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The Entitlement Trap: How to Rescue Your Child with a New Family System of Choosing, Earning, and Ownership
Dump the allowance-and use a new Family Economy" to raise responsible children in an age of instant gratification.
Number-one "New York Times" bestselling authors Richard and Linda Eyre, have spent the last twenty-five years helping parents nurture strong, healthy families. Now they've synthesized their vast experience in an essential blueprint to instilling children with a...more
Number-one "New York Times" bestselling authors Richard and Linda Eyre, have spent the last twenty-five years helping parents nurture strong, healthy families. Now they've synthesized their vast experience in an essential blueprint to instilling children with a...more
ebook, 256 pages
Published
September 6th 2011
by Avery Publishing Group
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I really, REALLY liked the parenting method the Eyres used with their children. I also didn't realize until after reading this book that THEY are the creators of Joy School that I've heard so many moms talk about.
After reading reviews of this book, I saw that for newcomers to the Eyres library, this was a good one, but if you have already read their other books, you will already know what is in here and feel it is redundant.
Since I am new to the Eyres library, I really did like this book. I ap...more
After reading reviews of this book, I saw that for newcomers to the Eyres library, this was a good one, but if you have already read their other books, you will already know what is in here and feel it is redundant.
Since I am new to the Eyres library, I really did like this book. I ap...more
I've been seeing quite a lot of hype about this book in blogland, so I was excited when I was asked to review it.
I have devoured it. Devoured. And I am excited to implement the principles I've learned in my own household.
In the introduction, The Eyres explain how entitlement is the "one reason parenting is harder today than it has ever been." And then they go on to explain that entitlement comes from a lack of ownership. Children are given so much and little is expected of them. It took much mor...more
I have devoured it. Devoured. And I am excited to implement the principles I've learned in my own household.
In the introduction, The Eyres explain how entitlement is the "one reason parenting is harder today than it has ever been." And then they go on to explain that entitlement comes from a lack of ownership. Children are given so much and little is expected of them. It took much mor...more
I came across the Eyre's "Family Economy" method of teaching kids money management and budgeting etc. on the internet. We have adopted it with only some minor variation. Our kids are now earning their own money with which they have to buy all their own clothes, gifts, and entertainment after they have paid tithing and contributed to their long term savings. It is so exciting to see the learning that is going on. We've also taught them to do their own laundry recently and I am one happy mom about...more
Oct 17, 2011
Book Him Danno
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We have five wonderful children that are constantly asking for things and money. One wants the newest things out there, another wants every new Lego set on the market, another wants only the best clothes with the biggest names splashed across his chest, another doesn’t really care and the one and only girl wants craft items to make and play with everyday. Well this gets to be difficult and expensive. What do we buy and what don’t we buy? We do not believe in debt and so we honestly can’t buy muc...more
I'm officially giving up on this one, having read about 2/3.
The authors diagnose a common issue in families -- entitlement -- but their solution is to establish a market economy in your home. I can see how this would give kids incentive to work and to feel ownership for things they bought, and generally appreciate the life they lead. However, living life like it's a Monopoly game doesn't sound great to me. It might work for some people (and kids) but I would hate for my kids to constantly put a...more
The authors diagnose a common issue in families -- entitlement -- but their solution is to establish a market economy in your home. I can see how this would give kids incentive to work and to feel ownership for things they bought, and generally appreciate the life they lead. However, living life like it's a Monopoly game doesn't sound great to me. It might work for some people (and kids) but I would hate for my kids to constantly put a...more
This was basically the extended version of "A Mother's Book of Secrets". It went into more detail on the family budgeting, teaching values, etc. I am now very interested in reading their book "Teaching Children Values" which seems to be the starting point to the Eyre's family approach. Most of this "Entitlement" book starts as a child reaches the age of 8. I will definitely read it again when we are approaching that point, but for now, most of this information was filed away in the 'to be used a...more
So this is the first book I have read authored by the Eyre's. Some of the other reviews I have read expressed that their books can be repetitive and redundant- but not having read any previously I thought this book was great! A must read for everyone. Whether you have children or not. I think the title is a little misleading (in my opinion)... I didn't feel like my children needed to be rescued, and we have implemented some of these principles into our home prior to reading the book, just not on...more
I really enjoy all of the Eyre's books, but they all seem to read the same with the same information. Most of the examples they used in the book were from other of their books that I've read. I wanted new examples and ideas from them. I totally agree with them that the current generation of kids seem to be more entitled than ever before. I think even my generation feels that they are entitled to more with less work. Just look at the nation's debt and obesity rates, for example, it screams entitl...more
I've been hearing about this book for months in the news. Tim and I seem to talk a lot about how kids are so different these days, and wondered what changed. This book explains why. This is the first book I've read by the Eyres so the only parts that were repetative for me were the chapters they've posted online.
I liked talking to Tim about the ideas in this book and probably will implement some of them in our own house down the road. He especially got a kick from Gunny Bag. And how I told him t...more
I liked talking to Tim about the ideas in this book and probably will implement some of them in our own house down the road. He especially got a kick from Gunny Bag. And how I told him t...more
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This book is exactly what I was looking for. My kids are not "spoiled brats", but I want to be sure that they don't become them. I want them to learn to work for things (money) and learn to spend wisely, and learn to own their behavior, own their decisions, own their lives.
The first part of this book goes over a "family economy" where kids do specific jobs through the week and earn points that essentially earn money at the end of the week (pay day)....it's not like getting an allowance because y...more
The first part of this book goes over a "family economy" where kids do specific jobs through the week and earn points that essentially earn money at the end of the week (pay day)....it's not like getting an allowance because y...more
This is the first Eyre book I've read, so that being said, here's what I most enjoyed about it:
* The ideas are practical and make sense
* They included reader feedback with additional variations and suggestions
* Didn't feel "fluffy", all the content was relevant and I didn't have a sense/need to skip anything
* The ideas resonated with me, many recommendations connected the dots for some ideas I've had for quite some time but wasn't sure how to implement them
* I felt motivated and encouraged by wh...more
* The ideas are practical and make sense
* They included reader feedback with additional variations and suggestions
* Didn't feel "fluffy", all the content was relevant and I didn't have a sense/need to skip anything
* The ideas resonated with me, many recommendations connected the dots for some ideas I've had for quite some time but wasn't sure how to implement them
* I felt motivated and encouraged by wh...more
I love the idea of creating a sense of belonging for your children by increasing their knowledge of their heritage and making them feel like they are part of something bigger. So now I tell Phineas stories about his namesake ancestor, how he was baptized in the Kalamazoo River in 1844, came across the plains, etc. I will implement the money-earning system when he is older. After reading this, though, I decided he was a little too indulged, contrary to my best intentions, so now when he asks for...more
Having not ever read any of the other Eyre's other books, I found this book to be a tremendous resource. Others have complained that it's a bit redundant if you've read other Eyre books, but I LOVED it. We did not implement the money system in its entirety, but we did incorporate many of the ideas, tweaked a bit for our family and combined with the system one of their children uses (as described on her blog (http://www.71toes.com/search/label/money). It's a fantastic way to give your children OW...more
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This book really spoke to me. The Eyres lay out suggestions for giving your children ownership--of their own money, of their own education, of their own relationships--and for making your home a more peaceful organized place. Giving children ownership over their things, their goals, their relationships with others allows them to really grow and progress and develop. And it saves them from the trap of entitlement, where they grow up thinking everything in life ought to be handed to them. This boo...more
While reading this I thought much of the advice is stuff I have heard before and thought about. But it was nice to read it in an organized and defined way to help me put my thoughts together and get some new ideas. I sometimes got a little annoyed with the personal examples, (don't know why, they were good examples) It made me really think about the value of teaching teaching kids ownership and then moving on to stewardship. We have made changes in how we do things at home, and it has really mad...more
This isn't my normal reading, I usually leave the self help stuff to day time talk shows but this was genuinely a very interesting and informative book. Some of this is common sense (but which I see lacking in so many parents today) and some ideas were brilliant and I plan to try to work them into my family.
I haven't read any previous books by the authors, so the complaint that this book just repeats everything wasn't valid for me. My only true complaint I have about it is that it seems to reite...more
I haven't read any previous books by the authors, so the complaint that this book just repeats everything wasn't valid for me. My only true complaint I have about it is that it seems to reite...more
I'm constantly looking for ways to fine tune our work/money management systems for our kids, and I like the Eyres, so I had to take a look at this one. I have read the Eyre's other books (Teaching Your Children Values; Teaching your Children Responsibility) and am fairly familiar with their other support resources. And so, this one seemed pretty repetitive. If you have not read their other books, then I highly recommend this and/or the others as great parenting resources: good ideas, practical,...more
I love this book! While most parenting books I have read are reactive, this book is proactive. I love all of the ideas in this book: from family traditions and family economy to helping your children to have ownership over values, decisions, relationships, etc. I have always felt that a parent should be more of a guide than a tyrant (especially as children grow up and need to take on more responsibility), but did not have the skill-set to make this work. I will (and have already) be implementing...more
Apr 10, 2013
Tanya
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This book came highly recommended and I approached it with an open, teachable attitude. During the first section I found myself nodding my head in agreement, ready to incorporate all the Eyres' suggestions into my family life. But as the book went on and details of "the family economy" piled up, I found so many things that wouldn't work in our home. For one thing, my kids are too old to start such an all-encompassing program; they wouldn't respond well to overturning the way we do absolutely eve...more
The premise of this book is that many parenting problems come from kids' sense of entitlement. When kids feel they deserve and should have whatever they want and be able to do anything they want (entitlement), they lack motivation, independence, responsibility, and other important traits. The solution proposed is to give kids a sense of ownership. People feel ownership when they work for something, work on something, and/or work with something. When kids feel ownership, they gain responsibility,...more
This was great- I love the Eyres and I would recommend this for anyone to read. I have read some of their other stuff so I feel like much of it was reviews of their other publications, condensed and packed in. But for someone with a young family, I need all the review I can get, so I didn't mind. I love love love the idea though- oh I love what they teach and have to offer. It is wild what entitlement is coming to mean these days and I so badly want to teach my children the correct view of money...more
Mar 21, 2012
Melissa
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The Entitlement Trap has revolutionized our family economy and also influenced our approach to parenting. The premise is that "ownership is the antidote to entitlement and the prerequisite to responsibility." In the first half of the book the authors, Richard and Linda Eyre, outline a monetary system that reflects the real economy and helps kids learn how to earn, save, budget, give to others and take care of the things that belong to them. The second half of the book focuses on giving kids owne...more
Great book! There is a very corny parable about the Owner Ship in the first chapter or two, but I realized that it part of it's beauty. Because it is so contrived, it has the power to really stick with you and teach principles clearly.
I like the starting point this gives for building strong families with responsible members each taking ownership of their choices and things. I don't think it is intended to be a cookie cutter pattern for everyone, but a basis for a way of thinking.
I like the starting point this gives for building strong families with responsible members each taking ownership of their choices and things. I don't think it is intended to be a cookie cutter pattern for everyone, but a basis for a way of thinking.
Uh, if this was your first experience reading the Eyres than you pretty much got all their books wrapped up into one. I've read many of their other ones and was excited to read this one based on the premise that I totally agree that kids today think they are entitled to a lot. I was hoping they would give other info/examples but it was pretty much the same stuff I got in all the other books. I wasn't too thrilled with the outcome of this book. There just wasn't anything really new in it.
The second "self-help" I've read... I liked this book ok. It gave a solution to prevent your kids from being on the dole, increasing self-esteem, and nipping the "entitlement" plague from taking over your children. I liked it and am wanting to try some of the methods discussed. Funny enough... I was blog surfing the other day and found author's daughter's blog. She discusses the methods discussed in the book with her own family. Her blog is called "71 toes".
I read this book because I was impressed by some of the book's recommendations I saw implemented in a sibling's family. I definitely feel it was a worthwhile read and something I will go back to again and again as I raise my children.
The only reason I didn't give this book a 5 star rating is because a couple of the recommendations were just too cheesy for me and I could have done without the occasional brag session about the authors' perfect children and grandchildren.
All in all the positives i...more
The only reason I didn't give this book a 5 star rating is because a couple of the recommendations were just too cheesy for me and I could have done without the occasional brag session about the authors' perfect children and grandchildren.
All in all the positives i...more
Nov 15, 2011
Susan
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5 of 5 stars
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We will probably not implement the whole "family economy", though some ideas we'll adopt, and some we are doing at least as well as their plan. But the general info, and then the detailed ideas about helping your kids gain ownership over their time, their goals, their decisions, etc., were really helpful, and I've got a lot of ideas to implement. I've felt myself thinking differently about my parenting approach (a much needed change :) )
I give this a 5 not because I LOVE parenting books, but because this parenting book, is clear, easy to follow etc. I have been using some of the family economy ideas for 1 year now. (I learned of it from the author's daughter) After reading the book for myself, I am going to more fully implement it. What we have been doing has worked very well for my family.
I can't wait to implement the values ideas!
I can't wait to implement the values ideas!
I liked this book becuase I like the Eyres and this book summerizes their main messages over the years. I did not agree with the basic premise of the book that to combat entitlement you need to give your kids ownership. But if you have not read other books by the Eyres I would recommended it becuase it has a lot of other good ideas in it. If you have read their other books you can pass at this one.
I'm about half way through this book. I love the Eyres and their ideas and I do agree with the premise of this book, but I have to say that this book is just a repeat of all their other books. I thought they would introduce new concepts and structure but really it is the same thing in their previous books. Same stories and everything Nothing new. If you haven't read any of their other books this one would be a good read but if you have I would say not to spend money on this book as you can get...more
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As writers, lecturers, and grassroots and media catalysts, Linda and Richard Eyre's mission statement is: FORTIFY FAMILIES by Popularizing Parenting, Validating Values, and Bolstering Balance. Their latest efforts in these directions are their new books, The Happy Family (St. Martins Press,), Empty Nest Parenting (Bookcraft,) and The Book of Nurturing (McGraw Hill,), and their regular appearances...more
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