Web of Lies - My Life with a Narcissist
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Web of Lies - My Life with a Narcissist

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Web of Lies takes you on an emotional roller-coaster, experienced through the eyes of Sarah Tate, an intelligent, young newcomer to Switzerland who is swept off her feet by an older, more experienced company manager. Within weeks of their meeting, Bill impresses her with a courtship vastly unusual in modern times. He lures Sarah with his intellect along with numerous gifts...more
Kindle Edition, 182 pages
Published January 24th 2011 (first published August 15th 2010)
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David Lloyd
There are times, when reading this book, that we must ask ourselves - How could these things have happened? How could an apparently intelligent woman allow herself to be continually deceived by the verbal manipulation of a man who clearly suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Perhaps there was no reason for suspicion during the courtship stage, when he showered her with attention, lavished her with gifts and impressed her with his intelligence. Perhaps she was blinded by her concern fo...more
Cara
Aug 13, 2011 Cara rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone
Recommended to Cara by: Goodreads First Read Winner
Shelves: first-read
I won this book through GoodReads First Reads.

I did not want to put this book down. Normally, I don't find autobiographies this intense or moving, but Sarah's story was. And it was written in such a way that was captivating, you felt like you were right there with her, dealing with this man's lies upon lies. So many times I just wanted to reach out and shake her; yell for her to run from this man as fast as she could, I was so engrossed. That alone makes me want to share this book with everyone...more
Pagetranquillity
For the first time in my life I can say that I literally couldn't put this book down. I started it in the evening and read so long I didn't want to go to bed for the night. Two sittings is all it took to take in this sad, sometimes unbelievable, important account. We are right there as this woman is struggling with all her might to disentangle her mind from deceit, illusion, and cruel mental and emotional manipulation. I have a close friend who lived through a relationship very similar, and only...more
Webbweaver Reviews
Follow Sarah on an emotional roller coaster from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows as the wife of a Narcissistic man. This is a story of a young woman being swept off her feet by the man of her dreams, only to find that the life of luxury he provides is one full of stress, abuse, neglect, and lies. This auto-biography takes you through the years of Sarah’s marriage to this charismatic man, to include the births of their three children. You become emotionally invested in this story as yo...more
Marion
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Sharon Tate does a great job of telling you what happened to her through a six year marriage to Bill, a man with a narcissistic personality. She carries you through the period of her falling in love with, Bill, who charms her with his generosity and seemingly responsible and dedicated work ethic. As he weaves his tales of success, intellectual and social abilities you fall in love with him too. What a lucky woman to have met such a gifted and caring man.

I never once wanted to interrupt Sarah...more
Martha Cheves
Web of Lies – Review by Martha A. Cheves, Author of Stir, Laugh, Repeat

‘The feelings of guilt and inadequacy came all too often. Of course, I considered ending the marriage. Thoughts of breaking free were frequent, usually at night when I was lying alone in my bed. But they’d quickly be replaced by the guilt. I genuinely believed that many of the problems we were experiencing were down to my own shortcomings. I’d get angry and frustrated with Bill, and I’d let my feelings show. I’d be grumpy and...more
B.K. Walker
Web of Lies - My Life with a Narcissist was an unbelievable read. The entire time I was reading, I wanted to reach in the pages and tell Sarah to get out now!

Moving to a new country, starting a new life, Sarah thought she was in for a brand new fresh start. After arriving to work, she meets Bill. Not instantly attracted to Bill, she can't help but to be swept up by his charm. He's writing her songs, taking her on extravagant getaways. She thought he was going to be her life and eventually she ma...more
Krystal


Marriages do not always turn out as one might hope. The man who seems so perfect may turn out to be quite the opposite. This is Sarah's experience. The reader has the chance to follow Sarah as she lives under the thumb of a Narcissistic man. She worries for herself, her children, her hopes and dreams for their lives, etc...



The reader will grow attached to Sarah quickly. She is very easy to enjoy as a person, she will come off as kind, helpful, and hopeful. The reader will be rooting for her to f...more
Jo Whiting
I came across Sarah's website whilst researching some work for my psychology diploma. I downloaded the book on Kindle last weekend and read it in one day. I simply couldn't put it down. I have a dear friend who has been in an uncannily similar situation and I'm going to force her to read it!
It's a nightmare of a story, there's no doubt about that. Sarah is completely swept away at first and blinded by this guys protestations of love. She wants to feel secure and she simply cannot see the lies.
S...more
Fran
Web of Lies: Author Sarah Tate


There are many definitions of blindness. One where the person cannot visually see and the other where we sometimes are blinded by the truth in order to compensate for something missing in our lives when our happiness hinges on what we think we believe. People are not always what they appear to be and innocent women and men are often drawn into the webs of deceit, lies and intrigue when enveloped by someone that presents themselves as upstanding, well to do and respe...more
Michelle, the Bookshelf Stalker  Queen of the Undead
This was actually a 3.5 out of 5. It was an overall very good. It was different from what I expected but not in a bad way. It literally was Sarah Tate taking the reader along with her as she describes years of her life with Bill.

Now, in my eyes, Bill is a tame Narcissist. Sure, he is a Narcissist, but in truth, I've seen worse, lived with worst for 9 years (from birth until the age of 9). Regardless, I think anyone who is questionning their own sanity (why do I stay with this guy- he's so selfi...more
Rene
I won this book from the goodreads giveaways. I felt so bad for this woman! This is a memoir style book that recounts Sarah Tate's awful 6 years with a man who had an extreme narcissist personality disorder. Of course, she didn't know this getting into the relationship and it took her years to finally come to the realization and admit that there was a problem. When I finished this book I thought that I would love to get a follow up to this woman's life. Then, in the back of the book there is a b...more
Danielle
I won this book through First Reads.

Web of Lies follows the life of Sarah Tate and her relationship with a man named Bill whose narcissist personality disorder (which was not diagnosed at the time) rocks her entire world to its core. The story is fascinating in the same way that you can't stop looking at a car wreck. It's scary, because you realize how easy it could be to slip into Sarah's situation. Her story is heartbreaking, and I found myself wanting to pull this woman and her children away...more
Dave Moore
Reading this real-life memoir is uncomfortable because we already know the outcome. This doesn't make it any less readable or interesting, it just makes us see how vulnerable anyone can be and that, alone, is discomfiting.
I found myself appalled and outraged at the callousness of "Bill", and I had to keep reminding myself that the man was not mentally sound. It's very difficult to excuse his actions on that basis alone, as the reader will discover.
Knowing this to be non-fiction makes it even m...more
Susanne
Very emotional and impossible to put down. The comments from the psychologist at the back are really enlightening.
This book is a must read for anybody who's been sucked into the world of one of these personality types, but I'd also recommend it for anybody who has been in a dysfunctional relationship, male or female. There's a great deal to be learned from books such as these. Thanks for sharing this with us, Sarah.
Motheaten
This is a goodreads first reads book I've received for free. It is an autobiographical recount of Tate's psychological experience living with a spouse who has a personality disorder, which also negatively affected the lives of those he came into contact with. I won't say much as the book speaks for itself. A very engaging book I think most readers can take something from. Well worth the read.
Brooke
'Web of Lies' is an incredible journey into the mind of a psychopath and his effect on his family. I was glued to my seat and had to read it all at once as I couldn't put it down from the first page onwards! The fact that it's a true story just adds to the disbelief and suspense! Sarah Tate is quite the engaging author and I can't wait to read her sequel, 'Renaissance - A Journal of Recovery'.
Alice Ying
My suggestion to whoever who ever lived a relationship based on deceit and lies to buy this book.

"I wonder if he knew himself what was fact and what was fiction.I can only assume that the way he exists is to convince himself that what he says is true. In order to lead a life so fabricated and fatasy based, you must believe your own fabrication and fantasy."
"She took her life in the most horrific way imaginable. You don't do something like that unless you are really desperate."
"This man was incap...more
Adelaide
The moral of the story: if something is too good to be true, it's too good to be true

I have never been in Sarah's situation (and I don't want to), so I don't know for sure what I'd do if I was in her shoes, (view spoiler)...more
Heavensent1
Dec 13, 2011 Heavensent1 rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Heavensent1 by: ARC
Web Of Lies: My Life With A Narcissist is an Auto-Biographical Memoir.

Sarah Tate has just moved to a new country to begin her new job. One week into her new surroundings she meets, Bill, a co-worker who befriends her and makes her feel comfortable.

Bill attends to Sarah's every need, making her feel important and special. Though Bill was much older and not her type, she is drawn to his charismatic character and soon finds herself drawn into his web.

From the onset of the relationship, Sarah feels...more
Annie Fyfe
This book chronicles the true story of Sarah Tate, whom has fallen for a seemingly wealthy and successful older man who is not all he appears to be. I’ll be honest; I wasn’t a huge fan of this book. The story is somewhat interesting but I’m not sure if it was quite compelling enough to write a book about it. I would possibly be more interested in a fictional book based on some true things that happened. The writing was just ok, but whenever there was dialogue there were way too many exclamation...more
Gemma
The phrase 'stranger than fiction' was made for this book as the plot revolves around Sarah's marriage to man with narcisstic personality disorder. His lies, deceipt and manipulation are both awful and incredible to read about. I found I couldn't put it down as wanted to see just what he did next.

It's written in a memoir/journalistic style, rather than a novel but I think that adds to the realism. The style is like that of a good friend telling you about her life. I felt all Sarah's emotions: he...more
Jennifer
Its very interesting how the narcissist puts on this show for you. He entertains himself with this false illusion of himself that he projects on those around him. Unfortunately when the curtains falls and the show is over no one can even fathom what is going on in a relationship with a narcissist behind the scenes. The moral of the story is once you know how something works you are now more equip to deal with it. The once calculated manipulative behavior that sucked you in can now be used as a t...more
Deanna
First, I wanted to let you know I won this book from Goodreads First Reads but that in no way influenced my review of this book.

I'll be honest, this is the first autobiography I've ever read and thoroughly enjoyed. I couldn't put it down.

This is the telling of Sarah's marriage to Bill that is raw and powerful. I felt so much for her. At times I wanted to shake her and say "GET AWAY HE'S POISON!" and at other times I cried with her. What she has shared with the world is that there are many forms...more
Kathleen Kelly
Wow, what starts out as a fairy tale romance ends as a horror story. I was so engrossed in this story it took me only a few sittings to read it. I commend Sarah Tate for overcoming this surreal life and the narcissistic traits of her husband and for six years no less. I was so happy when I read that she finally left this man who continued to lie to her. I am sure she will struggle with her thoughts and guilt for a very long time and will find it difficult to make a great life for her and her chi...more
Darcia Helle
Love can truly be blind. Sarah fell madly in love with an older man. It would have been hard not to. He was intelligent, well-off, and doted on her. Their world was perfect. Then they got married, and that's when the cracks in his veneer started to show.

In reading this story, I wanted to shout at Sarah to step back and really look at the man she'd married. But these things are always easier to see in retrospect (and in reading as the events play out). No woman wants to believe her entire marriag...more
Dierdra Byrd
Ever hear that phrase, don't judge a book by it's cover? Well please don't with this one because this cover is so horrible! Please change it. The book however was really amazing and at times heartbreaking. Thank you Sarah for writing it and telling us your story.
The writing kept me interested from the first page to the last and I will probably pick up her other books at some point also. Sarah is a true inspiration to a lot of people not just those in a bad relationship. This is a book that can h...more
Michael Andersen-Andrade
There are a few chronological inconsistencies in this book and it could have used a good editor, but in spite of that I give it five stars because it perfectly captures the slow, horrifying realization of what it is to fall under the spell of a narcissistic sociopath. This book held a mirror up to my own devastating experience with a pathological user and a liar. I highly recommend it to anyone who is either living through or trying to understand the aftermath of getting entangled in a narcissis...more
Dee Darby
Web of Lies is a great read! It's not my normal type of book but I couldn't put it down and read it within a few days. It gives great insight into living with someone with Narcassistic Personality Disorder. I'm so glad Sarah managed to find the strength to break away from this man and build a great life for her children and herself. I'm definately going to be read the next instalment of Sarah's journey.
Jessica
This is a book club pick for September so I will write up a review after we meet.

Although, let me say, I have another book I've been slowly reading for a few weeks and meant to finish it first but then I started reading this and just had to keep going to see what would happen. I hoped something involving an ice pick and a freezer large enough for a man's body, but no such luck...
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