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It's Not Me, It's You

3.61  ·  Rating Details ·  2,153 Ratings  ·  184 Reviews
A control freak looks for love. (Women who leave wet teaspoons in sugar bowls need not apply).

"I haven't woken up with a cup of tea by the bed for seven years. It seems such a small thing but it's one of a thousand things I miss about having someone around to take care of me. I have spent my entire adult life getting things the way I want them and all I want now is someone
Kindle Edition, 293 pages
Published (first published June 23rd 2011)
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Jan 08, 2012 Philippa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Here's what this book is not: it's not a history of Jon's life; it's not a cheerful comedy; it's not even a witty autobiographical account of one particular incident.

If, instead, you're looking for a dry, cynical, sometimes scathing commentary on relationships, singleness, eating out alone and how to drive down a motorway, then this is probably the book you want. I laughed out loud multiple times and wanted to give Jon a hug even more times. By the time I turned over the last page, I was immens
Catherine Howard
(3.5 stars)

I was really looking forward to reading this book after seeing the documentary on Channel 4 that Richardson made about OCD, and seeing a few of his stand-up routines on TV. The whole concept of the book was appealing to me too: Richardson, terminally single, struggles to find a partner who (in his mind) can "put up" with his OCD tendencies of extreme neatness, needing symmetry, etc. I especially loved the line "I've spent my whole adult life getting things just the way I want them, an
Alina Pokrishevski
Well I'm pretty sure it wasn't this books goal & I feel as if I'm disappointing Jon in doing so, but I feel completely in love with him after reading this boom. And as I fall a sleep I imagining myself moving to Swindon & very uncreepily stalk him. I always found myself disappointed at these 'Celeb point of view on life books' somehow they thought being so banal made me become less interested coming to the conclusion that all I liked abt them was their 'celeb halo' and when you take it a ...more
Ilze Folkmane
I've been staring at the empty space where my review should be for several minutes now, and I just cannot for the life of me come up with something that even remotely sounds like a book review. Mostly this is because the book, even though it is about Jon Richardson, did not really make me think too much about Jon Richardson and they way he wrote his book, but rather about myself (well, hello there, egocentricity). All Jon's quirks and characteristics just brought into foreground my own, and the ...more
Jan 02, 2013 Raz rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: comedy
This book was not at all what I was expecting. I suppose a fun romp through the world of OCD is a bit of a ridiculous expectation, though.

It was much bleaker than I expected, with lots of pondering on relationships and life (in general), and Richardson's perfectionism. I did enjoy these parts, but I think I would have enjoyed it as a whole far more if I hadn't come to it thinking it would make me laugh.

I also thought it had no real discernible path. Although it was a fairly enjoyable read there
Aug 04, 2012 Stacey rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Don't get the impression that just because I gave this book two stars, that it means I didn't like it. I did like it. However, I did find that it didn't quite know what to be a lot of the time. Richardson is a good narrator, but tended to get bogged down in introspection at some points, whilst at others being blisteringly funny.

That said, I did find the exploration into the mind of someone with OCD very interesting. I could recognise the strive for 'perfection' in myself, and the way that Richar
This book is definitely the most confusing I've ever read in terms of how I feel about it. I really don't know how I feel about it. One the one hand it's quite depressing, and nothing exciting really happens, and I was disappointed that the chapter names turned out to be very misleading (SPOILER - e.g. throughout the book I was looking forward to Jon's date with Gemma. I wanted to see how it went. It never actually happened and the chapter was the same as every other chapter, i.e. Jon's thoughts ...more

Well, it's not a funny book by any means, a bit depressing and hard-going at times with Jon's unremitting perfectionism, which he expects from himself and others at all times, threatening to drown the book in negativity. I don't know if his worst traits are concentrated in this book for comedic effect, therefore making his perfectionism seem worse than it is. Unfortunately some of the analogies he uses are a bit disjointed and it is sometimes difficult to see where he is going with it. However
Marina Jari
I love Jon Richardson.
That is why I found it such a shame that his life is so difficult.
It was very disturbing to delve into his everyday thoughts that restrict his life so much, thinking at the same time how much easier it could be.
I really hope he'll find his way at some point and that his next book will be easier to read.
Jan 12, 2015 Sarah rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a clear 5 star rated book for me, though I understand some may not understand it in the same way
I can relate to areas where he comments on OCD and also areas where he becomes quite philosophical about life as I'm similar in my own personality.
This isn't a book to be bought purely for the comical lifestyle of the author as although I did have many moments where I smiled to myself or even laughed out loud the book is much more in depth than that.
It's definately a book I'd recommend in fac
Feb 29, 2016 Amy rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
As everyone else has said: this isn't an autobiography, nor is it meant to be laugh-a-minute. I went in with those expectations, which in a way was good because this did actually turn out to be quite funny.

Jon makes some very witty observations about people and life. (I highlighted loads.) Reading about this perfectionist mindset and how it can hinder his progress was moving in parts, but I didn't feel it overshadowed the whole book or made it a complete misery-fest. With the benefit of hindsig
Avery Delany
As a huge fan of Jon, I was so disappointed with this book. I don't know whether I went into it with too high or wrong expectations but it wasn't anything how I thought it would be. Whilst I understood that the book would be staying away from the conventional comedic autobiographies, I still thought it would focus on the comedic aspect of things whilst still dealing with serious issues. Big mistake.

If anything this was a waste of time to read (which makes me really sad to say). It isn't particul
Apr 23, 2013 Guna rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've been on a Jon Richardson bender lately (watching his DVD twice... in one day - check), and this book thus concludes my exploits in this domain.
I'm just about the least organized person in the world and couldn't give a toss about the cutlery drawer and its contents, but, other than that, this book was basically the epitome of me. I could oh so relate to all the frustration about life and all that comes with it; it's been quite a long time since I read something as honest as It's Not Me, It'
William James
May 03, 2015 William James rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Do not buy this book if you're just looking for laughs from cover to cover. This book is far more than that.

There are some brilliant 'laugh out loud' moments in this book, don't read it in public if you're easily embarrassed! However, this book is not just a series of funny anecdotes, it's Jon showing a very personal part of himself with great honesty and candour.

I went to see Jon at the Edinburgh Fringe; he did an hour's book reading of this - you truly get inside the real Jon Richardson, not j
Simon Howard
This is a really tough book to categorise. It isn't a biography as such, but it is a factual book about Jon Richardson's life and psyche. Yet that description makes it sound heavy and thick, when in fact it is short, a breeze to read, witty, and enjoyable.

It's hard to summon particularly strong feelings about this. It is essentially a (very) extended version of a Guardian Weekend column. That isn't a bad thing at all, but it does leave the book feeling a bit inconsequential.

This was an enjoyab
Jan 09, 2013 Zoe rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What a great surprise. It is not the usual 20 something book, spouting accomplishments. It appears to be a very honest account of musings and ramblings. Lifes hard sometimes and after reading this, I feel quite 'normal', if thats a right way to say it. When i can laugh out loud and grin at a book so much, as I have this one it pretty much gets a great big tick in my world. I have to admit to giant crush on the guy too, and to listen to his vulnerability as made me sigh in dreamy wonder ,tee hee ...more
Kerri McEwan
Jan 06, 2015 Kerri McEwan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Equal parts funny/relatable and depressing and I swithered between both attitudes throughout the book. Interesting take on life and love. Worth a read.
Jan 17, 2012 Kt rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I picked this up after seeing Richardson on the Graham Norton show. The book is hilarious. I have a split personality. I'm partly a putter (my keys are in the key dish, because they are always in the key dish) and partly a leaver (my ex-husband's only really violent act was to hurl one of my shoes at a picture in our house after he tripped over them for approximately the eleventy-thousandth time). I spent the entire time laughing at myself, laughing at Jon, or reading bits to the very indulgent ...more
Jul 31, 2012 Aoife rated it really liked it
OK, I basically love this books because it tells me "You are not alone with your strange ticks. There are more people who have a set order in which they eat their food and think that DVDs should be sorted properly (well, I don't sort thzem alphabetically but after genre and then chronologically...but something tells me that this does not make it better) and there are more people who worry about the future A LOT." In parts it got a bit tedious even for me (it did have a whole chapter on eating br ...more
Feb 08, 2016 Karen rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
As a fan of Jon Richardson, I really wanted to and thought I would love this book. The author is hilarious on shows like 8 out of 10 cats and I enjoy his style of comedy. Unfortunately that just doesn't translate to the book. I starts off being witty and endearing and I found myself really relating to many of his idiosyncrasies, but after a while it became tedious and repetitive and I just couldn't keep with it to the end. Richardson seems to have a good premise for this book, he either just los ...more
Oct 29, 2015 Bookguide rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you know anybody with OCD tendencies and don't understand them or why they get so irate when you don't tidy up after yourself, read this book for some insight, presented in a humorous and self-deprecating way by somebody who's made a living out of his own weaknesses (or strengths, depending on your point of view).

Ever since seeing Jon Richardson on a comedy panel show where he was having one of his OCD rants, it's a 'must watch' for me if he's on a show. I recently watched him on 'Live at the
Elizabeth Harrison
It's Not Me, It's You!: Impossible perfectionist seeks very very very tidy woman.

Jon would quite like to share his life with someone. The only problem with that is everybody else.

I've been a massive fan of Jon Richardson for a while, and after reading his book it makes you reevaluate yourself. Are you loser or a keeper? Me, personally, I'm a loser. Not in the sense of the word that we've become to associate it, I lose things all the time. Whether it's a pen, my house keys, I've even been kno
Dec 26, 2014 Elizabeth rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 100-in-2014
It's not that this isn't a good book - it really is. He writes well, painting vivid pictures and raising a wry smile on several occasions. I also often feel, when reading someone whose voice is relatively familiar, that they're sitting on my shoulder narrating to me, and unless I'm listening to the audio book, I can find that more distracting than anything. This isn't like that. Perhaps I'm not familiar enough with his stand-up, but his writing seems sufficiently different to me, and I liked tha ...more
Thomas Edmund
I hadn't even heard of Richardson when I picked up this book. Intrigued by a word of mouth review describing the 'biography' as a bit disturbing I asked to borrow the book and had a look.

My intrigue only continued to grow, I was actually reassured by an early section, promising not to describe the events of childhood, school and career and instead focus on Richardson's intense focus on perfectionism. Obviously this is not going to be for all, however I found the cynical prose and open expression
This book was both hysterically funny and heartbreaking at the same time. I've never seen any of Richardson's stand up, but I have the feeling, based on his writing, that he would be pretty funny.

The structure of the book worked really well; examining each part of his day in such minute detail really allowed the reader to gain a tiny bit of insight into what it might be like to live with OCD. At the same time, the book was very relatable, and I, as I imagine others, could certainly relate to ma
Nov 24, 2012 Donald rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I hate to put this on my 'humour' shelf or my 'autobiography' as it doesn't really qualify as either.
It's quite a depressing whine fest with a few amusing lines. His sad lonely tv persona is a laugh a minute compared to this long weekend of OCD misery.

All the 4/5 star reviews from women who just want to smother him in love, are exactly the kind of women he writes he hates, so good luck with that ladies! Did they actually read the same book I did?
Darbi Bradley
I've been trying to get through this for months. It's not a bad book, but it is NOT a comic memoir in the vein of Bossypants. To be honest, I was expecting something funnier, but this more tragic than anything. I'm a HUGE fan of Jon Richardson, so I was really looking forward to an extension of his stand up. That's not to say that this was bad, but it was hard to laugh and hard to get through. I'm glad I read it, but I'm sad for Jon.
May 14, 2014 Lauren rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've been a little bit obsessed with Jon Richardson lately and I thoroughly enjoyed this little glimpse into his mind. Well...enjoyed may not be the right word. I'm not sure this book was meant to be enjoyed. Much of my reading of the book was spent vacillating between ROFLing at the snarky observations that Jon Richardson makes and cringing at those observations on love and loneliness that felt a little close to the mark. I think my overwhelming emotion upon finishing the book is sympathy. Not ...more
Nov 29, 2015 Taylah rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I became a fan of Jon the very first time I saw him in the Graham Norton Show promoting this book. Although he was familiar to me from several panel shows, I had never paid quite a lot of attention to him. However I am glad I decided to buy his book. It's not really just a book written by a comedian where he tells "jokes", it's not even his stand-up put to paper. This book touches many issues that people like me know that we have, and it explains SO well why the most simple daily tasks make us m ...more
Laura Besley
Feb 12, 2015 Laura Besley rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I think I'm a little bit in love with Jon Richardson. Not enough to leave my husband. He wouldn't have me anyway: I'm not a very very very tidy woman. Richardson is extremely honest about himself, his life, his hopes and dreams, and his quest to find a partner and how difficult this can be when you're Jon Richardson. A fascinating read.
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