Living Among Meat Eaters: The Vegetarian's Survival Handbook
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Living Among Meat Eaters: The Vegetarian's Survival Handbook

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Is there a blocked vegetarian in your life?

If you are one of the over twenty million Americans who have adopted vegetarianism, you know that living with and eating with meat eaters can present a myriad of difficult issues. Summer barbecues, Thanksgiving dinner, or even a simple business lunch can be cause for discussions questioning vegetarianism as a lifestyle choice�le...more
Paperback, 336 pages
Published November 6th 2001 by Three Rivers Press (first published 2001)
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Mar 04, 2008 Jen rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: vegetarians and those interested in vegetarianism
I attempted to read this years ago. When I cleaned out my cookbook shelf I found it again and started to read it. I did find that many of the anecdotes that people shared throughout the book did resonate with my own. It definitely is hard to be a vegetarian at times. I've chosen this lifestyle for many reasons: health, caring about animals, and the dislike of the taste of meat.

The book did get me to reflect on why I've made this choice. It also asked me to consider how my choice has impacted my...more
While some aspects of this book can be handy, such as recognizing the body language of someone who is trying to bait a vegan into having a fight, other aspects of it aren't so hot.

There are two scenarios presented where vegans are put in situations where they have to suffer in silence around insensitive omnivores, and the recommended way of handling things is to remain silent and not say anything.

When someone says, "Are you a vegetarian or WHAT," and the vegan stammers, hems, and haws, then make...more
Dec 19, 2009 Jo rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: new vegetarians and their friends and fam.
I didn't enjoy this book as much as I had hoped to.. for a couple of reasons. The main thesis of this book centers around the authors opinion that all meat eaters are "blocked vegetarians" with a hole in their conscience. I don't really agree with that. On the other hand, I do agree with the idea that all meat eaters are potential vegetarians.. but the way the author clung to this idea throughout the book sort of bothered me. I found it a little condescending and definitely a bit repetitive. I f...more
I loved this book! It has so many great suggestions and helpful tips. This would have been so handy at any point in my life, but particularly since I've been a vegetarian; I wish I had read it years ago! But I am grateful to have benefitted from its wisdom now. It is not only great for dealing with meat-eaters, but it has so many great ways to communicate more positively and productively with others in every area of life. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK!
Lisa Vegan
May 13, 2007 Lisa Vegan rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: vegans and those who know them
Best vegan support book I've read, especially regarding how to cope with an overwhelmingly non-vegan world. Helpful for vegans to read before holidays, family gatherings, etc. If you like this book, also highly recommended is Vegan Freak by Bob & Jenna Torres.
I keep looking for a book for vegetarians and for pseudo-vegetarians and for omnivores who would like to understand vegetarianism but can't get past the dogma of groups like PETA. This is not that book. Not that the author is completely polarizing - she tries her best to bring balance to her meatless beat manifesto - but I couldn't help but attempt to read her book through the filter of a non-vegetarian, and more often than not I picked up on a condescending tone that I'm not sure is completely...more
Sep 09, 2012 Renata rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: vegetarians/vegans only!
Shelves: nonfiction
OK, I really enjoyed the experience of reading this book, having recently moved to an area that's not very vegetarian-friendly. Reading it was like, "Ahhh, someone understands me! But also this person is maybe kind of off the deep end about all of this!" I definitely do NOT recommend even touching this book if you are not vegetarian or vegan because it is extremely patronizing toward meat eaters. But if you are a vegetarian and are a li'l tired of being patronized by meat eaters it might be enjo...more
I read this genuinely unable to believe that there are people who would do things like feed a vegetarian teenager veal tortellini to "prove" that they would "enjoy" it. I'm sure they are out there, but this kind of felt like an urban legend, or an exceptionally cruel and judgmental parent. I've run into some of the circumstances described in this book, such as asked why I don't eat meat and then being reacted to as if I were lecturing, when I was in reality just answering a question. However, mo...more
There is no other book out there that so carefully considers the often contentious and challenging daily interactions that we vegans and other vegetarians have with our omnivore friends, family, neighbors, and co-workers. And thanks heavens for it because the social aspects of transitioning to a more compassionate way of eating are more challenging than the food transition itself. I think Carol Adams displays considerable wisdom and psychological insight into what is really going on in the minds...more
I read this book before going to visit cattle-raising, hunting, fishing, meat-loving in-laws. I was hoping for some guidance about negotiating meals with folks who honestly are completely puzzled about why one would opt to not eat meat. The book was pretty condescending to omnivores describing them as "blocked vegetarians." It assumed all veggie love was based on a profound love of animals. People are vegetarian for a lot of different reasons. The book encouraged not discussing one's choice to n...more
I read this a long time ago, and honestly I guess I'm back to what Adams calls a "blocked vegetarian" (i.e., omnivore), but I remember this as a very thoughtful, reassuring, and comprehensive guide. It's not about why or how-to become vegetarian/vegan, but what to do afterwards. And the recipe section is great, at least the ones I've tried so far; lots of good ones for mixed veg*n/omni crowds--I've made the chocolate cream pie MANY times!
Living Among Meat Eaters - Carol Adams
I found this book very good. It helped me to understand the reactions of others to my vegan choice. As for instance her concept of ‘blocked' vegetarians is especially iluminating, and as i have found very common.

Adams also wrote Pornography of Meat which i found interesting and provocative, though i think she is stretching things a little at times, which is actually just fine.
I loved how it was all like "oh yeah treat people who eat meat with compassion don't be a dick" and then it was like "oh but yeah all meat eaters are 'blocked vegetarians' and everyone who eats meat is immediately going to attack / patronize you so here are some helpful passive-aggressive conversational tips!!! have fun kids!" but at least it advocated being polite for the most part and the recipes were good.
This is "one of those books" that's hard to rate because while I found some of the information really helpful, other stuff was not. That will probably be the case for any veg*ns that read this book. I wish I'd read it sooner, though, because I think it really does help to outline responses to those strange or rude questions we get, without making the situation into a conflict or totally derailing the conversation.
This is my favorite vegetarian book, and one of my favorite books, period. Adams is a gentle guide through the many "dangerous waters" veg*ns must navigate through, from Thanksgiving dinner with the extended family to business lunches at a steakhouse. It offers tips for graceful responses that even an ultra-shy person like me can handle. Every veg*n should read this book.
Great book. Balanced, super-thoughtful advice for responding to criticism and comments from meat lovers, and suggestions about being kind and responsive of meat eaters' fears and feelings about vegetarianism in general.
I would have rated this higher if it wasn't extremely repetitive. Some of it is a little silly but I think it's a useful read for vegans/vegetarians with less than stellar communication skills (like myself).
This book points out some excellent ways to deflect animosity from non-vegetarians! Somehow, though, I found my interest waning towards the end and couldn't manage to finish it completely.
One of the first books I read shortly after transitioning to veganism. The sections on dealing with saboteurs and co-workers was particularly helpful.
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