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The 3rd Alternative: Solving Life's Most Difficult Problems

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From the multimillion-copy bestselling author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People—hailed as the #1 Most Influential Business Book of the Twentieth Century—The 3rd Alternative introduces a breakthrough approach to conflict resolution and creative problem solving.

One of Time magazine’s 25 most influential Americans, Dr. Stephen R. Covey has helped millions transform t
Hardcover, 456 pages
Published October 4th 2011 by Free Press (first published January 1st 2011)
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Ahmed Almawali

أنهيت للتو رائعة رائد التنمية البشرية ستيفن كوفي، الذي ذاع صيته من كتابه الشهير العادات السبع للناس الأكثر فعاليه، هذا الكتاب طويل يناهز 500 صفحة كما ذكرت في تعليق سابق، وكل الحديث عن فكرة واحدة، تعاد وتكرر ويسهب الحديث فيها ألا وهي دائما التفكير بأسلوب غير نمطي، لا أن تحل المشكلة وتفكر فيها بين بديلين لا ثالث لهما، يعني لسنا نحن في مقابل هم ، علينا ان نقول ماذا علينا أن نفعل.
الفصول التالية لمقدمة الكتاب والتي شرحت بإسهاب المهادلة التالية: انا ارى نفسي بتمعن بعيد عن برمجة سابقة، وأنا أرى الآخر
Apr 20, 2012 Lance rated it it was amazing
Covey's latest book is simply a masterpiece. I was wondering where he could possibly go after writing The 8th Habit, which led me to conclude that Covey had taken the next level up from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. How could he possibly outdo that book?

Well, he's done it. He's taken what he did with 7 Habits and The 8th Habit and knocked his game up not just to the next level but several levels higher. This book is pure transformation waiting to happen. Covey unfolds how the principl
Mohamed Mayoof
Jun 11, 2016 Mohamed Mayoof rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
مراجعة كتاب ( البديل الثالث )
المؤلف : ستيفن كوفي
عدد الصفحات : ٤٨٦

تتضمن معظم الصراعات طرفين ، فالبديل الأول هو طريقي ، والبديل الثاني هو طريقك . ويمكننا من خلال البديل الثالث (التعاون الإبداعي) صناعة (طريقنا) وهو طريق أرقى لكلينا وأفضل لحل الصراع .

استطاع المؤلف اقناع القارئ بفكرة البديل الثالث وقد اعطى نماذج وقصص حقيقية وقعت وشهد لها النجاح باستخدام مفهوم البديل الثالث بعد أن ظن طرفي الصراع أن لا حل إلا بالمحاكم .

الخطوات الأربع للتعاون الإبداعي :
1. طرح سؤال البديل الثالث : هل لدينا الاستعداد لل
Oct 12, 2016 Fatema rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
كتاب البديل الثالث
المؤلف: ستيفن كوفي
عدد الصفحات: 486 صفحة
التقييم: 5 نجوم

من الصراع للسلام
من المشاكل للحلول
و من الاختلاف للتفاهم

عبر استراتيجية البديل الثالث التي يشرحها ستيفن بدايةً و من ثم يردف تدريبات عملية تطبيقية لتعلمها بعد كل فصل من فصول الكتاب و تلك الفصول كلٌ منها يمثّل ميداناً لمعترك الحياة.

اقتباسٌ في ذلك: "ثمة طريقة لحل أصعب المشاكل التي تواجهنا بما فيها تلك التي تبدو مستعصية على الحل. ثمة طريقة لاجتياز كل مآزق الحياة، و الانقسامات العميقة فيها، ثمة طريقة للأمام و ليست هذه الطريقة هي ال
Jan 15, 2012 Lanier rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone who feels fed up with black-and-white conflicts
Covey continues his Seven Habits and expands on overcoming all conflicts and "false dilemmas" with four step processes of better understanding the other in order to understand yourself. Empathic Listening and agreeing to respect one another no matter how adamant you were in your position in order to rise to a higher, better 3rd Alternative.

These are only a portion of the highlights:

“The demand for fairness can be the enemy of trust. Mutual trust is founded [up]on reciprocity, which req
Jay Connor
Jan 21, 2012 Jay Connor rated it liked it
Covey has done a lot of good. His "Seven Habits" is THE self-improvement primer to a successful life. The habit -- begin with the end in mind -- is at the root of all of my "Working Differently" efforts.

"The 3rd Alternative" could have been so much more. I think Covey is right to try to modernize the Hegelian philosophy of thesis-antithesis-hypothesis. Though he fails to mention or credit Hegel, there is a powerful need in today's polarized debate to insert this leaven of humility. That, in fac
Oct 05, 2011 Wendy rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one of the most important books I've ever read, and it couldn't have come out at a better time. So grateful to Stephen Covey for sharing his wisdom, for rising above the nonsense and for trying to make a huge difference in our world.
Daniel Taylor
Jul 31, 2011 Daniel Taylor rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone who needs to solve conflicts
Recommended to Daniel by: Publicist at Simon & Schuster
For readers familiar with the 7 Habits, this book delves deeply into Habit 6: Synergize. I won't post a review now because it won't be published until 4 October, 2011.
Feb 23, 2017 John rated it really liked it
Stephen Covey provides us with a theoretical model on how to effectively collaborate with other people. Covey focuses on the practical application of business theory. Covey also lists many examples in business and politics throughout this book to make his points.
Mar 01, 2013 Carol rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
By the author of "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People," "The Third Alternative advocates synergy as a win-win strategy that is superior to compromise or arbitration or compromise in resolving differences of opinion. One of the best of current self-help authors, Stephen Covey is a master at extracting useful ideas from other writers and presenting them in useful, easily-recalled formulas and equations as an aid to personal and group problem-solving.

The "third alternative" is a proposed way of
المدرب محمد الملا
أبدع ستيفن ر. كوفي تأليف هذا الكتاب الذي أصنفه شخصياً ضمن قائمة الكتب التي لا بد من قرائتها، لقد أجاد الكاتب صياغة الفكرة، وأجاد طرحها في الكتاب بدأً من إستعراض مبدأ وآلية التعاون الإبداعي مروراً بتطبيقات هذه الفكرة على عدة مجالات حياتية حساسة ومهمة وإنتهاءاً بالوصايا العشرين التي تساعد على جعل الشخص قادراً أكثر على القيام بالتعاون الإبداعي

أمامنا جميعاً خيارات محدودة في تعاطينا مع بعضنا البعض،
فإما الصراع مع بعضنا البعض
وإما الإنزواء عن بعضنا البعض،
وإما التعاون ..
وإذا كان التعاون هو الخيار فلي
May 17, 2013 سارة rated it it was amazing
كتابة ريفيو عن الكتاب صعبة جدا بجد
لانه كتاب عميق جدا
وإن كان يؤخذ عليه الإسهاب والتطويل إلا إن عمق الفكرة يتطلب الإسهاب

أعجبتني كثيرا القصص الملهمة والمقولات أيضا الملهمة جدا

((إنني لست مجرد "التوجه الذي أتبناه في أي جدال، فأنا كإنسان أكبر من مجموع تحيزاتي وتحزباتي وتصوراتي. أفكاري لا تحددها بصورة حصرية عائلتي ولا الثقافة التي أعيش فيها ولا الشركة التي أعمل بها))

((إنني لست مجرد كتلة صغيرة أنانية من الشكوى من أن العالم لا يناصر طريقتي في التفكير، فأنا أستطيع أن أنفصل عقليا عن نفسي، وأقيم مدى تأثير
May 17, 2012 Bart-Jan rated it really liked it
I think the world will be a better place if everyone has read this book. Although I would credit The Harvard Negotiation Project ("Getting to Yes") most for their work on principle based negotiation, Covey takes the concept of negotiating and solving conflicts to a new and higher level. The book gives great examples and hands-on tips. For example, a good opening question is: "are you prepared to work together with me on a better solution than you and I have come up individually?"
Sep 20, 2013 Amjad rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
لو قرأت هذا الكتاب بشكل كامل وطبقته بصدق في حياتك ، لوجدت الحل لكل مشاكلك في الحياة.

ليس المهم من تطبق معه البديل الثالث ان يكون مطلعا على الكتاب، لكن المهم ان تستطيع انو توصل له فكرة البديل الثالث وان تعمل معه بجدية لإيجاد طريقة أفضل من التي كانت في رأسك او في رأسه

كتاب رائع انصح الجميع بقرائته
سامي سيداحمد العسكري

أنهيت للتو رائعة رائد التنمية البشرية ستيفن كوفي، الذي ذاع صيته من كتابه الشهير العادات السبع للناس الأكثر فعاليه، هذا الكتاب طويل يناهز 500 صفحة كما ذكرت في تعليق سابق، وكل الحديث عن فكرة واحدة، تعاد وتكرر ويسهب الحديث فيها ألا وهي دائما التفكير بأسلوب غير نمطي، لا أن تحل المشكلة وتفكر فيها بين بديلين لا ثالث لهما، يعني لسنا نحن في مقابل هم، علينا ان نقول ماذا علينا أن نفعل.
May 15, 2012 Chris rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
This book describes how one can empower members of families, communities, and nations to reduce and/or eliminate conflict, achieve self-fulfillment and happiness, and experience peace. His case studies are powerful and fascinating glimpses into how one can revolutionize society by changing one's paradigm of how individuals can be valued, treated, and heard.
Khalid Alnaqbi
Oct 11, 2014 Khalid Alnaqbi rated it it was amazing
One of the best books I've ever read! I only recommend reading the first half of the book. The rest are details and more examples for the same concept.

What astonished me is that Covey dug deep into religions to see how could we use them as a 3rd alternative for religious conflicts. He used arabic words, such as: wasatyyah, jihad, intifadhah and so on. Sometimes I feel that he is a Muslim ^^"
Sep 03, 2015 Jessica rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Re read, re-impressed. So helpful and practical. I love that Covey continually focuses on the family. He believes if it can work in the family, it can work globally. Very cool idea.

9/15: 7 Habits is brilliant. This book is even brillianter!
Cess Que
Nov 04, 2013 Cess Que rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
If the world applied the third alternative. Wars, conflicts and bullies will be transferred to the fiction categories. There IS a way for resolution. :)
Masr Bla Fetna
May 04, 2015 Masr Bla Fetna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition

كتاب رائع في قبول النفس و الاخر
و لعل أجمل ما فيه هو كيفية إسقاط المبادئ العامة على تفاصيل الحياة الخاصة
Nada Obaid
Jan 28, 2014 Nada Obaid rated it it was amazing

It's not my way .. It's not your way .. It's our way, a way that's better than all our past expectations and future predictions :) !
Stephen Covey's books are always a source of pleasure ❤
Feb 04, 2017 Adina rated it it was amazing
Incredible insight on listening and creating solutions in relationship building.
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Tâmèr Êlsèhétry
كتاب اكثر من رائع استفدت منه فعلا
انصح الجميع بقراءته
Keith Kendall
Oct 06, 2011 Keith Kendall rated it really liked it
Shelves: business
The book has lots of examples of successfully finding better alternatives - more than I was in the mood for. Here are a couple of things from the book. In the front of the book he says that he has been teaching this all his life, that is seek win-win; seek to find a better alternative than either of you came up with.

"Chapter 5 where he talked about the school system, and some people who dramatically turned around failing schools really touched me."

"The key is the heart. Until we understand peopl
Floris Wolswijk
Jan 02, 2015 Floris Wolswijk rated it it was amazing
The 3rd Alternative: Solving life’s most difficult problems by Stephen R. Covey is the accumulation of a life’s work on leadership, cooperation and achieving greatness. The book centers around the 3rd alternative thinking. To not think in 1) my way or 2) their way, but to 3) achieve synergy together (our way).

What makes the book so special is the setup of the chapters. Already in chapter 2 the theory of the 3rd alternative is explained very extensively. You are introduced to concepts as ‘seeing
Pages 199, 278, and 433 have the same 4 Steps to Synergy worksheet that starts with 1. Ask the 3rd Alternative Question: "Are you willing to go for a solution that is better than any of us have come up with yet?" If yes, go on to step 2...

It's a fairly basic, yet powerful, approach to negotiating or mediating a creative win-win solution.

The rest of this book explains The Transition and The 3rd Alternative in the first and second chapters respectively. Then it goes on to tackle The 3rd Alternati
Gopal khatri
Dec 18, 2016 Gopal khatri rated it it was amazing
3rd alternative is not a choice,
This is innovation of our self for society.
Tomas Libas
Sep 21, 2014 Tomas Libas rated it it was amazing
Pretty amazing book from an amazing person. The main idea of the book is that a lot of time the 2 alternative choices or ideas are not ideal. What we should do then is:

1. ASK: "Would you like to find a better solution?"
2. DEFINE: "How should it look?"
3. CREATE alternatives: Midmapping, brainstorming, creating models, drawing on the board - playing.
4. FIND the 3rd alternative that is born from the 2 unique view points. When it's found, the tension and doubts disappear.

To effectively follow the 3r
Apr 18, 2013 Tamra rated it really liked it
Shelves: couldn-t-finish
What a great book! I think this is a must-read. You'll learn a lot about yourself, and how to improve your relationships, attitude, and world.

I instantly started implementing changes in my family life, for instance. I approached all the kids and asked them about what our family goals and objectives should be. They are "stakeholders" after all. I told them that Rob and I had the controlling interest (51%), and they shared the other 49% equally between the 3 of them. It was awesome to feel like I
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Stephen Richards Covey was the author of the best-selling book, "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People". Other books he wrote include "First Things First", "Principle-Centered Leadership", and "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families". In 2004, Covey released "The 8th Habit". In 2008, Covey released "The Leader In Me—How Schools and Parents Around the World Are Inspiring Greatness, One ...more
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