Get Out of Your Own Way at Work...And Help Others Do the Same: Conquer  Self-Defeating Behavior on the Job
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Get Out of Your Own Way at Work...And Help Others Do the Same: Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior on the Job

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The co-author of Get Out of Your Own Way goes on-the-job.

Whether it's a simple breach of etiquette or fear of learning new things, expecting too much from employees or failure to delegate, self-defeating behavior is the most common reason people put their jobs and reputations in jeopardy. In quick, to-the-point chapters, Goulston explains that if a professional does one...more
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Published October 3rd 2006 by Perigee Trade (first published February 1st 1996)
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Я очень люблю всякие штучечки и фишечки человеческого сознания (и подсознания тоже :))). Меня хлебом не корми - дай поковырятся во всяких там когнитивных искажениях, семантических неправильностях, ментальных репрезентациях и т.д. и т.п. Вот и эту книгу я начинал читать, чувствуя приятное азартное щекотание в лобных долях головного мозга :)))

Но уже страниц через несколько меня постигло жестокое разочарование... Сказал я себе: "Блиннн, да это ещё одна очередная попсовая книжка по психологии" :( А...more

As I began to read this book, I recalled the core concepts in The Knowing-Doing Gap co-authored by Jeffrey Pfeffer and Robert Sutton. Briefly, they assert that “so many managers know so much about organizational performance, say so many smart things about how to achieve performance, and work so hard, yet are trapped in firms that do so many things they know will undermine performance." Many (most?) people have a “gap” between knowing what to do and doing it, not only at work but in all other are...more
Александр Шушпанов
По сути, это не книга, как таковая, это хрестоматия. Читаете некоторый поучительный рассказ из профессиональной жизни Марка, читаете его доводы, соглашаетесь (или не соглашаетесь), после чего, если считаете нужным, выполняете мини-задание. Дистанционный психологический тренинг по выявлению своих плюсов и минусов в коммуникации. Ничего сверхнового, его же "Слышу вас насквозь" гораздо интереснее.

Лично мне из этой книги оказались нужными три с половиной главы и одна таблица.
Elizabeth Black
I was not impressed with this one. I think what he was going for was practical application to every day life, but the stand alone lessons seem nothing to do with one another and are too simplistic to address the deep roots from which self defeating behaviors stem.
Dr. Mark Goulston has written an excellent book whose advice is as timely today as it was when it was first published in 2006. Its predecessor, Get Our of Your Own Way (co-authored by Goulston and Philip Goldberg), provided a great deal of salient information for dealing with the self-centeredness that prevents us as humans from having good relationships with others, whether in the family circle or at work. Goulston himself follows the philosophies of pragmatism and empiricism; he wants to know...more
Jerry Smith
Easy to read but full of interesting insights, quotes, snippets that you can use and a brief explanation of 40 common self-defeating behaviours. I bet we all exhibit a few of them.

Goulston is a psychiatrist and therefore comes at this with a wealth of experience and writes in a very approachable style. Huge subject of course, how we get in our own way is something we deal with all day every day so his approach to reducing each chapter to manageable chunks is very welcome and works well.

Anita Werner
There are good points but the only sections that are truly helpful are the Taking Action and Usable Insights at the end of each chapter.
Really thin self help content that neglects to provide insight into suggestions.
Some interesting insights, but overall felt like an oversimplified crash course.
Amy Sanchez
Jan 30, 2008 Amy Sanchez rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: all my friends
Recommended to Amy by: My friends at Borders recommended this to me... thanks
Cant get enough of these kinds of books. Just another book that screams "Stop Whining and Do something about it" ... (sometimes we need to hear the truth about ourselves)
Nadya Belkys
Книга отличная, все четко и по делу.
Главное, не удариться в иппохондрию и не начать лечить себя от всех ловушек сразу.
What I really liked about this book in general is the little practical solution boxes at the end of every part.
This was a fantastic book. The read was easy, but full of helpful and insightful information
So. Useful. And not stupid. I got this from the library and now I've bought a copy for my office.
still reading but this is surprisingly very good so far. Very practical.
Hard Knocks 101
A no nonsense direct way to dealing with self -defeating behavior.
Still working on it... :)
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MARK GOULSTON, M.D., is a business psychiatrist and consultant, author of the bestselling Just Listen, and subject of the PBS special “Just Listen with Dr. Goulston.” He writes a Tribune syndicated career column; blogs for Fast Company, Business Insider, Huffington Post, and Psychology Today; and is featured frequently in major media including The Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, Fort...more
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