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Preview — It's Hard Not to Hate You by Valerie Frankel
It's Hard Not to Hate You
From the author of THIN IS THE NEW HAPPY comes a hilarious new memoir about embracing your Inner Hater. In the midst of a health and career crisis, Valerie uncorks years of pent up rage, and discovers you don't have to be happy to be happy. You don’t have to love everyone else to like yourself. And that your Bitchy Twin might just be your funniest, most valuable and hone
There are moments of goodness to be found: stories with lessons, the underdog sticking it to the arch enemy, or overcoming personal and professional challenges. But between them are random sidetracked and long-winded thoughts, an unhealthy dose of jealousy and insecurity, raunchy (not funny) interjections and a complete lack of direction. The ...more
All her life Valerie kept her anger inside, she just kind of bit her tongue when dealing with rude people. Which is fine at times, but she was doing this so much that the anger and resentment just kept building up inside her and preventing her from being happy.
In her early forties, married with two children, successful as a writer, Valerie ...more
I really enjoyed the author's sense of humor and writing style. This is not the type of book that I normally read so it was a nice departure for me. However, I was turned off about 3/4 of the way through the book by the constant snarking at other people. Granted, this book IS called It's Hard Not to Hate You so I suppose snarking is a given but I simply got tired of it, especially the chapter about kids and parenting. It is ...more
I have a hard time trying to decide whether I like this book or not.
At times I liked what the author had to say and could relate totally to what she was saying. But at other times I just wanted to say, "Just get over it!" For the author this book must have been quite cathartic to write, but there were times she went off on tangents that could have been left out.
I honestly did not find any humor in her humor. Trust me, I got the joke - I ...more
I was impressed by the frank writing of Frankel (no pun intended) and found myself relating to a lot of the things she wrote about. From being an always chubby individual to quietly seething hatred for those with that snobby, mightier than thou attitudes. Her humor of everyday frustrating situations makes it very relatable and enjoyable.
There were parts of the memoi ...more
The cover & title alone had me truth be told. I honestly think there is something,
in this book at each of us can relate to. I highly recommend giving this a read
The book was not what I expected at all. I thought it would be some frou-frou tongue-in-cheek faux "memoir"...and while it's sort-of written like one, it teaches some great lessons along the way about friends, love, and success. It's a humorous quest of self-realization that I really identified with, especiall ...more
The fact that it's a memoir probably goes a long way to explaining why the 'plot' wasn't more obvious: Your life only has a discernible plot if you've done a whole lot of editing, and possibly outright lying.
Faced with a dramatic health crisis, Frankel decides to 'unleash her ...more
Overall, I truly enjoyed this book. The best part about Frankel's voice (as you can probably tell from the title) is that this story is all about being honest with yourself and saying the things that you're really thinking (and let's face it, we're all thinking it as well). I loved that she comes out and says what we all want to say and lets consequence lie where it must. If I had ha ...more
This is not your typical chronological memoir, but rather a collection of stories adhering to the universal theme of this book. The author gets you to laugh with her, to cry with her, and to see yourself in similar situations. I found the memoir to be both humorous and sentimental.
Frankel describes being an o ...more
Frankel is honest, wry, and bold in ways I sometimes want to be but ca ...more
The premise is simple. Frankel was told by her d ...more
This is the story of Frankel's attitude change after learning that she has had cancer, and is likely to have cancer again. She writes that she has been quietly resentful -- a "closet hater" -- for most of her life, and is now ready to be more honest with the world. It's sometimes funny, and rings true in a lot of places, but it's also...really mundane. The author is no everywoman -- her career ...more
I really enjoyed Valerie Frankel's new memoir. I don't know why, but I enjoy reading stories of others' real-life woes. I suppose it is because it makes me forget about my own. Thumbs up for that!
Valerie Frankel decided that, at age twelve, she was not going to let anyone see her negative emotions. Give the proverbial "poker face" to the world. She soon finds out that bottling these emotions has turned her into a stressed out, ...more
I feel sometimes similar to the author's experiences. I also ended up with few friends and rarely do things with them which is probably mostly my fault.
It's an odd mix of emotions in the book. Sometimes the author feels like she needs to bottle everything up and other times lets it loose completely. I don't agree with some of the sentiments like "you're allowed to be a bitch if someone's being rude to you". I find it much better to just ignore them ...more
I did have some trouble at times figuring out whether she was writing in "the present" or "the past" because she writes about both and switches freely from one to the other. This was just a minor distraction, however, as I was always able to sort t ...more