وصف وشرح العلاقات بين الزوجين كنت لا أملك أى خبرة فى هذا النوع من العلاقات ولكن استفدت منه الكثير فهمت نفسى أكثر وما احتاجة ومتى ولماذا نتصرف نحن النساء بعض التصرفات الغير منطقية فى بعض الأوقات ,, كما فهمت اختلافات عديدة فى طريقة تفكيرنا عن الرجال ، بعد زواجى كنت أتذكر كلمات الكتاب عندما تحدث أى مواقف لإختلاف العقلية بين الرجل والمرأة ، مناسب قرآته قبل الزواج وبعده
وأرشحه كهدية للمخطوبين والأزواج :)
Miyo
what a load of crap. my friend gave me this book after trying to salvage his marriage, told me it was really insightful. He got a divorce within a year.
sanaz
Jul 09, 2008 sanaz rated it 1 of 5 stars
Shelves: etc
I just read about 10- 20 frist pages. then I couldn't continue it. I mean how cheap!!! I can not understand this way of writing! but mybe something is wrong with me. lots of my friends read it and suggest me too do so... Sorry
Green Troll
Mr. Gray's philosophy is women should perform routine housework because its beneficial. He believes modern women have low levels of Oxytocin (hormone that promotes bonding), because they have removed themselves for past gender roles. This is not the type of person who should be giving women advice about relationships. This book is now very dated and shouldn't be taken seriously. And yeah, I did read the book when it first came out. :)
Katie
This book was insulting and biased. Written from an unapologetically male perspective, it attempts to lump men and women into desired roles. The man can leave anytime he wants, and the woman, to show her love and trust (read: naivety), should go shopping. Yes, that's what his argument boils down to. I am all for acceptance, but when there are real issues that need to be dealt with, they are not fixed by saying, "Oh, that's just what men do." The "wave" section was particularly enraging as an att...more
Melissa
Alright. So I didn't post this book when I first signed up on this website, maybe because I was embarrassed and I didn't want everybody to know I had read it. OR maybe I was trying to keep all of its insightful secrets to myself. This is hands down one of the most amazing books I've ever read about relating to the opposite sex. Shocking, I know. But truly. Girls in relationships, are you frustrated?? Do you feel misunderstood? Do you wish your guys did this this and this and you wish he would ju...more
Maya
This book was so boring...I can't believe I wasted 3 days reading it. Perhaps because my relationship wasn't very similar to most the examples in the book or because Gray stereotypes men & women so much, I found myself unable to relate to what he was writing. There were a few good parts that I take with me: remembering that all relationships go through seasons of love, continuing to appreciate and communicate with my partner, and remembering that people handle situations differently.
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Esmoi
Utterly unhelpful for those of us who do not fit the stereotypical personalities associated with our genders. I'm a Myers-Briggs INTJ. I like to retreat to my cave. Maybe, according to Gray's beliefs, this means I must also have a deeply hidden penis?

Don't get me wrong. I'm not some old-school feminist believer in the blank slate brain. This book is just arrogant and sloppy in its long-shot generalizations. In summary: Grok like boink woman, watch football, make fire. No talky-feewings. Grokina...more
G.L. Morrison
This book is such crap -it includes justifications for date rape and recommends that the woman just "let her husband do it" even when she's not into it. His argument being how long is a quickie anyway. Put out to get along is this marriage counselor's advice. Without the slightest concern to the impact this may have on her libido, boundaries, or esteem for the man who doesn't care if she's into it as long as he gets some.
FUCK are you serious? The layers of hostility that John Gray has to women a...more
Yousef Shamieh
هذا الكتاب رائع، بالتأكيد لن يكون كل ما فيه صحيحا ولن تتفق مع جزء منه ولكنه يحتوي على أفكار عملية يمكن للجميع الاستفادة منها، واذا شعرت بالملل أثناء قراءته فلا تكمل، الكاتب يقدم فكرة رئيسية ثم يعود فيشرحها بأكثر من طريقة، لربما يعد ذلك تكرارا ولكنه يقدم الجديد مع كل مرة، وتبقى الفكرة الرئيسية ثابتة.
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John Gray is an American author on relationships and personal growth, best known for his 1992 book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and other "pop psychology" books offering relationship advice.

He was previously married to fellow self-help author Barbara De Angelis, but they divorced in 1984. He is now m...more
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