Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
by
John Gray
Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of coup
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Published
January 1st 2004
by Harper Paperbacks
(first published December 31st 1975)
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Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and John Gray is from far, far further out in the solar system...
My broad-stroke perspective on this book is that I am inherently skeptical when someone purports to reduce human behavior to simplistic, read-about-it-on-the-subway categories, gender-specific behavior in particular. Resorting to simple explanations for that which is scary -- and I think it's safe to say that romantic partnerships can be scary, because vulnerability is involved,...more
My broad-stroke perspective on this book is that I am inherently skeptical when someone purports to reduce human behavior to simplistic, read-about-it-on-the-subway categories, gender-specific behavior in particular. Resorting to simple explanations for that which is scary -- and I think it's safe to say that romantic partnerships can be scary, because vulnerability is involved,...more
من افضل الكتب في مجالة لمعرفة الاختلافات بين الجنسين و تجنب الكثير من المشاكل التي تقابلنا في التعامل ... كتاب مبني علي خبرات حياتية حقيقية و ليست مجرد كلام انشاء , كما انه غير متحيز لجنس علي حساب الخر و لكن ينصح بقبول الاخر كما هو و ليس كأنه عيب لابد من اصلاحه
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UTTER ROT!!!
The book shows men as creatures with very fragile egos and women as over sensitive.
Men & women communicate differently, maybe, but some of the "theories" are really wrong.
Like women talk problems for your empathy or sympathy, for the sake of talking it out and that they are not looking for a solution. Then, talking wouldn't make sense would it?
Like men hate being told how to fix the fuacet, or how to find the way...
This book h...more
The book shows men as creatures with very fragile egos and women as over sensitive.
Men & women communicate differently, maybe, but some of the "theories" are really wrong.
Like women talk problems for your empathy or sympathy, for the sake of talking it out and that they are not looking for a solution. Then, talking wouldn't make sense would it?
Like men hate being told how to fix the fuacet, or how to find the way...
This book h...more
بدايةً انا لا اهوى كثيراً كتب التنمية البشرية ولا اعتقد في مقدرتها ع تغيير سلوك الانسان بالرغم من انه من المكتسبات ومن الطبيعي و السهل ان يتغير ولكني لا اعتقد في قدرة كتاب ع ذلك بل تحتاج الى ممارسة جادة ولفترات زمنية ليست بقصيرة . .
وهذا كان الانطباع الاول عندما شرعت في قراءة ذلك الكتاب ولكني لاحظت معه اشياء اجهلها في طبيعة ترجمة الرجل لعبارات المرأة واسلوب الطلب او الاستياء مما يدفع لمزيد من التشنج في المعاملة و الفهم الخاطئ . .
نوع من الكتب الخفيفة الممتعة وان كان مازال ي...more
وهذا كان الانطباع الاول عندما شرعت في قراءة ذلك الكتاب ولكني لاحظت معه اشياء اجهلها في طبيعة ترجمة الرجل لعبارات المرأة واسلوب الطلب او الاستياء مما يدفع لمزيد من التشنج في المعاملة و الفهم الخاطئ . .
نوع من الكتب الخفيفة الممتعة وان كان مازال ي...more
Ivy's Mom
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men and women
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When I was in college a priest came to our all girls dorm to talk about guys. Not sure why it was a priest but oh well. Anyway in a nutshell he told us that women thought about the world in a subjective manner and men thouhgt about the world in an objective manner. He said if you ask a man what he's thinking and he says, "nothing" he really is thinking about nothing, which is incomprehensible to women who are thinking about everything. At 20 years old this was mind-blowing stuff. ...more
I just read about 10- 20 frist pages. then I couldn't continue it. I mean how cheap!!! I can not understand this way of writing! but mybe something is wrong with me. lots of my friends read it and suggest me too do so... Sorry
There are some books that you hear about and you hear about and you hear about, and eventually you think, "Hmmm, maybe I ought to read that. It's had a huge cultural impact on our society, it might be a good idea to be in on that."
Kind of like seeing Stars Wars, E.T. and the Godfather Trilogy (I still haven't seen E.T. or the Godfather Trilogy, but I hear they're both great). It's just a big cultural thing, you know?
With books, there are a few that everyone ne...more
Kind of like seeing Stars Wars, E.T. and the Godfather Trilogy (I still haven't seen E.T. or the Godfather Trilogy, but I hear they're both great). It's just a big cultural thing, you know?
With books, there are a few that everyone ne...more
My biggest problem with the book is that it is extremely sexist. The book continually explains that this is just how men are, and then goes on to explain how women can learn to deal with that. Biggest load of crap ever. While some people will certainly fall into these stereotypes, I believe this book may cause more harm than good.
Some of the sexist highlights:
-a woman should go shopping when her man decides that he needs alone time (this is how she can show him her love ...more
Some of the sexist highlights:
-a woman should go shopping when her man decides that he needs alone time (this is how she can show him her love ...more
I decided to read this book because I'm a Dave Ramsey fan and it was one of the books on his recommended reading. I've been married for 10 years, but I figured it couldn't hurt to learn to communicate a little better. I'm not sure this book helped any. It's written with the assumption that all men are alike and all women are alike and that most of them have a "traditional" marriage or relationship. There is something sexist in the author's tone. He paints the women as the homemake...more
I'm having a hard time getting through this book. My sister recommended it to Matt and I to read before we the wedding. I would say we can both agree that while a lot of the advice is good, the descriptions of the differences between men and women is pretty off. I guess Matt's much more feminine than most men, and I am more masculine than most women. There's a lot of times in the book where the opposite would apply to each of us. I guess if you are your partner are very Type-A, this would b...more
This book was so boring...I can't believe I wasted 3 days reading it. Perhaps because my relationship wasn't very similar to most the examples in the book or because Gray stereotypes men & women so much, I found myself unable to relate to what he was writing. There were a few good parts that I take with me: remembering that all relationships go through seasons of love, continuing to appreciate and communicate with my partner, and remembering that people handle situations differently.
what a load of crap. my friend gave me this book after trying to salvage his marriage, told me it was really insightful. He got a divorce within a year.
This is not psychology. This is not even close to be science. I had to read this horrible book in the past (my partner liked it) and I kept thinking to myself that a lot of the stuff in the book was just too convenient, too stereotypical, to easy. Doing a little research found that the school that gave th author his Ph.D. was done away with and that several states (California, Oregon...) will not recognize the titles that the "school" gave out.
I don't like bashing peop...more
I don't like bashing peop...more
This book saved me from killing my boyfriend. :)
نحتاجه
I should disclose that I'm reading this book when a relationship is ending... it might affect my perspective.
The guy is sexist... no doubt. A woman's role is to be respectful and deferential to her man. Yeah. sure.
Men just need to be appreciated and trusted. Ok. Whatever.
And he definitely enjoys repetition. Especially of the points above.
But wait... there's a but.
If you read this book expecting the above, then you can take away the real message. It...more
The guy is sexist... no doubt. A woman's role is to be respectful and deferential to her man. Yeah. sure.
Men just need to be appreciated and trusted. Ok. Whatever.
And he definitely enjoys repetition. Especially of the points above.
But wait... there's a but.
If you read this book expecting the above, then you can take away the real message. It...more
This book was insulting and biased. Written from an unapologetically male perspective, it attempts to lump men and women into desired roles. The man can leave anytime he wants, and the woman, to show her love and trust (read: naivety), should go shopping. Yes, that's what his argument boils down to. I am all for acceptance, but when there are real issues that need to be dealt with, they are not fixed by saying, "Oh, that's just what men do." The "wave" section was particular...more
This book was first published in 1975 and still is in print plus it's still sold out like anything.
This book is good for those people who are psychologically confused human progeny.
If you are a guy and confused about how does girls mind work then read a few pages of the book.
If you are a girl and think boys as a confused and confusing organism then my advice to you is as same as I gave for the boys. Read few pages of this book.
But I must say if you are living in ye...more
This book is good for those people who are psychologically confused human progeny.
If you are a guy and confused about how does girls mind work then read a few pages of the book.
If you are a girl and think boys as a confused and confusing organism then my advice to you is as same as I gave for the boys. Read few pages of this book.
But I must say if you are living in ye...more
Amir Bayoumi
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Liked this:
"It is a mistake to expect a man to always be in touch with his loving feelings just as it is a mistake to expect a woman's feelings to always be rational and logical."
This is just very true...
Liked this also:
"Not to be needed is a slow death for a man."
He's really talking about me here!!!
I was not encouraged to complete this book!!! maybe later...
"It is a mistake to expect a man to always be in touch with his loving feelings just as it is a mistake to expect a woman's feelings to always be rational and logical."
This is just very true...
Liked this also:
"Not to be needed is a slow death for a man."
He's really talking about me here!!!
I was not encouraged to complete this book!!! maybe later...
Alright. So I didn't post this book when I first signed up on this website, maybe because I was embarrassed and I didn't want everybody to know I had read it. OR maybe I was trying to keep all of its insightful secrets to myself. This is hands down one of the most amazing books I've ever read about relating to the opposite sex. Shocking, I know. But truly. Girls in relationships, are you frustrated?? Do you feel misunderstood? Do you wish your guys did this this and this and you wish he ...more
wow...!!!!
highly recommended book for those who really never got any single clues about their partner (man or woman)..
while reading it, I found (most) answers that I thought that I would never understand..
hope this book really can help me with my social and love life..(hahaha)
highly recommended book for those who really never got any single clues about their partner (man or woman)..
while reading it, I found (most) answers that I thought that I would never understand..
hope this book really can help me with my social and love life..(hahaha)
Megan
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Recommends it for:
everyone in a relationship, whether you have problems or not!
Recommended to Megan by:
my mother (who has been happily married for 40 years)!
This book is phenomenal. If I had a nickle for every fight/argument this book got me out of, I'd be a millionaire. There are so many wonderful tips on how to deal with the opposite sex, and gives us insight into why each of us are the way we are. It can get a littly hoaky at times, but, it helps explain things in very simple terms. I have read this book at least 3 times, and plan on keeping it in my library for the future (as I'm sure I'll read it again for a refresher course)! Please read this!...more
لو كان الأمر بيدي ... لما سمحت أن يتم عقد قران أي شاب و شابة
إلا بعد أن يحضر دورة في هذا الكتاب ... و يتم إختبارة بها
حقا ... الرجال من المريخ ... و النساء من الزهرة
كتاب جدا جدا مفيد لفهم الجنس الآخر
إلا بعد أن يحضر دورة في هذا الكتاب ... و يتم إختبارة بها
حقا ... الرجال من المريخ ... و النساء من الزهرة
كتاب جدا جدا مفيد لفهم الجنس الآخر
این کتاب علت بسیاری از اختلافات و مشکلات خانواده ها را بیان می کند.
هنوز تجربه عملیب ندارم ببینم که می تواند مشکلات را حل کند و یا فقط حرف زده. ولی ریشه بسیاری از مشکلات را در اطرافم در این کتاب پیدا کردم.
ان شاء الله وقتی موقعیت تجربه اش شد, می گویم که امکان عمل کردن به راه کارهایش هم هست یا نه
:D
هنوز تجربه عملیب ندارم ببینم که می تواند مشکلات را حل کند و یا فقط حرف زده. ولی ریشه بسیاری از مشکلات را در اطرافم در این کتاب پیدا کردم.
ان شاء الله وقتی موقعیت تجربه اش شد, می گویم که امکان عمل کردن به راه کارهایش هم هست یا نه
:D
الكتاب جيد بالجملة.قد أعيب على مؤلفه عدم استعراضه لكثير من المشاكل التي قد تواجه الزوجين.
يرتكز الكتاب على فكرتين أساسيتين: ١- احترام الزوجين لبعضهما وتبيان بعض السلوكيات التي قد يساء فهمها
٢- اختيار العبارات المناسبة في اللحظات الحزينة أو الصعبة.
وكلا الفكرتين مما يحتاج إليه القارئ.
يرتكز الكتاب على فكرتين أساسيتين: ١- احترام الزوجين لبعضهما وتبيان بعض السلوكيات التي قد يساء فهمها
٢- اختيار العبارات المناسبة في اللحظات الحزينة أو الصعبة.
وكلا الفكرتين مما يحتاج إليه القارئ.
كنت قد وصلت الى حالة الملل والكلل من الصراع الدائر والمستمر دوما بين الرجل والمرأة........كنت قد مللت حكايا الخيانةوالعذاب والفراق والجراح......كنت قد مللت تلك الشجارات المصتنعة بين طرفى الحياة فى الدنيا......حتى ان هذا الصراع بدأيظهر جليا واضحا فى كتاباتى..وشعرت حينها انى بحاجة الى هدنة..فلجأت الى هذا الكتاب.....ووجدتنى اشعر براحة وانا اتفهم شيئا فشيئا بل واؤمن ان ما للمرأة من حياة بدون رجل.....ولا للرجل حياة بدون مرأة...تلك كانت شعارات واهية يتباهى كل منهم بها ويستعرض لقواه ان به الحياة دووون ...more
I have read the mars venus book "men women and relationships" and absolutely loved it! So I thought the first of it's kind would be even better.
I was wrong...
First of all the way he repeats the same "facts" over and over makes you feel like your in school and the book is a series of flash cards you have to memorize. I could not finish this book as it got boring. It was so simplistic that when something comes up like "men are like rubber bands"...more
I was wrong...
First of all the way he repeats the same "facts" over and over makes you feel like your in school and the book is a series of flash cards you have to memorize. I could not finish this book as it got boring. It was so simplistic that when something comes up like "men are like rubber bands"...more
Before writing this review, I spent some time looking over many of the other reviews on here. The spread is interesting, and I think it comes from a misunderstanding of the very limited scope of this book.
First off, if you're looking for a book to explain the innate differences (if there are any?) between men and women, this is definitely not it. Further, if you're looking for a book that dives deep into communication theory and has profound statements regarding the nature of good c...more
First off, if you're looking for a book to explain the innate differences (if there are any?) between men and women, this is definitely not it. Further, if you're looking for a book that dives deep into communication theory and has profound statements regarding the nature of good c...more
увы, ничего принципиально нового для себя не узнала. в книге приведены обобщающие рекомендации и примеры того, как надо и не надо вести себя с партнером. создаётся впечатление, что американцам доставляет удовольствие "заливать водой" факты, убеждая читателя, что "на самом-то деле всё гораздо проще!". ну да, нужно только на практике использовать указанные советы. громко смеялась в той части главы, где описан "101 способ, позволяющий мужчине набрать очки" (маленькие з...more
إنه احد الكتب التي كنت أسمع بها كثيرا حتى قبل دخولي عالم الكتب , حقا .. الكتاب يتمتع بشعبيه واسعه حول العالم , ولم تكن لدي أدنى فكرة عن محتوى هذا الكتاب الذي أعيد نسخه وطباعته عشرات المرات ..
النساء من الزهرة و الرجال من المريخ للدكتور جون غراي هو هذا الكتاب الذي يسبر بك أغوار النفس البشرية في المرأه والرجل ويقودك لفهم أعمق لذاتك ولجميع من حولك من الرجال والنساء , فإنطلاقا من هذا المفهوم أن الانثى من كوكب وان الرجل من كوكب آخر يسهل حياتنا كثيرا , لأن هذا الفهم يجبرنا على ان نستوعب إختلافاتنا...more
النساء من الزهرة و الرجال من المريخ للدكتور جون غراي هو هذا الكتاب الذي يسبر بك أغوار النفس البشرية في المرأه والرجل ويقودك لفهم أعمق لذاتك ولجميع من حولك من الرجال والنساء , فإنطلاقا من هذا المفهوم أن الانثى من كوكب وان الرجل من كوكب آخر يسهل حياتنا كثيرا , لأن هذا الفهم يجبرنا على ان نستوعب إختلافاتنا...more
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John Gray is an American author on relationships and personal growth, best known for his 1992 book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and other "pop psychology" books offering relationship advice.
He was previously married to fellow sel...more
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He was previously married to fellow sel...more
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“when a man can listen to woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift.
He makes it save for her to express herself.
The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust,acceptance,appreciation,admiration,approval, and encouragement that he needs.”
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He makes it save for her to express herself.
The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust,acceptance,appreciation,admiration,approval, and encouragement that he needs.”
“حاجات النساء للشعور بالتحسن عن طريق التحدث عن المشكلات أما الرجال عن طريق حل المشكلات”
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