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Trans/Love: Radical Sex, Love & Relationships Beyond the Gender Binary

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"This is where sex and gender collide, then ricochet like fragments of heart rending shrapnel. Rarely has a book about lust been full of so much love, conflict, and intelligence. If you think you already know what's in these stories, or you think you don't need to know, you're wrong."—Patrick Califa, author of Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism

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Paperback, 160 pages
Published October 11th 2011 by Manic D Press, Inc. (first published September 13th 2011)
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Mar 01, 2012 Elizabeth rated it it was amazing
This book was amazing. Often times books about genderqueer and transgender people focus on the negative things associated with being this type of different (as viewed by mainstream socitey) and/or on the process of transitioning itself. I really appreciated this book because it approached the subject in a completely different way. Among other things, this book really made me aware of how much we as a society gender sexual encounters, and how limiting that is. As a whole it was a joy to read, and ...more
A beautiful book with a really great selection of essays that don't pretend life is all sunshine and roses but also isn't filled with tales of romantic despair.
Mar 01, 2012 Yarrow rated it it was amazing
this book is 155 pages of awesome. it's first-person narratives by genderqueer & trans people, discussing love, relationships & sex. it's frank, funny, tender, vulnerable, tough, fierce, thought-provoking, heartbreaking, and heartwarming. there's a wide range of voices and writing styles. and enough raw human experience to keep you thinking and feeling long beyond turning the last page. an excellent collection.
Jul 31, 2016 Tanya rated it really liked it
Incredibly thought-provoking. I appreciated the honesty of the authors and the many contrasting views and experiencing. Each has their own unique experience of being trans and what that means for their sexuality, community, labeling, and relationships.
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Feb 01, 2016 Sarai Lillie rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: People interested in learning about Transgendered and Transexual people
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This book was so good in so many ways!

However, the reason I gave it a 4-star rating instead of 5, it was full of spelling and grammatical errors. Being a bit of a Grammar Nazi, this makes my reading less enjoyable.

Putting that aside, this was one of the best books I've read in quite some time. It was part poetry, part fiction, part non-fiction, part essay, part erotica, part romance, part gender study. Truly, it made me think about a lot of different things, not just about the book, but about my
Apr 21, 2013 Gwen rated it liked it
Shelves: gender-issues
An interesting mix of essays by people who push gender boundaries. Some of the essays were incredibly well written (Julia Serano's comes to mind); others were less eloquent.

I had trouble with some of the terminology that was used. For example, I dislike the T-word intensely and wish everyone would stop using it; however a number of the authors used it extensively.

Overall it was good, but not great for me.
Apr 17, 2015 Grace rated it it was ok
Shelves: trans-gender, queer
i'm not sure why but i wasn't really into this one. i was pretty surprised to find out it was written in 2011; i would have guessed the 90s. it just seemed like this was all stuff i'd already heard before and there wasn't really much contextualization beyond the stories the authors told. the terminology also seemed a bit outdated for 2011 in places.
Nov 26, 2015 Karen rated it liked it
I feel bad giving this a low rating, because I'm sure it's really meaningful to trans people, but I think it's value is all in the ways that readers might relate to it and not in the writing itself. It was mostly personal essays, without a narrative or other structural device. In particular, the 'I'm so lucky to have a great partner who loves me' essays were kind of boring
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Jul 29, 2014 Anna Bongiovanni rated it it was amazing
An overall great collection of first-person stories, some better than others as in most anthologies. It was a refreshing to read about sex and love and relationships with/about/for genderqueer and trans bodies.
May 19, 2013 Dakota rated it it was amazing
Though this book is frequently advertised as erotica, it actually contains far more self-reflexive narratives about sex, gender, sexuality, and transition often told through the lens of one's sexual and relationship history in the form of personal essays.
Sep 17, 2015 Katiuscia rated it it was amazing
Mind expanding and healing. Fabulous book and must read for anyone who identifies on Trans* spectrum or loves someone on that spectrum.
Well written anthology by trans/love authors discussing sex, love, and romantic relationships. Very informative--really enjoyed it.
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