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Tired of Trying to Measure Up: Getting Free from the Demands, Expectations, and Intimidation of Well-Meaning People

4.4 of 5 stars 4.40  ·  rating details  ·  154 ratings  ·  22 reviews
Written to point the way to freedom for Christians who live under an unwritten religious code of expectations and rules that drain them of spiritual strength.
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Published July 1st 2008 by Baker Publishing Group (first published January 1st 1989)
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Elizabeth Lane
More therapy homework. Really good for people, like me, who constantly feel the need to live up to other's expectations in order to be accepted. Learning to simply love and be the person God made you is A.) the point of your existence and B.) a lot easier/less exhausting. I'll admit it is a little weird to use the self-talk method at first: "I'm lovable because God made me," "this isn't my fault," etc. but it does work whenever you feel attacked or triggered to doubt yourself.
Valerie
Tired of Trying to Measure Up is written for people who live under a deeply ingrained code of expectations and rules that shame them and drain them of spiritual strength.

Although this book has been written with Christians in mind, it would be helpful for anyone. If you struggle with addictions, low self-esteem, can't seem to stop doing the same things that you hate to do over and over, struggle with perfectionism, or laziness. This book could save your life and your relationships.

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Lisa Cline
This book was required reading for a class in theology and while I have already learned some of this things he wrote about I also learned many new things as well.
It really does teach you why you struggle with acting why you do and the solutions for it. I would recommend this book to anyone who struggles with shame and anger.
Englandjennifer
A very practical book that puts so much into perspective. Full of so much information I thought this was a stellar book for those who don't feel like they are good enough and put too much weight on what others think of them.
Debi
This book is refreshing in its encouragement and emphasis on who we are in Christ, not in placing our value in our behavior or what we do. Trying harder doesn't work. We have already been made valuable and acceptable through Christ's work on our behalf.
"...individuals and families are almost as shamed and exhausted from the solutions they're being given by the Christian community as they are by the problems for which they're seeking help. That's because even among Christians a focus on appearanc
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Jeremy Maddux
Typical 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' pep talk with no respect for individual liberty as laid out by the architects of America.
Sunshine
I'm going to buy this book as soon as I can. For me, it's become a Christian classic along the lines of 'Beyond Ourselves' (Marshall) and 'He Loves Me' (Jacobson). Not only does it reveal a lot of the shame-based motives in Christian circles, but outlines practical methods for clarifying a new lifestyle and thought patterns free of guilt, shame, and people-pleasing.

Amanda
Jul 15, 2008 Amanda rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Amanda by: Carolyn Bivens
This is a really good book about how shame informs our lives and how to break out of the cycle of shame. There is good practical advice in the last couple of chapters and some examples that really hit home for me. While I was reading I was thinking of which people in my life could benefit from reading this. I'm not sure who to send it to first!
Rhonda Martin
I would love everyone to read this book for the message it is sending. Is it most well written or engaging thing I have read? Not exactly. However, the concepts are so important and the good parts so good you can surely over-look the imperfectness, and maybe even incompleteness, of this book.
Lisa Vu
Excellent read! This book addresses the works mentality that can enslave Christians and the true meaning of God's grace that leads us to work from The Rest and not just rest from The Work.
Julie
I took my time reading this one. It was full of mind bending, thought provoking statements. I will definitely have to re read this one again.
Karen
Excellent book, particularly for those who grew up in Christian fundamentalism or struggle with legalism, guilt for not "measuring up." Very healing.
Amy
Haven't finished this book yet. Only starting Chapter 3 and I've learned So much already! It's insightful & challenging.
Brian
I bought this book because the title provided me with a near perfect description of how I felt after I left Seminary.
Alex
Perfect for an age consumed with self validation and building our resumes. The writing is simple and insightful.
Alicia
A very good and inspiring book. My mother encouraged me to read it and I am so glad that she did!
KD
Excellent book braking mindsets and moving on. Resting in who Christ is and what Christ achieved.
Mark-robyn
Speaks to an issue commonly experienced among believers.
Dionne
Jul 26, 2008 Dionne rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Dionne by: Dr. Hodges
An excellent book for defeated perfectionists!
Tamera
Really good book. Very eye opening!
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