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The Uncoupling

2.86  ·  Rating Details  ·  5,405 Ratings  ·  956 Reviews
When the elliptical new drama teacher at Stellar Plains High School chooses for the school play Lysistrata-the comedy by Aristophanes in which women stop having sex with men in order to end a war-a strange spell seems to be cast over the school. Or, at least, over the women. One by one throughout the high school community, perfectly healthy, normal women and teenage girls ...more
Paperback, Uncorrected proof edition, 271 pages
Published 2011
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Ellen Taylor I have to say so far halfway through I agree with Amanda, you definitely have to read it as a fable, not that Im always a big fan of fables, but…moreI have to say so far halfway through I agree with Amanda, you definitely have to read it as a fable, not that Im always a big fan of fables, but that's what is goin on here.(less)
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May 10, 2011 rachel rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own, 2011
Meg Wolitzer's writing skirts the line between literary fiction and beach read. On one hand, she has a clever eye for human thought and folly that makes me look forward to her books. On the other hand, her plots are often novel and neatly wrapped up in a way that undermines whatever effort she puts into character building.

The same praise and criticism applies to The Uncoupling. However, it does have a truly terrible climax (appropriate for a book with a lot of fail sex) that is so cheesy it bel
Jun 01, 2011 Judy rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I am so over Meg Wolitzer. My three novel study, read in under two weeks, rendered me in turn unable to stay awake during the day, unable to sleep at night, unable to digest my food, and generally irritable all over. She is simply a bad writer and I cannot fathom how she gets even one good review, though she gets many.

What she does do well is capture and relate the thoughts women have privately as well as the commonplace emotions of women. It is true that we only share those thoughts and feeling
Apr 06, 2011 Megan rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I liked the details Wolitzer used to describe her characters (I perked up whenever the picky and prickly Abby Means, she of the thrift store skirts and pornography-filled phone, showed up), but their lack of depth and, for the most part, drive, made this book a real drag to get through. The fairy-tale-ish, wishy-washy tone, coupled with the one-dimensional characters, was frustrating to me, because the book didn't seem grounded in reality. I don't mind magical realism at all, and in fact enjoy i ...more
Apr 25, 2011 Jill rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The Uncoupling is a good book that could have been a great book.

It has some perceptive and provocative insights into the nature of desire itself: what is desire, anyway? How does it change between the heady times of first love and the more mundane times of adulthood? Can a relationship sustain itself when desire flees?

The book unfolds around the classic and comic play Lysistrata, written by Aristophanes – a tale of women of Greece who determined to withhold sex as a way to end the lengthy Pelopo
Oct 09, 2010 Suzanna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Meg Wolitzer has a way of packing intelligence and humor into every sentence. I have to admit, I'm a longtime fan. Follow the citizens of the suburban town of Stellar Plains, New Jersey, as they stumble through the "dilemma" of their uncoupling. The pace is relentless. Wolitzer dives into her subject by writing full, deep characters. I felt like they were all my new best friends. You'll laugh, think, and notice -- through her laser sharp eye -- the absurd details of modern life, as if you were w ...more
Gayla Bassham
Jun 06, 2011 Gayla Bassham rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2011-reads
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Apr 21, 2011 Jacqie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This novel was readable, but the author's humorous, somewhat cynical distance from her characters kept me at a distance too. But there is some good writing there. The scenes of teenage Willa and her first boyfriend were poignant and evocative of my own teen insecurities. Bev's hurt at her husband's callous statement about her weight was also well done. Unfortunately, the main characters, Dory (?) and Rob, rang the least true. They had almost no personalities except to be nice, if somewhat judgme ...more
Dec 24, 2012 Emily rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Emily by: People Magazine
I really want to like this book. I read it in just 3 days, so I guess that says something. But I didn't love it. I didn't find any of the characters compelling or particularly likeable (not that that's a problem for me: on the contrary, I love unlikeable characters. Case in point: The Descendants). Willa? Eh. The Dorys? Annoying. Bev? She's fat. Waah. Leanne? Wow she sleeps around what a whore. Nothing new here. The only character I liked a little bit was Ruth Winik, the ex-lesbian of sorts. But ...more
switterbug (Betsey)
Once upon a time... On a dark and stormy night…wait--there was no storm. Long ago and far away…but, it was only a few years ago, and not far if you live in suburban New Jersey. So, one dark and December night in the safe and tidy suburb of Stellar Plains, New Jersey, an arctic chill seeped under doors, a frigid blast blew through windows, and a glacial nipping swirled between the sheets of spouses and lovers. And, just as suddenly, the woman turned from their men, and stopped having sex.

A spell
Apr 16, 2012 Miles rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
When a famous feminist author came to Reed College in the late 1970s, the men of Reed College learned that among her teachings was the notion that "hetero-sex is violence", and it was clear that some of our dreams for our sophomore year were not going to come true. Texts matter, and when, in Meg Wolitzer's "The Uncoupling", a high school drama teacher decides to stage Aristophane's Lysistrata, in which women of ancient Greece stage a sex strike to end the Peloponnesian war, we are once again in ...more
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This is the second book by Meg Wolitzer I've read, after the Interestings, which I liked a lot. Even though The Uncoupling didn't impress me quite as much, I still enjoyed it. I recognised Wolitzer's style, I appreciated the fact that the novel was carefully structured, and I thought the whole idea was ingenious.

Warning: spoilers!

Starting from Aristophanes's ancient comedy, Lysistrata, the author created a web of characters and relationships that were influenced and almost 'puppeteered' by the d
Aug 27, 2011 Colleen rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I think Wolitzer had a really hard time reining herself in. I'm working off the assumption that the blunt-eccentric-but-weirdly-wise (also, callous b!tch, but that's another problem) magical drama teacher, Fran Heller, is the author-avatar here. But even taking that as a given, it's difficult to peel back the layers of pretentious metaphors and pseudo-wise musings to figure out what point Heller/Wolitzer wants the reader to walk away with.

There's something she's trying to say about war--I think.
When I first started reading The Uncoupling, I was hooked. Wolitzer has a way of painting such vivid scenes just by using the choicest of words or phrases, and she seemed to also be creating such complex characters. I was immediately emotionally vested in Dory and Robby and their marriage, and continued to be pulled in by the rather vast cast of characters. Unfortunately, things then began to fall apart. My biggest disappointment was that, what started out strong went out with a whimper. The boo ...more
While I have at least 2 more Meg Wolitzer books sitting on my bookshelves, Uncoupling is the first I've read by her. Wow! I don't quite know why I haven't read any Wolitzer sooner - if her other books are anything like this one. I like the writing style of the book. It's descriptive without being flowery. It's explanatory without preaching. In short, it's smart. I was trying to compare the style of this book to others, and I kept coming up a bit short. She's sort of like Judy Blume - but not rea ...more
Oct 24, 2011 Rachel rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This novel is an odd exploration of female desire and the changes in relationships through time. In a generic town in New Jersey, the production of the high school play Lysistrata, coincides with the enchantment of the women of the town with a spell that saps their desire. The narration is done by an omniscient narrator that is rather foreboding and irritating. The questions posed by the stories about passion and relationships are resonant and disturbing. And yet with that much emotional chaos a ...more
Jul 08, 2011 M rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
(This really deserves 3, 3.5 - I will explain).
The Talmud speaks about a time when, because temptation was so strong, leaders prayed that the stirrings of desire would be taken away and allow people to live freely and purely. However, upon the vanishing of the more basic components of the human experience, life as we know it - animal, plant - shriveled up as well. This lesson resonated then, and was called to mind upon reading this work which, like Wolitzer's others, presents an interesting if s
May 02, 2013 Snotchocheez rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I kept Ms. Wolitzer's name on my mental backburner for several months now...not necessarily because of the recent release of her The Interestings (which three of my Goodreads friends have already read and favorably reviewed) but because of her jacket blurb endorsement on the back of Nicholson Baker's "Book of Raunch" (aka House of Holes...and I'm all like "yeah! she loves bad porn! Gotta read her pronto!" Unless sales go through the roof, it's doubtful my little library's gonna get The Interesti ...more
Sep 26, 2011 Laura rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not sure why I read this book, as I wasn't particularly fond of the 'Ten Year Nap'. Her characters are all kind of irritating and a stretch to relate to; the concept of the book (what happens when a town goes without sex for a few month) was kind of interesting to me and I thought that the possibilities would be better explored. It would have been better if the spell hit everyone at once; also, the incredible selfishness of the drama teacher was a little tough to swallow at the end - the fac ...more
Ron Charles
Nov 25, 2013 Ron Charles rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As our 10-year-old wars in Afghanistan and Iraq bleed into a new conflict in Libya, maybe we could use something more creative than “the surge” to bring peace. For the weary women in Aristophanes’ ancient comedy “Lysistrata,” the answer was an anti-surge: a sex strike until the men lay down their arms. It worked 2,400 years ago — in the bawdy Greek play — but in the theatre of foreign policy, America has perfected a method of prosecuting foreign wars without inconveniencing most of its citizens. ...more
Christina (Reading Thru The Night)
The Short of It

When the mood does not strike!

The Long of It

Set in the midst of a small town, the wind seems to blow in more than just a new drama teacher. Fran Heller, drama teacher extraordinaire chooses the Greek play Lysistrata for her debut. Lysistrata tells the story of women protesting war by withholding sex. Very few question the appropriateness of the play since Heller promises to tone down anything terribly inappropriate. Unfortunately, the play seems to have a ghost like charm on the t
A rushed review-actually, the reason I read this is because I was rushing through the library, saw the author's name, vaguely remembered liking The Ten Year Nap, and grabbing it without reading the inside cover to see what it was about. Basically, couples in a town stop having sex with each other. The women suddenly decide that they're done, leaving their husbands/boyfriends bewildered, and in some cases, a little angry. While parts of it were actually quite funny and well-written (one man prett ...more
Shannon Alexander
Three stars is even a little generous- this book is SUCH a dip in quality from her previous books. The plot is heavy handed -I get it, people stop having sex because the high school is putting on Lysistrata! Every description of the book says so there is no reason to even mention it more than once, and certainly not OVER AND OVER in the book. It's like she forgot who she was writing for, her previous books seemed not to assume the reader was a total idiot. She still writes characters well overal ...more
Stephanie Driscoll
I read this book pretty quickly...not because it was so good, but because I couldn't believe that this was really all there was.
Here's a book about women who have a spell cast over them, that forces them to not want to have sex with their husbands, or their boyfriends, and the author simply refuses to delve any deeper then that. She absolutely skims the surface of relationships without sex, and this was an annoyingly quick read because there was nothing to it. This should have been insightful an
Robyn Brewer
I thought I would love this book a lot more than I did. Intriguing premise and well-drawn characters, but none were quite fleshed out (heh) to my satisfaction (sorry). I was irritated by the obviousness of the spell manifesting as 'cold air' (got it: frigidity). And why did these women so apathetically accept their loss of desire, which came on so suddenly and dramatically? More reflection on how the spell affected their feelings about their own bodies and psyches in addition to their romantic r ...more
Sam Kozbial
Apr 28, 2016 Sam Kozbial rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobooks, chick-lit
Rating: 3.5 stars

This was a very interesting way to analyze the different issues that woman face, which can affect their sexuality. The old married wife worrying about things getting stale, the young girlfriend worrying about this romance not lasting forever, the woman who is getting older and questioning her attractiveness, the mother who is feeling like her body is not her own. Wolitzer addresses these issues and more. Wolitzer brings a little "magic" to her story, this time, in the form of a
Mar 02, 2016 Niki rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The premise of "Uncoupling" is silly - a magical spell weaves around a community and makes all the women no longer interested in sex. But, as usual, Meg Wolitzer's sharp observations make this a more complex tale. She explores intimacy through the stages of life, and how love and sex are wound together and how hard it can be to open up to someone about either one.

Wolitzer has a very unique style of writing that I love - almost literary-casual. It's an easy read with a complex theme, wound toget
Apr 21, 2015 Kt rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the second Meg Wolitzer novel I have read recently, and even though I loved "The Interestings" a tiny bit more, I still really enjoyed this one. There were so many things about it that made me feel happy and nostalgic: the teenager's devotion to the website Farrest reminded me of late nights on The Guilty Ones, the hustle of getting a high school play ready for an audience, the excitement and pain of your first teenage love. It also was reminiscent of "The Metal Children" (of course the ...more
The Book Posh
I'm not sure how I feel about this book. I think the story lacked depth, the author seemed to skim the surface without giving us enough. I guess I feel cheated in a sense. The characters were superficial and the storyline was sterile in a way that I can't explain. I guess I want to say it was safe. I find myself thinking that this story could have been taken to another level. Although it lacked real depth, the story was well written and I was able to get through it by having a mild curiosity of ...more
Jul 06, 2015 Leslie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: If you like well-written lighthearted take on sex and relationships.
The synopsis for Meg Wolitzer’s The Uncoupling was enough to raise my interest in the book. After all, a book about a small town’s female population going on a sex can that NOT be interesting? Well, on one level it was and on another it could’ve been more.

First off, I really liked the writing. Considering the subject matter, Wolitzer could’ve easily tilted the story towards the absurd, making it too silly to take seriously the message she was trying. Instead, the narrative carried a
Apr 11, 2011 Rachel rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: general-fiction
The story is told in a third-person narrative and divided into three parts. The first part focuses on the events leading up to the introduction of the play Lysistrata by the school's new drama teacher. The second part goes into detail about all of the different couples affected by the spell that the play casts over the town. The third part tells what happens in the night of the actual high-school production of the play and afterwards.
The spell of Lysistrata resembled a cold wind and only affecte
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Meg Wolitzer is the author of The Ten-Year Nap and seven previous novels, including The Position and The Wife . Her short fiction has appeared in The Best American Short Stories and The Pushcart Prize.

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