I Kissed Dating Goodbye
by Joshua Harrispublished
April 1st 2003
(first published 2006)
by Multnomah
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Paperback, 238 pages
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1590521358
(isbn13: 9781590521359)
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While most Christians agree to seek purity and save sex for marriage, few have been given a blueprint for how that should affect their view of dating ...more
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Read in July, 1997
It's weird.
When I read this for the first and only time, I had just parted ways with a high school girlfriend. Our relationship had been the most intense I'd ever had, and while we were in it, we were both pretty positive that this was real and fervent love. She's now happily married to a great guy who isn't me, and I'm now happily married to an amazing woman who isn't her. I'm not proud of how it ended, but it needed to.
This book fell into the midst of that dynamic in my life, and it...more
When I read this for the first and only time, I had just parted ways with a high school girlfriend. Our relationship had been the most intense I'd ever had, and while we were in it, we were both pretty positive that this was real and fervent love. She's now happily married to a great guy who isn't me, and I'm now happily married to an amazing woman who isn't her. I'm not proud of how it ended, but it needed to.
This book fell into the midst of that dynamic in my life, and it...more
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I actually kissed dating goodbye after I got married (except the infrequent times my wife and I can leave our kids at home and go out for a quick dinner). However, this book really is a challenge to teens and younger adults (college/young singles) to rethink their mindset of the 'dating' culture. Some will cringe in reading this ideology for the first time, but when contimplating how to protect your own holiness and the purity of others, it makes more sense. Accountability and NOT acting on f...more
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Title:
I Kissed Dating Goodbye
Author:
Harris, Joshua
Publisher:
Multnomah
Format:
Paperback
BCID:
Library
No. of pages:
235
First sentence:
Reading a book is a lot like a dating relationship.
I bought this book a number of years ago because I was looking for a different way to run my, very disastrous, love life. I passed it on to the Church library without reading it but saw it on the shelf a few weeks ago and decided to pick it up again as I've been reading other books...more
I Kissed Dating Goodbye
Author:
Harris, Joshua
Publisher:
Multnomah
Format:
Paperback
BCID:
Library
No. of pages:
235
First sentence:
Reading a book is a lot like a dating relationship.
I bought this book a number of years ago because I was looking for a different way to run my, very disastrous, love life. I passed it on to the Church library without reading it but saw it on the shelf a few weeks ago and decided to pick it up again as I've been reading other books...more
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Read in January, 1997
I read this book when I was a broken-hearted nineteen-year-old. At the time the idea of kissing dating goodbye and doing it in the name of God seemed like a grand idea. I think it was largely because I had no dates to kiss goodbye, so it gave me some noble reason to beyond the fact that girls didn't like me and the fact that despite my liking them I was terrified of them. I think Harris has some very valid points as best as I can remember, but they are a bit extreme and maybe even unrealistic. ...more
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Read in January, 2000
In this book Joshua Harris tells you to, as the title suggests, to kiss dating goodbye, suggesting that here is a better way to approach romance than simple "dating" could ever provide.
He urges you to ask yourself "what is your motivation in relationships, pleasing yourself or serving others?", "do you give yourself away physically or emotionally in ways you will regret when married?", and "does your current relationship hinder you from serving God as a si...more
He urges you to ask yourself "what is your motivation in relationships, pleasing yourself or serving others?", "do you give yourself away physically or emotionally in ways you will regret when married?", and "does your current relationship hinder you from serving God as a si...more
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Read in June, 2007
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Tania
This book was amazing! For Christians who are truly serious about their relationship with God, this book provides inspiration and motivation to stop looking for love that fails, words that are sweet and void of meaning or truth. It speaks from the heart of a man who knows what he is talking about and although many will and have criticized this book, i believe if you read it with an open heart you will have to admit that his argument makes sense.
Truly, I am so into this book and his philisophy ...more
Truly, I am so into this book and his philisophy ...more
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Read in January, 2007
I am a 17 year old christian teenage girl who has lived her relationship life according to this book and has no regrets. I have healthy friendships with a lot of guys but--amazingly enough--not a single boyfriend. And my life has been just fine for it. Actually, my life has been great. The whole point of the book is that there is a season for everything: a season for investing in friendships, and a season for dating/courting for the purpose of marriage. This has worked just fine for all the peop...more
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Read in June, 2008
This book continues to be a great inspiration to me, and this is my second time reading it, the first being when I was newly christened a teenager. Joshua Harris has such a straightforward way of showing you why he believes Dating can lead people astray and how you can live above that lifestyle. Each chapter had me convinced that Joshua Harris was onto something golden, something that I wanted to be a part of, this whole non-dating revolution. And all this was years ago, when I first read and be...more
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Read in January, 2004
I first heard of Josh Harris on a Christian radio station. I was driving and listening to him talk about the pitfalls of modern dating. I was so captivated by his message, that I sat in the car listening long after I arrived at my destination. I went and purchased this book the next day.
After the first chapter, I put it down. It was a lot to take in for an ex-feminist, control freak like me. I talked to my dad about it and decided to give the book a chance. My love life has never been the sa...more
After the first chapter, I put it down. It was a lot to take in for an ex-feminist, control freak like me. I talked to my dad about it and decided to give the book a chance. My love life has never been the sa...more
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I learned that dating someone is not a game. That dating is essential for a successful relationship. And it brings joy not only to you but your partner as well. And I learned that it is okay for a guy to tell his partner that "our relationship is not working anymore, we have to end it". Not the social protocol of girls always does the break up. Why? Because, it only shows that we are man enough to stand for our partner and the success of our relationship. That we care not only after o...more
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Read in November, 2002
recommends it for:
All Lustful People
Good thing I've read this before I got into any relationship. It doesn't tell us to geet rid of dating itself. Quoting him, there are "sinful non-daters and Godly daters." It's just a matter of putting God as the center of one's life and relationship. If it's well-established, then everything good will follow.
It teaches us to not indulge into any relationship that won't lead us nowhere. Nice romantic ones start with friendship and then it blossoms into something higher. Of c...more
It teaches us to not indulge into any relationship that won't lead us nowhere. Nice romantic ones start with friendship and then it blossoms into something higher. Of c...more
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recommended to Rebekah by:
700 club
recommends it for: singles; single pastors
recommends it for: singles; single pastors
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I really liked this book. It completely rocks the conventional idea of dating, and, in my opinion, his views make complete sense - even if one removes the Christian aspect. I mean, looking for a life-long partner among one's good friends instead of through fleeting romance seems like a solid plan to me.
I know his views don't work for everyone, but they correspond really well with my opinions on relationships that I've been trying to form over the past two and half years. Joshua finally put it ...more
I know his views don't work for everyone, but they correspond really well with my opinions on relationships that I've been trying to form over the past two and half years. Joshua finally put it ...more
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I wonder if all the Josh Harris fans out there know he now has a internet porn addiction, which I think is largely HILARIOUS. The Moral of the Story is: completely ignoring and minimizing the importance of your sex drive leads to confusion, sexual dissatisfaction, and your wife walking in on you watching "Backdoor Sluts VII."
Ignorance about anything is never good, especially if it is something you are planning on being a large part of your life one day. Even if you believe in wait...more
Ignorance about anything is never good, especially if it is something you are planning on being a large part of your life one day. Even if you believe in wait...more
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Read in January, 1998
recommends it for:
Anyone tired of the dating game, Young Christian men and women
I read this book when my daughter was in high school and gave it to her to read. It provides an interesting perspective on dating and courtship. Not all Christians agree with Mr. Harris' premise to the degree that he adhered to it, but it seems to have worked for him, as his subsequent book, Boy Meets Girl relates his courtship with his wife. I think my daughter agreed with some of what he had to say in principle, but not always for the same reasons. (I think his reasons were much loftier.) ...more
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Read in January, 2007
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teenagers & parents
This book is absolutley great. Puts the whole idea of dating, romance, finding a mate through the lense of Scripture. I learn't so much that I didn't know - especially the bit about how important our time being single is, and how we should be using it for God. It really inspired me to make the most of my singleness. You will be blessed by this refreshing book. After you read it you will be telling your friends about it and loaning it out! I would strongly encourage anyone, whether in a relations...more
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Read in November, 1998
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monks and nuns
My best friend and first boyfriend both gave up dating after reading this book, in favor of only "courting" the person they planned to marry. The book says that physical touch before marriage is empty and sinful. I wouldn't have included this book in my list, but I was reading the goodreads list of worst-rated, and I found it hilarious that this book made the cut. I actually found this book and its applications in my friends' lives to be quite amusing. Perhaps a rating of "on...more
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Read in July, 2008
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Matthew Eaton, Latoya Wolferecommends it for: 14 years and up
Finally finished the book. I have to admit, it's very sound Godly advice for minimizing the amount of the hurt, pain, and consequences of reckless dating. It got harder to read at the end because it ventured into the territory of his next book "Boy meets girl". I don't know if he knew he was going to write the next one or not, but either way the last few pages I didn't even read because of the overlap. I recommend this book to those who are tired of the way things are and aren't scared...more
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Read in April, 2008
The title of this book is different, which is why I picked it up in the first place. The book isn't so much about giving up dating as the title implies, it's more about not dating seriously until you are ready to get married, and to use the time gaining a strong relationships with good friends and especially with Heavenly Father. The author, Joshua Harris, really drives home the idea that singleness is not something to dread, but to realize it as a gift.
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Read in December, 2006
Actually I have read this book..
I'm reading it again because i think i wanna get different point of view...
I think this book is very good..it gave me a point of view as a single..how my relationships with man can affect my relationships with JC. One point which is very interested for me is.. don't get into the relationship with opposite sex..if we're not ready to get married...
My first conclusion when I've finished the book was..I've done it...but this book help me now to evaluate my r...more
I'm reading it again because i think i wanna get different point of view...
I think this book is very good..it gave me a point of view as a single..how my relationships with man can affect my relationships with JC. One point which is very interested for me is.. don't get into the relationship with opposite sex..if we're not ready to get married...
My first conclusion when I've finished the book was..I've done it...but this book help me now to evaluate my r...more
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"Don’t concern yourself with being right in others’ eyes. And don’t secretly hope that their lives will fall apart so that your opinion will be vindicated. Instead, concentrate on obeying God in your own life and, when possible, helping others to obey Him as well. You don’t have to prove others wrong to continue on the course you know God has shown you."
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