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Love in a Time of Loneliness: Three Essays on Drives and Desires

3.78  ·  Rating Details ·  201 Ratings  ·  7 Reviews
Paul Verhaeghe here shows us what it is about sex that both motivates and inhibits us. A humorous and razor-sharp analysis of the relationship between contemporary man and woman, of the disappearance of the Oedipus complex and the shattering of classic gender roles, and of the boredom, anxiety, and anger ever-present in postmodern society, this book is a contemporary ...more
Hardcover, 222 pages
Published April 17th 1999 by Other Press (first published 1998)
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Wim
Apr 12, 2015 Wim rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Op zich een vermakelijk boekje om te lezen, maar op een ander niveau bevestigt het mijn vermoeden dat P.V. inderdaad de clown is die ik denk dat hij is. Bijvoorbeeld een behoorlijk genante passage over rapmuziek (in zijn ogen puur ontstaan door zwarte mensen die PTSD van de oorlog in vietnam hebben) toont hoe hij naadloos de brug maakt tussen feit (in zoverre dat dat "een ding" is voor psychoanalytici zonder medische opleiding) en weerlegbare verzinsels. Verder moest ik ook lachen met de ...more
Arjun Ravichandran
Oct 25, 2015 Arjun Ravichandran rated it really liked it
Don't be fooled by the pithy misdirection of the word 'essays'. Not only is there a definite structure, with the 2nd essay latching on effortlessly on the winds of the 1st, and repeating for the next iteration, but also the word essay does not begin to to justice to the depth of theoretical psychology contained.

(Why do philosophers continue to misuse the word, though? Both Heidegger and Sartre called their 600+ page unreadables 'essays' as well)

I found this book to be slightly more (for lack o
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Renate
Mar 10, 2016 Renate rated it really liked it
Very interesting, thoroughly enjoyed the first essay. His distinction between desire and drive, longing and lust was very insightful as was the developmental and evolutionary perspective. Halfway through I found myself struggling through the more hermetic passages (I never did enjoy Lacan).
diepstraten
Oct 13, 2013 diepstraten rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ik sluit mij geheel aan bij de beschrijving van KNACK: 'Zelden heeft iemand in helderder en nuchterder Nederlands de problemen geschetst tussen man en vrouw in deze tijd.'
Emily
Jun 06, 2016 Emily rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I found this to be incredibly insightful, having not studied psychology or psychotherapy myself. It is a great point of connection and understanding of Freudian psychology and regardless of acceptance or rejection of his approaches, this book provides depth and richness in understanding the human condition.
Rein Elzinga
Mar 12, 2013 Rein Elzinga rated it it was amazing
Goed boek, niet altijd even toegankelijk. De uitleg over het gescheiden leven van mannen en vrouwen in verschillende stammen en het recente "samenwonen" is een eyeopener. Boek is met "liefde"geschreven en psychoanalytisch gericht.
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