Loving Someone Who Has Dementia: How to Find Hope While Coping with Stress and Grief
by Pauline Boss
Research-based advice for people who care for someone with dementiaNearly half of U.S. citizens over the age of 85 are suffering from some kind of dementia and require care. "Loving Someone Who Has Dementia" is a new kind of caregiving book. It's not about the usual techniques, but about how to manage on-going stress and grief. The book is for caregivers, family members, f...more
Paperback, 232 pages
Published August 9th 2011 by Jossey-Bass
(first published June 24th 2011)
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This book introduced some language which is very powerful and helpful for me. It speaks of 'ambiguous loss'. When one's partner is disappearing into the fog of dementia, the term ambiguous loss is incredibly meaningful and powerful. I find that having a name for something helps me understand and accept it. Pauline Boss also speaks of 'complex grief' - again an expression that makes a lot of sense to me and helps me come to terms with my grief that has agonised for over 4 years with the worst yet...more
This is the best book that I have ever read! I want to buy a case to distribute to others who might know a caregiver for a loved one with dementia. I just finished it but want to immediately start over and read it again. I have never said that about a book. You should see all my markings already filling the pages. Please take time to read this fabulous book.
I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who loves someone who lives with dementia or Alzheimer's disease, along with anyone who wants to prepare to be a person who will eventually know and love someone who lives with dementia, as well. I especially like the author's words about ambiguous loss and the complications that unresolved loss can bring to grief. Adding to this subject, the author tells why closure is the wrong goal when loving someone with dementia. She writes about embracing t...more
I gave this book three stars only because of my personal experiences. The first six chapters of the book are pretty basic and for anyone, like me, who has been through therapy (several times!) none of the information is particularly new or enlightening. It would be, however, very useful to someone confronting any disease, but specifically dementia, in a loved one for the first time. For the novice to self-reflection or dealing with the significant changes occurring because of dementia, I would d...more
Pauline Boss Ph.D. is best known for her groundbreaking research as the pioneer theorist and clinical practitioner of stress reduction for caregivers whose loved ones are suffeirng from dementia. She has an extensive speaking, training, and lecture schedule, has written several books, including Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief (Harvard University Press 1999), Loss, Trauma, an...moreMore about Pauline Boss...