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The Loss That Is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father

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"Beautifully written and informative. Harris' eloquence is exceeded only by the compassion and insight she brings to this perplexing and formative experience."—Vamik D. Volkan, Univ. of Virginia.
Paperback, 368 pages
Published September 1st 1996 by Plume (first published 1995)
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Oct 24, 2012 Annie rated it it was amazing
I was looking through books on death and dying, when I saw this book. I ignored it, but kept feeling drawn to it. The title seemed a bit extreme, yet I kept wanting to pick it up. When I started reading, I realized that one of the people it was about was me.

If you have lost a parent as a child, please read this book. It is not a self-help book - but it leads to healing by acknowledging that the loss of a parent is a major event in the life of a child, changing that child's view of the world and
Feb 18, 2013 Tre rated it it was amazing
This book offers great validation and insight into the "personal mythologies" those of us who have lost a parent, particularly during childhood create. I felt like I was reading a biography someone else wrote about me a number of times. For anyone who feels inclined to explore how the death of their mother and/or father has impacted who they have become as an adult, I highly recommend this book.
Oct 05, 2015 Tara rated it it was amazing
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I have spent a good few months savouring this book. For the first time in my life I felt myself being understood in a book (rather than escaping into a book). Like other readers, I felt as if all of my questions about why I behave and feel the way that I do is actually a response to the loss of my father (I was 8 when he died). For me, the loss of my father has been the defining moment in my life, and created a hollowness and barrier between myself and others, as I felt no one else could ever un ...more
Dec 01, 2007 Marie rated it liked it
Obviously not of interest for everyone, but found some good tidbits in here - but otherwise it took the formulaic approach of sharing vignettes from survivors lives to illustrate a range of reactions and implications, but with little insight. Covers the waterfront and may be helpful for those actually trying to help others who have lost a parent(s) more than perhaps those who have.
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May 06, 2016 Susan Brougher rated it it was amazing
I read this book years ago while searching for answers and hoping to understand how the loss of my mother formed who I am. There are not many books that help in a meaningful way when someone goes through losing a parent. The fact that I could relate to the stories gave me a needed comfort. It has been many years since my mother died of cancer when I was fourteen. This is a difficult subject but one that begs for more books written by those who have walked life's path without a parent to guide th ...more
Mar 31, 2011 Elsje rated it liked it
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Ik lees een aantal boeken over het verlies van een ouder op jonge leeftijd. Eerst Hope Edelman, en nu Maxine Harris. De aanpak van beiden is ongeveer gelijk: via een groot aantal interviews proberen ze inzicht te krijgen in wat het verlies van een van of beide ouders doet met een kind. En beiden combineren algemene inzichten, gelardeerd met quotes en wat langer uitgewerkte levensverhalen van enkele geïnterviewden.

Het boek van Harris heeft een wat bredere focus. Want daar waar Edelman kiest voor
Dec 29, 2014 Harry rated it it was amazing
Shelves: psychotherapy
This book is a life-saver. If you lost a parent before the age of 18, you owe it to yourself to read this book. Harris's book was incredibly validating, helping me to understand feelings and grief I had been repressing for 40 (!) years. Thank you, universe, for putting this book in my hands.
Dec 08, 2009 SueAnn rated it liked it
Shelves: relationships
Maxine Harris' book The Loss That is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father. This is another psychology book that is more than a "self help" book. Through case studies the author discusses bereavement and how to build relationships, and owning your own destiny. Keep lots of tissue on hand.
May 22, 2014 Irene rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Important book for anyone who loses a parent as a child. I found it helpful to understand why I felt the way I did in my loss.
Dec 07, 2008 April rated it it was amazing
This book truly is a must read for anyone that has lost a parent at an early age. It helped me figure out a lot about myself and the impact losing my dad at age 5 had on me.
Jan 05, 2009 Jo rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderful book for anyone who has lost a parent before the age of 18 or is wanting to understand a child or adult who is coming to terms with an early loss.
Aug 02, 2009 Madeleine rated it liked it
Een verlies voor altijd.
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