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The Secret Power of Middle Children: How Middleborns Can Harness Their Unexpected and Remarkableabilities

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Middle children are underachievers, overshadowed and overlooked, right? Wrong.
Combining research in evolutionary biology, psychology and sociology with real-life stories, psychologist Catherine Salmon, Ph.D., and journalist Katrin Schumann reveal what it really means to grow up in between, including how:
- Middles receive less financial and emotional support from their pa
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ebook, 304 pages
Published August 1st 2011 by Plume Books
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Scott Lupo
Sep 26, 2011 Scott Lupo rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
What an interesting book. I've only read a little about birth order studies in the past and this book basically summarizes those studies and adds some new information in an easy to read format. I'm a middle child and I can honestly say this book pretty much describes me to a tee. Unfortunately, none of the secret powers are superpowers. I was so hoping I could read people's minds or something. But seriously, there is some great information about how birth order affects an individual's upbringing ...more
Elizabeth
A fascinating collection of research and anecdotes delving into the oft-neglected and misunderstood world of the middle-child. A lot of birth-order researchers have previously focused on first and last-born, so this researcher, Catherine Salmon, felt compelled to investigate and write about the middle child.

At times, it felt the author was manipulating her display of statistics in order to prove her point, rather than the other way around. She frequently cites stats like "52 percent of US Presi
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Shavawn Berry
Feb 21, 2015 Shavawn Berry rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As a middle child, I found the information in this book rather fascinating. I especially enjoyed seeing how much impact middle children have had as leaders, artists, creators, innovators. I was also surprised to see the connection between my empathic nature and being middleborn. It is apparently a common trait in middle children. It also saddened me to realize that all of these great qualities may go away as families shrink to just one or two children. A thoughtful book on an often overlooked su ...more
Darlene Hull
Jan 20, 2012 Darlene Hull rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Very interesting. I love wearing the badge of having "middle child syndrome" when it can get me some sympathy from my parents (jazz joking) but I found some of the insights in here quite true and empowering. Her comments on how the world might be affected by the lack of middle children was also rather interesting. A great read if you have a middle child, are married to a middle child, or if you are a middle child.
Maria McGrath
Sep 12, 2016 Maria McGrath rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
I picked this up off the library shelves, and the proud and thrilled expression on the faces of my son and my in-laws was worth it, but the psychological insights seemed a little too broad (like a horoscope) and applicable to just about anyone (I've read that sketch of permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative parenting in dozens of books, usually done a bit better).
The thing that really blows the book out of the water, though, is that her choice to demonstrate the superior negotiating style
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Hayley
Oct 09, 2013 Hayley rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I would have rated this book less than one star if possible.

Catherine Salmon speaks in such broad generalities about birth order and personality that I cannot take this book seriously. There is a bibliography but no footnotes. So, for instance, when Salmon make the sweeping statement that parents of middle children don't often think of these children as distinct and capable, we don't know what has led her to this conclusion. She tells us that younger mothers are more likely than older mothers to
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Brian
Dec 06, 2011 Brian rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book examines how the experiences of middle children during their formative years may serve as excellent preparation for certain situations in adult life. Many of the assertions will not come as a surprise, but it is useful to read about them all together in one book. At times, the chapters felt like they were rehashing points already made, but it wasn't enough repetition to turn me off of reading the book all the way through.

The author backs up some claims with studies, and others with ane
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Gunjan Yogendra
Jul 28, 2016 Gunjan Yogendra rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Accidentally stumbled upon! Eye-opener for me, a good start to read if you want to understand birth-order research - read and then view the world with this perspective, but with a pinch of salt.
Emily
Jun 20, 2015 Emily rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Loved the fascinating data and stories in this book about middle children... I never really thought about how my personality and life has been partly shaped by my middle-born status.
Robbin
Mar 27, 2013 Robbin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
My interest in birth order developed because I kept noticing similarities between people that were of the same birth order. I am a middle born (2 older and 2 younger sisters) so my curiosity was spiked when I found this book. The author convinced me birth order has influence over your entire life from interaction with siblings and parents, handling of intimate relationships, to parenting. The real life examples of very famous middle borns like Abraham Lincoln added impact and understanding.

I not
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Tonya
Jun 27, 2016 Tonya rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
This book was an interesting look at middle children. As a middle, I related well to the concepts in this book, and I liked the stories about middle's contributions to society in general. It was worth reading.
Austin
Jul 25, 2015 Austin rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Interesting read that despite the author's PhD leaned more pop psychology and self-help than hard science at times.
Lynne Griffin
Oct 10, 2014 Lynne Griffin rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: books-by-friends
Well researched, with powerful insights.
Trulie
Apr 05, 2012 Trulie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was really interesting! I don't always self-identify myself as a middle child. Even though I'm the 2nd of 7, I am the oldest girl and so I often classify myself as an oldest child along with my brother. But, I found this book really insightful. I feel like I do have a better understanding of my personality: both strengths and weaknesses after reading it. If you're a middle child or are involved with a middle child in some way (spouse, children, friend, etc), I think you'd find it insig ...more
Taj
i need this book, very much.
Beverly Ho
Oct 12, 2014 Beverly Ho rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Overall, the context resonated with me. I didn't read it page by page but would read it in details when the topic seemed interesting. I am a middle child. The book highlighted the traits of middle child, and why and when they are great traits. I had a few aha moments. I would recommend this book if you are interested in personalities.

I agree with the author that the birth order affects us strongly on how we see the world and handle difficult situations.
Ann
Aug 23, 2012 Ann rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
some interesting family dynamic studies. i'd very much like to have Salmon and Susan Cain, the author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking collaborate. Would be very curious about the likelihood of middles being introverts. middles are definitely outer directed, but i know some very quiet (not shy) middles.
Angela
Jan 30, 2012 Angela rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is groundbreaking work noting the special skills middle children acquire as peacemakers, negotiators and people who are willing and able to quickly adapt in social situations. Middle children have long needed a platform, and have found that through performance, whether musically, through acting or on the speech circuit.
Monica
Jul 11, 2012 Monica rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I couldn't finish this book. To put a lot of emphasis on birth order seems silly after you read the six factors, with multiple sub-factors, that can affect birth order. Maybe this book would be helpful to parents while raising their children, but I just couldn't stick with the book.

Sanju
I found it boring. Lost interest. Maybe it will be interesting another time.
Elisabeth
Heard an interview with the authors on NPR, where middles called in to share. This book is quite interesting. My husband is a middle, we have two middle children, and I can definitely see how each of them fit the middle personality.
Andrew Hull
Sep 25, 2011 Andrew Hull rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very interesting book on the dynamics of family and birth order. Provided both research findings, implications of these findings, and recommendations for addressing and utilizing the strengths and weaknesses of middle children.
Lisa
Sep 16, 2012 Lisa rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
* I received this book free through a goodreads giveaway*
This was an interesting read. I have 3 children and my middle child is definitley a treat! I got a new insight on how to handle her!
Curt
Loved it. Lots of good insights on birth order and personality traits. Some of it was applicable to my experiences, some of it missed the mark, but overall it was a good read.
Hope
Sep 17, 2013 Hope rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I won a copy through the Goodreads' Firstreads program.

I'm not a middle child, but I entered to win this for my sister who is. I'm sure she'll enjoy! :)
Jaime
Feb 15, 2012 Jaime rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Really good insite into the psychology of birth orders and why certain people have distinct characteristics.
Lucy Briggs
Mar 26, 2013 Lucy Briggs rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Lucy by: Cat Briggs
Cat recommends because of NPR story. Note for middles, a bit of parental neglect isn't always a bad thing.
Mary
Mar 14, 2012 Mary rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Mostly skimmed it. Was good but a little too scientific repetitive for me.
Sandi Perry
Jan 07, 2013 Sandi Perry rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Fascinating! A wonderful understanding of what makes Middles
tick...
Roma Levy
Interesting but not as informative as I had hoped
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