false http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1171567380m/106744.jpg 106744 5 A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting issues joins forces with a physician and bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time -- peers replacing parents in the lives of our children.<br><br>Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until <b>Hold On to Your Kids</b>. Once understood, it becomes self-evident -- as do the solutions.<br><br><b>Hold On to Your Kids</b> will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in <b>Hold On to Your Kids </b>will empower parents to satisfy their children&#8217;s inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth.<br><br><br><i>Something has changed. One can sense it, one can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children are not quite the same as we remember being. They seem less likely to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please those in charge, less afraid of getting into trouble. Parenting, too, seems to have changed. Our parents seemed more confident, more certain of themselves and had more impact on us, for better or for worse. For many, parenting does not feel natural. Adults through the ages have complained about children being less respectful of their elders and more difficult to manage than preceding generations, but could it be that this time it is for real?</i> -- from <b>Hold On to Your Kids</b><br><br><br><i>From the Hardcover edition.</i> 1936828 2004 Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers total:138|5:3|4:7|3:2|2:0|1:0| 138 589 295 56 5 3 false false Sat Apr 19 11:04:33 -0700 2008 Sat Apr 19 14:52:31 -0700 2008 more...]]> 4 1 false false Sat Dec 01 00:00:00 -0800 2007 Fri Jan 18 09:47:46 -0800 2008 Sat Jan 19 07:16:21 -0800 2008 more...]]> 4 1 false false Tue May 05 06:37:28 -0700 2009 Mon Mar 23 08:49:39 -0700 2009 Tue May 05 06:37:28 -0700 2009
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As it says in the title, this book is about why parents need to matter more than peers. His prem...more...]]> 5 0 false false Wed Feb 27 00:00:00 -0800 2008 Fri Feb 29 16:53:42 -0800 2008 Fri Feb 29 16:53:42 -0800 2008 It's all there in the note for the reader. I wish I could copy it and place it here, but just not possible. A few excerpts:
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