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Lo Que Me Hubiera Gustado Saber... Antes de Casarme!: Consejos Para Novios, Recien Casados y los Matrimonios Que Quieren Reencontrarse

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El reconocido escritor y consejero matrimonial, Gary Chapman, que lleva mas de 35 anos aconsejando a parejas, cree que el divorcio es el resultado de la falta de preparacion para el matrimonio y de la incapacidad para aprender a trabajar juntos como companeros de equipo intimos. Este libro practico esta lleno de sabiduria y de consejos para poder disfrutar de un matrimonio ...more
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Published April 25th 2011 by Portavoz (first published 2010)
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I read Gary Chapman’s book “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married” as part of a campus ministry program with my Church. The intent of the book is to provide those considering marriage some issues to reflect on that most dating couples do not think about prior to walking down the aisle. The overriding theme of the book is that during the traditional Western courtship process, people get so focused on being in love and having found “the one” that it is easy to ignore many of the mundane fa ...more
I guess some might find it odd that someone who's been married for 39 years would read a book writen FOR those who are dating and considering marriag. Well, it was written by a man after he'd been married for quite a few years and there were things he felt were worth knowing, thinking about and talking about BEFORE couples got married; that might actually be useful to know b/c you might just NOT be making the best decision, even though these couples declare they are "in love".
I think a book lik
This is the must read book before we get married. Seriously. So practical !!

Kita selalu dengar " No one plan to fail but they fail to plan " - bunyinya ala2 macam tu la kan.

Semua orang kalau boleh nak kawin sekali je seumur hidup tapi masalanya takda sapa yg pnh plan betul2. Kalau pasal bercuti ka bekerja kita plan dari awal kenapa tidak mengenai perkahwinan. Kalau majlis kawin pun kita plan bagai kenapa tidak mengenai kehidupan selepas itu yg pastinya lebih lama.

Dan utk plan itu,saya syorkan p
Easy read. Comprehensive.

I agree with most of the points covered in this book.

- Love is NOT enough to build a successful happy marriage.
- There needs to be spiritual intimacy. To ignore those is a sign of immaturity. Do you both believe in God. How do often do you practice? Does it mean much to you that your partner is as dedicated/not dedicated as you? What if you had children?
- Something deep within the human psyche cries for an exclusive relationship. Not all are comfortable with their partne
Arwa Basha
Sep 28, 2013 Arwa Basha marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
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Very quick read that I think covered a lot of ground. Its a recommended read for SJSP church for incoming students and I was glad to get three copies to share and then donate to the church. Good date questions and makes me want to read romance novels with this in mind as well as do some movie reviews in light with this knowledge. With so many marriages not making it through the challenges of life, if this is a tool that makes people pause, think and reflect to make sure they are ready for the co ...more
If you like talk radio, then you can listen to this audiobook. Certain genres, for example fantasy, where authors spit names and countries spoken in no known language, don't lend themselves to audiobook form. They require attention to retain important details and follow plot movement. I expect all but the supreme multi-taskers can digest audiobooks only during the most menial chores, e.g. driving and washing dishes.

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married, subject broad, language and conce
Sep 06, 2011 Brittany rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: See my review ;)
Recommended to Brittany by: Gigill
Shelves: nonfiction, self-help
How I Came To Read This Book: My sister had it in her suitcase, and she's currently visiting, so I read it.

The Plot: This book is written by a marriage counselor who himself has been in a long-term marriage - but not without its problems. In 12 short and sweet chapters he details, as the title says, things he wishes he had known before he got married. Each 'issue' is tied back both to conflicts in his own marriage, and to the clients he works with. At the end of each chapter, he provides you wit
Like many of Gary Chapman's books, this is a fast, easy read filled with useful and practical suggestions. Several of the topics covered in this book at topics I have regularly discussed with people over the last 30 years. My top picks would be How romantic feeling need aren't enough, that you need to work to keep love going. Understanding differences and choosing to love your partner in a way that is meaningful to them. How forgiveness and apologizing are key to making a marriage work. How back ...more
Jenn Ravey
I think that for young couples, this book could be extremely helpful. As a woman in her 30s, this book felt like it only covered surface material. My boyfriend and I have each lived on our own. We've done all the chores. We've discussed which we like and dislike, but we've been out of our parents' homes for years, and even when I lived at home, my parents split the duties pretty evenly.

Again, I don't think this book is bad. I simply wish I would've known it was geared toward young couples who h
This short book about aspects of marriage to consider was really good. It perpetuated some generalizations about gender roles, but nothing too gnarly. Each chapter is a topic to consider before getting married. They are all common sense, but there's nothing wrong with that. It helped me to remember that it's normal to be different from your partner and for the differences to cause friction.
Angela Marie
it's great! my boyfriend and i read at least one chapter a week. we schedule specific time for us to read this book and go through it together. definitely recommend this for dating couples... or as the book says, even married couples, or single people!
you can learn what to expect, the changes that can happen, wishes and desires. it also brings up great conversation, things you'd most definitely rather know before marriage.

and don't think you don't need it! my boyfriend and i are the most open a
I wasn't very far into this book when I realized that I was probably not Mr. Chapman's target audience. Yes, I'm engaged, and I'm trying to enter into my marriage thoughtfully. But I'm also not 19, religious, and in the throes of a new love affair so passionate it makes me lose all sense of reason and expect love will conquer all. Perhaps for someone in that state, this book would be more of a helpful guide, since it's much more of a basic primer about how to have an adult relationship. But sinc ...more
Chandler Disch
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Michaela V.

Titul To keby sme vedeli… pred svadbou! je súhrnom autorových skúseností z jeho viac než tridsať ročnej praxe manželského poradcu, z ktorého v konečnom dôsledku zistíte, že všetko aj tak závisí od dostatočnej miery komunikácie. Chapman má však dobrý štýl písania, vďaka čomu knižku dokážete prečítať veľmi rýchlo a pritom aj s nízkou koncentráciou porozumiete jej hlavnému posolstvu.

Každá kapitola má formu upozornenia na to, čo si mladí ľudia tesne pred vstupom do manželstva nestihnú v ošiali zamil
Jun 22, 2014 AbbyJoy rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Singles, Couples, Men, Women
This is a book that was assigned to a college class that I wanted to take, but unfortunately was not able to due to conflicting schedules. The class was about marriage and family matters, and I had a lot of friends who were able to take the class. They all agreed that it was the best book assigned to the class, and recommended it. I bought it, but only got the chance to read it now.

Chapman pointed out twelve different areas that most couples don't take the time to discuss prior to marriage, and
I'm very glad I experienced this book.

Chapman successfully lays out things you MUST consider about marriage and what it's like.

It was simply very practical and very good advice quantified and compiled neatly into a book for anyone who is getting, is or will be married at some point.

It's a quick read. (I listened to the Audiobook and in one week of normal work commuting I was finished) There are practical exercises at the end of each chapter that couple could do together to further digest the
I just finished this book from the library and have ordered my own personal copy for myself and my boyfriend. We really liked the questions at the end of each chapter. Chapman talks about a lot of practical things to consider and be aware of as you move from a dating relationship to a marriage relationship.

One of the things that seems to be missing from a lot of these highly recommended pre-marital counseling books is any considerations for those who have lived on their own for several years an
Hamed Zakerzadeh
To be honest, it was my first reading experience in such topics. So, I am not sure about my rating. Perhaps you could find most of its contents somewhere else; I have no idea!

However, it reminded me some crucial points about marriage which I already knew, and added some other points in extra. We all hear that "love is not enough for a marriage", "tingles do not last forever"; or know that we should consider the behavior of parents and other in-laws before marriage (like mother, like daughter). T
Liz De Coster
Seemed a bit geared towards younger couples who don't have a lot of real, adult experiences under their belt, so some of the advice has kind of a "duh" feel to it. Also, as a non-Christian, some of the religious and spiritual components of the advice didn't really fit for me.
Aaron Torres
Short read that gives singles, couples, or married folks some critical questions to ask themselves and each other. Those questions could lead to ending an unhealthy marriage or strengthening a waning one.
Mariam Dawood
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highly recommended for those interested in a long-term relationship

Gary Chapman is very thoughtful and thorough in addressing sore spots in marriages. This book may act as a guide to mediate between couples who don't have the understanding of what is creating conflicts. It is pretty methodical and easy to apply if both parties are willing to learn. He addresses topics like love language, similarities to parent behaviors, different dispositions and personality preferences, and conflict resolutio
Katlego Mojapelo
Gary Chapman has over 35 years experience in the study of human relationships and how best we can communicate with our loved ones.

Reading this book was such a relief, that I'm not alone, I need to discuss indepth topics from finances to spirituality/ religious beliefs , how to deal with arguments , making decisions together, coming to agreement or middle ground, sexuality and the list is endless all these are things that we know as common sense yet never think of as important, however he puts i
Anna W.
I feel this is probably an incredibly helpful book for serious couples and those engaged to be married. It was overtly Christian, which--as a catholic--didn't really affect me, but I can see where same sex couples or nondenominational followers would be a bit put off by some of the context. Overall, I found this book helpful, and it's a great reminder that marriage is about much more than loving a much more. I liked Chapman's "5 Languages of Love" book much more; this is a nice compl ...more
Laura Radniecki
I have a huge fan of the 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman. I thought this might be a fun book to read as well.

It's a book designed ideally for engaged couples or even for people who are dating and thinking about becoming engaged. I've been married almost 8 years so my perspective was a little different than the intended reader.

But I agree with almost everything he wrote about. I think that it would be a great read for engaged couples, and would trigger conversations that might not come up o
Kevin Schulthies
Great book that highlights many areas that are commonly overlooked before a serious relationship like marriage and attempts to identify them as such, areas of concern and tripping points later, or points of hurt, frustration etc, and also tries to equip you prior to hopefully how you can learn about all these things so that you can make a much more informed choice whether or not you do marry this person or if there are too many deal breakers that you are not able to or unwilling to compromised o ...more
I think the idea of this book is great. It's a good idea to talk about a range of issues with your significant other prior to getting married. The book covered the little things, like cleaning, and the big things, like religion. The book also gave advice on arguing, apologizing, forgiving, etc.

Despite the good premise, I didn't really care for the book. There were several things I did not like.

First, my impression from reading this book is that the author and his wife must have gotten married
Lindsey Riley
As a part of our pre-marital counseling through his church, my fiance and I read this book and went over it with a mentor couple. The author, the same guy who wrote The Five Love Languages, broke down the twelve things he wished he had known before he and his wife got hitched. He claims that if they had discussed and prepared in each of these areas, the early years of life with his wife would have been less filled with disappointment, disillusionment, resentment, arguments, guilt, and discourage ...more
Tiana Marie
I think this book gave good advice, but due to me being in a relationship for four years I found some of it to be somewhat obvious. There were specific chapters that stood out to me that I know will help very much in the future. The fact that this book slightly glossed-over the 5 love languages has made me want to read that book soon, I found the online questionnaire to be very accurate for me in finding my primary love language. I finished the book in one day, a quick, simple, to-the-point read ...more
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“People do not get married planning to divorce. Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as teammates in an intimate relationship.” 20 likes
“I think the tingles are important. They are real, and I am in favor of their survival. But they are not the basis for a satisfactory marriage. I am not suggesting that on should marry without the tingles. Those warm, excited feelings, the chill bumps, that sense of acceptance, the excitement of the touch that make up the tingles serve as the cherry on top of the sundae. But you cannot have a sundae with only the cherry.” 16 likes
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