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Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living With Borderline Personality Disorder

3.80  ·  Rating Details  ·  692 Ratings  ·  46 Reviews
Written by Dr. Jerold Kreisman, a top expert on Borderline Personality Disorder, this important, incisive book delivers the latest information on the disorder, which typically manifests itself through anger, abuse, addictions, and reckless impulsivity-behaviors that can have a devastating impact on family and friends.
Hardcover, 246 pages
Published February 25th 2004 by John Wiley & Sons
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Shannon Bradley
I wish someone would write one of these books FOR the person with BPD and not the psychologists and doctors. All of the technical and medical stuff goes right over my head. Write a book for us please.
Mar 01, 2010 Jane rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I wouldn't recommend this book to people with Borderline PDO or families/friends of.

It's a pretty decent overview of the disorder for mental health professionals, but I think a little bit too detailed for the lay public. He talks some abou theorists (seriously, do you the average person wants to hear about Kernberg and Erikson) and touches on medication management - not enough to be detailed, but enough to be dangerous (a little knowledge is a dangerous thing...)

Not clear if it is for the patie
Ok, this book may just edge out the other contender for "best title" award (Not Everyone Gets a Trophy)! Just after borrowing this from a co-worker, I went around the office holding it up to make a public service announcement: Guess what, everyone... in case you haven't noticed... just thought you should know... Sometimes, I Act Crazy.

More reviewishness to come.

I wanted to like this book, buuut....
- the authors can't seem to decide whether this book is written for the person suffering from BP
Aug 05, 2008 Martha rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: recent
I chose "read" only because "kind of skimmed through" was not an option.
My review is lengthy, but if you read it, you can save your time and skip the book, because it is full similar (but in my opinion less realistic) case studies, and there is a lot of uncertainty in causes of borderline and prognosis of individuals.
This book by the same authors of I Hate You Don't Leave Me gives updates on the causes of borderline and the prognosis for a borderline patient. There are a couple significant frust
Jan 31, 2010 Sandy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: --anybody interested in various aspects of the "human condition".
Recommended to Sandy by: --just plucked it from the recent book shelf.
--really interesting of course, & alarming to think of people trying to live w/this disorder--or kids living w/parents who have it, or parents living w/kids who have it or whatever.

The Sociopath Next Door is probably more "entertaining", not to mention even scarier in some ways, & less wearing too, 'cause we don't need to feel sorry for the sociopaths, we feel sorry for their victims.

People w/BPD are victims themselves, as are their friends & loved ones frequently, & it's expensi
Nov 18, 2015 Meju rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: sachbuch, reader-2015
Es ist ein wirklich hilfreiches und informatives Buch für Betroffene wie auch angehörige. Ich kann das jedem empfehlen, der mit dem Thema etwas zu tun hat.
Mar 27, 2016 Syd rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this despite the off-putting title and mediocre reviews, and as expected it's sort of a mixed bag but it was helpful.

it's a quick read, and I appreciate that each characteristic gets a chapter and then each chapter is similarly subdivided, but I agree that the real life examples veer into the excessive. They also seem very...extreme? In the beginning there's a very brief discussion of thinking about bpd symptoms on a scale, not a you-have-it-or-you-don't, but reading the examples it's lik
Aug 09, 2010 Tara rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The patient's stories are helpful to understand certain facets of the disorder. I liked how each of the important BPD characteristics are described in each chapter. I would recommend this for borderlines, their familes/friends or anyone wishing to gain an understanding of the disorder.
Oct 10, 2009 Anna rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Amazing! Rather than focusing on the problems with living with BPD like I Hate You-Don't Leave Me, it shows you how to live with BPD and centers around the solutions.
Jan 15, 2015 Denise rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
For parts of this book, it became a sort of handbook for me.

It was a huge aid in helping me understand what medications might help, as his notes on how medications work were some of the most brief but apt I've ever read.

The tone of the book is great for the disordered, the family and friends of the disordered, and even those (like me) who aren't diagnosed but realize there is much to learn in emotional regulation and mindfulness.

I've read a lot on Borderline Personality Disorder, and this lit
Katy Sauer
Apr 27, 2015 Katy Sauer rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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I was first diagnosed with borderline personality disorder as a teenager. The first book I picked up was I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me by the same authors. I appreciated the book because it explained a lot of things that I hadn’t understood about myself before. I now knew why I had a lot of the issues that interfered with my life. But it painted a very dark picture of what I could do to change any of it, instead quoting statistics that we
Sep 29, 2013 Devon rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
For the purpose of learning basic information on BPD - its symptoms and treatment - this book served pretty well. It was very much an overview, never going into too much detail on any one facet. It was fairly easy to read, and instructive, but it wasn't what I was hoping for.

The book didn't feel consistent in what audience it was addressing. As I began, I felt that it was definitely addressed to the loved ones/family of individuals with BPD. This didn't bother me, until the address changed to i
Jul 18, 2014 Liz rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: library, non-fiction
This book is by the same writing team as "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me," which I also read about 10-11 years ago. This book covers a lot of the same topics, just with new information on the illness as well as more in-depth case-studies (which I love).

People with borderline personality disorder tend to be (which the book highlights on in the beginning and expands on in individual chapters) people who engage in impulsivity, substance abuse or cutting or suicidal behaviors, tend to have severe parano
Nov 09, 2015 Apex157x rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Clear, concise, overall somewhat technical- out of necessity, but not overwhelmingly so. Informative and definitely helpful. I have friends with the disorder and helps me understand them better. I also likes the individualized stories of those that had the disorder, to also be able to better understand.
Dec 17, 2007 Lauren rated it it was ok
Although typically helpful in providing insight/understanding of the subject at hand, the anecdotal testimonies in this book actually served to enervate the reader, rendering her lazy about getting through the parts that expound upon understanding this very frustrating disorder. The "personal stories" are long and there is an almost palpable shift from the purposeful conveyance of events to just plain bad, daytime television-esque writing (wait, isn't that phrase in itself redundant)?

It seems Dr
Jeffrey Borrowdale
This book focuses on BPD as an identity disorder and explaining and apparently erratic and apparently contradictory behavior. It's elaborate fictionalized examples, based on actual patients, give an insight into the interior life of the borderline but also makes the book a long read. I felt like I got a lot of insight into the condition from this book but could have used more practical strategies for interacting with someone dealing with it. It also contains an exhaustive discussion of treatment ...more
It was hard to rate this book as I felt that it rates differently depending on the audience. As someone who supports individuals in the mental health field, I found it informative. However, the book is actually not primarily intended for me, but rather for individuals struggling with BPD themelves. In this regard I thought the book missed its goal on several fronts. Despite its disclaimer around simplifying language without the intention of labeling, I found terms such as "the borderline" or "th ...more
Feb 23, 2015 ♥Xeni♥ rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: unfinished
I wanted a more medically-oriented book when I picked this one up. But if you're looking for something with personal anecdotes, stories, etc. then this is probably the book for you.
Mostly skimmed as I was more interested in the info than the stories that illustrated the terms. I was pretty familiar with the terms already having read the previous book, "I Hate You--Don't Leave Me" as well as "Don't Walk on Eggshells." I much preferred "Don't Walk on Eggshells" as an introduction to BPD especially for those who love someone who suffers through it.
Feb 08, 2016 Amanda marked it as abandoned  ·  review of another edition
If you've already read "I Hate You Don't Leave Me' by this same author I would not read this book. It is essentially the same book.
Răzvan Coloja
Better than their previous book. A really comprehensive guide for the BPD layman.
Tara Calaby
Nov 19, 2013 Tara Calaby rated it liked it
Shelves: psychology, bpd
This one is pretty dated, in that it has way too great a focus on child abuse leading to BPD and there's a bit too much optimism re: medication. That said, it's not too bad. The writing style is accessible and, while the case studies that start each chapter are a little melodramatic and wordy, they're still entertaining. Best still, it doesn't operate at all under the assumption that partners and family members of people with BPD should just leave them. I found the chapter on identity particular ...more
Crystal Oros
This book I think might be better suited for a therapist to use as a resource for understanding BPD and some of the ways to treat it. It was confusing but then again so is BPD and trying to figure out what "on the border" disorders each individual suffers. From what I understand it's a juggling act of treating the worst symptom first and being flexible when other symptoms crop up and block progress. Still an informative read that I may find myself revisiting again one day.
Apr 13, 2014 Meghan rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
I wish there were more books for the borderline people. I guess now I can see it through other peoples eyes but the examples are never like me. I haven't found a borderline story I can really relate to. Sometimes after explaining symptoms especially towards the end I got really bored. The author uses medical terms and it is harder to understand. I made it to the end so that is a good thing. This is the sequel to I hate you Don't Leave me.
I'm trying to figure out how best to deal with a possible BPD sufferer with a minimum of grief for everyone. I have high hopes for this one since it's by the authors of what everyone hails as the BPD Bible (I Hate You, Don't Leave Me), which oddly enough, someone took out from my local library and never returned, along with several other BPD books. Color me shocked. ;)


Not as helpful as I'd hoped but somewhat insightful.
Sep 10, 2014 Livie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This booked claimed to be about how to live with BPD, but it was just like their other book (but this did have updated info and new treatments and studies, etc.). It talked not to the borderline, but about them. This always makes me feel uncomfortable, like I'm some difficult 'other', not a real human being. I know it wasn't intentional, but c'mon, they should know how to speak to borderlines, their experts in the field.
Staci Andrews
Oct 20, 2013 Staci Andrews rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing read for those suffering from, living with someone who has or interested in BPD. A much more supported book than "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" (the author's previous book of the same subject). I actually have BPD and it was very helpful for me but I've given it to several people who are in my life and do not have it. A well researched and optimistic piece.
Angela Wade
Just didn't work for me as someone looking to understand BPD behavior better. Felt like there were a lot of excuses and messages for significant others to "stick it out", but not enough talk about BPDs taking personal responsibility.

It doesn't talk much about the BPD as a parent, either, which is what I was hoping for.

Prefer Surviving the Borderline Parent.
Tracy Morton
There were parts of this book that I found interesting but I think maybe it is more interesting to a doctor. The example stories about people suffering with BPD were uninteresting and seemed false. They seemed to be something written to give an example. The book covers a lot of info but i didn't find that it was presented in an interesting way.
Jun 13, 2012 Kiki rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
"A source of hope, expert advice, and guidance for people with borderline personality disorder and those who love them."

I feel like the book failed to live up to this description. It was more a book of anecdotes about some people with bpd. Not remotely helpful or illuminating.
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Jerold Kreisman, M.D., is a psychiatrist and best-selling author. His books, I Hate You, Don't Leave Me, and Sometimes I Act Crazy. have been translated into several languages around the world. He is an Associate Clinical Professor at St. Louis University and has been designated a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. He has lectured widely in both this country and abr ...more
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“When the borderline is alone, continuity and connectedness cease. Like sand falling through her fingers, her confidence - even her sense of reality - slip away.” 21 likes
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