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If I Have to Tell You One More Time. . .: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling

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Put an end to painful power struggles with your children!
Why is it so difficult sometimes to get kids to listen? You ask your child to turn off the TV, do her homework, or get ready for school or bedtime. You know he heard you, but he ignores you. You ask again and response. You've tried everything-time-outs, nagging, counting to three-and nothing seems to wor
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Published August 1st 2011 by Tarcher
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There comes a point in raising a child that you realize that you need help in manipulation because, clearly, the child isn't doing what you want them to do. Yes, it's all about you. Or maybe it's not all about you or about manipulation. Still, you don't want your kid throwing a tantrum in the middle of a store and you need to get out of the house in under 3 hours. So what do you do? Even you, who abhors self-help books, turns to self-help books for helping yourself and the entire world endure th ...more
Sep 05, 2011 Natalie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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I've read several parenting books (The Happiest Toddler on the Block, 1-2-3 Magic, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and LIsten So Kids Will Talk...). I learned a lot from those books, but If I Have to Tell You One More Time is hands-down the best. McCready shows you how to eliminate the root of the misbehaviors. I would call it a misbehavior prevention program where there are a lot of empowering of kids, training of kids, giving consequences (not punishments) to kids, etc... The book isn't overly ...more
Jan 26, 2012 Tanya rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents
Shelves: parenting, 2012-books
Much of this fit dealing with one of my kids to a "T." Early on, the book advises, "think of your child as wearing a giant sign around her neck-a sign that says, "I want to belong, and I want to feel significant, but I don't know how to do it." Well, that's why I picked up this book - I thought it might give me strategies for helping her feel more self-confident and stop picking on her sister.

One chapter deals with sibling rivalry. The book suggests handling kids fights with this formula:
1) Ign
Jun 24, 2012 Nancy rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The first 3 chapters made me feel like a terrible parent, saying that things like time-outs and counting to three don't help. There were many tips that helped me and that I continue to do with my children (like special one-on-one time). But other things just weren't working for us. While the logic behind most of the tips is sound, in reality not everything works for every child or parent. Because counting to 3 does work on my boys... I only have to say "1" before they know I mean business.
The o
Jul 09, 2012 Ashley rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not one to read parenting books (although why not give me some more creative solutions to use?), but I thought I would give this a try. The first few chapters are a little demoralizing, basically saying that everything I'm doing isn't working, but she does have some good suggestions if you stick with her. Spend more concentrated, quality time with the kids to give them the attention they crave, take time to train the child in the behaviors and tasks you want them to do, encourage instead of ...more
Apr 16, 2015 Jessica rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
I read a lot of parenting books, but this is one of my favorites. I was "introduced" to Amy McCready when a blog I read offered a free parenting seminar from her. I loved the free seminar so much I signed up for her course. It is pricey, but worth every single penny. I picked up the book, which is basically her course in a nutshell.

For each of her parenting "tools," McCready gives an explanation of the psychology behind it, the actions of the parent, and the expected actions of the child. And th
Jun 17, 2013 Kristin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was really good for a parenting book! My favorite thing the author talks about is that kids need time spent individually with a parent doing what the child wants to do every day - just for a small amount of time. Children want to belong and feel significant. I know making ONE ON ONE time for my kids each individually every day is something I can do better at, and I really hope that applying this will stop a lot of misbehavior! A lot of what she talks about reminded me of things I learn ...more
Jun 24, 2016 Gayle rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
I haven't tested it out yet with my son, but found a lot of the tools helpful, particularly setting children up to feel empowered (training them, allowing choices, making the environment appropriate so they can help themselves) and the use of consequences that relate to the misbehaviour vs punishment, which usually doesn't. I'm not 100% sure that I agree that everything stems from Adlerian psychology and the need for feeling significant and belonging, I think sometimes misbehaviour is just that, ...more
Kristen Ballam Burkhardt
I have to admit I skimmed this. Terrible parenting methods. Please for the sake of society don't read this book!
May 11, 2014 Norrisjackie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love any parenting book that highlights proactive and positive approaches to interacting with children. McCready encourages parents to help children feel both a sense of belonging and power in a positive way. She discusses several tools to prevent misbehavior in the first place, but also gives concrete ideas on what to do when misbehavior inevitably arises. I've tried a few of her strategies sporadically and have already noticed a difference in behavior. This is a book I will be referring to o ...more
Sep 22, 2012 Vilo rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a pretty good book that includes most of the positive discipline strategies that have worked for me, with the underlying psychology. Understanding what a child's motivations are goes a long way toward working out your differences. Now, my children can testify that I never quite got over yelling . . . or reminding or nagging . . . but every little bit helps.
Jan 10, 2015 Mollie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This confirmed my parenting advice-don't read parenting books. Or blogs.
Ryan Dejonghe
Mar 11, 2014 Ryan Dejonghe rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I’ve been reading a lot of parenting books lately (there’s always room for improvement, right?); what got the ball rolling would probably be HANDS FREE MAMA. Then one day I read this article by Amy McCready about using “asked and answered” with my kids. The idea is, if they ask the same question over and over, say “asked and answered”—no need to keep repeating yourself. The first time you use it, your kids will ask what you mean, but after that, you’re golden. And it works!

So, I checked out McC
Nov 17, 2014 Jacqueline rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is my first parenting book that I've ever read. No, I'm not a parent yet but I'm studying early childhood education. I had been quite skeptical about different parenting strategies as there seem to be endless arguments on which is better. I've also heard people say that rather than burying your head into a book, just spend more time with your child! I think there are a lot of truths in different strategies, and this book circles around the main idea of giving your child a sense of belonging ...more
Jun 06, 2014 Jamie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
I've been reading a lot of parenting books lately, and this is definitely in my top three right now. We've been trying the techniques out for about a month and a half, and I've noticed a MARKED difference in our household--most significantly, that I am NO LONGER YELLING. No longer crying after my kids are asleep about how awful I got by the end of the day. There is just less tension and more cooperation.

Other wonderful outcomes? Our three year old, who would melt down over everything from droppi
Cindy Hudson
Mar 14, 2013 Cindy Hudson rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
How many times have you wished you had a different solution when your kids act up than threatening with a time out or losing your cool and demanding they just do what you say? Situations that pit child against parent may come up multiple times a day, particularly when you have preschoolers testing limits to see how much they can get away with or teens seeking to assert their independence.

Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, Inc., knows about the day-to-day power struggles that
Mar 17, 2014 Mary rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
Not all that revolutionary for me. This is more of a Parenting 101 book. Now that I have five kids, have read many, many other parenting books, benefitted from a strong parenting support and education through my church, I think my education needs belong somewhere in the 300-500 course level books. Still, a good reminder on the importance of one on one time and I liked the overview of what a Family Meeting could look like.
The book had an easy to read format - some basic explanations behind common behaviors, and then "toolbox" solutions. I liked how the toolbox ideas were easy to understand and there wasn't a lot of selling the author's approach. Her approach is preventative - fill your child's needs BEFORE the behaviors, but then she also addresses how to deal with some common challenges.
Overall, the best parenting book I've read.

The only thing I remember really disagreeing with is that she advocates giving your kids an allowance. I am not a fan of giving kids an allowance.

I started implementing some of the techniques she explains in her book and I was seeing results the first day!

The Mind, Body & Soul Time has made a huge difference. Basically, just make sure you spend 10 minutes of one-on-one time with each child twice a day. My kids make sure we don't forget! I find eve
Mar 21, 2012 Lindsey marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
I just started this because I adamantly believe that some of the traditional and popular discipline methods do not work - I'm anti bribing, counting to 3, sending to room, spanking, naughty-chairing etc. since they only highlight negative behavior, don't fix it and only "work" until the child figures out how to manipulate that system. However we still need other consistent ways of combating undesirable behavior given almost age 4 and almost 2 brings out some super frustrating moments for all of ...more
Carmen Grantham
Mar 21, 2016 Carmen Grantham rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This has been such a good actionable book that I have only just started to implement with my 4 year old and the changes have been excellent. Spending time with him doing what he wants has really made life easier. And setting up rules and routines ahead of time instead of making them up as I go along has lead to better behaviour.

I look forward to putting more of this into action.

Even though the advice is superb it really could have had a lot of the content removed as it was quite repetitive. It d
David Roberts
Sep 16, 2015 David Roberts rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to David by: Chantel Tarin
Shelves: children
If we have children in our lives, we're all looking for a few tips that will make us more effective in our parenting. This book really does provide them. I read this on a summer beach vacation with the two younger children (so that may have colored my impressions), and found that the simple ways of talking to children and structuring life in general really do seem to work.

As with most "how to" books, there is a leaning towards the overly prescriptive side (or is this just my chronic authority pr
Aug 06, 2016 Sara rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
There are a few great gems in this book. I loved the mind, body and soul time or special time spent with each child. I also loved her ideas about training kids appropriate behavior in different settings.
Jul 19, 2012 Caitlin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the best book I've read on Positive Discipline yet - and I've read a bunch. She uses a series of "toolboxes" and step by step tools to assist in digesting and implementing her suggestions. The primary concept behind Positive Discipline is that a child will behave better when he feels better about himself and his position in the family. It gets to the root of problem behavior rather than just reacting to problem behavior in the moment (like the overrated 123 Magic). I have seen a marked i ...more
Aug 24, 2014 Cheryl rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amy McCready is one of my all time favorites with parenting philosophies and solutions. Love her focus on the postive and her concrete, real ideas.
Jun 29, 2012 Alice rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is, hands down, the best parenting book I have read. While I wouldn't necessarily call it revolutionary, it has (clearly explained) specific tools that can be implemented immediately. In the three days that I've been using techniques from this book, I have seen positive changes in both my children and myself. Perhaps the most difficult part of this book is that it asks parents to take responsibility for their own part in making their children's behavior worse. My kids know what we're workin ...more
Feb 15, 2012 Random rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
The first chapter or so of this book is painfully trendy and full of something akin to post-modern psycho-babble, but it then settles down and becomes quite useful. I found much of the advice pretty much the same stuff all parents know and have heard many times, but, at least for me, it was useful to have a reminder.

The best parts are discussions of diagnosing child needs/wants from behavior and interactions. I was able to put these parts to immediate and effective use.

My advice is to skip the
Jan 12, 2016 Lisa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Of all the parenting books I've read, this is the most logical and practical. Wish I'd read it earlier.
Alicia Mccain
Jun 12, 2014 Alicia Mccain rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was really nothing I didn't know, but somehow, the format with the toolbox was incredibly helpful in figuring out the application. I checked it out from the library, but strongly considering purchasing it to use as a reference regularly. One of the better parenting books I've read.
Nov 12, 2011 Brooke rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
This parenting book goes hand in hand with Parenting with Love and Logic. The philosophy is based on the relationship between misbehavior and every child's feelings of belonging and significance. There are many tips in how to stop misbehaviors when they are happening as well as long term solutions. The solutions are easy to try out and tweak to your own style. The book did feel a little overwhelming at times, I will have to go back and read it again.
I also found the ideas in this book applicabl
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