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The Big Love

3.06  ·  Rating Details ·  2,116 Ratings  ·  302 Reviews
Alison Hopkins isn't just looking for Mr. Right . . . or even Mr. Big. She's holding out for the Big Love.

When 32-year-old Alison's first real boyfriend unceremoniously dumps her - he steps out to buy mustard for a dinner party and never returns - it's time for Alison to reassess her lifelong search for romantic fulfillment. Does true love even exist? Is every romantic inv
Paperback, 228 pages
Published June 2nd 2005 by Back Bay Books (first published January 1st 2004)
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Jan 24, 2015 rachel rated it did not like it
The Big Love joins yogurt ads, spray tans, and sitcoms in the long line of terrible things that have resulted from our culture's expectations of, and regard for, women.

Things I hate about The Big Love (the short list):

1.) The main character of The Big Love went to a frickin' Ivy League university and her main obsessions are marriage and why, at age 32, she has only had sex with two people in her life. Are you kidding me?

OK, so, she's from a fundamentalist Christian background and argues that
May 16, 2007 Jill rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: former Christian school girls
This book was smarter than average chic lit (I would presume), although still chic lit, HOWEVER if you grew up an evangelical Christian and now find yourself a bit more...liberal, this character is amazing. The stuff she writes about the Christian dating scene and the resulting issues of sex are hysterical.
Bleh... couldn't even finish it on BOOK TAPE. It was really just bad. But plenty of jokes about fundamentalist Christianity, mixed in with the horribly stupid storyline about being in love with the world's most obnoxious guy, and a liberal dose of profanity.

Don't bother.
Oct 20, 2009 Milka rated it liked it
Shelves: 2009
Alison is looking for the big love. She thought she has found it but when her boyfriend for several years leaves her during the dinner party, she has to start to consider things from different angles.
Eventually Alison starts to think that does the real love, the big love, even exists. And if it does, how can you find it?

The are many new, unfamiliar things Alison goes through while she is searching for the big love. She has an affair with her boss, she has sex after the first date, she feels hers
Apr 24, 2015 M rated it did not like it
Shelves: terrible
I saw a film the other day in which one of the characters said, "You don't love someone in a vacuum." I love that line - it's stayed with me, and I've been thinking about it a lot. The female lead in this book (yes, I've forgotten her name already), however, does love people in a vacuum. She has nothing else in her life - no interests beyond men, dating, sex (or lack thereof) - she has nothing to say to us, her readers, that isn't about relationships. Even when she (view spoiler) ...more
Apr 08, 2015 Lesley rated it really liked it
Yes. YES. This is chick lit done properly, replete with the kind of intense introspection that would, logically, accompany the sort of romantic plots so present in the genre. This particular narrative isn't terribly different from the others, but the narrator's voice elevates it to something else. Some of the sentence structure was a little distracting, although I respect it as an aesthetic choice.
The Big Love is in the best tradition of chick lit. Alison Hopkins is stunned when her live-in boyfriend, surely preparing to propose, goes out to pick up mustard, then calls to announce he is in love with someone else.

Alison tumbles through a number of reactions and tries to scrape her life together. She narrates the story in a chatty breathless style that feels a lot like a long telephone call. Like this:

"I suppose if I had been exposed to Dorothy Parker at an impressionable age she would hav
Oct 27, 2010 Greymalkin rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: chicklit
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Mar 25, 2010 Viivi rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
"Haittaako jos juon itseni humalaan tänään?" kysyin.
"Miksi se haittaisi?"
"Haluan vain varoittaa seuralaisiani, kun aion juoda itseni humalaan. En halua kenenkään luulevan, että se on vahinko."
"Luovut tietoisuudestasi tietoisesti."
"Aivan", sanoin. "Se saatettaisiin luokitella alkoholismin oireeksi, vaikka en ole ihan varma."
"Tapailin yhteen aikaan naista, joka kävi AA-kerhossa, ja hänen mukaansa kaikki mitä tein viittasi alkoholismiin."
"Millaiset jutut?"
"No, en tiedä", Matt sanoi. "Jatkuva ryyppä
Sep 13, 2007 Ashley rated it really liked it
Shelves: chick-lit
i really loved this book. i think mainly because every girl can relate to the character in some way if not all. her thoughts are similar to ones that i have all the time and expresses feelings that you'd think only you had. makes you feel better knowing that you're not the only girl who thinks/feels certain ways.

i think we've all been through that stage where we always tell ourselves no matter what, we're never going to be with someone who did us wrong but it's always the opposite when we're act
Mar 27, 2009 Eva rated it did not like it
Ughhhh. I forced myself to finish it and even at that, probably skimmed more than 50% of it. I originally picked it up because the title made me think of the HBO show "Big Love." The story line seemed intriguing enough, the girl is throwing a dinner party, sends her live in bf out for mustard, he calls her and breaks up with her over the phone.

The main character is nuerotic and pyscho analyzes everything. As a result, the book is like having a conversation with someone who has a touch of ADD. T
Mar 01, 2014 whatsthatcrap rated it did not like it
Why do I do this to myself? Why I continue to read chick-lit hoping to re-create the excitement I felt when I read "Bridget Jones's Diary" at 22? Only to realize every time that the main reason for the excitement was that I was 22 and "Bridget Jones's Diary" was the first chick-lit I ever read, and in fact, the whole genre is crap. Yesterday's Harlequin romances in a new coat. "The Big Love" is a shining example for that. The title says it all, for God's sake. But no, I had to convince myself "i ...more
Aug 21, 2013 Suvi rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: aikuisvinkkaus
Sarah Dunnin Suuri rakkaus on kirja itsensä löytämisestä ja itsensä kunnioittamisesta. Alison on reilu kolmekymppinen nainen, jonka avomies Tom jättää yllättäen sinapinhakureissun yhteydessä (tärkeä yksityiskohta). Alison joutuu pohtimaan, miksi Tom palasi takaisin vanhan rakkautensa Katen luo, mitä Katella on enemmän kuin hänellä. Alison joutuu myös miettimään, millainen henkilö hän on ja mitä hän haluaa elämältään.

Vaikka tämä kirja on sijoitettu romantiikkaan kirjastossa, ja vaikka romantiikas
Apr 15, 2009 Sheila rated it it was ok
I read this book several months ago. It did have a couple of humorous moments and I could empathize with Alison in the beginning but as the novel progressed it became harder to identify with her. I noticed that they are billing this book as appealing to fans of Price and Prejudice as well as The Girls' Guide to Hunting and Fishing. Well, I loved P&P and thought The Girls' Guide to Hunting and Fishing was very overrated. Honestly, this book has nothing in common with P&P. Don't expect too ...more
Apr 30, 2015 Lobo rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Sarah Dunn könyve teljesen véletlenül került a kezembe, a könyvtárból hazafelé úgy gondoltam kell valami könnyű amit a buszon tudok olvasni. A kötet vékony volt, új, semmit nem tudtam róla, hát levettem a polcról és nekiálltam a buszmegállóban már az olvasásának. Aztán még amikor leszálltam is faltam a betűket. Megint sikerült kifogni egy jópofa női regényt, pedig mostanában ebből nincs sok. Holott elrettenthetett volna, hogy a Blikk Nők kiadványa, de ezt csak utólag vettem észre és bár a 2500fo ...more
Susan Ash hanson
Sep 24, 2016 Susan Ash hanson rated it liked it
This book made my brain hurt....
May 30, 2008 Susanna rated it it was amazing
This book was great! It isn't often that I open a book and find it necessary to keep reading until I have read every last detail. I enjoyed Sarah's writing style imensley. There was never a point where the plot started to drag.

This is a great book that explores why women tend to stay in relationships longer than they know they should, while simultaneously exploring the impact having a strong religous background has on current day dating. It's laugh-out-loud hilarious!
Feb 13, 2015 Mycala rated it really liked it
The story line in this was kind of wobbly, but the main reason I connected with it is because the main character struggles with her Christian upbringing and even though she is no longer a believer, she still finds herself questioning things. A lot of things that were mentioned struck a chord with me and some of the scenarios had me laughing out loud and nodding my head. Anyone who has any kind of past with organized religion should find this very amusing.
Tracey Ayres
Apr 18, 2016 Tracey Ayres rated it really liked it
Everything negative that's been said by "The Big Love" haters is true. It's cliche and depicts women as if our interests and obsessions and rights haven't evolved since the 1800's. If you want to read about other ways that this book offends some, there's plenty of 1-star, negative reviews which do a great job.

But I very much enjoyed this book in spite of the above and everything said by everyone else.

The Big Love is the definition of "beach read" though that genre isn't generally high on my list
Lillian Graves
Sep 15, 2014 Lillian Graves rated it liked it
There was a lot to like and dislike about this book. I really enjoyed the chatty-Cathy voice it was written in. I think while it did get a little annoying and boring at times like the other reviews have stated, it was refreshing. It was a great representation of that type of character or woman - the one that will spill her guts the moment after you stop shaking her hand.

However, I think what steered this away from a Stephanie Plum (Janet Evanovich) type of feel was that the chattiness of the cha
Feb 26, 2016 SunshineGirl rated it did not like it
Shelves: adult, romance, 2016
I really liked the idea of this book. The description is so much better than the actual book.

It was a mess. The book is written from the POV of the main character & you read every thought she has, every thought & explanation of the thought. It was overload. It was a complete crazy person dialog.

You will order ice tea, because it is hot and you don't want water because it has no flavor but you are dieting do no soda with sugar and too early for wine except that day you celebrated with fri
Mar 31, 2009 Kate rated it it was ok
Shelves: chic-lit
Really not a great book at all. Hard to even recommend for light reading. I finished it simply because I was waiting at the house while the movers packed and had nothing else available. Got two stars instead of one, because there were a couple funny parts.
Nancy O'Toole
Sep 14, 2010 Nancy O'Toole rated it it was ok
Shelves: audiobook, chick-lit
Alison Hopkins receives the shock of her life while hosting a dinner party. She sends her boyfriend out to get mustard, and then he never comes back. Instead, he calls her on the phone, advising her that he has left her for his college sweetheart Kate Pearce, who, she finds out, he has been cheating on her with for months. Alison doesn’t know how to deal with this break up from a man that she thought that she was going to marry one day, and the fact that she’s completely neurotic about sex and a ...more
Jul 05, 2011 Christina rated it really liked it
Slight spoilers.

So much, much better than I could have expected. I am leery about back covers that purport to be the modern exquivalent of (insert current popular topic/TV show here), especially when I have not indulged in said current popular topic/TV show.

So I was hopeful as I cracked this open over my dad's hospital bed as a diversion. And I was vastly rewarded with such relate-able writing as this:

"Anything without discussion is pretty much impossible for me. Sometimes I wish I could be one
Reetta Saine
Älykästä ja sarkastista rakkautta, joka viihteeksi nyt toimestani luokitellaan.

Huumori toimi kesken illalliskutsujen häipyneen avomiehen surutyössä pitkään, ja uskonnollisen menneisyyden pyörittäminen oli aidosti hauskaa. Luterilainen etiikka puree meitäkin syvältä...

Varsinainen romantiikkakin löytyy, mutta silti ihan näin pinkkiä kantta en Suurelle rakkaudelle olisi antanut. Enemmän kasvu- ja kehitystarina, jossa aina on tilaa sille viidennelle...
Jan 03, 2011 Carrie rated it it was ok
A decent enough piece of chick lit, with some truly funny scenes and insights (the "throwing the monkey from the window" conversation was my favorite), but really lacking in some ways. I mean, I know this is a piece of chick lit, fluffy by nature, but despite all her neurotic hang-ups Alison (the protagonist) doesn't seem that affected by anything. She thought a lot about her relationship with Tom and why it ended, but never really seemed that sad. And then she gets fired from her job soon after ...more
Sarah B.
This was a lovely bit of chick lit. Although I did not grow up in a Fundamentalist Christian culture, Dunn does a terrific job of describing her character's slow realization that mainstream dating is tricky, and doing everything right does not guarantee the outcome. As you would expect, it is a light (and sometimes funny read), and while it was a little breezy for my tastes, I can't say I didn't enjoy it.
Jul 30, 2013 Bookreaderljh rated it it was ok
This would be a fine book for an easy beach read but I found it formulaic and I'm past the point of really caring about the trials and tribulations of a 30 year old's love life. The book covered just about every career girl single cliche in the book. Boy leaves girl, girl has fling with boss, boy comes back, girl decides to wait for "the big love". Throw in discussions of sin, virginity and being raised evangelical along with a boyfriend who turns out to be gay and a co-worker with unrequited "f ...more
Aug 06, 2016 Alycia rated it liked it
This book was okay. It takes place in Philadelphia but I don't think the author knew it was the 4th largest city in the US when she wrote it because she acts like it is the size of Madison. But she lives in New York, so I guess that's to be expected. It was a fun, easy read but nothing too exciting. The main character is a mess but who doesn't love a recovering evangelical?
I wouldn't have spent the time on this book in text, but the audio version was fun. Narrator Eliza Foss performs the story with just the right amount of irreverence, especially for the "heroine," who aptly describes herself as a narcissistic ninny (because she is). I listened to the majority of this book while painting my deck, and its silliness certainly helped turn a mindless chore into an enjoyable one (almost). I'm not a fan of this chick lit genre, so I'm staying away from my horror over th ...more
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Sarah Dunn (born 1970) is an American author and television writer. She was educated in the University of Arizona.

Coming to prominence in 1994 with her book Official Slacker Handbook, Sarah Dunn went to Hollywood, where she wrote for such series as Murphy Brown, Veronica's Closet and Spin City.
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“I wanted a boyfriend who was a Christian but who wasn't uptight about it, who was good-looking and intelligent and had an interesting job and a sense of humor, who said "fuck" when the situation warranted it, who had attempted to but been unable to finish St. Augustine's City of God, who could argue politics with my mother and talk business with my father, who liked Indian food and had nice friends and knew how to dress and would like someday to live abroad.” 21 likes
“Just because I'd spent so many years coloring inside the lines, it wasn't fair for me to expect perfection. People make mistakes. Life isn't fair. People change.” 8 likes
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