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Where You Left Me
Lucky—that’s how Jennifer would describe herself. She had a successful law career, met the love of her life in Doug, married him, had an apartment in New York City, a house in the Hamptons, two beautiful children, and was still madly in love after nearly seven years of marriage. Jennifer was living the kind of idyllic life that clichés are made of.
Until Doug was killed in...more
Until Doug was killed in...more
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published
August 30th 2011
by Gallery Books
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They say you can't judge a book by it's cover. Wrong. I chose this book solely by its cover and knew it would be a story that grabbed my heart. This is for anyone who has ever lost someone they love, or someone who fears losing someone they love, or someone who remembers September 11th, or just someone, anyone. If it were a novel, it would probably be cheesy and cliche, but it's not; it's one woman's real story of tremendous, earth-shattering loss, and ultimate redemptive ending. I devoured this...more
This book attracted my attention with it's interesting title and touching cover photo. I don't know Jennifer, but I suspect she captured experience of 9-11 pretty accurately. I heard the voice of a metropolitan-minded, wealthy, young woman throughout the book. I have to admit that so many times in the book, I wanted her to be more more down to earth, more common, more faith-filled and spiritually rich, but that obviously wouldn't reflect the lifestyle she leads.
Her struggle to bridge her past a...more
Her struggle to bridge her past a...more
Like other reviewers I found myself sometimes in disbelief at her wealth and lack of financial worry after Doug's murder. Yes, even recoiling from it a little, even though I liked Jennifer. It's not the typical experience for most of the 9/11 victims' families. It felt tasteless and shallow of her to be so open about her wealth... fancy restaurants, hotels, a Central Park West apartment. However, it is her life, her book, her experience. To self-censor herself would be to compromise the integrit...more
I admire Jennifer Gardner Trulson for her courage and for her ability to move on with her life after her husband's tragic death on 9/11. But she did have a number of important things going for her. First, she and her husband were very wealthy. They lived in an apartment on Central Park West. They were able to send their children to private schools. They were involved with numerous charities, and she and her late husband chaired an event. (You can't do that unless you are a large donor.) Her husb...more
This was an emotional book. After all, it is about 9/11. I am not sure I would say I enjoyed it but it was a very interesting read.
Jennifer is indeed very lucky. Yes, her first husband dies in 9/11 and that is heartbreaking in and of itself but she had tons of support. She wasn't hurting financially, her parents moved in to help her out and she met and remarried another great guy. She has a nanny, has a house in Hamptons and an Upper Westside apartment and yet with all this, I didn't feel like...more
Jennifer is indeed very lucky. Yes, her first husband dies in 9/11 and that is heartbreaking in and of itself but she had tons of support. She wasn't hurting financially, her parents moved in to help her out and she met and remarried another great guy. She has a nanny, has a house in Hamptons and an Upper Westside apartment and yet with all this, I didn't feel like...more
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What makes this memoir stand out over all the others is that Jennifer has a unique perspective to share with us. Her husband Doug was not only colleagues with Cantor-Fitzgerald Chairman & CEO Howard Lutnick, but they were best friends & Howard is the Godfather of Doug and Jennifer's children. For those of you who do not know, Howard was villainized by the media in the days and weeks following 9/11 for certain financial decisions that he made. Jenni...more
What makes this memoir stand out over all the others is that Jennifer has a unique perspective to share with us. Her husband Doug was not only colleagues with Cantor-Fitzgerald Chairman & CEO Howard Lutnick, but they were best friends & Howard is the Godfather of Doug and Jennifer's children. For those of you who do not know, Howard was villainized by the media in the days and weeks following 9/11 for certain financial decisions that he made. Jenni...more
I knew going into this book, it would be an interesting one. I mean this in a good way. I was not wrong. In fact, I liked this more than I could predict. Mrs. Gardner Trulson did a great job of showing who Doug; her husband was, in the brief moments that he was in the book. Sadly, Doug lost his life in the September 11th attack on the twin towers. I can remember this day and what I was doing. I will remember this one moment that just really made it all real for me. I was driving home from school...more
Memoir from a 9/11 widow published for the 10th anniversary of the attacks. This focuses less on the man who passed and more on how his widow endeavors to move on. She spends the first few chapters talking about their relationship and I really related to this opening, particularly a marriage so easy she says it’s “like breathing.” This is how I feel about mine and it’s not too often you hear the sentiment so I appreciated the depth and power of their bond. (Note to my daughters: see, marriage do...more
This was the fifth in a series of memoirs that I've been reading for ELLE Magazine, and I admit, I'm suffering from second-hand-personal-tragedy fatigue. That said, I tried to be kind to this book, but I sincerely believe that, unless you have something new to say, or a new way to present universal truths, please don't write a book about it. And for God's sake, don't be disingenuous about your circumstances! Jennifer Gardner Trulson lives a privileged life, and it's annoying when she tries to do...more
This is a memoir about the author's experience losing her husband in the 9/11 attacks, trying to then raise two young children on her own, and eventually dating someone but struggling to reconcile the past, present, and future.
I found the story compelling and interesting, although it wasn't nearly as emotional as it could have been. I think the book was the most moving at the parts where she worries about how her new boyfriend will fit in the life she's created and whether she's letting anyone...more
I found the story compelling and interesting, although it wasn't nearly as emotional as it could have been. I think the book was the most moving at the parts where she worries about how her new boyfriend will fit in the life she's created and whether she's letting anyone...more
While I loved the book- quite honestly the author bugged me. She made it very clear throughout the book she led a very privileged life. It hurts my heart that her husband died and while that is one of the worst tragedies one can live through she wasn't affected in any other part of her life. She still had mega bucks and her two houses, a nanny and an endless support of friends and family. I have read other books about other women that lost husbands on 9/11 and connected with them so much more in...more
3 and a half stars. The author writes with honesty and self awareness. There are very poignant moments throughout the book. She knew the moment her husband died in the tower because she "couldn't feel him any more." 911 reports confirmed he had died right as she felt this. Learning of her older son, who was five when he lost his father, struggle with The Bad Things, was also very real and sad. Off and on throughout the book, I felt like the author was incredibly lucky, which is a strange thing t...more
The publishing world no doubt scrambled to find and publish 9/11 related material to coincide with the ten-year anniversary of the attacks in New York and Washington, D.C. After finishing this memoir, however, I remain uncertain as to why the author sought its publication. Was it designed to inspire others facing loss to retain hope for the future? Is it a manual for navigating the grieving process? A testament to her personal tragedy and resilience? Or perhaps its main goal was to memorialize h...more
An emotional rollercoaster that takes you from the past before the event that not only shook the United States, but also Jennifer Gardner's world to the present day (I will not spoil this heartwrenching story for you one bit). I did everything from laughing to sobbing while reading this book and I may be an emotional wall to wreck because I rarely sob during a movie or while reading a book. This one touched me to the core and made me think about how we as a country and some individuals were fore...more
A book of grief and recovery, and happiness and hope after deep sadness. Written by a young 9/11 widow, it describes on a very personal level the impact of the day itself, its aftermath and the process of recovery and moving on (in the author's case into a happy second marriage).
I hate to say this because of the tragic nature of this book, but I found the author annoying. She comes across as a certain type of woman, the archetypal NYC wealthy wife with a designer wardrobe and limitless funds. Sh...more
I hate to say this because of the tragic nature of this book, but I found the author annoying. She comes across as a certain type of woman, the archetypal NYC wealthy wife with a designer wardrobe and limitless funds. Sh...more
This is a beautiful book by the wife of the late Douglas Gardner whose office at Cantor Fitzgerald was on the 105th floor of the north tower of the World Trade Center on 9-11. The first half of the memoir recalls the tragedy of that day and the grief the author shared with her children and with many other employees' families from her husband's firm. Her personal experiences will bring back memories for many readers who, like myself, have "lost" a spouse over the years. I almost didn't keep readi...more
I finished this book in two days, through more than a few tears. Reading it close to the tenth anniversary of 9/11 gives new meaning to the hole in the sky where the towers once stood now being filled again by the 104-story new One World Trade tower. I did not personally know anyone killed on 9/11 but this book made me feel as though I did. It's an easy read, and the author does have extraordinary resources to help her in her grief (financial and emotional with a large circle of great friends an...more
I have read a couple of 9/11 books recently and it does not getting any easier! This book was written by a 9/11 widow for the 10th anniversary of the attack. It is well written and moving. It is interesting to read the similarities between widows, and also the differences. This woman was married to a senior VP of Cantor Fitzgerald, the company who lost the most people in the attacks. Their best friends were the CEO of Cantor Fitzgerald and his wife. As a widow, she was financially stable and abl...more
I'm surprised at the number of reviews I see that say something along the lines of "Yes this was tragic BUT...she had money and friends etc. etc." What I took from the book was that while, yes she had resources, it was the heart wrenching lost that she was flatten by and wasn't sure she'd get through. The most touching lines in the book for me were when she said to her sister, "I just want it to be a year from now." because she didn't think she'd make it through and just wanted the time to go by...more
I have read several 9-11 books written by people devastated by this tragedy and this book, by far was the worst one I read. Jennifer is so in love with herself, the entire book is about me, me, me. The author has a nanny for her kids, plenty of money that includes building a house in the Hampton's (even if it is on the wrong side of the beach according to her) and even enough money to buy a Valentino dinner bag! She loves to name-drop and talk about the "trendy" places she eats and shops. Jennif...more
The September 11, 2001 attacks on the World Trade Center took their single greatest toll on the financial-services firm Cantor Fitzgerald, which lost more than 600 employees. Jennifer Gardner’s husband Doug was a senior executive at Cantor, and was on the 105th floor of the WTC when the planes hit. In a few hours on one late-summer morning, the world changed for everyone, but it changed for hundreds of families in a very specific way.
Abruptly widowed at thirty-five and left with two small childr...more
Abruptly widowed at thirty-five and left with two small childr...more
Just finished this book. The writing was fine, not complicated, not difficult to follow. And, I appreciated the author's honesty about her experiences, feelings & emotions after her husband's horrific death, but like others, I found that I really could not relate to her. I don't think she honestly understands how different her life is from so many women. Maybe it's the East Coast vs. West Coast experience. I just could not relate to her at all, no matter how hard I tried.
At the end of the bo...more
At the end of the bo...more
September 11, 2001 is a date no American will forget. This book is a memoir written by the wife of one of the men working on floor 105 at Cantor Fitzgerald who died on that day. She goes into detail about how she first learned of the attacks and the aftermath. We as Americans all felt the loss, but hearing in her own words about what she felt was tough. After she all she lost the man she loved. I was in tears and going through tissues. It's hard to put yourself out there and she laid it all out...more
I really liked how Derek made sure he communicated how he wasn't there to replace Doug in Michael and Julia's lives. The fact that he asked for Doug's parents blessing to marry Jennifer was amazing. I also liked how he respected Jennifer throughout her grieving proces by never forcing her to rush her healing. He stood by her through times that would be difficult for anyone.
I liked how Jennifer described her grief as a process that was ongoing and not something that we just "get over."
Truly an...more
I liked how Jennifer described her grief as a process that was ongoing and not something that we just "get over."
Truly an...more
I had only just turned six when 9/11 occurred. I was in first grade, and just as it is for most young children, everything in my world was black and white so to say. Evil and good where separated easily, and I was wrapped in my own little safe cocoon based on my age alone. While 9/11 did not directly affect me in any ways, I would be lying to say the world and lives of every US citizen did not change in a variety of small and huge ways because of it.
Jennifer Garden Trulson and her family are on...more
Jennifer Garden Trulson and her family are on...more
I enjoy autobiographies and the fact that this was about one woman's raw journey from 911 peaked my interest. Jennifer did an amazing job talking about not only her love for her husband but how lost she felt the day 911 happened. I appreciated the fact that she was honest about her feelings and allowed us all into feeling the emptiness, but we too were able to cheer with her when she was starting to heal. This book teaches you to never apologize for how you feel when you lose the one you love, b...more
as most of us were, I was glued to all media when the the unthinkable disaster blew our veils of safety away. I've been intrigued with how those directly affected have moved on and survive today. This is the true, heartbreaking story of love, loss, and finding love again. Anyone who has ever lost the love of their life will find comfort in how Jennifer finds happiness again while keeping the memory of her beloved Doug with her forever. Her story is devastating but warm and fuzzy at the same time...more
I thoroughly enjoyed this book and found it to be an inspirational story of a woman, and a nation, in grief. I'm disappointed to read other reviews that criticize the author and the privileged lifestyle she led, as if it made the tragedy of 9/11 any easier. Yes, it's true she was financially fortunate and had a wonderful support system, but loss and grief don't care about the balance in the bank account. She recognized her financial situation throughout her story and shared her experience in a w...more
This is the second 9/11 book that I have read. (Let's Roll was the first one). Even though we come from different social classes and religious backgrounds, love, pain and loss are universal. Jennifer's story is a heart-wrenching one filled with love and loss but also healing and joy. Although I cried thru most of the book, I also found myself smiling and laughing. Her writing lets you take a walk in her shoes. Wow! It was an emotional trip. (Even now I am struggling with the words and this revie...more
We all know I love memoirs and this one is no exception. It was recommended to me by a family friend who recently lost his wife to cancer. I read the whole book today. It was so touching and really made me look into my life. This is her first book but you'd never guess that. She is funny and witty and well spoken. I cried through most of the book....I can't imagine anyone who wouldn't. It's the perfect book for someone who suffers a tragic, unexpected loss. It makes you realize that life does go...more
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