Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners
Did you have a parent whose love for you felt more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more instrusive than nurturing? Did you feel trapped in a "psychological marriage" with this parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert incest.
Identification of this kind of incest is difficult, since covert incest victimrs often feel idealized and privileged, not viol...more
I have been in therapy a long time. A lot of the issues described in this brief text are issues I have struggled with. It is very creepy to see all my problems laid out so neatly. All those problems become so many beads on a string.
It's a deceptively simple book with a simple thesis: when your opposite sex parent treats you like a ...more
This book was suggested to me in a forum for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse. The author seems more familiar with male victims of covert incest, and tends to focus on victims dealing with addictions. It's also a very short work - more an overview of what covert incest is than a thorough examination of it. That all being said, it is a good, basic overview. I'm neither male, nor dealing with an active addiction, but still saw myself in this book. That it's a short work becomes an advantage - a vict ...more
The book focuses on covert incest, as the title suggests, and will probably not be very beneficial for overt incest survivors seeking answers. A client of mine borrowed the book and reported that little pertained to her. This does not mean, however that the parent-child dynamics involved in covert incest can't also exist in a ...more
Great book about a little known topic.
I originally gave this book 2 stars. I revise my rating to 4 stars. Most of my issues are with the writing itself, not the underlying content. For example, I found some of the repetitious language in the personal stories distracting. How many different people really use the word "icky?" Clearly the wording was chosen by the author, but it made the stories less individual-feeling.
Original review is below this revised version. I contacted the publisher about the flawed produc ...more
Most of us think we had happy childhoods and everything that was happening around us is usual and normal. This book is highly recommended for people to recognize dysfunction in their families and how that shows up in adult lives.