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The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive

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Your toddler throws a tantrum in the middle of a store. Your preschooler refuses to get dressed. Your fifth-grader sulks on the bench instead of playing on the field. Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives endlessly challenging? No—it’s just their developing brain calling the shots!

In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and autho
ebook, 192 pages
Published October 4th 2011 by Delacorte Press (first published January 1st 2011)
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Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s “The Whole Brain Child” fails to deliver on the titular promise of “revolutionary” parenting strategies to “truly help your kids be happier, healthier, and more fully themselves”; it does, however, provide innovative and effective explanations, packaging, and delivery of many tried-and-true parenting techniques that turn out to be neuroscientifically based.

The first four chapters are the love child of the Johns - Medina’s “Brain Rules for Baby” and Gottman’s “R
Interesting concepts, and I loved going through the brain and how it works based on our reactions; it brought me back to my psychology days. Although it was interesting to read and gave a few examples of how to implement the practices with children, I find that there is still a disconnect in how to apply it daily. I kept thinking to myself, "well that sounds good and I would love to do that...but how?". I also noticed that they went a little far explaining each concept so that I felt like each p ...more
I liked this book and appreciated the clear explanations of some brain science concepts (though I don't know whether it is all strictly accurate - for example, I keep hearing that the "left brain, right brain" thing is somewhat of a fiction). The book had a few really useful tools which I liked (for example, the wheel of awareness, and "move it or lose it"). It was well laid out, the cartoons and illustrations were helpful, and I really liked the "refrigerator sheets." As a parent and a therapis ...more
Frank Jude
I'd have given this book five stars if the writing were a bit more engaging; as it is, though the material is often fascinating and incredibly relevant (I've a 28-month old toddler at home!), I found the reading a bit of a slog at times.

What Siegel has done here is, based upon cutting-edge neuro-science, boiled down the info relevant for parenting into 12 strategies to help you guide greater brain integration in your children, from birth through about 12-years old.

The kinds of things we're talki
I must say i am surprised to see so many good ratings. On the other hand it is the reason why I read it.

First things first: I'm a dad with a 2 years old child and probably share every moms and dads usual issues and questions. By the way, we split everything that involves our child at home, meaning I do half of ALL.

At first this book looked very promising. And then....I realised it has 2 sides.
On the one hand, at the end of every chapter, there is a real life problem with the real life actions pa
If you are a parent, teacher or other person who works with children, I would commend this book to you. By understanding how the brain works, you can survive tough moments and teach children to thrive. The Whole-Brain Child explains both how and why.

The twelve strategies the book explains are:
Connect then Redirect
Name It To Tame It
Engage, Don't Enrage
Use It Or Lose It
Move It Or Lose It
Use The Remote Of The Mind
Remember To Remember
Let The Clouds of Emotion Roll By
SIFT: sensation, image,
Matt Garden
I enjoyed this and tore through it pretty quickly. The only thing that annoyed me is the term "mindsight" ... It seems like there's already a term for what's being described: mindfulness. "Mindsight" sounds like a marketing term was being used where it wasn't necessary (maybe I'd feel differently had I also read Mindsight the book). Or maybe mindfulness isn't as common a term as I think and it helps people get the idea. Especially kids.

Anyway, it seemed like there were good tips in here, for kid
Siegel and Bryson introduce the reader not only to the wonders of the childhood brain, but also how to harness its developing stages to create a happier and healthier relationship with children. The authors also tackle approaches that parents/caregivers may not have taken the time to ponder when faced with discipline or emotional situations. Siegel and Bryson explore the various parts of the child brain (so similar, yet different from that of an adult) and explore the HOW and WHY children may no ...more
Nov 09, 2012 Lisa rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
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So many books about parenting report all sorts of research and don't provide practical examples of how to do it. This book provides you with clear cut techniques that really do work and are helpful. Additionally, they talk about how to use the techniques at different ages. It really is the only must read parenting book i've found.

READ IT. Seriously. READ IT...
Selena Hanet-Hutchins
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Often kids are doing their best; they just need us to attend to their basic needs. As you learn about the brain and consider all of the information we're offering here, don't forget about the simple and the obvious, the little things you already know. Common sense can take you a long way. pg 69

So she began the ritual of asking, as they ate dinner together each evening, "Tell me about your day. Give me one high point, one low point and one act of kindness you performed for someone." 74

Even though
Sarah Eiseman
I’ve been intrigued by a number of books recently that deal with brain development and emotional intelligence in children. This book, written by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., takes a look at the neurology of various emotional situations and strategies for dealing and developing emotionally intelligent children.

As I write this post, I have not finished the book, but what I have enjoyed most so far is that it gives examples of “traditional” (authoritarian) parenting and strategies for managing situation
Jen Meegan
I am pleased to add this to my very, very small pile of approved discipline books.

1) It fits in very nicely with our family's go-to discipline philosophy, Positive Discipline (as taught by Jane Nelson)
2) It doesn't recommend punitive measures like time outs or spanking
3) it's relatively fast and easy to read with some quick reference tips when you need them most
4) it's fairly easy to implement...once you've made the paradigm shift, that is.
5) it honors and respects children and reminds parents t
Michele Feiner
This was a phenomenal book. One of the most practical and useful parent and counselor tools I read this summer
jessica wilson
A great reminder for those of us who have studied brain development in children and an excellent tool for those who have not. This too was a library read and I may need to purchase a copy so that I can cut out the guide in the back. The illustrated comics included in the book would be very helpful to use in teaching children about their brains. Very helpful. Don't let the catch-phrases keep you from reading!
I just can't bring myself to use my precious reading pleasure time to read about parenting.
I really enjoyed the "mindsight concept" (teaching children to calm themselves and focus their attention somewhere else rather than being fixated on one emotion/problem/issue) - I'll want to refer to that again as the kids get older.

The "internal remote" concept (helping your kids narrate painful events with pauses, fast-forwards, and rewinds) is very useful, too. We've done this in our own way but the book gave me some more ideas for helping the kids talk about their experiences (upsetting or p
meh. i picked this book up after reading bessel van der kolk's outstanding "the body keeps the score;" i was interested to see how dr. siegel applies some of the same neuroscientific understanding to the challenges of parenting--and, frankly, my 6, 9, and 12 year olds kids have primed for some "revolutionary" strategies. alas, nothing in this book qualifies for that designation, although a reader with less background in this particular branch of psychology might find the information a little mor ...more
When I was in high school, I remember often thinking that if everyone were a bit more empathetic, the world would be a better place. In classic teenage fashion I wanted to write a diatribe about it and make it forced reading for some of my classmates (I suppose nowadays I would've blogged about it? FB posted?). And while I didn't do that, I remained perplexed and grew up being the sort of person who cares deeply about being kind and considerate of others. As an adult, I've learned that this ofte ...more
Erika RS
One of the most important skills a person can learn -- at any age -- is balanced emotional regulation, and emotional regulation comes down to a person's ability to integrate the many different function of their brain.

This is hard enough to do at any age but in the developing brain of a child, this integration requires guidance. This book provides scientific background and practical tips for helping parents turn everyday moments of frustration into opportunities to make family life a little bit l
This little parenting book is basically about how to teach children emotional intelligence--how to get them to recognize their own emotions, that emotions are temporary, and how to develop sympathy, among other things. Often when I interact with an upset child, I take the "dismiss and deny" strategy of telling them it's okay and that whatever they're upset about isn't that bad. Using this book's method, it's better to first acknowledge the child's emotion, like saying "you look sad! Is it becaus ...more
I listened to the audio version in the car, and even my 7 year old daughter, and 6 year old son found it interesting. "Is this the brain book?" my son would ask when it turned on. Their parenting strategies resonate with what I hope to accomplish. Address your child's fears, anxieties and emotions and help them understand, cope with and communicate those emotions to others. I found many tips helpful for me too, when I find myself in a funk. I thought it was fabulous.
If you've got a child anywhere from birth through age 12, this book may have some helpful insights into their behavior and how to communicate at their level. It's a quick read, especially if you have some knowledge of psychology to begin with - much of the theories are things you've already heard, in that case. However, the applications to specific instances and conversations with children, and the comic-style section for kiddos themselves at the end of each chapter, are worth a look. The back o ...more
David Rubenstein
Excellent and powerful concept. A bit long for the material, buried the most important element way in the back and used hard-to-understand language.

Should have been: You are a bit fucked up because your parents were a bit fucked up by their parents. Unless you address the ways in which you are fucked up, you will fuck up your children the same way.

We treat our children in small measure following the decisions about how to treat them and in large measure -- and especially in the most emotionally
James Mcmurray
This is an excellent book. Plain and simple.

Science: It gives just enough knowledge of neuroscience to discuss the parenting techniques it recommends without overwhelming the reader with an in-depth discussion of synaptic chemicals, axons, or all of the other pieces of neurology/psychology that can be painful to wrap a layman's head around.

Parenting: The advice is clearly written, well-explained, and easy to implement. The goal of the book is to help children grow into adults that use their enti
I'm only two-thirds of the way through this book, but I can confidently say that I'll be re-reading it - probably several times - over the next ten years as my daughters grow up. Great insight into how the mind develops and how we can help our kids be mentally & emotionally healthy. Not a cure-all, but definitely some good tools to have in your parenting tool kit.
A really good parenting book.
Caleb read a book about memory and Thinking Fast, Thinking Slow and this books takes those thoughts (as well as other neuroscience) and puts them into a parenting format. It includes theory, what we can do as parents, drawings and easy images to share the thoughts with children and a sections on staying healthy ourselves.
Some might view parts as silly couch laying psychology, but really there is so much good to take out of it. We are already talking about right brai
What Cara said...
I don't know that the concepts are revolutionary but I did find this book to be very interesting and challenging. I appreciate all the examples of how to use the techniques described and the stories to use to teach kids about the concepts. It has definitely given me some new tools to improve my parenting.
I have so many friends who refer to my mom as "Mama Gina," and really have a lot of respect for her parenting style. Well, this book summarizes how she parented me, and also explains why it worked. For me, the book helped me make a psychological shift in my parenting from physically caring for a young one, to teaching and training a growing mind. I appreciated the short chapters, the real-life examples, the simple-enough-to-apply advice, and the passages that help you explain and teach technique ...more
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