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So Far Away: A Daughter's Memoir of Life, Loss, and Love

3.7 of 5 stars 3.70  ·  rating details  ·  10 ratings  ·  5 reviews
Christine Hartmann's mother valued control above all else, yet one event appeared beyond her command: the timing of her own death. Not to be denied there either, two decades in advance Irmgard Hartmann chose the date on which to end her life. And her next step was to tell her daughter all about it. For twenty years, Irmgard maintained an unwavering goal, to commit suicide ...more
Paperback, 209 pages
Published November 18th 2011 by Vanderbilt University Press (TN) (first published November 8th 2011)
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Time is certain. There are no maybes; no buts, only its constant passage. It is difficult, at times, to look out the window and watch life go by you, powerless to stop it, and sometimes it is still jarring to look into the mirror to find myself changed, older than I feel. So Far Away by Christine W. Hartmann, a memoir about a daughter’s last years with her parents, encapsulates these feelings perfectly. It is a story of coping with aging parents and the looming prospect of their death. At some p
Mary (BookHounds)

Christine Hartmann's mother. Irmgard, tells her that she plans on committing suicide when she turns seventy. No matter how many discussions mother and daughter have about it, the fact remains that Irmgard does not want to live through a painful end. After watching her brilliant father descend into dementia and suffer strokes, her mother is determined not to share the same fate. Hartmann has recreated her conversations with her mother to tell her about the loss she suffered whe
Judy Croome
If I could give this memoir 10 stars I would. If you are in a care-giving situation for your parents, buy, beg , borrow or steal a copy of this book. It will comfort and guide you through the loneliness of losing your parents while they are still physically alive.

SO FAR AWAY has had me crying – no, sobbing – inconsolably for the past two days as I read it. I am drained and exhausted and utterly relieved that I am no longer alone in my journey of grief. That there is a way through this loss; ther
Lydia Presley
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I struggled with this memoir. Granted, I should have known I’d struggle with it – the subject matter was just so hard.

Christine Hartmann is a strong woman. I don’t know that I could have done what she did. She builds the story over a period of about ten years, but the psychological impact her mother had on her lasted longer than that. Can you imagine? Living with the knowledge that your mother plans to die by suicide? I can’t.

This book inspired a good, heartfelt talk b
Apr 09, 2013 Donna rated it 4 of 5 stars
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A moving, sometimes upsetting story, but told brilliantly, with much emotion and reflection. As sometime who's situation has similarities with the author's, I was deeply moved......but not by the things I expected.
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