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Dary codzienności. Poradnik uważnego rodzicielstwa

4.1  ·  Rating Details ·  1,327 Ratings  ·  143 Reviews
Znany amerykański terapeuta, założyciel i dyrektor Kliniki redukcji stresu przy Akademii Medycznej Uniwersytetu w Massachusetts, napisał wraz z żoną Mylą książkę o tym jak dobrze wychowywać dzieci. Jon Kabat Zinn jest znany na polskim rynku jako autor książki "Gdziekolwiek jesteś, bądź" poświęconej praktyce uważności jako podstawowego narzędzia radzenia sobie ze stresem. " ...more
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Published November 20th 2008 by IPSI Press
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Meg
Feb 28, 2010 Meg rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I'm sure this makes me all un-spiritual and un-evolved and whatever, but parts of this book really pissed me off. This might be just my defensiveness as a new parent talking, but a lot of the time I felt like the authors were lecturing me about how if I could just see things from my child's perspective then I would never get angry or upset. You know what? I love my child, and I do see things from her perspective. AND, being a parent is hard, so would you mind giving me a little empathy first, si ...more
Charity
Jul 02, 2012 Charity rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I borrowed this book from my friend Melanie ages ago (maybe three years ago). I started it right away after I borrowed it, and while I appreciated the Kabat-Zinns' perspective, the book didn't really hold my interest. It felt like old news. I'd been through those difficult early years with my kids, and while the suggestions were good, I didn't really need them anymore. But there was enough there that I didn't want to give the book back to Melanie unread, so I put it on my TBR Challenge list for ...more
Danielle Ryan
Oct 23, 2012 Danielle Ryan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is not just a book. You owe yourself so much more than to just read it. This is a way of thinking. A way of BEING. A way of living. This text brings many concepts, thoughts,and ideas to the forefront of our minds, and though many of us may be keenly aware of them, we often forget or set aside this knowledge while allowing life and all of its complexities and intricacies to intervene and distract us from what we really value. This book provides us with gentle reminders and practical strategi ...more
Katina
Feb 07, 2011 Katina rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting, 2011
Forgive the rambling. Am writing when too tired and after a glass of wine and beer.

This is a set of topical chapters/mini-essays on various facets of parenting and how one might apply the concept of mindfulness to the parent/child relationship. I found some essays to be very powerful (the one on birth for example). I felt others were overly preachy (the authors are quite strong attachment parenting advocates and with that comes some typical Sears-esque judgmental nonsense).

If nothing else, I t
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Sarah
May 04, 2008 Sarah rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Okay, I think I'm done with this one. I read the first half and loved the philosophy of mindfulness in parenting, but the second half got a little to attachment preachy to me. I will definitely use some of their insights, though.
Deborah
Sep 21, 2016 Deborah rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue to exist, a wonderful living side-by-side can grow up, if they succeed in loving the distance between them, which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky. - Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters

Our interconnectedness and our interdependence enable us to learn and grow together.

What is truly important here?

Sovereignty - giving the choice back to the child to enable transformatio
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Rachel
Apr 17, 2008 Rachel rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love this book. it keeps me grounded when i'm feeling a little tiny bit overwhelmed with the babe. i just read a page and i feel like "yes, i can do this. yes, i want to do this!"
the authors a husband and wife, parents to a son and a daughter, and Zen Buddhists have written a book together that really made me stop and think about the importance of really connecting with my child while allowing him space to be who he is.
it is not a book to read if you are looking for child rearing strategies.
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Jeanice
May 01, 2011 Jeanice rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
zzzhgghhh...oh whoops..that was me falling asleep to a book that spends hundreds of pages telling parents how to be mindful. Maybe it is just me but I understood mindfulness prior to reading the book and this book just droned on and on and on explaining it in lots of fluttery therapist language. Get to the point already.....which is....be more mindful of your actions towards your kids, be more mindful of the reasoning behind their actions and be more present when you are with your kids. It took ...more
Jennifer Hughes
A must-read for parents. Wonderful essays by both John Kabat-Zinn and his wife remind us to be joyful in the parenting journey. Throughout my pregnancies and the toddler years, I was always reading the "What to Expect" and the other top parenting books. They told me what to do for the child. But when I found this book I knew it was the missing piece I had been looking for--the emotional piece of how to care for the child and strengthen your relationship and the home. Highly recommended.
sleeps9hours
Jul 28, 2010 sleeps9hours rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one of those books that came to me at just the right time in my life. Recommended by a friend in my mama’s meditation group, it is inspiring me to be even more mindful in my parenting and my life in general.

I saved tons of passages:

p. 4 Mindful parenting is hard work. It means knowing ourselves inwardly, and working at the interface where our inner lives meet the lives of our children.
...One reason I practice meditation is to maintain my own balance and clarity of mind in the face of suc
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Karin
The Kabat-Zins take the concept of mindfullness and apply it to parenting our children. Mindfullness in this way is to be aware of what you are doing and why. It means to atune yourself to both how you are feeling AND to how the child is feeling and WHY the behavior is being shown. By being grounded in ourselves, we can parent from a steadfast position, not being sucked in to the drama but observing it and trying to understand what is wanted underneath the turmoil.

Of course mindful parenting is
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Jeanne
I've generally been a good parent, but the mistakes that I most regret have come from periods where I was "too busy" and not present in the process of parenting.

Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting, by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn, is their book on parenting, building on their work on mindfulness to handle other problems: stress, anxiety, depression, and chronic pain. The Kabat-Zinns make it sound possible to parent mindfully and compassionately, offering them age-appropriate sover
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Kim
Aug 14, 2008 Kim rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not actually done reading this book, but I'm not reading it all at once, either, so to keep it from forever languishing on the "currently-reading" shelf, I'll write about the first third or so.

I like the concept of this book, that one can and should bring a sense of calm and reflection to parenting situations, and that if you pay attention to yourself as you interact with your child, instead of simply reacting (to, say, an entire photo album of pre-digital beloved pictures being spread by yo
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Saiisha
Jul 08, 2016 Saiisha rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A must-read for anyone who has kids! Similar to The Conscious Parent, by Shefali Tsabary which I reviewed before (https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...), this book helps parents to approach parenting from a mindful, conscious place, as opposed to following rules, or laying down the law. This is not a WHAT-TO-DO manual, but more of a HOW-TO group of chapters. There's lots of examples of Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn's own children, and also others, ranging from pregnancy and birth to teenager and ol ...more
Kathleen Vandevoorde
I'll look elsewhere for ideas about establishing discipline and setting expectations for my child, but there are some good ideas to ponder in this book. Warning: the authors come across a little judgmental, particularly about competing ideas with regard to infant care. They're very pro-attachment parenting and breastfeeding. This is a good buffet book; take what works, leave the rest.

Generally, the concept of mindfulness has be very useful to me. I recommend reading about mindfulness to anybody
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Lisa
Oct 19, 2009 Lisa rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
This book is a wonderful addition to a parenting library. I find the whole thing hard, hard work for me (mindfulness in general, mindfulness in parenting), but something about their writing (Jon and his wife Myla) really speaks to me.

I first read this book long ago (guessing when) and then re-read it this past summer after attending a workshop with JKZ (where Myla was attending as well). It was a treat just to be in their presence.
Marissa Morrison
This is a lovely book, full of reminders about children's (well, everyone's) need for sovereignty, parents' call to try to see and situations from a child's perspective (rather than expecting the child to behave the "appropriate" way), and the completeness of each child as a whole person regardless of age (i.e. not treating a 2-year-old with less respect because he is ruled by a 2-year-old's passions, or expecting him to act as though those passions aren't there).
Tracy Crosby
Mar 24, 2008 Tracy Crosby rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
One of my most favorite books of all time! I bought a copy for myself for mother's day. It is an absolutely amazing book, and I wish I could say it's a must read for every parent... But I know people just won't get it. But this book is so good -- and has helped me be a better parent and wife. I keep going back to it, reading it over and over, trying to keep my mindful practice in full swing. Definitely worth every penny.
Trace
Dec 23, 2011 Trace rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great book! So many great ideas about gracious, intentional parenting between these two covers. Very real and authentic...the authors practice buddhism, so there inevitably were a couple of ideas that conflicted with my core faith beliefs, however I would say that pretty much everything that the authors wrote dovetailed nicely with my own very strong belief that children should be parented with love, dignity and consideration.
Lisa
Anyone who has kids or is going to have kids needs to read this book. If we all parented this way there would be alot fewer people in therapy.
Ashlee
Mar 06, 2017 Ashlee rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Beautiful

Thoughtful and thought-provoking. It made me laugh and cry and sit in wonder over the amazing gift that is parenthood.
Deirdre Keating
A library check out that I didn't finish. I liked it but it didn't keep my attention. I think I like the idea of it more than the book itself.

ETA: The above was written in 2008, and true.
In 2011, I read it with a sangha/mindful mamas group, and finally read the whole thing. Definitely got more out of it in this context.

A few passages I marked:
"Boys need the presence of competent, embodied men in their lives, men who DO know who they are and are not afraid of or numb to how they feel, men who ar
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Rebecca
Sep 16, 2008 Rebecca rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
This book has some problems:
1. the print is tiny and there is no margin at the top of the page. it's weird and distracting. the text goes right up to the top and off the edge of the book. it's precarious and claustrophobic to read text teetering on the edge of a cliff like that.

2. it is very boring and repetitive. it essentially repeats itself. in a boring way. or, one could say, a repetitive way. boringly. But... in a way the style is as meditative and cyclical as the breath they admonish us to
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Amy Formanski Duffy
I got some good parenting advice out of this. Live in the present moment and accept it for what it is. Accept your kids for who they are, not who you want them to be. You can choose to focus on positive thoughts just as much as negative ones, so you may as well be positive. Don't project your own issues from childhood onto your kids. That's a big one.

So there is a lot of worthwhile stuff in this book. However, I am too practical and logic-minded for some of the hippie-dippyness that abounds in i
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Fabio
Aug 04, 2015 Fabio rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Da qualche anno pratico meditazione secondo la pratica "mindfulness" cosi' come insegnata da Jon Kabat-Zin e la sua scuola. Ho avuto anche modo di incrociarlo a una conferenza: persona semplice e dall'energia interiore incredibile. Parlando con amici/che anche loro genitori/trici sono venuto a sapere di questo suo testo dedicato alla crescita dei figli di cui non sapevo.
Mi ci sono immerso rapidamente su loro consiglio e ne sono rimasto ben colpito. E' un libro che ci aiuta a porci domande più c
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Hannah
This book had a great overall message about the importance of being patient & present with what children are going through, a very helpful reminder to breathe and be compassionate in the midst of baby-plus-preschooler chaos.

I'm holding back some stars, though, because the Kabat-Zinns reached beyond discussing mindfulness into lecturing about their attachment parenting practices, many of which may not work for other families. Mindful parenting is so important, and it's a shame that the autho
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Largercircle
I chose this book off of my library shelves . . . I was looking for something to help me as I move deeper into parenting three children, all under 5 until next month.

I found it deeply reassuring. The writing is very non-judgmental most of the time. The authors seem to truly believe and understand that every parent is different, every child is different, every family dynamic is different, and there is no one right way to do this thing - only tools they can share with parents seeking a mindful pat
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Andrew
Aug 06, 2014 Andrew rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: good-stuff, parenting
This book has changed my whole perspective on a lot of things, but it has definitely challenged me as a parent and a human being to step up and be the man I know I can and should be. Amazing piece of work. A simple book, too. It's not promising you a "How To", but it offers a "Hey, just hear us out here, and you might actually learn something. You see those little creatures that you spawned? Yeah, your kids. Well, if you don't raise em right, who will? You Tube? Tom and Jerry? Kim Kardasian?" Th ...more
Corinne Grimes
Sep 28, 2009 Corinne Grimes rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone if they're open to it
Recommended to Corinne by: my dear friend Shanti
This book is my Bible for parenting. I go back to it again and again, and it brings me to center every time. It reminds me who I want to be as a parent and as a human being for my daughter. When things are crazy or I'm feeling a little overtaxed, it reminds me about the inner-commitments I've made to my child to do the very best for her I know how. It also reaffirms choices I'm making for her in the vein of attachment parenting, which isn't the most common choice in parenting these days.

The onl
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Heather
Feb 09, 2010 Heather rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Still reading- it's very long, but good stuff. This will be finished by the 3rd Wednesday of April, I promise. It's due back then. :)

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Didn't actually finish it because we've been busy over here. It is really long and probably doesn't need to be that long, but I liked that I could read a paragraph, put it down, and come back to it later. While I'm sure it's nice to read the chapters as whole entities, reading just a paragraph at a time was useful for refocusing myself in the moment- and wa
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