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3.58 of 5 stars 3.58  ·  rating details  ·  19,500 ratings  ·  453 reviews
What happens when your Prince Charming turns out not to be so charming after all? In To Have and To Hold, bestselling author Jane Green offers a sizzling, highly entertaining look at romantic relationships after we say “I do.”

Alice knows she should be happy. A charming twenty-eight-year-old with a successful catering business, she’s always dreamed of a rose-covered cotta
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Hardcover, 352 pages
Published May 18th 2004 by Broadway (first published December 31st 2002)
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Talia
Alice has married her high school crush and lives a life of luxury. She no longer works, gets her hair colored every 6 weeks, lunches with high society, and wears the latest fashions. One small problem: she isn’t herself. Also, her husband, Joe, is a womanizing cad, cheating on Alice every chance he can. When an affair with a co-worker goes awry, Alice and Joe move to the U.S., where Alice buys a cottage in the country. She begins to find herself through a love of gardening, and when her best fr ...more
Jennifer
To Have and to Hold is a standalone, chick-lit novel written by author Jane Green. This story follows Alice and her seemingly "dream come true" life with her high school crush-now-husband Joe. How do you know if a relationship is healthy for you? Well I guess you would start off by not completely losing who you are in the process. Alice slowly comes to this realization as Joe's significant faults are discovered. However, Alice is not without her own faults, and her relationships with old and new ...more
Booklover
After reading i was like WTF,making mockery of vows and friendship

the wife Alice was blind to all the signs which keeps nagging the wife that something is fishy,she keeps herself busy by socializing and in their country house,the hubby Joe just can't seem to have control on his lust ,seemed to be any woman who walked by he wanted to have sex with her,he is addicted to sex and seemed to me he might have missed out some therapy sessions in teens that is why now at age 38 he needed counseling and t
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Tia
Can you say love is blind? This book really drove me up the wall. It seemed so far fetched my head was spinning. Not only did it make a mockery out of friendships and loyalty, it made one out of the vows and love people are given. The heroine was a total dumb ass, she seemed oblivious to everything, I swear if a tornado went straight through her home, she wouldn't blink and eye or notice. The heroines husband was a arrogant gross pig which had me turning green sometimes. How the heck can you mar ...more
Sarah
This book has been sitting in my tbr book pile for so long that I can't actually remember how I acquired it. I had never heard of Jane Green before I picked this up so I didn't know what to expect but I actually really enjoyed the book.

This book reminded me of one of those entertaining lower-budget films about love. The films that have sort-of famous actors; the movies that are so cheesy and clichéd but you enjoy them all the same because they just work. They're a little far-fetched and predict
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Julie
Just a bit of light reading for a change. Chic Lit.
Wife of a serial adulterer who has changed her into someone she is not wises up when they move to the USA. She finds a house in the country, finds a mind of her own and dumps him.
Rea Sinfield
I am a huge fan of Jane Green books, with bookends being my favourite. When I was in the library I saw Spellbound which is a book of Jane Green which I have yet to read and obviously I couldn't walk over it.


The main character in Spellbound is Alice who you instantly warm to in Green's clever way of introducing you to her characters. Alice is married to Joe who I instantly disliked he moulds Alice into his ideal trophy wife encouraging her to dye her hair blonde and lose weight and wear designer
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Whitney
As frustrating as it was, I liked it. As many times as a screamed at the book, I couldn’t put it down. By clicking the link above, you find that the book is about Alice who wasted 6 years of her life married to an insecure man-child, Joe, who cheats on her repeatedly in the book with various (usually younger) women. She leads an unhappy life being someone her husbands wants to be in London, but finds herself in a small town suburb in Connecticut.

I’m not even going to try to be unbiased. I hate
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KA
Oct 17, 2007 KA rated it 1 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: die-hard chickliteers
Oh the hilarity.

I have been known to love Jane Green. Jemima J is great, and several others have excellent characters and moments.

But this was too much. Wish I could remember the specific horrors right now, but needless to say it was far more caricature-y than usual and everyone in it was stupid and unsympathetic.

I guess I learned don't marry for money and try to be someone you're not? haha.

Reading this back to back with Erica Jong's mid-life account of Connecticut divorced life (Parachutes and
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Ellie
1) To Have and To Hold
2) Jane Green
3) This book is about a very unhappily married trophy wife named Alice. She is married to a very sucessful bussiness man Joe and they live in London. Joe is having affairs with other women,his work finds out and he is then relocated to the United States.At first when they arrive in the United States their relatioship is better than ever, but then Alice finds e-mails from Joise whom Joe was seeing in London who has now moved to the United States.
4) One theme f
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Imas
Buku pertama Jane Green yg kubaca.Buku ini dibeli saat mengikuti diklat di Yogyakarta, Des 2011 dengan harga obral,tujuannya untuk hiburan dimalam hari berhubung kamar diwisma diklat tidak disediakan TV,hanya ada diruang makan dan lobby...(Disuruh belajar boo..hehe),tp ternyata sampai diklat selama seminggu berakhir,buku ini ngga sempat dibaca karena kami lebih banyak menghabiskan waktu untuk berburu batik dan kuliner Jogja sehabis mengikuti kelas..:) Jadilah buku ini baru dibaca akhir Maret, me ...more
Colleen
My absolute favorite of Jane Green's books. The plot isn't so much what makes me love this book, but the scenery is so descriptive, so lovely...this is a book that you read just to luxuriate in the setting. You can almost smell the cool country air, and become immersed in the small town buzz. It made me want to paint, to draw, to lock myself away in the country, and bake homemade pastries, while enjoying a women's group book club, followed by antiquing and a great cup of coffee!

Joe is such a wom
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Carole
For chick lit, it wasn't bad. It kept me entertained when I listened to it on the way to and from work. I enjoyed the fact that the main character lost her identity in her marriage but regained it again when she realized her marriage wasn't working. I appreciated how she grew as a person. There was one bit that bothered me about the book and that was the feeble attempt to tell parts of the story from the husband's point of view. The guy was a major philanderer and if the story were truly told th ...more
Chiquita Hindarto
Jangan ketawa, saya kadang-kadang suka iseng pengen baca-baca novel ChickLit. Bukannya apa, novel ChickLit biasanya ringan sehingga kita nggak harus mengerenyit buat ngertiin ceritanya.
Salah satu penulis yang saya suka adalah Jane Green, seorang penulis Inggris.

Sayangnya Spellbound menurut saya nggak terlalu menonjolkan ciri khas Jane Green. Nggak terlalu Inggris menurut saya. Mungkin karena setengah buku ini settingnya di New York ? Tapi kayanya nggak juga, si shopaholicnya Sophie Kinsella masi
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Linda
Dear Elise,
Do you love characters who tie themselves into knots sublimating their thoughts and feelings to satisfy others? Are you interested in a protagonist who abdicates all responsibility for her life by letting her husband dictate the minutiae of her existence? What if I said, there is absolutely no textual evidence that would suggest this husband is remotely worth the extraordinary efforts of said protagonist. Hmm? Somehow, I did not think so.
If you were very cold and on the point of hypot
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Mayu
Fue una lectura insoportable. Una protagonista sin autoestima alguna, un cerdo cabrón por marido, una historia deprimente y llena de escenas poco gratas. Sin duda, no fue en absoluto como yo esperaba. Y fue una de esas obras que me hicieron odiar un poquito más el chick - lit. No me gustan los cabrones, no me gusta que las mujeres no se amen a si mismas, no me gusta que alguien sienta que no vale nada y que por eso se merece que su marido, le sea infiel, y la trate como a un felpudo. Esta es una ...more
Robin
I read one book by Jane Green that I loved, but everyone since then has been just okay and this is a "just okay" book. It was somewhat entertaining, but pretty predictable. And the Joe character is such a slimeball, you just want to ask Alice why she would even be interested in the first place. Though the book does end happily for Alice, I really wanted something awful to happen to Joe, but no, he just moves on to wreck havoc on other women's lives. I think I may have to give up on Jane Green, e ...more
Carrie
Not one of my favorite Jane Green books. I hated the husband--how can you have any respect for someone like him? And I felt like I should've had sympathy for the wife, but I didn't. I felt like she was weak--not just for overlooking his BS, but also for completly molding herself into what he wanted her to be. I wish there had been at least one character that I felt a little sympathetic to other than the dog!

Overall I felt like this book was a good example of how not to live your life--in more wa
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Yajaira Cota
Ok so I will admit that I was only drawn to this book for the cover. I mean, a man with his woman holding her as he's holding another woman's hand? You know very well that represents infidelity.

Alice. Plain Alice who wasn't exactly popular in high school is now a grown woman when all of a sudden Joe, a popular, handsome man extraordinaire from high school ten years back is suddenly interested in her. Alice marries Joe thinking this was what she always wanted. Her dreams of marrying a wealthy, ha
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Caz Lopez
This book is about a couple called Alice and Joe. Alice is very much in love with him so in love with him that she marries him.... they live in a lovely house in London but not for very long as joes indiscretions force him a transfer and they both have to move to connecticut America. however they buy a cottage in the country side bit Joes only down there at weekends (sometimes not even then) to see alice he has a flat in new york where funny enough he takes his misstresses there. However Alice i ...more
Samantha Mcmahon
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Betina
1)Joe is the cliché womanizer jerk. He chooses to marry Alice because she is malleable and supple, and although she is not the prettiest of girls, he knows he will be able to turn her into whatever he wants.
2)Alice is, in fact, malleable and supple. She does everything she hates to please her husband, and plays the part of the trophy wife very, very well. She is so afraid to lose him that she believes all of his ridiculous excuses for when he is with his mistresses: late night business meetings
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Liana Qissy Cat
Joe is known for being a womanizer. His wife, Alice, suspects of her husband's affair because he is always uncontactable to unknown business trips & meetings. Until 1 day he was caught red-handed with a colleague in his office. So he was forced to locate to Manhattan. Joe vowed abstinence. A fresh start in America. Alice is no more the meek, clingy Alice. Since they have moved to the suburbs, she became a more confident woman, She is so into being a country girl. She barely thinks about Joe ...more
Amy
The writing would warrant this novel four out of five stars but I found myself so upset/angered on Alice's behalf (that although it speaks well for Green's writing) I had to give it 3/5. The story line is a bit like Cinderella but what happens after the ball or in this case, the wedding. Alice goes from mousy friend to bombshell but still feels starry-eyed when it comes to her handsome husband. The glass slipper and new fashion feels unfamiliar and often like playing dress up to the new bride.

F
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Julie
I think a lot of readers would think of this as chick lit. I saw beyond that as a sign of the culture of greed we live in. Joe is one of the most despicable characters I've encountered in fiction. I don't think he had a sex addiction. I think he had a Joe addiction. He was never satisfied with what he had. He couldn't understand Alice's enjoyment in gardening and the simple things in life like walking for the sake of walking and appreciating nature. He couldn't appreciate the cottage; he wanted ...more
Teryl
I read a ton of mixed reviews on this book, so I was a little leary about it, but I must say I really enjoyed. I love how the main character was able to find the happiness she deserved and be herself!
Zeina
I think most women (or people, for that matter) could learn a thing or two about trying to be someone we're not in order live for others and in turn neglecting ourselves; our lives, loves and purpose.
Helen Gaye Brewster
I just kept expecting something to happen in this book and it never did. Alice, who's married to Joe, seems oblivious to the very obvious signs of his philandering. I couldn't work up a lot of sympathy for her. Joe is despicable. The only relationship in the book I enjoyed was the friendship between Alice and her best friend Emily and even that doesn't ring true in certain parts of the story. I loved one of the author's other books, "Jemima J.," but this one just didn't measure up. It wasn't bad ...more
Claudia Naranjo
I am being generous with my two stars....I like reading "not deep, kind of shallow" books once in a while. Some are funny, and helps you spend time reading without having to stop and analyses the book....that is why I read this book.... I must say that I'm I enjoyed a couple of pages, however it was a waits of my time. I have the habit of, no matter how bad it is, I must finish the book I started read. I think if a book is public shed it must have at least one page worth reading...well, this one ...more
Leticia Guzmán
When I first read the plot, I thought it was going to be more related with Ms. Danbury`s book, like, while Alice was reading it, realized what her husband had been doing to her. Then, when I started reading the book, all that went through my mind was: Alice`s an idiot. But while reading a bit more, I remembered what most books I 've read in the last few years have thought me.
Love is blind, selfless, indiscriminate, naive, colorless, unreasonable, illogical, and lots of other things I don`t recal
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Jane Green's fifteenth novel, Tempting Fate, is soon to be released; she is the author of fourteen previous New York Times Bestselling novels. Initially known for writing about single thirty-somethings, she has gone on to write mature stories about real women dealing with all the things life throws at them, with her trademark wisdom, wit and warmth.

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