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    <body><![CDATA[This is the book that I wished my parents had read when I was a kid.  It speaks to many of the issues I have with parenting and I can say that by implementing several of the suggestions I am a much better person in general and have better relationships with my kids too.]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Around me I still see people treating children like they were treated this is a good insight into thinking about how they should be treated, that is all!]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[I would really like to give this book 3 1/2 stars.  I agree with some of his ideasl, but not others.  ]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[I am still reading this book.  I am not sure whatto say yet.  It is new and different than other parenting books I have read and I like the direction it is going in. I want to talk about it more and think about it more but I need to read more!<br/><br/>My husband said when I mentioned one concept,...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/1337023">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <![CDATA[Psychologist John Gray (he of <em>Men Are from Mars...</em> fame) cites a need to shift from &quot;fear-based parenting&quot; (a punitive and oppressive approach to child rearing) to &quot;love-based parenting&quot; (which accepts children's desires and negative emotions while still setting reasonable limits). With child and teen violence increasing, rampant low self-esteem, substance abuse, teen pregnancy, and attention deficit disorder, he says, &quot;the Western free world is experiencing a crisis in parenting. Almost all parents today are questioning both the old and the new ways of parenting. Nothing seems to be working.&quot;  <p> He suggests &quot;Five Messages of Positive Parenting&quot; that will facilitate such a shift: &lt;ol&gt; &lt;li&gt;It's okay to be different. &lt;li&gt;It's okay to make mistakes. &lt;li&gt;It's okay to express negative emotions. &lt;li&gt;It's okay to want more. &lt;li&gt;It's okay to say no, but remember mom and dad are the bosses. <p> Although his parenting philosophy is not necessarily revolutionary (think &quot;positive discipline&quot;), Gray manages to keep this parenting primer contemporary by weaving in specific challenges of new-millennium families--such as our tendency to be consumer-driven and overscheduled. &quot;When parents learn what their children really need, they are less motivated to create money to acquire things and more motivated to create time to enjoy their family,&quot; Gray writes. &quot;The greatest wealth for a parent today is time.&quot; <em>--Gail Hudson</em></p></p>]]>
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