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38th out of 42 books
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Christlike Parenting: Taking the Pain Out of Parenting
By improving the way we, as parents, interact with our children, we can improve their behavior. Thus the importance of "being of good cheer"; of what we say and how we say it; of creating a safe, noncoercive environ,ent in the home where children are taught not only good behavior but also good values. Dr. Latham's suggestions are simple, scriptural, and amazingly effective...more
Paperback, 221 pages
Published
October 1st 2002
by Gold Leaf Press (MI)
(first published June 1999)
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Excellent application of principles of the Gospel of Jesus Christ to parenting and the way we treat our children. I read this when my oldest two were little, but it's been helpful to read it again and remember concrete ways to put the gospel into practice in my own home. After all, how can I possibly teach them to be Christlike unless I strive to be that with them?
He raises the question, "How would you like your grandchildren to be treated?" Because likely your children will treat them the same...more
He raises the question, "How would you like your grandchildren to be treated?" Because likely your children will treat them the same...more
I know I have much to improve in my parenting, and it was good for me to have this book be a reminder about being more Christlike in how I raise my children. One thing I really liked was the information about consequences – not using force, threats, scolding, coercing, etc., but instead having “earned” consequences and using wording such as, “You will deny yourself the privilege of having x if…” instead of “I will take x away if….” There was a lot about having positive interactions with children...more
This book contains some great words of wisdom as well as reminders of many things we know we should do (but sometimes fall short of). Some of the long examples of dialogue between parents and children is, well, long (and cheesy), but the ideas behind these examples are excellent. I think using your own personality based upon his basic principles will guide you through conversations and interactions with your children. He could easily have written two separate books on parenting teenagers and par...more
BEST parenting book I've ever read. Gives you a completely new perspective and outlook on parenting and helps you relate to your children in a Christ-like manner. Appropriate for all ages, but espcially helpful for parents of teens.
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I liked and didn't like this book. There were some definite things about his logic that I didn't agree with. For example he doesn't agree with any type of coercion he thinks that natural consequences should apply. In the book he talks about a possible violent child, he doesn't think that you should do anything but state that you will call the police if the child becomes violent and then only defend yourself and ask the child to go to his bedroom until he calms down. Well if the child becomes vio...more
I have mixed feelings about this book. I almost need to read it again to reevaluate my first impressions of the it. I did not find it to be a completely engaging read. I found myself skimming some of the dialogue, which I found to be a little cheesy and unrealistic. I actually found myself chuckling as I read some of the scenarios and solutions and even found myself saying aloud a few times "This would never work!" However, imagine my surprise as I encorporated some of the ideas into my parentin...more
This was really good. Something I would want to read again. This time I took notes and actually went through slowly...I will say that his scenarios between parent and child seem really unrealistic. Even much of the parents answers seemed hard to take. BUT having said that, I am realizing how effective I could be as a parent if I were to implement more of these principles. I liked how he took scripture and stories and then made parallels to parenting and teaching children. A few of the concepts w...more
Mar 01, 2010
Brittany
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4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
Christian parents, parents struggling with wayward children
This is a Christian approach to parenting, and Dr. Latham suggested some methods that aren't found in any other parenting book. He uses examples from the bible of parenting techniques and focuses a lot on Christ. I loved this book, but I minused one star for cheesy role playing :)
I highly recommend this book to Christians, especially those who are struggling with wayward children. This book would even be great for parents of adult children.
The author is a Mormon, but this book focuses exclusive...more
I highly recommend this book to Christians, especially those who are struggling with wayward children. This book would even be great for parents of adult children.
The author is a Mormon, but this book focuses exclusive...more
Sometimes this book was hard to read, because I could see myself doing so many things wrong. A lot of the advice in this book was what I learned in college, "positive behavior" stuff in my elementary ed. classes. However, it brought the life of Christ into that theory and showed how to parent in the way Christ would. I had a few issues with how the author suggested a few things, but after mulling it over for a few days, I think that they are good suggestions. An interesting read and one that my...more
I loved the principles taught in this book. It helped me recognized the ways my parenting can be coercive and why it hasn't been working very well. I loved the chapter about countenance - mainly because mine needs some work! Grumpy mama makes a grumpy household. More than anything, it has reminded me how important it is to be positive with my family and as I have applied some of the ideas from the book, I can see that positivity reflected in my kids and our interactions. I highly recommend this...more
I started this book when my eight year old was an infant and didn't finish it because it didn't apply to changing diapers and nursing. :) I dusted it off a few months ago because I was struggling with teaching my three children respect, their fighting, my patience, etc. This book is wonderful. It took me so long to read because there was so much to practice before moving on to the next chapter. I just finished and feel like I need to read it again so I can really absorb it. This book is great fo...more
Excellent. I think it was Joseph Smith who said that he teaches correct principles, then the people govern themselves. This book gives all the right principles behind parenting, and I am trying to use them to govern my mothering! Easier said than done, of course, but I feel so much more peace about myself as a mother when I keep these things in mind.
This was also very good for other relationships beyond the parent/child relationship. Such great thoughts on self-improvement and those kinds of thi...more
This was also very good for other relationships beyond the parent/child relationship. Such great thoughts on self-improvement and those kinds of thi...more
One of the main themes I got from the book was to focus on the positive things our children do rather than on the negative things which we so easily pick on. Even in the midst of a negative situation....there is always something positive that can be found and shown/told to the child. I found another book dealing with positive disipline to be more helpful in some ways because it gave very specific ideas to use on very specific situations that arise when raising children. (There is another Glenn L...more
I love this book! Every parent needs this book! One thing I really like about it is that it isn't specific to one denomination. All of its scriptural references come from the Bible, so if you're a Christian, no matter your denomination, you will understand and love the teachings in this book.
Whenever I am feeling like a stressed out Mom and react impatiently to my three year old, I pick up this book so I can be reminded how Christ would parent. It lifts up my spirits immediately, and instead of...more
Whenever I am feeling like a stressed out Mom and react impatiently to my three year old, I pick up this book so I can be reminded how Christ would parent. It lifts up my spirits immediately, and instead of...more
Sep 03, 2008
Annie
rated it
4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
parents
Recommended to Annie by:
Alison Day (friend from SUU)
This is a book I like to have around to read once every week or two. As I am getting my start in my outlook and habits as a disciplinarian, I need to constantly remind myself to be positive, focus on all the good my children are doing, teach them to think, and respect them for their thoughts.
Something this book taught me that I really like is to compliment my children on their character, instead of just their actions. So if Melia shares with Sophie when it is difficult to, I say something like,...more
I think is the best parenting book I've ever read. Most parenting books I usually just skim through the ideas that seem interesting to me, but this one was a book I WANTED to sit down and read and read. The first two chapters didn't quite draw me in because they weren't way applicable, but from then on I loved it, and the principles just MAKE SENSE. I highly recommend it - especially for anyone needing a "pick-me-up-yes-I-love-my-kids" book.
This a wonderful book for parents with children of any age. A few grammatical errors and lack of flow in a couple spots were the only reasons I gave it four instead of five starts. If you have a child or are planning on having one, I would recommend reading this book. The first two chapters can make you want to put it down for a year (like I did), but don't. It's worth it to push through them and read it cover to cover.
I loved this book. Unlike some parenting books that make me feel like it's all my fault if my children have problems (which it might, I just don't like feeling that way after reading them) this book left me feeling empowered and with skills to deal with all areas of social interactions--the way the Savior would. It's one of those books worth reading periodically.
One of the best parenting books I have ever read. I actually called the author, Glenn Latham, years ago when my oldest was giving me fits and he was very kind and helpful, even with his very busy life. His untimely death was sad. This is a book that should be referenced often as we tend to "forget" what we should be doing. I highly recommend it!
I can't imagine giving five stars to any parenting book simply because there's too much diversity between individual parents and children to construct a philosophy that is all-encompassing. Nonetheless, this is one of my favorites - simple truths that, if employed effectively (and preferably, early) can ease the minds of many struggling parents.
I really liked the idea to reward yourself for the positive things you do in your parenting, giving yourself points each time you do something correctly. Our oldest child is motivated by extrinsic rewards and can accomplish anything he puts his mind to if there is some sort of tangible reward he gets at the end. I made the suggestion to him that he give himself points for the positive behaviors he does as well as completing his assignments or tasks, etc. and then he can cash those points in for...more
As I was reading a paragraph from this book to my husband, he coincidently was reading the same one from the Church Handbook for bishops. While I am not sure I agree with everything in this book, it did have some great insights into how Christ reacts to different situations and how we as children of God are disciplined.
This book was recommended by a friend of my parents who happens to be a marriage and family therapist. It is aimed more at parents with teenage children, but the principles still apply to small children. It is about teaching children without taking away their agency and helping them choose how to best act.
Glenn Latham's work is based on behavioral research- smiles, hugs, encouraging words- this is the way that Christ treats us, and is proven to increase appropriate behavior from children.
This book is on the head of my bed, and I re-read it when feeling discouraged in my parenting, with great results!
This book is on the head of my bed, and I re-read it when feeling discouraged in my parenting, with great results!
"Taking the Pain Out of Parenting" is exactly right. I've always practiced Love and Logic principles, but they should be a companion to this book. I wish I'd read it a long time ago because the principles are so spot on. Sometimes we learn things from books that we have known all along, but we failed to ponder and implement. I'm grateful for this inspiring and well-written guide to raising children as Christ would.
I've read many parenting books and this one is by far the very best and helpful! I love it!! If only I can do it all the time. It is really hard for me because I not not very "positive" all the time. But when I really try to apply this... it has a HUGE impact on my family!!!
I have never been so touched by a book or a message, I wish I could have read this 10 years ago (and every year since then). It has changed the way I look at my job as a mother and how I work with my children. I highly recommend. I will keep coming back to this book.
Can't say enough good things. Gives very case specific instruction and lots of parent-child dialogue for examples. One motivating perspective based around a quote by Mother Teresa, "My prayer is that you make your family something beautiful for God."
This is by far one of the best parenting books I have ever read! Now, if I can just put all of the wonderful advise of this book into practice! It is written by an LDS author, but is not written as a specifically LDS book. ANY Christian reader will profit from reading this book. All scriptural accounts are taken from the Bible. LOVED this book. I added it to my personal library so I can read it again and again.
This book would be an excellent resource for parents of pre-teens and teens, but as the mother of a 2 year old I found only parts of it relevant to my current struggles. I really enjoyed this book but won't read it again until my son is much older.
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