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Dragonslippers: This is What an Abusive Relationship Looks Like
Rosalind B. Penfold is an appealing, successful thirty-five-year-old businesswoman running her own company when her parents, worried that she works too hard, invite her to a country picnic-party one weekend. There she meets widower Brian and is swept off her feet. Romantic and exuberant, with four loving children, Brian seems like everything a woman could possibly want, an...more
Paperback, 272 pages
Published
March 20th 2006
by Grove Press, Black Cat
(first published September 23rd 2005)
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Aug 09, 2009
Dr. Ruth Neustifter
rated it
5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
survivors of intimate partner violence, their loved ones, and outreach workers
Shelves:
intimate-partner-violence
Dragonslippers is a phenomenal illustrated novel (think of a comic book for adults) composed of art and writing that the author made during her own experience with intimate partner violence. In other words, this was her actual journal. Not only is the book deeply moving, but it will help those who wonder why they or other victims became (and remained) involved in violent and/or controlling relationships. This book offers both understanding and hope. Highly recommended for survivors and those who...more
Wooh... realiti yang mengerikan.
Awalnya kirain chicklit (karena judul terjemahannya "Love Me Better" dan covernya warna merah mawar gitu), tapi ternyata bukan sama sekali. Ada anak judulnya bahwa ini tentang kekerasan rumah tangga.
Dan tepat sekali kata penulisnya, bahwa untuk bisa 'melepasnya' (maksudnya melepas diri dari kondisi teraniaya dalam kekerasan), kita harus 'mengenali' dulu bahwa ini adalah kekerasan. Saya terbantu dengan cetakan tebal dan penyampaian visual di buku ini sehingga bisa...more
Awalnya kirain chicklit (karena judul terjemahannya "Love Me Better" dan covernya warna merah mawar gitu), tapi ternyata bukan sama sekali. Ada anak judulnya bahwa ini tentang kekerasan rumah tangga.
Dan tepat sekali kata penulisnya, bahwa untuk bisa 'melepasnya' (maksudnya melepas diri dari kondisi teraniaya dalam kekerasan), kita harus 'mengenali' dulu bahwa ini adalah kekerasan. Saya terbantu dengan cetakan tebal dan penyampaian visual di buku ini sehingga bisa...more
I found this by accident at the library today. The bright red cover and 'dragonslippers' just caught my attention while I wandered through non-fiction.
I'm glad I found it. Even though it can be read in about a half a hour and even though I first glanced through it thinking it wouldn't be for me, I was struck by how much it was "for me".
You don't have to have been in an abusive relationship to take something away from Penfold's story, you don't have to be a woman. I honestly think there aren't ma...more
I'm glad I found it. Even though it can be read in about a half a hour and even though I first glanced through it thinking it wouldn't be for me, I was struck by how much it was "for me".
You don't have to have been in an abusive relationship to take something away from Penfold's story, you don't have to be a woman. I honestly think there aren't ma...more
“Apakah kamu pernah berpikir bahwa wanita yang kuat dan asertif akan membiarkan dirinya dianiaya? Aku pun tidak, sampai aku mengalaminya sendiri.”
Begitulah Rosalind menulis di halaman-halaman pertama bukunya. Seorang wanita pintar dan menarik yang terjebak dalam kekerasan rumah tangga.
Siapa sangka Brian, pria yang Roz jatuh cintai setengah mati, duda beranak empat, yang romantis dan periang, ternyata menyimpan kekejaman dan kebohongan. Awalnya adalah kekejaman verbal, lantas emosional, seksual,...more
Begitulah Rosalind menulis di halaman-halaman pertama bukunya. Seorang wanita pintar dan menarik yang terjebak dalam kekerasan rumah tangga.
Siapa sangka Brian, pria yang Roz jatuh cintai setengah mati, duda beranak empat, yang romantis dan periang, ternyata menyimpan kekejaman dan kebohongan. Awalnya adalah kekejaman verbal, lantas emosional, seksual,...more
Sep 29, 2011
Pers
rated it
5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
All women but especially unmarried women in their 20s and 30s
Shelves:
my-comics
This should be required reading for women, especially young professionals looking to settle down. Penfold does an amazing job of showing how even a strong, mature, independent, successful woman can fall victim to an abuser. She gives us astute insight into the psychology of an abused woman--the explaining away, the excusing, the denial, the defensiveness, the self doubt--and a very clear picture of what an abusive relationship looks like from the first date to the last goodbye.
Many of the panels...more
Many of the panels...more
buku ini memberikan gambaran bagaimana seorang perempuan yang awalnya menganggap kekeeran yang dilakukan suminya merupakan bentuk kasih sayang, hingga akhirnya si perempuan merasa kosong bila tidak mengalami kekerasan dari sang suami.
saat akhirnya tersadar, si perempuan mengerti bahwa kekerasan harus dihentikan. sulit memang awalnya, namun dengan berbagai bantuan pihak lain, hatinya perlahan teguh untuk tidak lagi rela disakiti secara fisik, maupun mental.
saat akhirnya tersadar, si perempuan mengerti bahwa kekerasan harus dihentikan. sulit memang awalnya, namun dengan berbagai bantuan pihak lain, hatinya perlahan teguh untuk tidak lagi rela disakiti secara fisik, maupun mental.
Very tense reading with constantly unpleasant shocks to the system. Gives a good window into the conflicts and insecurities but also possessive and manipulative nature of the abusive male psyche. Most will prefer that the curtains had been drawn and they hadn't had to look through this particular horrifying window, but for those who see a bit of themselves in this protagonist, this book could be a lifeline. Good match of simple and occasionally child-like drawings with disturbing content, which...more
baca waktu main ke LIRshop
dan kaget, lho kok plotnya samaan kaya Tea for Two-nya Clara Ng?!
Saya langsung ngecek thn penerbitan, dan ternyata,, duluan Love Me Better :(
Kalau memang penulis Indonesia melakukan plagiarisme terhadap karya penulis luar kok nyesek ya rasanya :S
dan kaget, lho kok plotnya samaan kaya Tea for Two-nya Clara Ng?!
Saya langsung ngecek thn penerbitan, dan ternyata,, duluan Love Me Better :(
Kalau memang penulis Indonesia melakukan plagiarisme terhadap karya penulis luar kok nyesek ya rasanya :S
I was actually thinking I was reading Dragon Slippers. But I checked out DragonSlippers instead. I was surprised to find a tale told in comic book format of a normal assertive woman who got sucked into an abusive relationship. No one thinks it could happen to them, but, if it could happen to this woman, it could happen to anyone. A fast read at about 30 minutes and worth the time.
I was really surprised at this book. It is a true story, about an abused woman, but what is so different is that it is in the form of a comic book. Rosalind tells her story, about how she met this wonderful man, who turned out to be a monster. I was disappointed when I first saw it was a "comic book", but read it last night and couldn't put it down. Highly recommended.
Grim tale with grim illustrations, although seeing as it was drawn as a diary and if what was drawn is true then the author probably wasn't in the right frame of mind to be producing Shaun Tan style pictures.
One part of the book I have trouble beliving is true though and if you've read it I assume you will know which part and most probably agree. No way did it happen.
One part of the book I have trouble beliving is true though and if you've read it I assume you will know which part and most probably agree. No way did it happen.
This book was interesting. I really enjoyed the illustrations. I thought they put a very interesting take on things. I enjoyed seeing the subject of abuse described in this way. I felt bad that the children had to remain with their abusive father. I felt bad that Roz didn't do anything to help them out of that situation in any way.
Powerful illustrated novel about domestic abuse and how insidious and gradual it is. I borrowed this book from the library of a women's organisation I volunteer with and the most striking part was getting to the end and seeing how many women had signed the book as Rosalind B. Penfold.
kerasa banget kejujuran tentang kisah kehidupannya, tidak ada yang mesti ditutupi. Alur kehidupan nyata nya ia tuangkan dengan segera, melalui ilustrasi. Tak ada waktu membuat sebuah karya tulis dalam keadaan seperti itu..benar2 jujur penuangan karya penulisannya^^.
Kenapa seorang wanita bisa begitu mencintai dan mempercayai pria yang sudah jelas jelas menyakitinya? bahkan sampai bertahun tahun? heran..apa memang orang orang yang menderita Syndrom Stockholm begitu? entahlah..belum pernah nemuin sih >.<
Apr 12, 2012
Edmund Davis-Quinn
rated it
3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
Counselors, those in abusive relationships
Shelves:
library
This book did a good job capturing what the abused thinks about.
I found it ok, not great. The animation reminded me of brochures about thinks like abuse or drugs you see at schools.
Good at what it is trying to be. ***
I found it ok, not great. The animation reminded me of brochures about thinks like abuse or drugs you see at schools.
Good at what it is trying to be. ***
Powerful, sad, and an insightful look inside an abusive relationship. Feel like this could be very helpful to have at women's shelters, etc.
Judul yang sedemikian panjang itu telah mencakup seluruh isi buku ini. Yang jelas, jika dia menyakitimu berarti dia tidak mencintaimu!
I could not put the book down once I started reading it. An insightful story for anyone touched by domestic violence.
menceritakan kisah yang complicated, susahnya menjadi seseorang wanita yang mempunyai suami yang tidak menghargainya.
Jan 09, 2008
Gabrielle
rated it
5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
teen girls
Recommended to Gabrielle by:
library find
This is an amazing, creatively produced book in graphic novel style that details what it's like to be in an abusive relationship. It's based on the author's actual experience (names changed). Very easy reading (under an hour), but it gets to the heart of the issue and allows the reader to really experience and understand the situation so much more powerfully and realistically than simply reading about it in the standard way.
I highly recommend this book not only for adults, but especially for tee...more
I highly recommend this book not only for adults, but especially for tee...more
Jedna z najważniejszych książek w moim życiu.
Dziękuję za nią.
Rosalind B. Penfold
Dziękuję za nią.
Rosalind B. Penfold
Easy Read, comic style. Sometimes difficult to follow.
This book is telling us a story about the life of a woman who often beaten by her husband. Her husband often calling her names and makes her believe that she is bad and worthless.
She finally finds her way out of her misery and her message to other women is that women should be brave in making decision about their live, especially when their life depends on it. Don't hesitate to make changes, believe in yourself and let's not let man hit you, beat you or harrass you with their words or act.
Every...more
She finally finds her way out of her misery and her message to other women is that women should be brave in making decision about their live, especially when their life depends on it. Don't hesitate to make changes, believe in yourself and let's not let man hit you, beat you or harrass you with their words or act.
Every...more
Powerful, difficult, rife with insight.
15.00
I loved this book! Written in a picture-book format, this book was an easy-read, but also very poignant and informative. She uses pictures that she herself drew in response to her abusive relationship. I loved how she took a really heavy, serious issue and made it so approachable. This book certainly gave me a lot to reflect on in my own life.
I contacted the author online, because she gave her web site url in the book and welcomes comments, and she was really nice!
I contacted the author online, because she gave her web site url in the book and welcomes comments, and she was really nice!
This was a really cool way to get people to read about abusive relationships. Loved the cartoons which made it easy to read and follow. Although a bit elementary, the subject being so emotionally difficult, somehow seemed appropriate. I had someone in mind reading this book. I wish I could get her to read it. Looks like a novel, but the cartoons read like a comic book--Quick. Can pick up and finish in one sitting!
This book really helped me in the past, definately reccommend for anyone. It provides both insight into what being in an abusive relationship is like, and may help you to spot some of the warning signs, but also is a very good read for anyone who is in or has been in an abusive relationship, as it helps to make you realize that you are not alone, and more to the point that you don't have to live like this....
This is a possibly triggering book.
I was in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship over 15 years ago, but this book stirred up a lot of feelings associated with that relationship after all this time.
This book ends with the positive message that people in abusive relationships can get out, get on with their lives, and heal. However, reading everything up to that message was pretty hard.
I was in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship over 15 years ago, but this book stirred up a lot of feelings associated with that relationship after all this time.
This book ends with the positive message that people in abusive relationships can get out, get on with their lives, and heal. However, reading everything up to that message was pretty hard.
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Rosalind B. Penfold is a pseudonym of a woman who told her true story about abusive relationship in her graphic memoir. According to her, "I have chosen a pseudonym because there are many 'Rosalinds' and I was just one of them."
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