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Preparing To Be A Help Meet: For Unmarried and Married Women

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Being a good help meet starts long before marriage. It is a mindset, a learned habit, a way of life established as a young unmarried girl or at least that's the way it should be. Most girls spend plenty of time planning for their wedding, but make no preparation for the weeks and years to follow. It was with good reason God said let the aged women teach the younger. Prepar
Paperback, 302 pages
Published November 30th 2010 by No Greater Joy Ministries (first published February 1st 2010)
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Sep 12, 2012 Natalie rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This remains the only book I have ever thrown across a room, I have a deep respect for books, but this one angered me mightily. The reality is this book focuses very heavily on how a woman is supposed to catch a man with a one size fits all type of attitude toward the subject. I know that it is about preparing to get married and in some respects this book is useful, but it focuses more on how to catch a man than finding one's own self worth and value in God... at the end of the day, a man will n ...more
Amanda Tero
I might not be credible for a review, because I have not read this entire book. But here is some of what I saw:

~The first chapter on prayer is amazing! Yes! How much we need to pray for the men and young men we know!
~The explanation of character types is very interesting and definitely helps to know how to relate to others.

~This book goes more into detail (with feelings, lust) than I care for. I understand that for a normal teenage girl, it would be nothing though.
~Overall, the
Michelle Padrelanan
I have three wonderful and beautiful daughters – well, just let me sing their praises now ‘coz I am their mom! :)) – and it is very important for me to be able to impart to them how to choose their future spouses. Even when my eldest was just a baby, I have already begun praying for her future spouse and I continued to do that till now and will keep on doing so with all my children.

Preparing To Be a Help Meet by Debi Pearl is a book for young Christian girls who would like to prepare themselves
Christina Knotts
This book was the most challenging on the subject I have yet to read. While we are to look totally to the Word of God, Mrs. Pearl's insight and wisdom echoes much of the Biblical statutes that I love so dear.

My favorite chapter would probably have to be "The Italian Prince." I was greatly encouraged and challenged to get up and actually DO something with my life - and not just to prove that I was a grown woman and that I could live independently, but to work with my hands the things of the LORD.
Aug 16, 2011 Cami rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Though I did not agree on some of the ways she presented her theology there are many treasures in this book for young women looking to be married someday. There is a lot of life lessons and wise counsel to receive from this book - from very basic fundamental truth to deeper thought provoking and self-evaluating truth. And though, it seems to me, that it is hard to specify how to build relationships because most processes are different and diverse, I felt she painted a good generalization of how ...more
Natalie Wickham
I don’t even remember what prompted me to pick this book up to skim through it one night because I don’t usually read marriage-centered books, but I was immediately captivated. So much so that I ended up staying up well into the night reading through almost the whole book. As my sisters and I traveled out of town the following day, I read them a chapter and other portions of the book that I found particularly inspiring. Even though I question some of the author’s points, I finished the book feel ...more
Abigayle Claire
Not my favorite book on godly relationship advice. The stories were funny and heartwarming. However, I did not agree with all the stances the authors took, or the way some of their opinions were presented. However, their categories for men and women are very accurate and have been helpful. That was my favorite takeaway.
With any book like this, there were things I did agree with and things I didn't agree with. There are definitely topics discussed in this book that are way against the mainstream culture. It won't be everyone's cup of tea. Overall though, I think the author, to the best of her ability, tried to make sure her writing was grounded in Biblical truth. She gave wise counsel to any woman who is willing to listen and read with an open heart.
Jul 19, 2012 Bethany rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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While I do not claim to personally take hold of some of the Pearl's views and beliefs on different issues; I can say that the bulk of the information and advice in this book is very helpful, and encouraging, regardless of seeing eye to eye on specifics. It is definitely a helpful tool while thinking about marriage, and encourages young women to not waste their single years, but to be productive and actively preparing for your future!
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I really enjoyed her usual analysis of three types of men, The Command Man, The Visionary Man, and The Steady Man, as well as her additional commentary on three types of women. I appreciated the way she advises young women to "have a life" of their own and not just sit around waiting for "Prince Charming" to come and whisk them away to happily ever after. And I liked the way she recommended using the single years to focus on growing in the Lord and serving Him. This was one of my favorite quotes ...more
Full review to come sometime this week!
Amanda Butler
Jul 16, 2013 Amanda Butler rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
OK: First and Foremost, I need to address something. I have read some reviews on different Christian-themed books that were suggested to people who did not appreciate the fact that they were recommended books that were "Christian", and that they would not have read these books if they had known that they were "Christian" first. That is your prerogative if such is the case. I would be inclined to suggest that you "not judge a book by its cover", but that is up to you. As I have stated in several ...more
I love reading books for young women about christian living, and in this case, preparing to meet your future husband. I've read a few books on this subject, and I just have to say that this book is one of the better ones. It has had more impact on me and my walk with the Lord than some of the other books I've read on this subject.

I've learned and also relearned a lot of things. I loved how this book was full of stories, and not just nice stories about marriages that went well, but also stories
Dec 23, 2016 Laura rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Some good points, but I disagreed with a lot of this book. Seemed very bent in its views. Didn't care for it.
Jan 03, 2015 Haley rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this book alongside an amazing woman who started mentoring me. The author is a crazy Conservative Christian and unashamedly so - so you have to take everything with a grain of salt, and bring it back to the Bible. I don't think this is a book for non-Christians, at all. You will not respect what she has to say if you don't believe in the Bible. However, if you are someone searching for how to serve and honor God and to try and prepare for a God-honoring marriage, I think this is an amazin ...more
Sep 21, 2011 Kayla rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The theme of the book is godly submission… helping unmarried ladies focus on character building that will help the transition to submission. She identifies three main types of men: the prophet, the priest, and the king. She then goes on to describe how each of these men tend to operate (the prophet tends to be entrepreneurial and creative type; the priest tends to be more quiet and servant in nature; and the king tends to be much more of a leader), and how each of these is a distinct part of Who ...more
Apr 03, 2011 Kristin rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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This was my third or fourth reread in about a year and a half. I love this book. God speaks to me through it no matter how many times I read it, and it never gets dull.


I had read many good things about this book, so finally I just ordered it from Amazon. After reading the first chapter, I felt like someone had knocked me over the head with something (something very large and heavy). And I mean that in the best way. Every single chapter has been opening my eyes. To how very unprepared I am for
May 09, 2012 Bethany rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What I loved about this book was that it gave a lot of very practical information that you can still use even if you never get married. Plus the information was varied and relevant. It has love stories (each one very different as well!) interspersed in between to prove different points. Many singles books I have read are targeted toward a specific audience or demographic (for example, trendy "youth group" crowds, or very conservative Mennonite girls on the opposite spectrum). This book, for the ...more
Lara Kile
Nov 20, 2016 Lara Kile rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Has some good points. Encouraging stories. However, the tone of the book seems to suggest that a woman's only role in life is to marry and drop everything to either devote herself to his ministries or become a house wife. I'm a woman but I'm also a doctor. I have long hours at work and patients that depend on me. When I get married I can't devote all of myself to him. I have other important responsibilities too. Marriage should be about helping each other, and picking up the slack when one or th ...more
May 14, 2011 Frances rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: girls ages 14 and up
Shelves: christianity
This was a great book for teenage girls. There are lots of helpful illustrative real-life stories and good ideas about how to prepare yourself for marriage. That said, there was less emphasis on the fact that God is the only thing that will ever ultimately satisfy, and that we should really be preparing to meet Him one day. While I'm sure that was an oversight on the author's part, it left the impression that getting married will satisfy all your hopes and dreams, which it can't. The book was fi ...more
Mar 24, 2013 Kerri rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I know many people don't like the Pearls because of their "pride and arrogance". I agree that they are rather over the top, but there's something refreshing and unusual about an American Christian in the twenty-first century who dares to unapologetically and unashamedly state their beliefs and convictions.
I liked this book because it contained a lot of practical advice. Generally, I find books for single Christian women to be stifling, shallow, boring, and sometimes even insulting. This one br
May 24, 2013 Sarah rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2013
I appreciated a lot of the concepts and principles presented in this book, but the presentation and stories seemed unnecessarily "weird" in some ways and that was a distraction for me. It was an interesting blend of good information, unusual (and so often unhelpful and confusing) examples, and undeveloped ideas and principles. My sense was that if you're already well-grounded biblically and want encouragement it could provide some of that, but it's not a good foundational book because of the lac ...more
Liesl Hathaway
Jan 19, 2011 Liesl Hathaway rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Liesl by: Bro. Jimmy Nichols
Very good - practical teaching that you can put to life. A couple of things I would disagree with (God telling her at age twelve whom she would marry?) but 99 percent was helpful, convicting, and I would definitely recommend it for any young woman. I liked this book so much that after I lent it to a friend, who then left for college and hasn't had time to read it, I requested it at my local library so I could read it again myself.
First off, let me just say I'm not a huge fan of the author.... I certainly didn't agree with everything she has to say. However, I really appreciated the fact that the Scripture used was all taken from the KJV. I also found a lot of the material extremely helpful...much of which I am immediately starting to put into practice.
Jul 12, 2010 Kasie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
AWESOME BOOK! I've read and re-read Debi Pearl's "Created to Be His Help Meet", I guess getting a head's up for when I am married. But this book is great for just that! Not only does it tell you what to expect from different types of men, but how to be preparing yourself now as a single girl, how to serve, learning practical skills and such. I'm really enjoying our girls' study on this book!
May 05, 2015 Tori rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Incredible book, honestly. The first time around, I read it straight through taking minor notes, but I think once I read it another time through, I'm going to go much deeper with the practicals. I feel much more prepared and honestly at peace about my role as a helper in the Kingdom. I would recommend this book to every single sister.
I definetly recommend this volume. Every young single Christian lady should read this. A collection of personal testimonies, stories, anecdotes and tips on making the most of your single years, and preparing for marriage and beyond. For the single girls who might be getting antsy on finding their true love, this is a must-read. My daughters some day will read this just as I did.
Oct 03, 2012 Chawn rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is another one I will read over and over again. It really helped me to see how loving my role as a help meet and as a wife is God's plan. I should not fight with God about my position but willingly step into his will for my life.
Jun 19, 2013 Sarah rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Well, I wrote a nice long review and accidentally deleted it. So here's the short review: This is a lovely book. I personally really like Debi Pearl's writing style. And I learned a lot of things from this book.
Okay, I liked parts of this book, but I would not recommend it. It was not written carefully, and some things came across as legalistic or just plain strange-you have to kind of read with a translator in your mind.Even so, parts of it offended me. The Pearls struck me before as being slightly odd.
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