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3.69 of 5 stars 3.69  ·  rating details  ·  277 ratings  ·  45 reviews
Wayne Koestenbaum considers the meaning of humiliation in this eloquent work of cultural critique and personal reflection.

The lives of people both famous and obscure are filled with scarlet-letter moments when their dirty laundry sees daylight. In these moments we not only witness the reversibility of "success," of prominence, but also come to visceral terms with our own v
Paperback, 184 pages
Published August 2nd 2011 by Picador
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Lance Cleland (Editorial Assistant, Tin House Magazine): Maybe the subject matter just found me at the right moment, but Wayne Koestenbaum’s Humiliation stayed with me longer than any other nonfiction piece this year. Hardly a page went by without me taking pause to write something down in my notebook. Intimate without being self-serving, Koestenbaum has taken on a subject that is increasingly part of our cultural narrative and attacked it from both personal and historical vantage points, result ...more
Nov 12, 2011 josh rated it 1 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: no one. absolutely no one. not even my enemies.
Recommended to josh by: saw it on the shelf at the library
this was just awful... i'd give it negative stars if i could.

from a chat excerpt with a friend while i was about 20% into the book:

i find it hilarious that this is what i'm reading immediately after postman's "amusing ourselves to death"
this is written as individual paragraphs as their own "fugues" as he refers to them, without context or relation to the others, other than by the most tenuous of threads, and he keeps using obscure words unnecessarily (ex.: pilloried, traduced, sangfroid)

Mar 03, 2013 Dan added it
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this is an awful lot of fun for a book about things that aren't fun in the slightest. kind of a cross between roland barthes and john waters, veering back and forth from literature/philosophy to anecdotes about peeing your pants in elementary school. as you might imagine, some parts work better than others (i'm not sure a white guy needed to coin the phrase "jim crow gaze," for example), but there's something really approachable and forthcoming about it that evens out the rough edges.

Panio Gianopoulos
A fascinating, intellectually playful, fearlessly self-incriminating meditation. Full of brilliant little asides and seductive meandering. And perhaps one of the best endings I've ever read.

"I'll hypothesize that, in general, identity germinates from humiliation's soil....Humiliation isn't merely the basement of a personality, or the scum pile on the stairway down. Humiliation is the earlier event that paves the way for 'self' to know it exists." - Wayne Koestenbaum
Patrick Gaughan
I was initially drawn to Koestenbaum's book because I'm drawing on similar subject matter (humiliation) and writing style (the sparse prose in vignette form) recently in my own work. The book quotes humiliated celebrities and politicians, meditating on humiliation via stardom, race, class, sex, and points to the possible land mines of humiliation present in every social interaction. He says humiliation needs three parties: a tyrant, a victim, and a witness (someone to inflict the humiliation, so ...more
Douglas Tatelman
I think this style of writing is not for me. The author believes he is doing deep reflection when it reads as just typing whatever comes to mind.

After my reading other books of simple peasants in China being paraded through town on their way to public execution. Or horrible tales of Iranian teenagers being raped, tortured by having their legs rotated 360 degrees and then killed, it's hard to feel for the examples he belabors.

Most of his anecdotes seemed taken from transitory headlines - an embar
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Experiencing Humiliation by Pronoy Sarkar

As a child, I was ashamed of many things. I was ashamed of having my picture taken. However many times I practiced in front of a mirror, I couldn’t hold my gaze in front of a camera. Just before the camera snapped, I wilted. I didn’t like my smile; I didn’t like how the camera caught me looking tired or irritated; how my eyelids weighed down my face. I didn’t like my profile. My face wasn’t symmetrica
Apr 02, 2014 Meg rated it 1 of 5 stars
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A lengthy, snotty, loosely constructed (read: disorganized) diatribe on the topic of humiliation. I think the author was trying to go for an experimental style, but the net effect of the 'structure' of this book read to me like the work of a clueless undergraduate too lazy to put together a coherent, meaningful discussion on this subject.
Series of very short essays (that's probably not a good description of the form, but it's the closest I can come) about . . . well, you can probably figure that out from the title.

A bit dense and perhaps a little self-indulgent in spots, but interesting, especially in the last 25 pages or so.


Um . . .

. . . well, this just kicked me in the nuts over and over. Beautifully written fugues on the subject of shame and humiliation--personal and public and political. It's a testament to this book that I became anxious and nauseated while reading it.
Anna Tatelman
Really gritty and frank, but simultaneously fascinating. I'm in awe of how honest this guy was able to be, and how well he managed to thread together so many different events, people, and ideas. Even when things didn't initially seem to be connecting, they always were.
I wanted to like this more than I did. I wish he'd erred on the side of his stylized prose, rather than on pop cultural references (Michael Jackson, American Idol, etc.) which will needlessly date what should've been a timeless book.
Insightful and nuanced investigation of humiliation in its numerous forms. The structure of the book really becomes addictive to read. Not for the faint of heart.
i love this book. it's so smart and funny and he writes so well. it's basically a meditation on humiliation in which he considers stuff including abu ghraib, his virtual relationships with porn models, michael jackson, liza minelli, antonin artaud, his own humiliating anecdotes--it's sort of a perfect book actually. he meanders into shame which he sees as a subcategory of humiliation. he writes so beautifully, and uses language so precisely, is so funny, it's really hard not to love this book... ...more
I do not know how to give this book a number of stars...I am sure that somewhere, there is an audience for it. Certainly, it deeply affected me, although negatively, so does that make it worthy of recommendation? For me, it was two stars, I would not have picked it up had I known the content. However, for its target audience, it is probably 4 stars, since it is so complete an investigation of humiliation as to have served its purpose well.
Reading this book has become an exercise in humiliation f
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History hangs together in baffling clusters, like swollen grapes, but without beauty, and without the possibility of offering nourishment...We have an obligation to keep asking questions about experiences that are not our own, experiences that are worse than our own will ever be - or that is what we pray, we pray that our experience will never grow so catastrophic as to encompass the lowest points in recorded history.
James Payne
After reading this book I began to see humiliation's prominence in culture in a way I had never even considered previous to this book.

Koestenbaum's stylistic choices are weirdly reminiscent of how I wrote during undergrad when I wasn't writing for class: idiosyncratically structured, associative, polemical for no reason. It's definitely the defining characteristic of the book. I'm not sure if that is a good or bad thing. It must be intentional, but often feels like it was simply the easiest way
Koestenbaum's use of humiliation as a unifier of all those within the human condition (all of us) is a fine one and he's a beautiful writer of harsh lyricism. It's not an easy read due to subject matter, of course, but also because the text cycles back on itself in a bit of redundancy near the midway point. That said, it served as a harsh and necessary reminder of the ways in which we all deal humiliations throughout our day, whether we realize it or not. Koestenbaum seems to argue this is a nec ...more
this book was frustrating. lots of forced connections, a lot of grandstanding and a lot of unconvincing pop psych and pop phil assertions. read a lot like ARE YOU MY MOTHER -- i wanted to like it, there's a lot to like about it, but the queasily ponderous writing style ("funny fact:" there's a website called -- gee whiz!) was obstructive, as was the lack of real wisdom. and omg so many assumptions about and projections onto unwitting bystanders.

all that said, the last fu
This is fun to read at night before sleep after a miserable, shameful day.
It's a collection of aphorisms exploring a theme, not a junior college thesis, so folks who approach it expecting it to read like a student essay are probly gonna be bummed :-(
To me, the format works well for what Koestenbaum's doing.

There are some really good bits scattered here & there.
While aspects have dated quickly, it still feels timely overall, especially in light of how our lives are now almost fully filtere
E. Dade
A fearless look at one of the uglier elements within the zeitgeist. I'm hoping for a second volume or an updated version.
Even though this was a slim volume, I still think it was maybe too much on one topic.
I adored this book. Is it weird to adore a book called Humiliation? Wayne Koestenbaum would have answered this question with fervor as he explores humiliation's myriad facets, incarnations, and impacts to thrilling, revelatory result.

"Humiliation is worthy not because it is good, or enjoyable, or desirable; humiliation may be execrable and unendurable, but it is also genuine. And in a world that seems increasingly filled with fakeness (is this an age-old complaint against incursions of the New?)
Denise Gelberg
A tough subject. I'm intrigued by the author's fascination with humiliation. He's a fine writer, but this is not an easy book to read. Definitely not a book for anyone feeling down, as Koestenbaum gives example after example of the types of horrible humiliation we can and do suffer. His empathy, however, for the victims of humiliation, i.e., that would be all of us at one time or another, is touching.
Eric Spencer
I loved this book. Parts are profound; parts are profane; but it is all moving. One of the best books I have read all year. It has helped me understand something new about the human condition that no other book or teacher ever has.
This one is deep... I first had to get past the ugly connotations of the word "humiliation". As a study on the Human Condition, WOW... Absolutely mind blowing... My thoughts have been stretched over undiscovered territory ...
Consistently pretentious and often florid, while at the same time displaying a raw honesty that I found intriguing. I can't make up my mind whether I liked this or wanted to roll my eyes until they popped out of my head.
Some of this is insightful and moving, other parts seem pretentious and forced. A lot of it is uncomfortable, so I guess the point is made. I did not expect this type of writing. It's kind of a series of meditations.
Victoria Weinstein
First chapters start out promising, insightful and challenging. Later chapters devolve into self-indulgent crap. Oh, Koestenbaum, how you needed an editor who wasn't in love with every one of your sentences.
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In addition to Hotel Theory (Soft Skull, 2007), Wayne Koestenbaum has published five books of nonfiction prose: Andy Warhol, Cleavage, Jackie Under My Skin, The Queens Throat (a National Book Critics Circle Award finalist), and Double Talk. He has also published a novel, Moira Orfei in Aigues-Mortes, and five books of poetry: Best-Selling Jewish Porn Films, Model Homes, The Milk of Inquiry, Rhapso ...more
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