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Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness

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In this tour-de-force sequel to Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight, Alexandra Fuller returns to Africa with the story of her unforgettable family.

In Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness Alexandra Fuller braids a multi-layered narrative around the Happy Valley-era Africa of her mother's childhood; the grimness of her father's English childhood; and the darker, civi
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published September 13th 2011 by Random House Canada (first published January 1st 2011)
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Nov 20, 2014 Melissa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: ladies-writin
To read Fuller's books is to immerse yourself in the history of Africa, and most of it is pretty tragic and tough to fathom. It's hard to be at peace with colonialism. Fuller seems to struggle with this herself. While her mother reminisces about her Scottish ancestors, Fuller is haunted by the Tasmanian natives forced into slavery on the family's ancient estate. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to reconcile one's need to see all people as equal with an entire family history predicated on the ...more
Dec 29, 2011 Jessica rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: school
Several years ago, I read Fuller's Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight, a memoir of her young life as a white girl in Southern (NOT South) Africa, and although I don't remember the specifics, I do remember that I closed the book with a sense of history and humor, so I was pleased to see that she'd published a new book. This one, Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, does not disappoint. This time around, the author sets her sights on the experiences of her parents, especially her mother, ...more
Years ago I read Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight by Alexandra Fuller. I loved it. I have been very foolish in not picking up this book sooner. You do not need to read both, but I would highly recommend it. This is “awful book number two”, as the author’s Mom would call it. The two books are about the author’s family, their time in “Central Africa”, that is to say Kenya, Zimbabwe, Zambia and Malawi. The reason why I really love these books, and I love both of them, is that the writer talks abo ...more
Jan 29, 2012 Grburbank rated it it was amazing
Alexandra Fuller wrote of her African childhood in Don’t Lets Go to the Dogs Tonight—known afterward to her family as the “Awful Book”—and her fey mother, Nicola Fuller of Central Africa, emerged as the most memorable character. In Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, Fuller returns to that harshest of continents to chart her mother’s life and memories as a one million percent Highland Scottish woman who grew up in the perfect equatorial light of colonial Kenya, who led a hardscrabble ...more
This book is a memoir of all the good and bad and how to survive in the African wilderness.

I find myself mesmerized, enchanted, sad, elated and pondering. Most of all, it was a great read. Sometimes I hollered with laughter.

I love these quotes from the book:

"No one starts a war warning that those involved will lose their innocence - that children will definitely die and be forever lost as a result of the conflict; that the war will not end for generations and generations, even after cease-fire
Jeanette  "Astute Crabbist"
I love the title, but if I had a Tree of Forgetfulness, why then would I need a Cocktail Hour?
This book gives some insight into the wackiness of Bobo's parents, especially her mother, "Nicola Fuller of Central Africa," whom we first encountered in Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight.

I think this passage from page 125 illustrates a bit of life for the often dissolute British colonials in Africa in the mid-20th century. A horse vet named Charlie organized hunts bringing together large groups of co
Marc Weitz
Ever sat down with a friend for cocktails only to have them retell their same old stories without showing the slightest bit of interest in you? That was this book. This is the fourth book I've read from this author, which means that I've read all her books. Obviously, I've enjoyed them, or I would not have bothered reading this one. But the author rehashes many stories from her first book "Don't Lets Go to the Dogs Tonight," only this time from her parents' perspective and without the in-depth d ...more
Jan 27, 2015 Geeta rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 24-in-2015
I read DON'T LET'S GO TO THE DOGS TONIGHT many years ago, so I don't remember it well, which is probably a blessing since this book apparently covers some of the same material, only this time from Fuller's mother's point of view. Nicola Fuller is a self-absorbed narcissist prone to the "wobblies," periods of depression/manic behavior. She is also completely unapologetic about white rule in Rhodesia (Zimbabwe), where much of this book is set. It's a testament to Fuller's skill as a writer that sh ...more
Deborah Gray
Mar 20, 2012 Deborah Gray rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I normally don't read other people's reviews before I do my own, because I don't want to be influenced. I can see why I thought this was a good idea. There are too many wildly differing opinions on this book, which is about par for the number of different personalities reviewing them, but they did start to make me wonder if I was crazy to love it.

Because I did love this book. Alexandra Fuller writes beautifully with such wit and clarity that I was captivated. I didn't care that some of these st
May 23, 2012 SwensonBooks rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: jill
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Alexandra Fuller’s latest book, The Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness, continues to roam around in my imagination more than a month after I finished reading it. She is a memoirist who transports the reader to a time and place you could never otherwise know and experience it with compassion and good humor.

Even her title invites the reader to the place in the African village where people meet, talk, discuss, negotiate, laugh, drink, sing, forgi
Feb 22, 2013 Meg rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People who aren't afraid of madness or falling in love with colonialists
I am giving this book four stars, even though it is very unfair. I adored Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight and Scribbling the Cat SO MUCH (with Colton H. Bryant somewhere in the 4.5 star range) that I am giving this book a four only in comparison. I do have to say that the whole idea of the Tree of Forgetfulness itself just floored me. I mean, the actual tree. I want one of my very own. Also, I still find it amazing how Alexandra Fuller does a better job than anyone I know of writing about rac ...more
Jan 17, 2013 Edward rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
What happened to all of those whites who once lived good lives in Rhodesia and east central Africa? That is, before the civil wars of the 60's and early 70's turned the countries over to native Africans. Many left, of course, but some remained, and Fuller's book is an tribute to her parents who stayed on. It's an followup to her earlier book, DON'T LETS GO TO THE DOGS TONIGHT about her childhood growing up in this volatile environment. She married and left Africa, and returns only to visit her a ...more
Laurie Notaro
Feb 11, 2016 Laurie Notaro rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Great follow-up tp her first book. Let's Don't Go To the Dogs Tonight. I love her writing.
Jan 24, 2013 Judy rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Around-the-worlders
Recommended to Judy by: Around-the-worlders
What's to say? Another winner by Alexandra Fuller. This memoir focuses on her Mum's life from her birthplace in Scotland to her residences in Zambia, Rhodesia/Zimbabwe, Botswana and Malawi. Mum is never boring and I am convinced that Fuller could just transcribe her conversation and it would be a bestseller. Cheers! to Nicola Fuller of Central Africa.
Nov 21, 2011 Lucy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the follow up to "Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight," 2001, and like it, is about Ms. Fuller's family, primarily her mother. "Cocktail Hour..," 2011, is a perfect example of a mother and adult daughter trying to come to terms with one another. No surprise, Ms. Fuller's mother was not entirely happy with the way she was portrayed in "the awful [first] book." Who could blame her? It wasn't exactly a rousing endorsement of her mothering. She was often so wrapped up in her own mental illnes ...more
Jan 30, 2012 Sherri rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the story of Nicola Fuller the author's mother and her life in Africa. The author was enamored with her mother's life and thought it would make a good story. My problem is that I can't tell if the author is a bad writer or if her mother's life wasn't worth writing about.

At the outset the story seems worthwhile: a white woman in Africa raising children, trying to make a home in a land full of war and beauty.

Unfortunately, the author never quite gives the reader a reason to fall in love wi
This book, a prequel/sequel, continues, and in some ways completes, the first book, Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight. I fully expect and hope we have another. This book is much more reflective and reveals the author's evolving and maturing understanding of her mother. The language is beautiful and evocative, rich in imagery. Several passages are worthy of quoting.

"Whether out of desperation, ignorance, or hostility, humans have an unerring capacity to ignore one another's sacred traditions and
Oct 23, 2011 Alistair rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this but then I loved Alexandra's previous memoir of life growing up in Africa with her parents " Don't let's go to the dogs tonight ".
This a more a tribute to her mother Nicola Fuller of Central Africa . I suspect that the first book led to a rift between mother and daughter particularly as it unflinchingly reveals her excessive drinking and depressions and Nicola constantly refers to it as " That Awful Book " but this a more rounded portrait and a love letter to her parents and to Afri
Brian Sweany
Aug 13, 2012 Brian Sweany rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
In 2001 Alexandra "Bo" Fuller's DON’T LET’S GO TO THE DOGS took the publishing world by storm. It was named the Booksense Non-Fiction Book of the Year and won the Winifred Holtby Memorial Prize, hitting the bestseller lists of the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, and Boston Globe. “A classic is born,” hailed Publishers Weekly in a starred review. “This is not a book you read just once, but a tale of terrible beauty to get lost in over and over,” added Newsweek. The book has since gone on to se ...more
C.G. Worrell
While perusing the shelves of Barnes & Noble, I came across this book. The title and cover photo immediately hooked me. This memoir largely centers around the life of "Nicola Fuller of Central Africa", the eccentric mother of the author. For fifty years, we follow this pukka-pukka-sahib (most excellent mistress) and her family as political conditions and war force the Fuller's from Kenya to Rhodesia to Malawi, and finally, Zambia where they run a banana and fish farm. Nicola is clearly a hyp ...more
Apr 23, 2012 Petrina rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
While this is a fascinating, even amusing portrait of a family lead by the author’s eccentric mother Nicola, it left me wanting to know more about Rhodesia and Africa during the collapse of British colonial rule rather than more about the family. The book is a tribute to the strengths and limitations of Fuller’s parents as they lived with the complexities of being white and often poor in Rhodesia during the 70's and 80's. In my initial search, I don't see many well-reviewed books on the subjects ...more
Audra (Unabridged Chick)
I'm having such a difficult time writing this review even though I loved this book (or maybe as a result of loving it!). As a memoir/biography, it had my favorite elements: compelling individuals, a wry writing style, and a tumultuous setting in a location and era I enjoy.

I found myself describing this to friends as a kind of apology to Fuller's mother, Nicola, for Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight, Fuller's memoir of growing up in Rhodesia during the violent conflicts there. What I've read so
Sharon Huether
Dec 20, 2013 Sharon Huether rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: biography
Cocktail Hour Under The Tree of Forgetfulness.. By Alexandra Fuller.. Nicole's family came to Africa from Scotland. She met her husband in Central Africa, They lived in Kenya, Rhodesia, Zambia and England. Nicole was a free spirit and a complex person because of a chemical imbalance. A mother to five children, loseing 3 of her children under the age of three years. With all the grief she suffered, she always had courage to go on. Her husband managed farms. She was always helping him. They faced ...more
Melissa Acuna
Aug 29, 2011 Melissa Acuna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I would mortgage my soul to be able to write like Alexandra Fuller. In this beautifully written book, part memoir, part biograohy Fuller revisits the Rhodesia, Zambia of her own youth and the Africa of her mother's youth. She takes us to colonial Kenya and her mother's youth in Eldorat and seamlessly weaves her mother's memories into mini-history lessons. She moves to the gray industrial England of her Father's childhood and throws in assorted ancestral characters and eccentric living relatives. ...more
“Nicola Fuller of Central Africa holds dear to her heart the values of her clan: loyalty to blood, passion for land, death before surrender. They’re the sorts of values that lead you to kill and that get you killed, and in every important way, they were precisely the kind of stubborn tribal values that you needed if you were bound and determined to be White, and stay White, first during Kenya’s Mau Mau and later during the Rhodesian War." p. 12

About one month ago, I finished Fuller's book, Don't
May 17, 2013 Jan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Meredith Franzel
Recommended to Jan by: NPR
I absolutely loved the story, Alexandra Fuller's mother was a truly a strong, courageous and hilariously funny woman. This book is a love story of her parents and her love and pride in them. It is also a very honest memoir just like Don't Let's Us go to the Dogs Tonight. I always have loved books about Africa and this one is one of the best.
Apr 10, 2014 Antigone rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir-biography
Many readers have taken issue, in a kind of annoyed befuddlement, with the necessity of producing two memoirs covering the same period of this author's life. And while it is true that Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight: An African Childhood contains an identical chronology, one can't help but surmise such befuddlement arises solely from that portion of the readership fortunate enough to have escaped being raised by a narcissistic parent.

Alexandra Fuller is quite clear on the subject of her mothe
Paul Pessolano
Sep 14, 2011 Paul Pessolano rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
“Cocktail Hour under the Tree of Forgetfulness” by Alexandra Fuller.

Category – Biography

Alexandra Fuller led a very extraordinary life growing up in Africa with her parents and siblings. Nicola, Alexandra’s mother, who liked to be known as Nicola Fuller of Central Africa, was a unique woman. She was a courageous individual who stood by her husband and family in some very dire circumstances.

Nicola was born in Kenya and married Tim Fuller. They both were enchanted and fell deeply in love with Afri
Sep 05, 2011 Caren rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: adult-nonfiction
Ten years ago Alexandra Fuller published her first book, a piece of non-fiction about her childhood in Rhodesia as it transitioned, with lots of chaos and bloodshed, into today’s Zimbabwe. If you haven’t read that book, "Don’t Let’s Go to the Dogs Tonight", by all means, put everything down right now and grab a copy. Ms. Fuller’s mother refers to her daughter’s earlier publishing success as “that Awful Book”. We find, in this current offering, the ways in which her mother nourished and encourage ...more
Jul 17, 2012 Zietta rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Absolutely wonderful! The writing style is that of a conversation over a glass of wine with an eccentric old friend. It is such a personal tale (complimented so nicely by the inclusion of old family photos).

Alexandra writes of an African life. She so vividly describes the people, places and happenings that it feels so close to home. I commend her for giving a true unbiased description of the Afrikaners in her life. I am an Afrikaner and can honestly say that she captures the gist of a very stran
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Alexandra Fuller has written five books of non-fiction.

Her debut book, Don’t Let’s Go to the Dogs Tonight: An African Childhood (Random House, 2001), was a New York Times Notable Book for 2002, the 2002 Booksense best non-fiction book, a finalist for the Guardian’s First Book Award and the winner of the 2002 Winifred Holtby Memorial Prize.

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