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Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget

3.55  ·  Rating Details  ·  190 Ratings  ·  33 Reviews
Men and women ARE different . . . and this book from the founder of gender medicine uncovers the neuroscientific reasons behind age-old disputes between men and women, while providing a groundbreaking, authoritative, and reader-friendly guide to resolving these differences

Why won't he ask for directions? Why does she always want to talk about the relationship? Why can't he
Hardcover, 304 pages
Published August 15th 2005 by Rodale Books (first published 2005)
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Maryah Mohammed
من الأخير ..
العنوان لا يعكس ما في الكتاب إطلاقاً وهذه السلبية الاولى .. الصفحات الآولى تبدو مملة جداً حتى نهاية الفصل الأول .

تبدأ الاثارة والاكشن بعد الفصل الاول ؛)

الكتاب ممتاز من حيث التحليل العلمي باعتبار إن الكاتبة طبيبة وهذا أجمل ما فيه الكتاب .

جيد جداً بطرح المعلومات التي تفيدك كقارئ والتي من أجلها قرأت الكتاب .

جيد في طرحه للامثلة والتي غالباً لا يمكن تنزليها على واقعنا ، باستثناء في بعض الحالات .

مقبول في ترابط فصوله .. بمعنى إن اول الكتاب لا يرتبط بمنتصفه والمنتصف لا يرتبط بآخره .. وك
Feb 23, 2012 Deb rated it it was amazing
*A matter of chemistry*

Based on the title alone, it's no surprise that this book is targeted towards a female audience. Specifically, it is written for those women who need more satisfying explanations as to why men just don't seem to get it. (OK, perhaps that's all of us?)

It turns out that many of the eternal and universal differences between the genders can be partially explained by differences in brain chemistry. For example, while estrogen magnifies oxytocin (aka, "the cuddle hormone"), tes
Aug 04, 2009 Yannick rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
We don't need to be a doctor to know that the men and the women are different. Marianne J Legato, explains very well, certain situation and why we have different reaction, and comportment.
Also she communicates in plain English, the medical vocabulary.
This book pushed me to read more about the subject in order to enlarge my knowledge about human being.
Nov 08, 2010 Sabrina rated it really liked it
From the title I thought it was going to be a fairly sexist book, but it was actually quite interesting! Basically was about the differences in how men's and women's brains work, and how different things like cortisol affect us differently because of sex-based hormones. Kind of slow in places, but overall, an interesting read.
Shahad Alkanderi
كتاب جيد جدا

ترجمته رائعة " من جرير" ,, يتحدث عن الفوارق بين الجنسين وطريقة الاختلاف بالآراء والأساليب والحلول

عرض الكثير من الإختلافات في طرق افراز الهرمونات وتأثيرها على ردود أفعالنا وشخصياتنا كما تطرق لاختلاف تركيب المخ لكلا الجنسين

وذكر كثيراً ان أغلب أسباب اختلافاتنا ليست بيئية بل هي من أصل الكون تبدأ بمرحلة البلوغ وتكوين المخ وإفراز الهرمونات

يكفي بعد رائته عن نفسي كامرأة ان أغض البصر عن كثير مما أرى من أي رجل
لأني أصبحت أعلم السبب والدافع أو أعلم أيضا أني أبالغ

بالنسبة لحجمة فإنه يُحمّله ف
Oct 14, 2010 Stephanie rated it liked it
I learned from this book... here are some points I found fascinating:

- estrogen play a big role in recall... in stress events it elevates cortisol and that can create extremely vivid images of the stressful event, it also raises levels of dopamine in the brain so more neurons and communication between neurons is facilitated... thus language is processed better
- progesterone stops cortisol from turning off
- language is processed on both sides of the brains for w
- prefrontal cortex is bigger for w
Liss Martz
Apr 24, 2012 Liss Martz rated it really liked it
¡Que gran pregunta! La diferencia entre hombres y mujeres es a causa de nuestras hormonas. Mmmm.. ahora entiendo porque actúo triste de repente, o porque me embarga un estado de euforia en todo mi ser, y que hormonas son las culpables de mi estrés. O porque ellos solo pueden hacer una cosa a la vez y nosotros varias cosas, lo cual no es muy beneficioso..
Este libro es gracioso, expone muchos ejemplos, comprensibles sobre el lenguaje técnico que a veces usa la autora, pero explica tan bien los té
Dec 23, 2015 Cassandra rated it really liked it
I found myself intrigued from the very beginning, when Legato relates an example that sounded eerily similar to something that would happen in my own house between my husband and myself. From the beginning, I was nodding along and chuckling to myself as I learned the reasons behind why my husband behaves as he does, and NOT just because he's ignoring me. Fascinating read for anyone of either gender who wonders why their significant other behaves as they do.
Aug 01, 2015 Emmy rated it liked it
Good content. The author repeated herself quite a bit and failed to give the reader any credit that they/I would remember what she had already stated (that's a personal pet peeve so it might not bother others.) The "male" and "female" characteristics were a tad over-generalized.
Claire Arthur
Apr 18, 2014 Claire Arthur rated it liked it
Interesting in places, but not something I wanted to read all the way through. Once I'd read the basic premise and introduction about the research that the book is based on, I found that was enough. The main idea of the book (title) was interesting - specifically the chapter on how male and female brains deal with listening in physiologically different ways, which explains a lot!! Also, that most medical research has been carried out on males was something that hadn't occurred to me before and i ...more
Jul 20, 2008 Jan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Any adult who enjoys self improvement, biology
Recommended to Jan by: Dr Mehmet Oz
From the very start, conception, men and women develop differently. Our brains differ in size, chemistry and style of processing stimuli and information. The insights included here give a look at how and why we react and respond differently and how we may understand or even work with it so that we can better understand the opposite sex. This book is important in the down to earth description of brain and body chemistry which so few of us know anything about but could use daily to improve our lea ...more
Mary Ann
Jul 25, 2012 Mary Ann rated it liked it
If you ever wondered why your boyfriend/husband or even your male boss just doesn't seem to care about some things that are very important to you, or why he reacts differently in specific situations, this author gives you all the reasons why (maybe too much information on the physiological reasons for me). I think a lot of women know that men and women are different emotionally, but this book (which is not a quick read but can certainly be read in a "pick and choose" manner) provides lots of exa ...more
Ala'a Alharethi
Mar 25, 2014 Ala'a Alharethi rated it it was amazing
ملخص هذا الكتاب يكمن في الهرمونات وعلاقتها بالذاكرة ومواقف الحياة اليومية على أساس الهرمونات وكيمياء المخ ..
كتاب ممتع جداً أتطلع لقرائته مرة أخرى ..
Staff Favorites
Jan 12, 2013 Staff Favorites rated it really liked it
Legato explores new science suggesting that the brains of men and women are different due in large part tot he hormones that sex us from the time we are in the womb. These and other chemical and developmental factors can go a long way to helping us understand the "strange" behaviors of the opposite sex. Written in a very accessible and entertaining manner using examples and stories from her practice.
Aug 14, 2011 Joyce rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
Borrowed from public library. Interesting, well-written, informative. Annoying repeated references to "evolutionary perspective" meaning we are evolving into something, and blatant exclusion of God the Creator-Sustainer in all of this.
Mostly impressed by the explanation of differences in the was we are created and much more tolerance for the opposite sex. He truly can't help it! and we love you anyhow.
Apr 09, 2010 Gigi rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
There are better books about the differences between men and woman but this book led to a good book club discussion so was worth the read. Definately written from a medical perspective by a female Dr. who has not read up a lot on all the other literature out there on relationships. But still interesting.
Jun 21, 2009 Chris rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Useful explanation of the causes of conflict in relationships. Keep in mind that sex differences are just decent-sized correlations so sometimes brain/personality elements might be reversed in heterosexual relationships and differences might show up in homosexual relationships.
Mar 25, 2013 Ghada added it
Got its Arabic version on sale so no high expectation :)

The book confirmed some well known theories like PMS and Post Partum Depression and explained it psychologically and physically.
However, it is one of the books that you only read once
Jan 17, 2011 Elana rated it liked it
Interesting insight into why men and women view the world differently from a medical doctor's perspective. There are some parts that I didn't care to read but still interesting all in all.
Indarpati Indarpati
Mirip2 Male Brain, sekilas, karena banyak bicara tentang otak manusia laki-laki dan perempuan. Belum kelar bacanya jadi belum dapat kesan secara keseluruhan.
Aug 04, 2008 Talka rated it really liked it
So far I'm liking this book - it's a very scientific approach to arguments and what causes them in a relationship. Maybe I can get Chris to read it!
Jan 16, 2016 Joumana rated it really liked it
بداية الكتاب شباتر رائعة والباقي كان ما يهم المتزوجين بالاخصية اكثر واخر فصل لم اعره اهتمام نظرا لانه يتكلم عن كبار السن المتزوجين ...more
Michelle Enseleit
Jan 26, 2009 Michelle Enseleit rated it liked it
Still deciding... She has male/femals fighting down to a science. I am a nerd and I read anything about what is currently troubling me.
May 06, 2013 BUDOOR rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010-or-before
جاري إعادة القراءة:

قرأته منذ زمن، أذكر أنني وجدته مقنعاً بشكل علمي ويمس الواقع بشكل أفضل من كتاب : الرجال من المريخ والنساء من الزهرة.
Aug 29, 2013 Erika rated it liked it
Interesting book, for know the behaivor and diferences of the man/woman in the brain.
Jan 24, 2008 Jill rated it really liked it
This book is very interesting, it gives insight into the differences in gender.
Ana Antoncic
Jan 13, 2013 Ana Antoncic rated it really liked it
If you want to know how thw brain of the opposite sex work, read this book.
Jul 28, 2010 Nanaku rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
it helped me easier to know the truth about my boy friend...hahaha :-D
Khansa alsanea
Mar 17, 2015 Khansa alsanea rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
اكتشفت الفوارق بين عقل الرجل والمرأة في هذا الكتاب المفيد
Jan 25, 2009 Sherry rated it really liked it
An eye opener for relationship understanding.
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Marianne J. Legato, MD, FACP, is an academic physician, author, and lecturer, specialised in gender-specific medicine.
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