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Painfully Shy: How to Overcome Social Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life

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* Do you feel shy and self-conscious in social situations?
* Are you plagued with self-doubts about how you come across to others?
* Do you feel physically sick with worry about certain situations that involve interacting with others?
* Do you make excuses, or even lie to avoid the social situations you dread?
* Do you make important decisions based on whether you'll
Paperback, 288 pages
Published August 22nd 2003 by St. Martin's Griffin (first published April 7th 2001)
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Feb 05, 2010 Maryann rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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For those of you suffering from SAD please pick up this book. I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s and I thought there was something so wrong with me. I never heard of anxiety disorders! There is a better understanding today of SAD then there was when I was young and I have been dealing with this forever. I am 40 now…please don’t wait that long to start exploring and finding a cure.

This was a great starter book for me. It helped me identify another anxiety order I have which is GAD. Now I have somethi
Sep 14, 2015 Carissa rated it liked it
I must admit that I read the first half of this book years ago and just recently completed the second half. While I feel like I learned a lot and I always felt more motivated and hopeful while reading, I can't really say I felt like this book helped me, which is a huge bummer.

There were parts that I really liked. This book was well-written and one of the authors had experienced social anxiety first hand. I liked hearing about her struggles and what helped her. Another aspect I liked was that the
Jun 16, 2012 Jamie rated it it was amazing
Shelves: personal-growth
When I bought this book I was really skeptical. I've read a couple other books on the subject and felt like they didn't really have anything worthwhile to offer. This book is completely different. The other reason I was skeptical was because it's about social anxiety and I wasn't sure I really fit that or not.
I loved this book. The begining of the book she describes what social anxiety is and has some tests to help you find the parts you struggle with most. While doing that and throughout the b
Dec 10, 2007 Kathryn rated it really liked it
Shelves: psychology
I read this book very quickly because my supervisor recommended it for a client I was seeing who was dealing with social anxiety. Wanting to have a solid feel for it before I gave it to said client, I tore through it in a couple of days.

The only reason I'm not giving it five stars is that I want to wait to see how useful my client finds it. But I think it was very smart, down to earth, and useful. It certainly gave me a better sense of empathy for my client and a much better idea about how to a
I really didn't go looking for this book - it just caught my eye at the library and I figured it was worth a look. Ultimately, I don't think it really "helped" me, but it did give me some food for thought. It's possible that I'm just not ready to be "cured". In fact, I'm not sure I've ever thought of my bashfulness as something that *could* be cured. This book has certainly given me a new perspective on "social anxiety disorder" - what it is, why some people suffer from it, how it can affect you ...more
May 03, 2011 Tracey rated it did not like it
This book is about how to over come your social phobia. There are many steps to over come your phobia. I really don't have a phobia so i would not no what its like.
the reason why people would like this is that it helps with your problems and make you less shy in the open where the world is like a stage.
the people that hate this book dont have a phobia or its not the right help for them so they get fustrated by it so that means dont read it.
Jul 26, 2013 Tabitha rated it really liked it
There was definitely a lot that I felt like I could relate to in this book. Many concepts from this book may help ease my anxiety if I remember to instill them into my life. This book not only gave helpful advice, but allowed me to feel normal in the fact that I'm not alone. as well as that it offered plenty of interesting facts and information on social anxiety. I'm glad I took my psychiatrist's advice and read this book :-) -
Jul 11, 2009 Elyse rated it liked it
Recommends it for: Anyone with Social Anxiety Disorder
I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder and have ever since I was little. Lately, it's become a huge roadblock in my life, preventing me from doing anything outside of the house. When I found this book at the library, I had to get it. I was desperate.

I can't say yet that it was completely worth the read, as I have not yet followed its advice. But it gave me a comforting feeling so I have high hopes that it will be helpful.
Sep 17, 2015 Libby rated it it was amazing
Great book...I wish I had read this in college when my SA made my life literally hell. I was a bit cautious about this book because I didn't know if it would be all obvious stuff I already know about Social Anxiety Disorder but, I learned a lot of new stuff that can hopefully help me. I highly recommend.
Nov 20, 2012 Jennifer rated it it was amazing
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It is a very well written book and covered everything that I also learned in therapy. Alone reading this book helped to boost my motivation and my self-confidence by a lot. For someone who is into psychology, it was a very good read.
Sep 23, 2012 Mark rated it really liked it
Recommended to Mark by: Jessica Engle
This is a good resource for those with SA. The book describes the possible causes and symptoms of SA,
with many examples included. There is also a thorough discussion of treatments and ways of dealing
with SA, including CBT, spirituality, and medication.
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