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The 5 Love Languages of Children
Does your child speak a different language? Sometimes they wager for your attention, and other times they ignore you completely. Sometimes they are filled with gratitude and affection, and other times they seem totally indifferent. Attitude. Behavior. Development. Everything depends on the love relationship between you and your child. When children feel loved, they do thei...more
Paperback, 224 pages
Published
January 20th 2012
by Moody Publishers
(first published May 28th 1995)
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Feb 21, 2008
Rachael
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I think this book is fascinating! I've noticed that my children, my spouse and I all have a love language that relates to them. The love language is your preferred way of giving & receiving love. What I loved most about this book is the knowledge that when you discipline a child in their love language it cuts really deep. For example, my daughter is a words of affirmation child, and when I correct her actions, she shuts down (even when I do it in the nicest way 'we can't touch that sweetie')...more
Aug 20, 2008
Tiffany
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Recommends it for:
anyone, but especially parents
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My oldest child is much like me, but my second felt so different! But for the first time I'm understanding him, and this book may be the difference between a close relationship with him during these formative years, and a distant one.
This is the best parenting book I've read. In a nutshell: everyone shows love and desires love in return, but we do it in different ways. Those "ways" are called languages, and are condensed into five types. Receiving love in YOUR language fills your love tank. Kids...more
This is the best parenting book I've read. In a nutshell: everyone shows love and desires love in return, but we do it in different ways. Those "ways" are called languages, and are condensed into five types. Receiving love in YOUR language fills your love tank. Kids...more
Oct 08, 2007
Rock Rockwell
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Now that you know my love language, will you use it against me? Seriously, compartamentalizing love into five expressions is a bit limited. To some it may help to understand why those "special" people don't meet our expectations, and how to accept their love expression (even though it may not mean much to my love language receptor). I was one of the unusual ones that couldn't figure out my love language... sort of like those personality/gift tests (dinc) that put me in the "I don't know" range....more
The authors expound on their theory that there are five different ways that people express and experience love: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. By the time kids are five or so, they say, the kids have started to have a preference (before then children just need love in all the languages all the time). Knowing your child's love language can help you to be sure that they know that you love them, which leads to all kinds of good things they'd like to t...more
In the Evangelical tribe I grew up in, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman provided the idiom to talk about how each us receive and give love. Because of our unique personalities and family of origin, we each have modes of expressing love which is particularly meaningful to us. For some it words of affirmation. Others feel particularly loved when you spend quality time with them. Giving and receiving gifts is another ‘love language.’ Others feel loved through physical touch or acts of servic...more
The five love languages has had much acclaim for the use in parenting children as well in the aiding of marriages. I found the book slightly interesting, mildly helpful, and downright obvious in spots. While understanding the different love languages a person can have: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch, can move you worlds closer to getting along with someone, it doesn't necessarily always bridge the gap of personality comprehension. For chi...more
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This outstanding book addresses how each child expresses and receives love through one of five main "languages" - quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. Although children need to be spoken to in each of these love languages, there's one love language that meets their deepest emotional needs and should be used often with them. Once we figure out what our children's primary love language is, we will be able to better understand their personal communication m...more
Our children know that we love them, right? We hope so, but not everyone perceives and receives and shows love in the same manner. This book details 5 ways we perceive love: physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service. Each of us has a predominant love language by which we most feel loved. Learn how to speak your child's (or spouse's) primary language, and experience a transformation in your relationship with that person. After detailing each love language in r...more
The Five Love Languages for Children is a book that will help parents better understand what motivates their kids and how to keep them happy.
There are five topics which everyone understands: physical touch, words of affirmation, giving gifts, acts of service, and quality time. Chapman and Campbell talk a little about each language and how they make us feel.
Chapman and Campbell have a writing style that is easy to read and engages the reader with it's conversational style. They use several scenar...more
There are five topics which everyone understands: physical touch, words of affirmation, giving gifts, acts of service, and quality time. Chapman and Campbell talk a little about each language and how they make us feel.
Chapman and Campbell have a writing style that is easy to read and engages the reader with it's conversational style. They use several scenar...more
I don't think there is any way to explain how each human being on this planet feels and expresses love, though I am of the opinion that the Love Languages books do a very good job of putting the very complex topic of love and its coexisting emotions into a book that most anyone could take something positive away from for application in their own relationships. I absolutely loved The 5 Love Languages, so I assumed that this book would be similarly amazing. It wasn't.
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Apr 13, 2012
Jennifer Wedemeyer
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Immediately, I realized that I wasn't meeting each of my children's individual love need. I thought my son's main love language was physical touch but it's also words of affirmation. This is so obvious in that he is always touching, always wrestling, and always in your personal space and now that I realize it he's also always asking if everything is ok, did he do this ok, am I all right and he is so happy after receiving positive words of affirmation from myself and my husband. After reading Gar...more
Just as adults show love differently, so do children. We learned in Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages that it is crucial to notice how each of our partners in marriage shows love and what language of the 5 speaks most love to them. The same is true for children. In this book Mr. Chapman teams up with Ross Campbell to focus on children.
In this book you will
*Discover your child’s love language
*Understand the link between successful learning and the love languages
*See how the love languages c...more
In this book you will
*Discover your child’s love language
*Understand the link between successful learning and the love languages
*See how the love languages c...more
We all understand the importance of loving our children and showing them how much they are loved, but did you know that there are ways of showing our children love that really speak volumes to them and their heart? It's true, just like there are languages that speak to the adult hearts, our children have different needs that show them that we truly love them. Each has a unique language that speaks love to them.
This is why often times we may bend over backwards as a parent and our children still...more
This is why often times we may bend over backwards as a parent and our children still...more
Once again Gary Chapman has come up with a wonderful way to look at the love languages of the people we care about. The 5 Love Languages of Children is one of the newest additions to the 5 Love Languages library of books and resources.
I loved being able to read through the stories and see how my "language" with each of my children can encourage or discourage them. I went through the suggestions at the end of each love language to see what I can do on a daily basis to show my love to each of my k...more
I loved being able to read through the stories and see how my "language" with each of my children can encourage or discourage them. I went through the suggestions at the end of each love language to see what I can do on a daily basis to show my love to each of my k...more
I appreciate the aims of this book. My biggest worry as a parent--or rather, ONE of my many biggest--is that my daughter will not feel sufficiently loved/appreciated/proud of/etc. Love was a complicated and fraught thing in my home growing up, which has led me to be overly-concerned and ready to consume the books offered at the library in hopes of not missing out.
This is another one of those books that could have been covered in a nice article rather than a lengthy book and the elaborations seem...more
This is another one of those books that could have been covered in a nice article rather than a lengthy book and the elaborations seem...more
May 25, 2011
Rose
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3 of 5 stars
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Recommends it for:
anyone who has interdependent relationships with people
I think the book shared some interesting insights. I'm conflicted with there just being five "love languages". I see the five displayed and being interwoven daily in each of my four children. I think to understand the general concept is fine, but real mommies and daddies know that each of children will run through each of these needs during their time as children. Let's not stop there, that applies to all people. I may need just a hug or a hand on my shoulder and still also need an act of servic...more
I took a class that used this book and at the time, thought it was fabulous and brilliant and insightful. My kids were really young and I couldn't wait for them to be old enough to try this all out on them.
I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifically for help with one c...more
I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifically for help with one c...more
I will be trying to utilize the idea of making sure I show/express my love for those I care about in a way that they can appreciate, however, some of the examples used were REALLY over the top corny. To the point that I seriously doubt that these are real conversations or situations. Also, the section on discipline wasn't really all that helpful. I'm only dealing with an 18month old, so fortunately we don't have any big discipline issues at this point, however, for someone who IS having problems...more
I bet most people never pay much attention to what kind of love they like to receive from their loved ones, let alone give love, once they don`t know what their loved ones like.
Life is so busy that we don`t usually pay the proper attention to our children, let alone, give them the kind of love they deserve and need to fill their love tank.
This books presents an interesting approach to love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, gifts and acts of service. I first learned a...more
Life is so busy that we don`t usually pay the proper attention to our children, let alone, give them the kind of love they deserve and need to fill their love tank.
This books presents an interesting approach to love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, gifts and acts of service. I first learned a...more
Like any other type of advice book, this book is obviously no panacea, but it does offer some pointed and essential insight into children and our interactions with them as parents. I felt that the discipline sections in the second half of the book were almost more valuable than the outline of the five love languages in the front half.
Some may complain that the book inappropriately categorizes and fails to account for the nuanced complexity of children, psychology, and interpersonal family relati...more
Some may complain that the book inappropriately categorizes and fails to account for the nuanced complexity of children, psychology, and interpersonal family relati...more
As parents, it is our duty alone to discern which love language (physical touch, quality time, gift, acts of service, and words of affirmation) is best suited to each of our children. Though we of course love our children, how we communicate this love is not necessarily how they receive it, and therefore our language may go unheard, leaving their “love tank” empty. Learning these new languages will take work and discomfort, but worth the effort to enable them to mature in their ability to learn...more
May 19, 2011
Sarah
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I am really torn over what I thought of this book. While I like the concepts and I think it had valuable information I had a hard time with it. For some reason I couldn't get into the writing style. I constantly found my mind wandering and having to go back and re-read portions. The last several parenting books that I have read have been very readable so I found this hard to reconcile.
For the most part I felt like the "love languages" were well explained but in the later chapters when examples...more
For the most part I felt like the "love languages" were well explained but in the later chapters when examples...more
I don't like this book very much. Gary Chapman co-wrote this book with someone named Ross Campbell, and I have the impression (perhaps the wrong impression) that they are Campbell's parts of the the book that are giving me trouble. Love languages--good. But I have the constant feeling while reading this book that while they are giving with one hand, they are taking everything away with the other. This makes me feel like the love stuff is rather wishy-washy, and the discipline stuff is entirely c...more
People are different in each and every aspect of their being. And children are people. They are not "little adults" and they are not a different species. And every has needs - children, young adults, adults. And one of those very real needs is to be loved and to experience love.
About the book: To be their best, children need to feel loved. But if you and your child speak different love languages, your affection might get lost in translation, affecting the child’s attitude, behavior, and developm...more
About the book: To be their best, children need to feel loved. But if you and your child speak different love languages, your affection might get lost in translation, affecting the child’s attitude, behavior, and developm...more
I am a blue, type - A, ESTJ, who likes to be shown love through quality time, and likes long walks on the beach and....WAIT, no I'm not. I'm Karen, a girl with lots of personality quirks, one of which is that I dislike pop psychology books that tell me I and everyone else fits into one of their created, ficticious descriptions. I have to admit, I didn't even finish this book (I did read almost all of it though). Probably most of us are familiar with the five love languages, they have enjoyed bei...more
This book argues that all people feel love in five basic ways, but we each have a primary love language. The best way to make your children feel loved, then, is to figure out what their primary love language is, and give them lots of that, plus regular doses of the other kinds. Obviously this applies to spouses, parents, and anyone else you love too, but this book is mainly about the parent/child relationship. I may decide this book deserves 4 stars after I've had some more time to think about i...more
[This review also appears on Blogger at Andi's Books for Parents & Teachers.]
At my previous teaching job, ten years ago, my boss was always asking me if I knew what each child's love language was. I had no idea what she was talking about at first. Then, she finally told me about a book called The 5 Love Languages of Children. It was originally published in 1997, which would have been the edition to which she was referring. In 2005 it was updated; now it has been updated yet again in 2012.
Eve...more
At my previous teaching job, ten years ago, my boss was always asking me if I knew what each child's love language was. I had no idea what she was talking about at first. Then, she finally told me about a book called The 5 Love Languages of Children. It was originally published in 1997, which would have been the edition to which she was referring. In 2005 it was updated; now it has been updated yet again in 2012.
Eve...more
Hmm. This was a pretty good book, but it seemed a little phony in parts. The imagined dialogues were absurdly simple. The discussion of single parenting was lacking. In a way, I think the whole book was pretty simplistic, but...
I got something out of it, and that makes it worth reading. Regardless of whether you ascertain anyone's particular "love language," I think the idea of expressing your love for others in more than one way is pretty important. I appreciated the examples because they offer...more
I got something out of it, and that makes it worth reading. Regardless of whether you ascertain anyone's particular "love language," I think the idea of expressing your love for others in more than one way is pretty important. I appreciated the examples because they offer...more
This is a must have book for all parents. Each child, as we all know, is different. This book is a good reminder of the ways we show our Children "Love". It is not the same for each Child in the family. There are some really good examples shown in the book, and it is a good reminder.
Sometimes we try so hard to be doing the right things and we fail to understand that we need to do things differently. I recommend reading this book for some great insights, and applying them in real life!
“Disclosu...more
Sometimes we try so hard to be doing the right things and we fail to understand that we need to do things differently. I recommend reading this book for some great insights, and applying them in real life!
“Disclosu...more
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Gary Chapman has traveled extensively around the world challenging couples to pursue healthy, growing marriages. His first book, Toward a Growing Marriage (Moody, 1979, 1996), began as an informal resource he gave to couples with whom he was counseling. Once officially published, this book became a blessing to thousands of people and helped launch Gary’s popular “Toward a Growing Marriage” seminar...more
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