false http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1181100926m/1113115.jpg 123732 3 Less against love than against the cultural constraints that leads us to create wrong-headed ideas of love, this is book is the perfect antidote to any lingering social guilt about being happily single. <I>Against Love: A Polemic</I> will both shock and irritate, especially when you find yourself nodding your head in agreement while laughing at another broken taboo. Laura Kipnis (author of <I>Bound and Gagged</I>, <I>Ecstasy Unlimited</I>) clearly enjoyed writing this; she lets her wit run rampage over classic married situations and human emotions with results that include comparing adulterers to freedom fighters (using sharpened spoons to tunnel out from under love's barbed wire fences) and referring to tearful confessions of cheating as "funny little couple rituals." These make it fun, but the iconoclastic beauty is in her questions. How did good relationships come to be considered work instead of play? Why, unlike most of history and many other modern cultures, do Americans assume love and marriage go hand-in-hand? What lead to infidelity committed by public figures becoming a source of outrage? Kipnis doesn't have answers. Although urging us to have more compassion for our own desires, she expects her readers are smart enough to supply their own in response to her ideas. That attitude itself is a treat--if you're prepared to keep up through a complex whirlwind of Freud, Marx, Gingrich, Wollstonecraft, and several generations of pop culture. <I>Jill Lightner</I> 343604 2003 Against Love: A Polemic total:332|5:67|4:125|3:83|2:37|1:20| 332 1178 581 90 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 5 6 false Thu May 10 23:41:46 -0700 2007 Thu May 10 23:42:37 -0700 2007
"You can't leave the house without saying where you're going. You can't not say what time you'll return. You can't stay out past midnight, or eleven, or ...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 3 4 false Sat Sep 01 00:00:00 -0700 2007 Sun Oct 21 14:06:26 -0700 2007 Sun Oct 21 14:19:10 -0700 2007 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 3 2 false Sat Mar 14 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Wed Nov 12 12:52:54 -0800 2008 Sat Mar 14 15:50:58 -0700 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 2 2 false Mon May 01 00:00:00 -0700 2006 Sat Sep 08 12:40:29 -0700 2007 Sat Sep 08 12:40:29 -0700 2007 well. It's fil...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 4 1 false Mon Oct 01 00:00:00 -0700 2007 Sun Oct 14 13:13:41 -0700 2007 Tue Oct 16 11:12:26 -0700 2007
Barf.

He then wrote me a note with his name and workplace, and told me to stop by somet...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 3 0 false Wed Aug 20 00:00:00 -0700 2003 Tue Nov 10 10:20:53 -0800 2009 Tue Nov 10 10:20:53 -0800 2009 Against Love: A Polemic. Kipnis says in a preface that her arguments are meant to be taken in a contrarian spirit, but I think that arguments made as the devil's advocate must still be coherent arguments--a cri...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 5 0 false Mon Sep 21 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Wed Sep 23 23:26:55 -0700 2009 Wed Sep 23 23:44:03 -0700 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 2 0 true Fri Jul 10 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Sat Jul 11 10:45:57 -0700 2009 Sat Jul 11 10:51:18 -0700 2009 more...]]> 1113115 0375421890 9780375421891 47 10 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1181100926m/1113115.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1113115.Against_Love_A_Polemic 2 0 false Sat Feb 28 00:00:00 -0800 2009 Sat Feb 28 20:48:29 -0800 2009 Tue Mar 03 18:53:04 -0800 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 3 0 false Sun May 10 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Tue May 05 13:03:18 -0700 2009 Sun May 10 22:51:03 -0700 2009
In one funny section, the author writes "a brief sample of answers to the simple question: 'What can't you do because you're in a couple?'...
You can't lea...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 5 0 false Fri Mar 27 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Tue Mar 31 07:00:11 -0700 2009 Tue Mar 31 07:31:00 -0700 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 3 1 false Wed Nov 25 00:00:00 -0800 2009 Tue Dec 01 15:03:43 -0800 2009 Tue Dec 01 15:09:32 -0800 2009 'Would you please stop doing that.'"

Mmmmmm . . . as dark and bitter as a 70 percent cacao bar. I wouldn't want to consume a stea...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 4 0 false Sat Sep 26 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Sat Aug 22 09:35:17 -0700 2009 Sat Sep 26 09:44:50 -0700 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 3 0 false Sun Jun 14 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Thu May 07 18:03:58 -0700 2009 Sun Jun 14 09:40:43 -0700 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 2 0 false Wed Jun 10 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Thu Apr 23 15:05:42 -0700 2009 Wed Jun 10 09:41:16 -0700 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 4 0 false Wed Sep 09 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Tue Jun 30 14:47:40 -0700 2009 Wed Sep 09 07:53:22 -0700 2009 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 5 0 false Wed Feb 01 00:00:00 -0800 2006 Fri Oct 10 07:42:24 -0700 2008 Sat Nov 29 08:37:27 -0800 2008 twice all about love by bell hooks. i wonder if it would have been possible for me to read two more contrasting books. billed as a pelimic, this book takes a very uncompromising stand against love, as it exists in its current incarnation as the force that compels people...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 4 0 false Sat Aug 18 08:01:21 -0700 2007 Thu Oct 04 06:25:05 -0700 2007 more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 5 0 false Thu Apr 09 10:19:52 -0700 2009 Thu Apr 09 10:25:30 -0700 2009
Pages 84-92 are worth the price of admission: "What can't you do because you...more...]]> 123732 0375719326 9780375719325 285 80 3.55 http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171862273m/123732.jpg http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123732.Against_Love_A_Polemic 2 0 false Sun May 03 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Wed Apr 29 05:18:40 -0700 2009 Sun May 03 11:32:09 -0700 2009 more...]]> http://www.goodreads.com/book_link/follow/8?book_id=1113115