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The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun)

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Do bad girls really have more fun? Surveys say no. The women who are most likely to enjoy sex are married and religious. In other words, they’re Good Girls! But good girls know that making sex great isn’t about acting trashy. It’s about recognizing what God really designed sex for, and then learning how to reap all these benefits and joyfully enjoy your husband. Frank and ...more
Paperback, 265 pages
Published March 2012 by Zondervan (first published 2012)
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Mar 05, 2012 Laura rated it it was amazing
You would think that after 30 years of marriage I would not be shocked about sex. You would think I would "know enough" or "know it all". I mean, how many ways can you do it anyway? Forget I said that, because Sheila Wray Gregoire the author of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex will not only tell you the many ways, she will tell them in very descriptive detail. I am over 50 years old and I was blushing as I read this book! However, at the same time I was laughing my head off at her humorous way ...more
Aug 26, 2013 Mickalene rated it really liked it
Shelves: favorites
I picked up this book on a recommendation, but wasn't too sure about it until I realized it was written from a Christian perspective. She states very clearly that the sexual relationship is one that should be kept within marriage, but was also kind to those that may have had some sexual history before marriage, even if it was with their now-husband. This is not a "clinical" book about sex (for that see Act of Marriage by LaHaye), but rather an attempt to help women (and probably men) understand ...more
Lori Lynn
Aug 15, 2012 Lori Lynn rated it it was amazing
My husband bought this book for me right before we got married (5/19/2012). I read this on our honeymoon and loved it. Before we got married I read The Act of Marriage and really enjoyed it but did find some parts a little outdated (mind you, I read the 1970's edition). I really really really love this book!!!! I don't 100% agree with everything in it, but overall I do. I would recommend this to any woman soon to be married, already married, or even just a woman who is mature enough to properly ...more
Feb 01, 2014 Caitlin rated it it was ok
An okay book from a conservative Christian perspective...however, it comes from a mindset that women naturally hate sex, which really was a turn-off for me as a reader. Would recommend to women struggling with sex within a marriage, but not for newly or nearly-weds, as it puts forth an attitude that it's normal and expected to dislike sex and be uncomfortable with it.
Aug 15, 2014 Siobhan rated it liked it
Shelves: sexual-health
I liked the way she writes and the way she approaches sex as being more than a sum of physical parts. I also enjoyed her humor such as when she mentions how she drowned a particularly unworthy sex manual in her bathtub because it was all about choreographed physical sex! lol Love it! And I had to laugh when she actually took note on her calendar how many times her and her husband had sex so that when he'd complain about how they weren't she could whip it out! She has simple tips that I like beca ...more
Mar 03, 2012 Kate rated it it was amazing
Amazing book on marriage and sex and all that goes along with them! Sheila is passionate about marriage and passionate that God has a very good plan for sex within marriage! Whether you are engaged or married, this is a book you should read! If you struggle with sex in any way, read this book! God's design for sex is beautiful and a mystery at times, but it is worth learning more and drawing near to your husband! This is a must read for all wives!!
Alicia Willis
Nov 09, 2015 Alicia Willis rated it it was amazing
5 Stars
Recommended to engaged couples, engaged women, and married women.

I had been following Sheila's FB page, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, for a while before I read her book. I really enjoyed it. She covers the lies that good Christian girls believe and shows you the right thinking that we as godly women ought to have. Society teaches us that it is the bad girls that have all the fun when, really, statistics show clearly that it is the good girls who do things God's way that have the best marria
Aug 05, 2014 Cheri rated it really liked it
Great from a Christian perspective. I liked how she addressed all women... married and engaged, those who had sex with others prior to marriage or were virgins on their wedding night. There wasn't any dissenting those who previously had relations with others. Practical but enjoyed how she worded things in ways that I try to convey to my husband but struggle with at times. I did at some points feel like the focus was simply on keeping your husband happy with sex. She did mention how sex can also ...more
Lisa Marie
Jan 26, 2013 Lisa Marie rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2013
"Getting the physical side of marriage right may take some work, but it's a fun kind of work. And with the right attitude, we women can become the happiest wives who are married to the most satisfied husbands. That's what God wants for us, and that's what He'll help you do once you start getting excited about it. So jump in!"

Although the title might make you think this book is about ways to have great sex, in reality, this book is a no-holds-barred, frank, open, and honest look at the Christian
May 05, 2012 Iola rated it it was amazing
In 1993, when I got engaged, a friend gave me a copy of the 1973 edition of The Act of Marriage, a Christian classic of its kind. It was hopelessly outdated even then, so I was intrigued when I came across this title, A Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, to see if it was any more relevant.

It is.

The author is very open about the ups and downs of her own relationship, and these stories are enhanced by quotes from some of the hundreds of women (and men) she surveyed as part of her research. Her studi
Mar 07, 2012 Maxie rated it it was amazing
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire

What an informative and spiritually grounded book. The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex written by Ms.Gregoire puts to rest many misconceptions many “Good Girls” have about having great sex and that only Bad Girls have wonderful mind-blowing sex lives. Ms.Gregoire information is researched based and backed up with Scripture. I found many of Ms. Gregoire statements to be true as I sat back and analyzed all of the information I heard and disc
Bill Tillman
Feb 03, 2012 Bill Tillman rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Christians
Recommended to Bill by: Zondervan
Over the years I have seen many marriage books, yet Good Girls Guide to Great Sex stands alone. The insights from Gregoire are life altering, carefully researched and verified. From those who are about to be engaged to married life in your 70's this book has some precious to impart. I especially like the division of body, mind and spirit through the lens of a believer. It starts out slow laying fundamental groundwork by exploring the Christian mindset toward sex and builds from there.

Nothing is
D.M. Webb
Aug 09, 2014 D.M. Webb rated it it was amazing
Scandalized by the title?
Wondering if this is a book about positions?
You shouldn't be scandalized, and Gregoire does a wonderful job showing how sex within marriage is designed by God to be "fun" and to be a physical representation of our relationship with Him.
In marriage, the man and the woman do become one and sex is an extension of that intimacy. Sex is not a "dirty" word, and it is not a "dirty" act.
Thorough research and countless interviews helps support this statement.
And yes, she will tak
L.L. Gappa
Jun 23, 2014 L.L. Gappa rated it it was amazing
A great Christian Lady who can help a girl out. I've read other books by Sheila and really respect her wisdom, so I decided to give this a go. This is a good book for any Christian woman who wants to learn more about sex than a basic, tight lipped run down of the functionality, with out sleeping around to try and "Figure it out", and with out wacky haze of Hollywood's "Normal". A funny, laid back book that makes a potentially awkward subject... far less awkward. Would definitely reccomend it to ...more
Mar 04, 2016 Nikole rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2016
This book was a great place to start as a woman who recently got married and didn't have any experience and very little understanding of sex before the wedding. There are a lot of aspects to intimacy in marriage that are not obvious from the surface. This book is not only about sex itself, it's about what it means to be intimate with your husband and how to understand him on both an emotional and a sexual level. I would definitely recommend this to any newlyweds friends! For myself, it probably ...more
Michael Rittenhouse
Aug 09, 2014 Michael Rittenhouse rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: husbands wives women
If the Sexual Revolution was supposed to cure what ailed us, why are so many women (and men) still unsatisfied?

Sheila Wray Gregoire points to the problem that so many missed: Sex is a gift that's supposed to lift us out of ourselves. Simply letting loose and flaunting one's sex appeal still leaves us isolated -- because it's still about "me."

On the other end of the spectrum, "good" girls (alluded to in the title) often think of themselves as unsexy, or conclude that to enjoy sex is an unholy und
Jun 23, 2013 Danielle rated it it was amazing
This is by far the best Christian-based book on sex I have read. I highly recommend it to... well... any married couple who likes to have sex.

If you have any specific questions on my thoughts, feel free to message me privately. I'd rather not get into public detail about why I really liked this book... ;)
Aug 06, 2015 Kate rated it it was amazing
Yes, I read this book. I am also getting married 4 weeks from today. Don't judge me. Reading this book has brought such healing to the pieces of my heart that were still a bit sore from past decisions. It also opened a door to talk with my wonderful husband-to-be about the intimate side of our marriage. With sound, biblical wisdom from someone who works on the front lines of marriage and family ministry, Sheila Wray Gregoire writes a powerful, insightful, and humorous book on how to cultivate a ...more
Mike Matiscik
Aug 12, 2015 Mike Matiscik rated it it was amazing
Highly recommend this book for couples and especially those about to be married. Again-- if you know a young couple about to be wed, then make sure they read this. It is not just for the women but it is a must read for a young woman. I believe it will protect them as it takes a lot of mystery out of the relationship. Overall the book is a very clear discussion from a very godly perspective. Obviously the world thinks the Christian view of sex is puritanical but so what, the world twists most bib ...more
Aug 24, 2015 Lauren rated it liked it
I really wanted to love and be challenged by this book. I read it cover-to-cover. If I reviewed it just as a Christian sex and relationship book, I could say that it was excellent and covered a broad range of topics and issues. For me, personally, I don't feel like I learned all that much. I was reminded very much of "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhan. A significant amount of the reading didn't apply to me or my marriage, but I plowed through, looking for what did. Honestly, the last three chap ...more
Mar 05, 2012 Sarah rated it it was amazing
Shelves: ebooks
I decided to read the ARC of The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex to see if it would be a good reference for when my husband, an Episcopal Priest, and I to use for part of our premarital counseling. Most of the book, I would say, is very useful. The section describing what sex is in detail for women or men who were virgins when they were marrying was really good. It answered a lot of questions that one might have, in a spiritual way, as well as a physical way. I enjoyed reading about how men feel a ...more
Aug 06, 2013 Margie rated it liked it
The principles Gregoire shares are definitely useful and good rules of thumb for better spousal relations, but I don't necessarily appreciate or agree with her militant view that frequent marital sex is required or else you're sinning in your marriage. My view of the references to marital relations in the scriptures is that they should be viewed as a advice and not doctrine or that the apostles actually had time to elaborate on how often or how graphically a couple should have sex. I think it's ...more
Christian Fiction Addiction
Jul 11, 2013 Christian Fiction Addiction rated it really liked it
Sheila Wray Gregoire has written a book that is sure to bless women from all walks of life! Candidly written, full of humour, and thoroughly practical, "The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex" is a welcome addition to the world of literature dealing with sex, love, and marriage. There are many things to appreciate about this book, from the Biblical basis that the advice and guidance is given from, to the statistics that have been woven into the pages. An especially neat addition to the book is the n ...more
Vonze (Yvonne)
Okay, at first, I was really scandalized that Zondervan, the Christian book and Bible publisher, was releasing a book like this. But, after the shock was gone, I was curious how they'd pull this off. Was it really a guide or more of an improve your relationship/advice book?

Turns out, it's a little bit of both and it's tastefully done. Part of it is a guide for soon-to-be-married or newly-wed, inexperienced Christian gals. Part of it focuses on relationship and physical issues that may arise year
May 27, 2013 Olga rated it it was amazing
I really enjoyed reading this book, although generally speaking it is a bit embarrassing to be admitting to have read a book on this subject, it is MORE important to carry on the message that this book s NOT an instruction to sex itself rather what God meant for sex to be, the connections between physical, emotional and spiritual state with your husband. Granted not everyone will agree with everything, and every marriage is different, but the main point of this is vitally important! I think that ...more
Lory Raye
Jan 08, 2016 Lory Raye rated it did not like it
FYI: This is a jesus book. I don't know WHY she would write a jesus sex book ... but this is it. Obviously being a good girl doesn't mean being a decent person, it means being a bible bashing jesus freak. If you like jesus and all that, then this book is for you! If you are just trying to read about sex tip.. then you may want to try another book. I am not trying to be mean, I just wish I would have known about it's jesus properties before I bought it, but that's what this site is for!
Jun 23, 2015 Saige rated it really liked it
Finally, there is a book that gives honest education about sex while coming from a Christian perspective!

This book is aimed at Christian women who are married or intend to get married. The author teaches readers about sex and addresses a lot of the most common problems found with the sex lives of married couples. The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex has helped change my marriage and sex life for the better.
Mar 04, 2015 Emily rated it liked it
I had a hard time with her view of sexuality in marriage being completely separate from procreation, but I know many people share that view. For me, though, this book cemented my beliefs even more, so I guess it had that merit. There were some things I liked about this book, but for that, you'll have to read it yourself.
alesha cranskahw
The good girls guide to great sex

I would recommended this book to young ladies that is getting married or who has already been married. I have been married for a year and half and this book has help me out so much. It really has changed the way I looked at things and how I feel about sex.
Jessica Raab
Jul 08, 2015 Jessica Raab rated it liked it
Interesting examination of the role of sex in marriage through a biblical lens vs. a cultural lens. Probably more helpful to couples who are dating/engaged rather than those who are already married or people who are single.
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Sheila Wray Gregoire is a syndicated parenting columnist and a popular speaker. The author of six books, including The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, with more on the way, she loves encouraging women to forget about the dust bunnies under their beds and keep their focus on Jesus! She also has a passion for family, and together with her husband Keith speaks at Family Life marriage conferences arou ...more
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“Sex is not about genitalia. It’s about relationship. When God said ‘the two shall become one flesh,’ he didn’t mean it only physically.” 5 likes
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