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Laura Hamley is een vrouw die alles heeft: een man met een goede baan, twee mooie kinderen, een duur huis en even bevoorrechte vrienden. Over dit perfecte leven valt een donkere schaduw als zij wordt opgebeld door Mrs Partridge, de moeder van Heddy – het meisje dat Laura en haar vriendinnen vroeger genadeloos hebben gepest. Heddy ligt na een inzinking in het ziekenhuis, op ...more
Paperback, 285 pages
Published February 2011 by De Kern (first published March 5th 2010)
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Nicola
Aug 30, 2011 Nicola rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was a bit unsure about starting this book, because I wasn't sure if it would really be my kind of thing. However, after only the first page, I was completely captivated.

It was so refreshing and different to read from the point of view of a character who is terribly flawed, yet still be able to empathize with her. Laura is living in a world of French classes for toddlers and play-dates only with the ''right kind'' of children.

She thinks she has left her past behind her, until the mother of a gi
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Tracy Fenton
Dec 29, 2015 Tracy Fenton rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A truly uncomfortable look at childhood bullying and the ripple effects into adulthood.
Thought provoking, sad and gripping.
David Hebblethwaite
At the age of thirty-six, Laura Hamley lives the life of a stereotypical ‘yummy mummy’ — married to a successful lawyer, attractive children, yoga classes, paninis and air-kissing and dinner parties with friends. She has attained an aspirational dream of the times, but a phone call threatens to dredge up her past. The caller is Violet Partridge, whose daughter, Heddy, went to school with Laura. Heddy has been placed in a psychiatric institution, and Violet wants to get her released; perhaps Laur ...more
Andrea
Mar 29, 2014 Andrea rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
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Anne
Sep 11, 2010 Anne rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This Perfect World is a spellbinding read, that draws the reader in from page one. Well written and a fairly quick read but also at times, a very difficult read.

Narrated by Laura, a woman who lives the seemingly perfect life - with the perfect children, husband, house and circle of friends. Her friends are women who are all married to rich men, women who spend their time talking hair, shoes, lunch and judging each other by what they have or do not have. A totally superficial life based on wealth
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Penny
Sep 26, 2011 Penny rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction, library
I did not expect to like this book. I read it because it was chosen for a book club I belong to. I actually found it incredibly readable - so much so that I read it in one day! And the story told is terribly touching. It is one of those stories that is about being human and being fallible, and about the way that as fallible humans we can do horrible things. Sometimes that we realise are horrible, and sometimes that somehow we manage not to see. As a result, this book is heavily about guilt and a ...more
Cleo Bannister
Aug 11, 2013 Cleo Bannister rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What a thought-provoking read!

This book is well written and very engaging.

Despite not liking the protaganist Laura at the start of the book it was a compelling read. The stories of life in the playground were uncomfortably realistic as were those of the "school mums." I am sure we all know or have known people like these.

The book is really about the consequences of our actions, Laura has to atone for her actions as a child and in the process quesitons her current life.

This is not an easy book to
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Jo Barton
Jun 15, 2012 Jo Barton rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Laura Hamley has everything - a perfect life, good husband, beautiful children and supportive friends, but old memories are reopened when she receives an unexpected phone call from the mother of a girl she once bullied at school. Laura has managed to successfully block from her life all the unpleasantness which was associated with her unusual relationship with Heddy Partridge, but when Heddy's mother asks for Laura's help in getting Heddy released from hospital, Laura must face the hidden demons ...more
Sarah
May 04, 2013 Sarah rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio-books
I stumbled across this book while looking for something similar to Sophie Hannah's crime novels (which I love). At first glance it seemed to have the same sort of heroine with a dark past and promised intriguing plot twists. In reality it proved to be very different in style and genre. Despite the dark themes in Sophie Hannah's books, they are ultimately redemptive and have a positive vibe running through them - you know everything will turn out well for the central character in the end, even if ...more
Amanda
The long term consequences of childhood cruelty are explored in this very nuanced book. Consequences to the victim yes, but also to the bully. When Laura is reluctantly forced to confront her own past behavior she is horrified by her actions. As she slowly works towards some kind of redemption, she begins to examine everything that makes up her own " perfect life ".
I enjoyed this very much. An uncomfortable read at times. The cruelty to "poor Heddy Partridge" was painful to experience, but the
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Dan
Jul 23, 2011 Dan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a fantastic book which called back the narrator's memories of childhood bullying, but from the perspective of the perpetrator.
Laura recalls Heddy Partridge's treatment at her hands when Heddy is brought back into her life following a call from her mother.
As Laura questions her actions in childhood, the thin veneer of her seemingly perfect life as a middle-class suburban housewife starts to crumble.
This is a sad and soul-searching tale of bullying, self-harm, guilt and the question of
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Kim
Feb 21, 2011 Kim rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: library, 2011
This is a book about childhood bullying written from the bully's perspective. Laura and her friends made Heddy's life a nightmare- but her father continued to insist that she accompany Heddy to ballet and brownies.

Out of the blue Heddy's mum calls her and asks for her help. Heddy has suffered a breakdown and is in hospital. She wants Laura's help to get her home again. She reluctantly gets drawn in- and reveals images of the past. Her seemingly perfect world begins to unravel and the 'friends' s
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Danielle
Feb 17, 2014 Danielle rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A quick read, but a FANTASTIC one! So tense and deep, and definitely makes you think about decisions you've made, and how those decisions may have affected people. The topic of bullying at school is a big one here, and so realistic. A really excellent book I thought.
Ceri
Feb 26, 2012 Ceri rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-in-2012
This year so far hasn't been a good one for readng, I haven't read a five star book yet so I had high hopes for this book especially as I'd read some great reviews about it. It's a shame to say I was thoroughly disappointed, it wasn't until 250 pages in that the book moved on from the first page. It was very slow paced and seemed to go over the same thing, the main character in the book (Laura) and her friends just seemed to get get shallower and blonder as the story went on.

As the book has rece
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Stephen Leach
Feb 18, 2015 Stephen Leach rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love when books surprise you. Knowing nothing at all about this book when I picked it up, I was expecting something light. But This Perfect World isn't light - rather the opposite, in fact. Instead, it's a sharp, funny, dark look at the lives of suburban "yummy-mummies" and their rich husbands.

Bugler's writing is concise and to the point, and she paints some great images, especially in the scenes regarding Laura's phobia of germs. Laura's memories of bullying Heddy are vivid and uncomfortably
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E
Dec 02, 2015 E rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
"What fun there is to be had when you are young, and fortunately perfect. It seemed to me back then that some people are born to picked on, and others to do the picking."

This really struck a chord with me, because as a child I had a friend who went to various different schools, but wherever he went, he was picked on. Completely new start, same result. Is there some gene that makes children vulnerable and others fortunate. I still don't know the answer. But this quote really struck a chord with m
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Zoe
Sep 29, 2015 Zoe rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
'The Perfect World' is based on the life of Laura. Stay at home mother of two with a city worker husband. Laura has money and social class - and that is all that really matters in her shallow friendship group. One evening, Laura is contacted by the Mother of an old classmate - a classmate Laura bullied mercilessly in her schooldays.

Heddy is in a mental hospital following a severe break-down and Heddy's mother turns to Laura to make things right. Can she put old demons to sleep? Can Heddy forgiv
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Carol Fenlon
May 01, 2014 Carol Fenlon rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I was given this book by a friend and I didn't think I would like it. the cover looked vaguely chic lity. However, what a surprise when I opened it. I was hooked from the first page till and couldn't put it down. Bugle incisively draws the brittle character of the narrator and her empty middle class world but skilfully changes her as the novel progresses and self awareness dawns. Then there is the contrast of the hapless Heddy and her mother, the whole building to an unexpected climax, revealing ...more
Esther Echendu henderson
The subject matter drew me to this book. As I haven't 'really' witnessed the cruel side of school bullying either as a victim or the bully in the part of world where I grew up, and having a daughter that will grow up in a world different from d one I experienced, I felt the need to 'investigate' the subject matter- bullying.
This book thus gave me an insight on that and more interestingly from the bully's perspective. It tried implicitly to answer what rejection means. And I thought of this illus
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Amy Michelle
Aug 28, 2014 Amy Michelle rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I didn't expect to like this half as much as I did. Maybe because of the oh-so-chick-lit cover. But I've learnt my lesson. I loved this book and I loved Laura, yes she's flawed but so is everyone else. The way the book describes this childhood bullying is so intensely spot on. Let's face it, we all knew our own Heddy, even if we weren't the Laura of that situation, we were the bystanders. We watched it happen. If not for having three children I could have read this in one afternoon. As it is, it ...more
Chrissi
Jul 24, 2011 Chrissi rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this was a brilliant book. It was hard to read at some points because of the subject matter. I felt for the character Heddy. Great writing and well worth a read.
Jenneke
Jan 24, 2016 Jenneke rated it really liked it
Shelves: age-adult
"Heddy was nooit een vriendin van mij. Laat ik dat vooropstellen. Dat was ze niet omdat ik knap, populair, slim en blond was, en mijn vriendinnen waren ook knap, populair, slim en de meeste blond. Heddy was dat allemaal niet."

Laura heeft het perfecte leventje, ze heeft het allemaal voor elkaar, een leuke man, twee kinderen die natuurlijk ook de perfecte vriendjes hebben en een leven in de 'high class' van advocaten, doctoren en nog meer rijke snobs. Een telefoontje van de moeder van een oud-klas
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Ellie M
Feb 05, 2015 Ellie M rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2012, fiction
I'd have given this book 3.5 stars if I could. I liked it but didn't really love it, but saying that the story was compelling and I read it in a relatively short space of time and would read other books by the author.

The story flits between the present and the past. Laura is a 30 something living a middle-class life in suburban England. She takes her young kids to French classes, does yoga and lunch with her friends, and chats about shoes, home decor and other concerns of stay at home yummy-mumm
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Ann
Jan 07, 2012 Ann rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I found this a compelling though not a comfortable read. Once I started it I found it difficult to put down

Laura, the narrator, leads a rather Stepford Wives existence with a handsome successful husband and two beautiful children. Then she receives a phone call from the mother of Heddy a girl she was at school with. Heddy a victim of bullying as a child, is being held in a mental hospital after a breakdown. Her mother wants Laura's help in getting Heddy released. Laura is initially reluctant to
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Sian
Apr 13, 2010 Sian rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-2010
I have just finished reading this and have to say I really enjoyed it.

As someone who was bullied as a child it really struck a cord in me and I did actually really like Laura, she was just a child at the time and sometimes as a child you dont really know better and obviously her parents didnt help anything and actually made her worse than what she probably would have been if they hadnt kept forcing the situation on her. Also her husband what a total *beep beep beep* makes me realise how fantast
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Annemarie
Aug 15, 2014 Annemarie rated it really liked it
Anders dan ik – Suzanne Bugler
Hoge verwachtingen had ik van dit boek na het lezen van de achterkant. Een boek over pesten en vooral over pesters. Wat doet dat met je als je een ander pest?

Helaas was het grootste gedeelte van het boek (zo’n 2/3e) voor mij te oppervlakkig, te nietszeggend, te weinig over het onderwerp waar het boek over zou gaan. Er werd het perfecte leventje van Laura omschreven, de pester uit het verleden op de basisschool.

Maar wat een geweldig einde! Was het hele boek maar zo g
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Jen
Nov 01, 2012 Jen rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Laura Hamley inhabits a world of suburban bliss, with her perfect husband, her perfect children, and the perfect social storm of friends and hangers-on whirling around her. Heddy Partridge was the stereotypical fat social pariah of the playground, but now she is a patient in a psychiatric hospital. Heddys mother, desperate to help her daughter, reaches out to Laura, who rapidly finds herself entangled in the famiys problems. This perfect world of hers has little room for guilt, for introspection ...more
Kay
Aug 10, 2011 Kay rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book really is an adventure, not only has Laura got to deal with her two children and a husband whom is barely there, she facing the bad things she did as a child creeping back up on her. Soon she finds she's back up to some of her old tricks; such as making other people suffer for her own enjoyment but of course, it's only a joke... It just got too far...
Laura's life changes dramatically in such a short space of time due to Mrs Partridge, an old family friend and the mother of the girl she
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Shayma Nofal
I got this book as a gift from one of the students, I read it 2 years ago for the sake of improving my English. I didn't think that I would love it, i'm reading it now again, so deep that sad story was being told from the bad one's side - as we might think - to realize that the matter of classifying people is a way beyond those two " good and bad sides". It's complicated
It touches me how bad, scary, cruel to get bullied, and having a sad childhood memories.
Lucy McLaurin
Apr 12, 2014 Lucy McLaurin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Quite a surprising book in that it is written from Laura's point of view - and she is revisiting her childhood days due to a reappearance of an old classmate's mother. She explains from the very beginning that she did not like the girl at school - and she now has to deal with her feelings about how she behaved towards her, her guilt and how it changes her outlook on her grown up life.
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