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Not To Us

3.51  ·  Rating Details ·  352 Ratings  ·  66 Reviews
Relationships are tested in all kinds of ways...

Ellie's perfect world unravels.
A best friend's betrayal ends her marriage.
An alarming diagnosis threatens her life.
It all leads to Michael...
But, fate soon tests their perfect union.
And, begs the question: if you get a second chance, do you take a different path?
ebook, 366 pages
Published May 2nd 2011 by Smashwords Edition (first published April 26th 2011)
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May 28, 2015 Helen rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book made me feel so angry...and not in a good way.

The stupidest Female character in the whole wide world is called Ellen Kay....
Ellen Kay has just been diagnose with breast cancer.
She's married to Robert, and has two or three kids (I don't remember), Robert goes and cheats on her with her "best friend" Carrie, who is also married with a guy named Michael who's a doctor.
Ellen and Michael sleep together. Then they go and
Mar 16, 2012 Katie rated it did not like it
Shelves: e-book
I began reading this but I just can't continue. The premise of this book is excellent but the more and more time I invest in it the angrier I get. I understand every individual is different and people deal with stress, loss, sickness and tragedy in their own unique way, but I just don't find this believable at all. I have intimate knowledge of the hardships Ellie faced and how she reacts to her cancer and to her husband and best friend's betrayal just pissed me off.

Just about every line written
You know those movies where some journalist, writer, reviewer or critiq stares at the blank screen trying to write something, but can not? That little line is just blinking at you and nothing else is happening? Your fingers are suspended over the keyboard not because you do not have anything to write but because you have TOO MUCH and you have no idea where to start?
I am there now. I am in that scene. And I am loosing my mind!

Let me tell you…this is chick lit, in a way. And it is also a cheater r
PHEW!This was my reaction by the time i completed this book,it was a roller coaster ride for my emotions from being so so pissed(towards all four of them) to feeling sorry for Ellen Kay cause she is the one who suffered so much pain may it emotionally or physically cause of treatments but all in all i can surely say this "Ellen Kay is not perfect,she may be weak at times but she is a brave character who withstood all the tragedies thrown at her by fate and hurt,pain,humiliation thrown at her by ...more
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I seriously hated this book. Didn't like any of the characters. Skipped through the chapters cause that's how much this book fucking annoyed me. What the fuck was up with her fucking so called "Bestfriend" I mean REALLY you call her you're Bestfriend but yet that stupid bitch betrayed you, and Ellie is one stupid bitch for her to still be friends with that whore of a Bestfriend. Her first husband was a douchebag her second husband Michael was even more of a douchebag & an
Katherine Owen
Jun 16, 2011 Katherine Owen added it  ·  (Review from the author)  ·  review of another edition
I wrote it! "Not To Us" takes readers on a roller coaster ride with Ellen Kay "Ellie" Bradford whose perfect live is unraveling with her best friend Carrie's betrayal with her husband Robert and finding out she has breast cancer in the first three pages, but her misfortunes lead her to Michael Shaw (Carrie's soon-to-be-ex). Before long, things seem to be working out perfectly for Ellie and Michael, but then their newly-formed bond is tested like never before. This book isn't for everyone, but if ...more
Jun 25, 2011 Michelle rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads
I received the book for free through Goodreads First Reads.

“Not To Us” by Katherine Clare Owen is unquestionably a roller coaster ride. The reader goes on this ride with Ellen Kay “Ellie” Bradford as she discovers that her husband Robert is having an affair with her best friend Carrie. Shortly after this discovery, Ellie, mother of three children, is diagnosed with breast cancer. Carrie’s husband Michael, an accomplished surgeon, is determined to save Ellie’s life in view of the fact that he’s
Nov 29, 2012 Randi rated it really liked it
Shelves: kindle-lendable
Definitely a roller coaster... When I saw a tagline that has that phrase, I tend to think that it wouldn't be that effective. However, it was! I bought this book months ago and I finally had a chance to read it. This author is new to me.

But I'm glad that I got the chance to try her out. This book... It starts with this woman who was trying to keep her life together after finding out that her husband was cheating on her with her own best friend. How dare she do that to this woman? And worst of al
Romancing the Book
Oct 31, 2011 Romancing the Book rated it it was ok
Shelves: romance, contemporary
Review by Judy: crafted flawlessly in first-person present tense, a difficult mechanism. Ellie’s emotional journey is explored in depth; readers will recognize and identify with many of her thoughts and feelings. However, the overall plot strains belief.

Ms Owen writes well. The story has tremendous possibilities, but in the opinion of this reviewer the characters’ actions and reactions to the situations in which they find themselves seem unrealistic. The topics of surviving cancer, divorce, and
Oct 18, 2015 Envywho rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What the F did I just read??? I have never met a more f'up cast of characters... I don't even know how to process my feelings right now and that is why I am giving this book a 5. This book provoked the hell out of me. Still try to process....
Feb 15, 2012 Angieleigh rated it really liked it
To be honest, the premise of this book is really far-fetched even for a fictional account. BUT...I really liked the gist of it anyway.

Ellie married Bobby. Carrie, Ellie's best friend from college, married Michael. They've been friends forever and Michael is Ellie's doctor. On the day he tells her she has cancer, she tells him...well, you soon find out.

I cried a good portion of the way through this book once I got to Chapter 14, which I did NOT SEE COMING AT ALL, MS. OWEN. If you can make your
Aug 15, 2012 Cathy rated it it was ok
With friends like this, who needs enemies? Apparently this woman did as I'm sure they would have treated her better than her supposed best friend. Hell, even better than her husbands, first AND second.

This book left me drained and depressed. For a h touted as being so strong and extraordinary, I wished she had even more backbone to walk away.

Seriously. If I was surrounded by only these people, death would have been merciful.

The writing was actually good; but the storyline was unbelievable... at
Lisa Foyles
Mar 11, 2014 Lisa Foyles rated it liked it
This book was very disturbing to me. The female character had already gone through so much finding out her husband had cheated-then longtime friend whose wife cheats with before mentioned husband comes in to save the day. NOT!! Tragedy strikes and has him running back into his wifes arms and the female lead running off to another city where she meets a young billionaire who sweeps her off her feet and carries her away to his island. (oh did I mention she is very pregnant when this happens) I mea ...more
Mar 24, 2012 Kate rated it it was amazing
I Love love loved this book!!!!! I have to say that I chose to read it because I share the same name as the author, if she has my name the book HAD to be good, right?! I read it in a day, i could not put it down, i just had to see what was going to happen in the tangled mess the characters had created for themselves! It mad me laugh, cry, and so sad when I came to the end!
Aug 01, 2012 Gretchen rated it it was amazing
At times I hated it, but it kept me jones-ing for more.
Stephanie Uncensored
I'm not even sure where to start with this review. First I will say that I gave this story 4 stars because of the writing and not the storyline. I cannot and will not degrade a story just because the content is off my morality chart or out of my comfort zone, that is not why I read books. I read books to stretch my mind and explore different views of romance. Enough with my rant on to why I gave this story and author 4 stars....

Ellie is this strong woman that just gets hit with a whole lot of LI
Feb 12, 2012 Books rated it it was amazing
Isn’t it true that when horrible things happen to others, we are quick to think that it won’t happen to us? That’s exactly what “Not To Us” is centered on.

Friends since college, Ellie, her husband and their mutual friends had it all. Each with successful careers, children and living comfortable lives, when out of the blue divorce, infidelity, breast cancer, death and betrayal swoops down on all of them, especially Ellie - cutting a swathe of destruction on many levels through her life.

At one poi
Aug 16, 2012 Melissa rated it it was amazing

I really enjoyed reading "Not To Us". Katherine is a brilliant writer. Ellie who is married to Robert, they have 3 kids Nick, Matthew, and Emily. Michael is married to Carrie and they have 1 child Elaine. Ellie learns she has breast cancer. Michael says that he will take care of her. Robert has an affair with Carrie, while Michael and Ellie have an affair. Robert ends up marrying Carrie in Vegas. Michael and Ellie get married later on. Then the unthinkable happens Nick dies in a car accident, w
Apr 13, 2012 Vickie rated it it was amazing
Shelves: chick-lit
I've been stuck in the paranormal/young adult genre for a while now, but my good friend told me this was a must read. She was so excited about it so I bought it instantly. I was not disappointed! I loved the story and the writing was fantastic! I spent the better part of my day today, at work, reading. I didn't get anything done except for the occassional phone call. I went through the range of emotions with Ellie and for her. One minute I was happy, then I was crying, and then I was angry. I wa ...more
Belinda Buchanan
Jul 07, 2011 Belinda Buchanan rated it it was amazing
This author weaves a gripping, and emotionally taut story. Robert & Ellie's perfect marriage is suddenly destroyed by infidelity. Ellie's world comes toppling down on her as she battles breast cancer, anger, resentment and betrayal.

If that wasn't enough, more things come at Ellie that shake her to her very core. Ellie's breast cancer is not the main issue here. It's about healing, forgiveness, and learning to trust again. This story is not predictable by any means and there are several twis
Katherine Owen
Mar 25, 2012 Katherine Owen added it  ·  (Review from the author)
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Jan 01, 2013 Kellyanne rated it it was amazing
I loved this book, I have just finished it. I found myself lost in the characters and there feelings, of how Ellie deals with cancer. I cried so many times. It's one of the best books I have ever read. I loved how court always came up somehow after Ellie meeting, and falling in love with. Even thought she denied her lover for him.

I loved little Emily the sassy 7 year old who; always somehow made a dark moment funny or happy and made them all laugh. Michael who was always looking out for his mom
Jan 12, 2015 Bella rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This is one of the worst books I've ever read. All the main characters did was cheating around each other. Such a disturbing story ugghh
Julie Post
Jan 22, 2014 Julie Post rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
Very emotional...Every bad thing that could happen...happens.

The characters feel real and the situations seem possible even if they sound crazy if I tried to explain them. The only thing that bugged me was how easy Ellie forgave people. She was a little too good at playing the martyr. Other than was a book that was very thought provoking and a very heavy read. definitely a book you will either love or hate.
Nov 18, 2011 Steph rated it it was amazing
This book was the epitome of an emotional rollercoaster, and I say that with a smile on my face. I love when I'm able to read a book and realize that part of it seems realistic, while the other part has that hint of unrealistic behavior. That is how I would describe Ellie. In many cases, I believe that she personifies the type of person many of us long to be. Of course, we would never tell anyone this dirty little secret. I read through this book rather quickly, because it captivated me so much ...more
Paula Humphrey
Aug 20, 2011 Paula Humphrey rated it it was amazing
I received a free copy of this book to review and I have to say I loved it. It is the story of how a woman's life falls apart from one day to the next and how she keeps it together. Or not. It brought tears to my eyes more that once but also made me laugh a few times. The only bad thing I can say about it is there were many errors/misuses in wording and punctuation throughout the book that made me have to reread to try to figure out what is trying to be said. I'm not sure if that is because I re ...more
Nov 13, 2012 Melissa rated it liked it
2.5 stars... but as usual, i am generous and bumping it up not down... I am completely torn... I hated it and I loved it. Up until about 50% through I thought about not finishing it, but I am not one to do that... So I finished it. For me, the book kind of picked up and I was able to continue... The writing was good, the storyline, well it was different... With this story line, I will not make any recommendations to read it or not to read it. I think this is a book that each person has to make t ...more
Feb 27, 2014 Jen rated it really liked it
I have to say that this type of story is not one that normally appeals to me. So, I am really surprised that I like it enough to give it 4 stars.


We start the story with Ellie finding out that she has cancer and her husband Robert is cheating on her with her best friend Carrie. Then she finds out Carrie's husband doesn't really care because he has been in love with Ellie since they met in college. Already so much drama in the first 30 pages. Almost too much for me to process. But, th
Apr 10, 2015 Marisa rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I can't begin to express how much this book disturbed me, where do I start, should it be with the immaturity of the adults and how the children show more maturity in their little fingers then the parents. Or how this was a book about polyamourse relationship then of true love, these selfish characters only new how to destroy each other's lives and other unsepecting marriages along the way as well.

Unbelievable destructive story, it's a shame because the author can write, and writes well, I just
Cathy Speight
May 14, 2016 Cathy Speight rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Chick-lit readers
I admire every single person who writes a book. I may not like the book, it may have faults, but I can’t ever take away from an author that he or she has poured out thousands of words to fulfil a dream to pen a novel. Truly admirable.

So, here’s the thing: the key word there is the ‘a’ in 'a great idea'. I can’t help thinking that this author scribbled down a number of ideas and thought, I know, I’ll put them all into one book. Result? Idea overload. (Which stretched to covers as well: I've seen
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