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Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners

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Did you have a parent whose love for you felt more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more instrusive than nurturing? Did you feel trapped in a "psychological marriage" with this parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert incest.

Identification of this kind of incest is difficult, since covert incest victimrs often feel idealized and privileged, not viol

Paperback, 180 pages
Published September 1st 2011 by Health Communications (first published April 1st 1991)
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Nov 16, 2015 Nikmaack rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The book THE TRUTH made reference to this book. So I ordered it. Because my issues are in here. I could tell, just based on The Game and it's description of this text.

I have been in therapy a long time. A lot of the issues described in this brief text are issues I have struggled with. It is very creepy to see all my problems laid out so neatly. All those problems become so many beads on a string.

It's a deceptively simple book with a simple thesis: when your opposite sex parent treats you like a
Alex Houseknecht
Aug 15, 2016 Alex Houseknecht rated it liked it
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This is a great book both for practitioners and those who are survivors of cover incest. Adams does a great job of differentiating between overt and covert incest, and boldly asserts that covert incest can be as damaging as overt incest, regardless of whether there was physical contact. He points out that the importance lies in the sexually charged relationship between the parent and child. Adams also explains the particularities of male and female survivor experiences, using both theory and ill ...more
Aug 25, 2009 Hope rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition

This book was suggested to me in a forum for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse. The author seems more familiar with male victims of covert incest, and tends to focus on victims dealing with addictions. It's also a very short work - more an overview of what covert incest is than a thorough examination of it. That all being said, it is a good, basic overview. I'm neither male, nor dealing with an active addiction, but still saw myself in this book. That it's a short work becomes an advantage - a vict
Sep 06, 2015 Sara rated it liked it
I purchased this book to use clinically, however found it personally enlightening as well. It is fairly simple to read, but the message belies the book's easy readability.

The book focuses on covert incest, as the title suggests, and will probably not be very beneficial for overt incest survivors seeking answers. A client of mine borrowed the book and reported that little pertained to her. This does not mean, however that the parent-child dynamics involved in covert incest can't also exist in a
May 04, 2014 Carol rated it really liked it
Covert Incest - when a parent puts their emotional needs above that of their children...pretty powerful language and the relational outcomes are profound well into the child's adult years. This book is for anyone who has been in an enmeshed relationship with a parent.
Shayna Marks
Feb 23, 2016 Shayna Marks rated it really liked it
Adams explores the topic of covert incest within families in an informative and professional way. Using anecdotes Adams offers examples as well as the problems that arise when a child suffers from covert incest.

Great book about a little known topic.
Christine Jackson
Jul 11, 2012 Christine Jackson rated it really liked it
An interesting look at the distorted relationship with parents who use their children for emotional needs.
Aug 24, 2016 Melissa rated it really liked it
Update/Revised Review:

I originally gave this book 2 stars. I revise my rating to 4 stars. Most of my issues are with the writing itself, not the underlying content. For example, I found some of the repetitious language in the personal stories distracting. How many different people really use the word "icky?" Clearly the wording was chosen by the author, but it made the stories less individual-feeling.

Original review is below this revised version. I contacted the publisher about the flawed produc
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Most of us think we had happy childhoods and everything that was happening around us is usual and normal. This book is highly recommended for people to recognize dysfunction in their families and how that shows up in adult lives.
Nov 07, 2012 Vanessa rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Little information. But a practical guide to help people to see the symptoms and realize that they are not alone, to be able to take a step and unpluge the damage.
Sep 14, 2007 erin rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
an interesting theory and a definite twist on the codependent model.
Aug 17, 2016 Marlene rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It's a good book but I feel it has only explained the surface. Maybe there's not much else to say about this issue. I don't know much about it to have a full opinion, and I thought Silently Seduced was going to lessen my lack of knowledge on this topic. It did, but not as much as I hoped for.
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